You probably have too much stuff. Most of us have too much stuff. And that’s not even taking into account the emotions we feel about having too much stuff. Luckily, Emily has done the research. Let’s make your space more ventral.

Links:

Saturn Ion (Wikipedia)

FSP 2025 Season 2, Episode 4: Polyvagal 101

Freshwave (the stuff in the buckets)

Dana K. White

Cas Aarssen (Youtube)

Kay Patterson (Youtube)

Goodbye, Things (the silent to do list)

KonMari method

FSP 2020 Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex

Everyone masks to make it easier to live in the world. Emily and Amelia discuss theirs, and have some insights about times when things were particularly difficult.

Content warning, there are some dark thoughts and mentions of suicidal ideation in the form of a Zombie Leprechaun around the 50 minute mark. No one was harmed. Please take care.

Editor’s note: There is some extremely cathartic laughter at the end.

Amelia’s video from the beginning of this episode

Follow Amelia's Youtube channel here

Autistic masking

Cat-Q Scale

Charles Entertainment Cheese

FSP 2020 Episode 04: The Abyss

The Come As You Are podcast

Apple Podcasts • Spotify

Who in your life gives you the permission and support to take the time that you need? If you can’t think of anyone else, let it be us.

Links:

Cynthia Erivo sings I'm Here - The Color Purple

(The pose is at about 4:40)

Cynthia Erivo sings "I'm Here" for the final time on Broadway

Emily’s TED talk - The truth about unwanted arousal

Confidence and joy are the keys to a great sex life | Emily Nagoski | TEDxUniversityofNevada

The Burnout workbook

(Did you know there's a workbook??)

The Burnout workbook audiobook

(and an audiobook of the workbook??)

Dana K. White - How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind

FSP 2020 Episode 33: Because: Unbreakable

Kimmy Schmidt - ten seconds at a time

Shrinking (apple tv+)

Laura Vanderkam - Off the Clock: Feel Less Busy While Getting More Done

FSP 2020 Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger?

You are enough. Because all you can be is 100% of who you are.

But you’re also filled with tiny organisms that fart.

Links:

Burnout (our book)

Starling murmuration 2020 (youtube video)

High Conflict by Amanda Ripley

My Grandmother’s Hands by Resmaa Menakem

Coca-Cola's 'Hilltop' Ad ("I'd Like to Teach the World to Sing") (youtube)

Brandon Sanderson's "The Stormlight Archive" series

(Amelia's excerpt is from book 5.)

The Bubble of Love (FSP2020 episode 11)

Dorsal. Sympathetic. Ventral. It’s all about your nervous system’s sense of safety.

Links:

Vagus Nerve

Exteroception

Interoception

Our Polyvagal World: How Safety and Trauma Change Us by Stephen W. Porges and Seth Porges

Deb Dana's website - includes definitions of Polyvagal Theory terms

Glimmers

Borders Books and Music (RIP)

FSP2020 episode 58: How to Listen to Your Body, Part One (of four)

website : podcast feed

FSP2020 episode 49: How to Dreams

website : podcast feed

Turns out you can be identical twins and experience gender really differently from one another. Emily and Amelia discuss. 

Content warning: There’s some talk about fascism and Mussolini’s sex life.

Links:

Come Together - The Gender Mirage (chapter 10)

Kakistocracy

Sari van Anders

Anne Fausto-Sterling

ALOK

Will and Harper (Netflix show)

Let it burn.

Links:

Paradise Square (musical)

Joaquina Kalukango – "Let It Burn" (75th Tony Awards Performance) on Youtube

(This is the performance we talk about in the episode.)

New York City draft riots

The "This is Fine" dog by KC Green, who is a real person who actually created the cartoon.

KC sells official "This is Fine" dog stuff on Topatoco

Coleman Barks Rumi translations

Emily and Amelia are back. Maybe this will help you like it helps them.

Links:

Finding steady ground

Nothing Much Happens podcast: Softly Softly

Sleep Sound with Richard Armitage (Audible)

Words to Win By podcast

The New Jim Crow (book)

A Force More Powerful

Bringing Down a Dictator

In 2017, “Joy Policing” Can Go Fuck Itself by Emily

BURNOUT: Do You Feel Half Alive? We Can Do Hard Things - Apple Podcasts

An Alternative to Hope: Or, The Secret Medicine for When the Thing With Feathers Stop Singing

I was inspired to make this video obviously because of John Green’s June 25th video, where he talks about taking a break from making videos because: depression, and he concludes with his familiar assurance that despair is a lie, hopelessness is a lie, that life is meaningful, and your life matters. He says he’s going to spend the month of July reminding himself that Emily Dickinson was right, “that hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul and sings the tune without the words and never stops at all.”

Emily’s Youtube

(The source for this episode)

John's video

Amelia's response to my response

Read this post on my newsletter here

Sonya Renee Taylor

"A Prayer for the Collective"

(google doc)

On the “Metaverse”: Rich White Men Looking to Escape the World They Created

"How We Hope" by Adrienne Martin

(excellent book)

The Come As You Are podcast was a 8-episode miniseries. It's over now, but maybe you haven't heard it yet?

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Is Emily Amelia's Loki Variant or is Amelia *Emily's* Loki Variant??

Sometimes your body lies to you, so it’s very on theme that it turns out we lied about this series ending last week. Mild spoilers for Loki, if you are planning to watch it.

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LINKS:

Loki

Neuroplastic pain

Polyvagal Theory

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

Amelia’s Youtube channel

Come As You Are (signed by Emily)

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle:

Penguin Random House

Amazon

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