Why do I feel so disconnected from other people...and myself? In this episode, Dr. Eddie Capparucci unpacks the reasons why many men struggle to emotionally connect. You'll learn about the talker, the fixer, the thinker, the nice guy, "Mr. Right," the runner, the distractor, and the flopper.

Mark your calendar for Drew and Eddie's upcoming workshop:

Emotional Connection Workshop For Men

Friday April 11, 2025 (replays available)

Learn more and register now here.

https://drew-boa.mykajabi.com/workshop

Related resources featuring Eddie:

• Why Men Struggle To Love (book; paid link)
• Becoming Emotionally Mature (podcast)
• How Do I Help My Hurting Spouse? (podcast)

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When did you first hear the word "sex" or "porn" or "masturbation"? The first time you ever hear a word has a disproportionate impact. This is called the power of first mention, and it is an extremely important principle for sex education.

Related resources and episodes: 

• TheSexTalk.com (online course for parents)
• Having The Talks: A Guided Conversation Game On Sexuality For Parents And Children (paid link)
• How To Teach Children About Sexuality (with Adam and Karissa King)
• How To Talk With Your Kids About Sex (with Rodney and Traci Wright)
• Healing With My Parents (with Yvonne Boa and Sandy Boa)
• The 2025 Husband Material Retreat (with a breakout session on sex education)

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Most of us were never taught how to be vulnerable when we’re sexually struggling. In this episode, Henry Brown shares a simple framework called “scratches, scabs, and scars” to help you decide what to share, when to share, how much to share, and who to trust. 

Henry Brown is the Director Of Operations & Support at Husband Material. He is nationally certified as a Life Coach, Recovery Coach, and Sex Addiction Coach. Henry is also a Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at henrybrown.net

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What is narcissistic personality disorder, and how does it interact with porn and sex addiction? For someone with NPD or narcissistic traits, what does healing and growth look like?

Dr. Alexandra Repke (CSAT, EMDR, C-PD) is a Christian psychologist who typically work with successful professionals facing challenges in their relationships or careers, often stemming from issues related to addiction, personality, or trauma. She is a lifelong learner, committed to understanding the complexities of mental health and advocating for practical, impactful solutions.

Learn more at repkepsychologicalservices.com

Books mentioned (these are paid links):

• Thanks for the Feedback, by Douglas Stone and Sheila Heen
• The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists, by Eleanor Payson
• A Game Free Life, by Stephen Karpman

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What if Every Man’s Battle is wrong? In this episode, I share how I recently chose to “bounce my eyes” (as Every Man’s Battle teaches) and why I later regretted it. You’ll learn 3 reasons why bouncing your eyes is problematic—and what you can do instead when you see a sexually attractive person or picture. 

Related Episodes:

• When You Get An Erection...
• What To Do When You See Attractive People
• Outgrowing Porn vs. Purity Culture

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What is sextortion, and how can we guard against it? Chris McKenna shares the dark reality of sextortion, why men (especially young men) are most vulnerable to being sextorted, and what we can do to prevent it.

For more information, read this article:
What Is Sextortion?  A Prevention And Response Guide For Families

Chris McKenna is the founder of Protect Young Eyes. He is a leading digital safety advocate, advising legislators and emerging tech companies. His impactful 2019 testimony before the US Senate initiated a series of hearings to further online child protection policy. 

Under Chris's guidance, the Protect Young Eyes team conducts presentations worldwide to parents, professionals, and schools,  They gained recognition by being featured in the Childhood 2.0 movie. The Protect Young Eyes website, courses, and private parent community show caregivers how to prepare and protect their children in digital spaces.

Resources For Parents:

• Start here! (Do these 3 things)
• 5 Habits of a Tech-Ready Home (Course)
• The Table (Private Community)

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What does your wife need when you relapse into porn, unwanted sexual behavior, and breaking her trust? Tammy Gustafson explains what is going on inside your wife when you relapse, how you can helpful rather than hurtful, and why it's wise for your wife to have a relapse safety plan.

Tammy Gustafson is the founder of the Betrayal Healing Conference. This free conference is for all women who have experienced sexual betrayal, whether you just found out about his acting out, your relationship is healing, or you are divorced and are picking up the pieces. Husband Material is partnering with Betrayal Healing to promote this amazing event! Register here.

Tammy is also a Licensed Professional Counselor, coach, EMDR certified clinician, and speaker with 15 years of experience. She is passionate about helping women find their strength and pick up the pieces of their broken hearts after sexual betrayal so that they are able to see beauty, joy, and adventure again.

Tammy and Nathaniel Gustafson co-lead a monthly webinar series called Both Sides Of The Story. Highly recommended! Check it out here.

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In this live demo, Doug Carpenter guides Rick Carlson in healing childhood trauma through psychodrama. This episode is an example of Work It Out Wednesday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this weekend at joinHMA.com.

Related episodes:

• Experience Healing Through Psychodrama
• A Story Of Healing Through Psychodrama

Dr. Doug Carpenter is a clinical psychologist and founding board member of Husband Material Ministries. Learn more at douglascarpenter.com

Rick Carlson is a recovery pastor and Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at comebackcoaching.org

Drew Boa, Mike Chapman, James Gianakon, and Marcus Spaur played supporting roles in Rick's process.

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Learn how external & internal family systems have shaped your sexuality—and what's happening inside you when you feel the pull of pornography. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day" as a preview of the Husband Material Academy video course.

Watch the video here.

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In this episode, Drew Boa helps Jordan Castille process a sexual fantasy about a guy in a locker room. This is a demonstration of Fantasy Friday, one of the weekly HMA Coaching Calls. Learn more and join HMA this week at joinHMA.com.

Drew Boa is the founder of Husband Material. He is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional, Inner Child Recovery Specialist, Brainspotting Practitioner, and Certified Husband Material Coach.

Jordan Castille is a Board Certified Christian Counselor, Certified Clinical Sex Addiction Specialist, APSATS CPC (Certified Partner Coach) Candidate, and Certified Husband Material Coach. Learn more at castillecoaching.com

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Learn how to face your sexual fantasies and process the particularity of what sexually arouses you. This episode was recorded at "HMA In A Day" as a preview of the Husband Material Academy video course.

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