What is the "sex recession" and why is it happening? Dr. Debra Soh explains today's widespread decline of sexual activity, long-term commitment, marriage, and childbearing—particularly among Gen Z and Millennials. We'll explore the underlying factors causing young men to pull away from real-world dating, including early exposure to  pornography, digital substitutes like OnlyFans and AI chatbots, and extreme social media pressures around appearance. You'll also hear practical steps to restore real-world connection, overcome social anxiety through exposure, and build lasting confidence.

Dr. Debra Soh is a neuroscientist who specializes in human sexuality. Her new book, Sextinction: The Decline of Sex and the Future of Intimacy, investigates the global “dating recession” and how technology and mainstream science denial are polarizing the sexes. As a science journalist, Debra's writing has appeared in Harper’s Magazine, The Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, The Globe and Mail, The Free Press, and many other publications. Learn more at DrDebraSoh.com

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Have you ever wondered what the Song of Songs (Song of Solomon) is actually saying? Drawing on insights from ancient Mesopotamian erotic poetry, Russell Zahniser breaks down the two models of male sexuality featured in the Song of Songs. Listen to discover how this mysterious book of the Bible speaks out against coercive, fast-paced sex, advocating instead for mutual consent and genuine bonding. You'll also hear Russell tell his personal story of sexual development, what he has learned about arousal, and why sex is so much more than intercourse.

Russell Zahniser is a writer and researcher who wanted to use the Song of Songs as a starting point to give to his sons a picture of healthy, mutual sexuality. What he found instead was a desperate plea to reimagine male sexuality and how we define sex itself. Learn more at russellzahniser.substack.com/p/made-for-connection

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Russell Zahniser is also a husband, father of three boys, and a member of Forest Hills Covenant Church in Boston, MA. He loves making things out of wood, reading, and taking his sons on daily "adventures" to explore nature.

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• The Land of Wholeness, by Russell Zahniser (blog)
• Come As You Are, by Emily Nagoski (book)
• Sheila Wray Gregoire (author and researcher)

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Have you ever been amazed by the power of music? In this episode, you'll learn five ways music can support you in overcoming sexual temptation—including one resource that turns anyone into a songwriter.  

Songs mentioned on this episode:

• The Lord Will Fight For You - https://youtu.be/TE_OlAxU_uc?si=iaKCsPNe0m3g3q-o
• Confession of Sin (low-quality recording) - https://suno.com/s/EJ0hCbjWjLn0Zr9R
• Confession of Sin (SUNO version) - https://suno.com/s/shdp2PL5TNKoNBCi
• His Beloved Son - https://suno.com/s/hHAtdx9N961mvh9a

The Lord Will Fight For You Song Credits:

words and music by Drew Boa

produced and arranged by Steven Dougherty

mixing and mastering by Danny Stimac

Steven Dougherty - lead vocals, BGV’s, piano, synthesizer, & drum programming

Danny Stimac - electric guitar, additional percussion

Mike Shelton - bass guitar

Burton Gestner - acoustic guitar

Shawn Manley - lead vocals

T.J. Tolosa - lead vocals

Husband Material Men’s Chorus:

Drew Boa

Chris Furr

Mike Chapman

John Depew

Keith Martin

Jay Sevilla

James Kaiser

Patrick Allen

Arlen Wilcock

Steven Dougherty

Shawn Manley

T.J. Tolosa

Dustin Lang

Lyndon Dueck

Dan Carlson

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How can we help teens start outgrowing porn and unwanted sexual behavior? Licensed counselor Blake Brinkman believes teens are NOT too young, too immature, or too unwilling to start healing. In this episode, you'll hear Blake's overview of the teen brain, why recovery must start "bottom-up" with safety rather than "top-down" with rules, how (not) to respond to teens struggling with porn, and why apologizing after mistakes creates deeper trust than attempting to parent perfectly.

Blake Brinkman is a mental health counselor, recovery coach, and co-host of the new podcast Start Younger: Outgrow Porn At Any Age. 

Blake is the founder of Redefine Student Recovery, where he works with teens and families through one-on-one coaching, recovery groups, and parent guidance. He specializes in helping adolescents understand the emotional and relational roots of addictive behavior and develop healthier beliefs, relationships, and patterns for lasting change, integrating recovery principles, family systems insight, and faith-based care in a developmentally appropriate, shame-free way. Blake is also the author of Alliance Groups: Empowering Student Recovery. He lives in New York City and enjoys exploring the city and world with his wife, Katherine.

Listen to the Start Younger Podcast at startyoungerpodcast.com, co-hosted by Blake Brinkman, Drew Boa, and Dr. Doug Carpenter. New episodes come out on Thursdays every two weeks.

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What if couples devastated by sexual betrayal could heal together instead of separately? Clinton and Charity Muñoz expose a massive gap in traditional porn recovery's focus on sexual addiction for husbands and betrayal trauma for wives that leaves couples without guidance on how to actually restore their relationship in community. 

In this episode, you'll hear:

• The power of hearing other spouses' stories
• Healthy boundaries to keep communication safe
• Why you need to turn on your brain's "relational circuits"
• What it looks like to process your pain with Jesus
• How post-traumatic growth is a picture of the gospel

Clinton and Charity Muñoz are the founders of Restored 2 More, a Christ-centered nonprofit ministry helping couples heal after betrayal, pornography/sexual addiction, and broken trust. After walking through their own story of betrayal, trauma, repentance, recovery, and restoration, they felt called to create a safe and hope-filled pathway for other couples who are longing for healing.

Through their podcast, courses, coaching, resources, and ambassador program, Clinton and Charity equip couples, churches, and leaders with practical tools to restore safety, rebuild trust, process pain with Jesus, and move toward deeper connection. Their heart is to see marriages not simply survive betrayal, but become restored to more. Learn more at restored2more.com

Take The Bridge Back To Us 8-Week Course here:

https://restored2more.thinkific.com/products/courses/thebridgebacktous

Find additional Restored 2 More resources here:

https://restored2more.com/resources/

Listen to the Restored 2 More podcast here:

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/restored-2-more/id1503954507

Connect with Restored 2 More on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/restored2more/

Friends, a marriage marked by betrayal doesn't have to settle for "not divorced." It can become something better than either spouse imagined!

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In this vulnerable demo, Jordan Castille guides Jason Mellard in processing a sexual fantasy through inner child work. As Jason listens to his body, he travels back to a pivotal memory of being violated and rejected by his father. With Jordan’s help, Jason offers love to "Little Jason” and leads him from a place of powerlessness to a place of grace, space, and unconditional belonging with Jesus.

***Trigger Warning*** The description of a sexual fantasy at the start of this episode may be triggering for some listeners. Even though no graphic details are shared, please use discernment. If you feel triggered, stop listening or skip to another section.

This episode is an example of Inner Child Thursday, one of the 12 weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA at joinHMA.com

Jordan Castille is the founder of Castille Coaching, where he helps men break free from pornography and live a life of purpose. He is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, APSATS CPC Certified Partner Coach, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Jordan leads a weekly HMA Coaching Call, Inner Child Thursday, on Thursday mornings.

Jason Mellard is the founder of Own Your Identity, where he empowers men experiencing unwanted same-sex attraction to live the life they truly desire. Jason is a Certified High Performance Coach and Certified Husband Material Coach. Jason leads a weekly HMA Coaching Call, Vision Sunday, on Sunday nights.

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"Accountability" is one of the most controversial topics in porn recovery. Some men find it healing; some men find it harmful. What's the difference between healthy and unhealthy accountability?

Traditional accountability groups often get hijacked by fear, control, and shame—unintentionally incentivizing secrecy and acting like a prison rather than a path to freedom.

In this episode, Drew Boa argues that the secret to lasting transformation isn't a shift in theology or psychology, but a shift in posture. He introduces the concept of Attunement Groups—a curious, compassionate approach focused on meeting core attachment needs so you can truly outgrow porn. 

Want to learn more about attunement?

Listen to this 30-minute deep dive episode: Attunement: The Key To Connection

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Apply to join a private Husband Material group at husbandmaterial.com/group

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Have you ever felt like there is a war raging inside of you between conflicting feelings or desires? If so, this episode will empower you to lead your thoughts, emotions, and sexual attractions with compassion rather than condemnation through an exercise called "the table." You'll learn why the table—not just the cross—is the ultimate symbol of grace, belonging, and transformation. Grounded in both Christian theology and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, this exercise shifts your internal posture from hostility to hospitality. It can be life-changing!

Keep in mind that most of this episode is a step-by-step guided audio meditation. So find a quiet, comfortable space to sit back, slow down, and welcome all parts of yourself into the healing presence of Jesus.

IFS Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Boundaries For Your Soul: How To Turn Your Overwhelming Thoughts And Feelings Into Your Greatest Allies by Alison Cook and Kimberly Miller
• Move Toward: A Simplified IFS Therapy Tool to Welcome All Parts of You by Jenna Riemersma
• Altogether You: Experiencing Personal and Spiritual Transformation with Internal Family Systems Therapy by Jenna Riemersma

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What does the Bible say about abuse? According to Dr. Steve Tracy, Scripture talks about abuse hundreds if not thousands of times. In this profound episode, you'll get a clear definition of abuse, how God responds to it, why all sin is not the same in its consequences, and how to guard against toxic misinterpretations of God's word.

Dr. Steve Tracy is the president and international director of Mending the Soul Ministries. Steve and his wife Celestia founded Mending the Soul in 2003 to create best practice Christian resources for understanding and responding to abuse. Steve earned his PhD in Biblical Studies from the University of Sheffield in England and taught theology and ethics at Phoenix Seminary for 30 years. Before coming on staff with MTS, Steve pastored for fifteen years in three different churches. Steve is the author of numerous books and journal articles on abuse, marriage, and healing.

Learn more at mendingthesoul.org

Buy Steve's books:

• To Heal Or Harm: Scripture's Use as Poison or Medicine for Abuse Survivors
• Mending The Soul: Understanding and Healing Abuse (with Celestia Tracy)

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What is sexual attraction fluidity exploration in therapy (SAFE-T)? Licensed professional counselor Andrew Rodriguez shares the history behind the sexual orientation paradigm and offers a powerful message of hope for men seeking alignment between their attractions and their values. You'll learn how Reintegrative Therapy uses modern attachment theory and trauma reprocessing to create significant shifts in unwanted sexual feelings and behaviors. Andrew also opens up about his personal story of childhood loneliness, performance-based faith, and finding his true identity in Christ. 

Andrew Rodriguez, LPC, has a passion for helping people discover and live out their true identities. He is the owner of Integrity Christian Counseling. He specializes in SAFE-T (sexual attraction fluidity exploration in therapy), working with individuals with unwanted same-sex attraction, sexual addiction, and fetishes. Andrew is certified in Reintegrative Therapy and serves as the Training Facilitator for the Reintegrative Therapy Association. He's also a board member of The Alliance for Therapeutic Choice & Scientific Integrity, a counselor affiliate with Restored Hope Network, and he's partnered with Desert Stream Ministries and ReStory Ministries. Andrew has been married to his wife, Jessica, since 2007, and they live in Pottstown, PA.

Check out Andrew's YouTube channel, PsychoBible, where he discusses psychology, theology, and sexuality through a Christian counseling lens at youtube.com/psychobible 

Learn more about the 2026 Alliance For Therapeutic Choice & Scientific Integrity Online Training Conference here.

If you are a professional therapist, sign up for notifications about the next opportunity to be trained by Andrew in Reintegrative Therapy here.

Contact Andrew here.

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Many movies minimize, justify, or even celebrate sexual betrayal. In this episode, you’ll discover 5 popular films that communicate toxic messages about deception and infidelity. 

Related episodes for further listening:

• How To Stop Hiding And Lying
• How To Tell Her About The Porn: Full Disclosure
• When A Wife Discovers Her Husband’s Porn
• How Women Heal From Sexual Betrayal Trauma
• Healing For Sexually Betrayed Men

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