Personal Development School
Thais Gibson
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- 18 minutes 22 secondsTop 10 Signs You Have A Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style
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This episode breaks down the signs, clearly, compassionately, and at the subconscious level, so you can finally understand what’s happening inside you and how to heal it.
Episode Summary
Fearful avoidant attachment is one of the most emotionally complex attachment styles, often shaped by early experiences of inconsistency, chaos, or unpredictability in relationships. In this episode, Thais Gibson walks through the top 10 signs of fearful avoidant attachment, explaining why these patterns form and how they show up in adult relationships.
You’ll learn why fearful avoidants flip-flop between closeness and distance, struggle with emotional regulation and boundaries, jump to worst-case conclusions, and experience deep guilt, shame, and empathy—all while longing for safety and connection. Most importantly, you’ll discover how somatic healing and nervous-system regulation can help you feel secure, grounded, and emotionally safe again.
Key Takeaways
Why fearful avoidants fear abandonment and commitment
How activation–deactivation cycles form in relationships
Why you may push people away even when you want closeness
The link between empathy, boundary struggles, and emotional overwhelm
Why vulnerability can feel unsafe—even when you’re sharing
How guilt, shame, and emotional dysregulation develop
Why somatic healing is essential for lasting attachment repair
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:47 – Sign #1: Flip-Flopping Between Fear of Abandonment and Commitment
00:04:38 – Sign #2: Actively Pushing Away
00:05:19 – Sign #3: Jump to Worst-Case Conclusions
00:07:24 – Sign #4: Terrified of Feeling Helpless
00:08:49 – Sign #5: Tend to Be Highly Empathetic
00:11:12 – Sign #6: Struggle with Boundaries
00:12:21 – Sign #7: Difficulty Regulating Emotion
00:13:35 – 7-Day Free Trial + Somatic Course
00:15:01 – Sign #8: May Seem Vulnerable without Actually Sharing
00:17:10 – Sign #9: Frequently Experience Guilt and Shame
00:17:50 – Sign #10: Strong Activation-DeactivationMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/2 February 2026, 10:00 am - 27 minutes 16 secondsMy Daughter Won’t Talk to Me | A Dad’s Guide to Reconnecting
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If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You…
It’s easy to believe that silence means rejection, but in most cases, it means hurt, confusion, and protective walls, not a lack of love.
Drawing from her personal story and over a decade of clinical experience, Thais explains why children disconnect, what not to do when trying to reconnect, and how small, consistent actions can begin rebuilding emotional safety.
What You’ll Learn in This Video:
Why silence doesn’t mean your relationship is doomed
How learned helplessness keeps reconnection stuck
The hidden danger of over explaining your side
How to reconnect through your child’s emotional needs
Why processing your own hurt is essential
How accountability rebuilds trust over timeTIMESTAMPS
00:00 – If Your Daughter Has Stopped Talking to You
01:01 – Your Relationship Isn’t Doomed Forever
01:42 – Thais’ Story
10:06 – 1. You Have to Get Out of Learned Helplessness
13:10 – 2. Explaining Your Point of View Can Take the Focus Away From Your Child
16:51 – Somatic Course Promo
17:11 – 3. Learn to Connect to Your Child’s Needs
19:26 – 4. Process Your Own Hurt Around the Situation
24:39 – 5. Honor and Be Accountable for Your Past MistakesMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
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💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/31 January 2026, 10:00 am - 13 minutes 6 secondsTHIS Happens When The Avoidant Realizes They Lost You
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Episode Summary
Breakups don’t just hurt emotionally; they can activate deep attachment wounds that keep us stuck in fear, rumination, and self-doubt. In this episode, we explore why commitment can feel so threatening after heartbreak, how the subconscious mind enters “flaw-finding mode,” and why the boomerang effect can pull us back into unhealthy dynamics.
You’ll learn how to separate genuine feelings from fear-based reactions, why holding no contact is so powerful for healing, and how to begin rewriting old emotional stories so you can create secure, healthy relationships moving forward.
Key Takeaways
Why fear of commitment often intensifies after a breakup
How to distinguish real feelings from subconscious fear responses
What “flaw-finding mode” is and how it sabotages the connection
The boomerang effect and why it keeps pulling you back
Why holding no contact supports nervous system regulation
How routines help rewire old attachment patterns
Practical steps to heal emotionally and move forward with clarity
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro
00:01:31 – A Fear of Commitment
00:02:40 – Feelings Minus Fears
00:04:31 – Flaw Finding Mode
00:05:56 – Boomerang Effect
00:08:50 – IAT Promo
00:09:43 – Hold No Contact
00:10:44 – Rewrite Our Old Stories
00:11:46 – Find a Routine
00:12:30 – Conclusion / How to Heal From a BreakupMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/30 January 2026, 10:00 am - 14 minutes 10 secondsWhy Dismissive Avoidants Want to Act Like They're In A Relationship Without Actually Committing
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https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-28-26&el=podcastIf you’re dealing with someone who acts emotionally involved but pulls away when commitment comes up, or if you resonate with the dismissive avoidant attachment style, this episode will bring clarity, relief, and a clear path forward.
Episode Summary
Dismissive Avoidants often desire connection, but without the vulnerability and commitment that deeper relationships require. In this episode, Thais Gibson breaks down the core subconscious reasons behind this pattern, including unmet emotional modeling in childhood, fear of vulnerability, difficulty resolving conflict, and feeling misunderstood or criticized in relationships.
You’ll learn how these attachment wounds form, why they lead to commitment resistance, and how healing your attachment style can help you build emotionally secure, fulfilling relationships, without losing your sense of independence.
Key Takeaways
What defines the dismissive avoidant attachment style
How unmodeled emotional connection impacts adult relationships
Why vulnerability can feel unsafe or threatening
How unresolved conflict fuels fear of commitment
Why dismissive avoidants often feel misunderstood or criticized
How attachment-style healing creates safety, clarity, and deeper intimacy
Timestamps
00:00:00 – Intro
00:00:27 – The Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
00:01:05 – Reason #1: Unmodeled Pillars Of Emotional Connection
00:04:26 – Reason #2: Struggle With Vulnerability
00:06:41 – 7-Day Free Trial: Dismissive Avoidant In The 6 Stages Of A Relationship
00:07:02 – Reason #3: Unable To Resolve Conflict
00:10:15 – Reason #4: Feeling Misunderstood And Criticized
00:12:32 – SummaryMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/28 January 2026, 10:00 am - 10 minutes 27 secondsFearful Avoidant | Recover Long Lost Self Connection
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If you have a Fearful Avoidant attachment style, you may feel emotionally numb, unsure of your needs, or like you’ve lost touch with who you truly are. This disconnection often develops as a survival response but it can be healed.
In this episode, Thais Gibson walks you through how to recover long-lost self-connection and rebuild a secure relationship with yourself, so you can stop living on autopilot and start making aligned, grounded decisions in your life and relationships.
Episode Summary
This episode explores why Fearful Avoidant individuals often struggle with self-connection and how early environments, chronic stress, people-pleasing, and emotional suppression can lead to disconnection from needs, boundaries, and identity.You’ll learn the three core pillars of self-connection and how each one plays a vital role in healing attachment wounds:
Learning who you truly are
Reconnecting with your body and emotional signals
Developing a strong identity without rigid attachment
These tools help you feel safer within yourself, reduce emotional numbing, and create clarity in relationships, career choices, and personal direction.Key Takeaways
Why living on autopilot and chronic people-pleasing weaken self-connection
How emotional numbing and escapism block clarity around needs and boundaries
Introspection: learning your needs, values, boundaries, and what lights you up
Embodiment: using body awareness to access emotions and regulate the nervous system
Identity: building a strong sense of self without becoming rigid or over-attached
How reconnecting with yourself supports long-term healing for fearful avoidant attachmentTimestamps
00:00 – Recovering Lost Self Connection
00:54 – What Does Struggling With Self Connection Look Like?
03:28 – 1. Introspection
05:04 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo
05:41 – 2. Embodiment
07:47 – 3. Identity
09:51 – ConclusionMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/26 January 2026, 10:00 am - 49 minutes 30 secondsA Personal Health Share That Might Help You
Embrace Breakthroughs With The “Heal From a Breakup” Course. Free for Life With a 7-Day Trial.
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-breakup-course?utm_source=youtube&utm_campaign=dream-life-breakup-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_term=2-8b2uZBfe8&utm_content=yt-01-24-26&el=youtubeIn this deeply personal and vulnerable episode, Thais Gibson shares her long and complex physical health journey from chronic illness in childhood to discovering root causes as an adult through functional and integrative approaches.
This conversation is not about giving medical advice. It’s about sharing lived experience, connecting the dots between nervous system regulation, emotional healing, and physical well-being, and helping others feel less alone if they’ve been struggling with unexplained or chronic symptoms.
Thais opens up about her childhood health challenges, early adulthood, and the physical symptoms that persisted even after deep emotional and psychological healing. She shares what led her to explore functional medicine, advanced testing, and lifestyle changes and how understanding her body transformed her quality of life.
This episode explores:
Growing up with chronic illness and allergies
How early life experiences shaped resilience and self-awareness
The role of functional medicine and root-cause testing
Discoveries around mold exposure, inflammation, and nervous system health
What ultimately supported her healing journey
This is a story about listening to your body, advocating for yourself, and integrating mind–body healing.Key Takeaways
Chronic symptoms can become “normal” when they start early in life
Emotional healing and physical healing often need to happen together
Functional and root-cause approaches helped uncover missing pieces
Regulation, awareness, and self-support play a role in overall well-being
You’re not broken, sometimes your body is asking to be understoodTimestamps
00:00 – Intro
00:55 – Thais’ Physical Health Journey
03:46 – Thais’ Childhood and Youth
09:00 – Thais’ Early Adult Life
17:22 – Getting Into Functional Medicine
21:15 – Heal From a Breakup Course Promo
21:51 – Mycotoxin and Organic Acids Test Results
31:39 – Mast Cell Activation Syndrome
34:41 – What Helped Thais Heal
43:38 – Final TakeawaysMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/24 January 2026, 10:00 am - 7 minutes 8 seconds5 Hard Truths For The Dismissive Avoidant | Dismissive Avoidant Attachment, Healing & Core Wounds
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If you have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, healing doesn’t mean forcing yourself to become someone you’re not — it means learning a new, healthier relationship with vulnerability, emotions, and connection.
In this video, Thais Gibson shares 5 hard but deeply transformative truths that can support dismissive avoidant healing, reduce emotional shutdown, and help you build relationships that feel safe, balanced, and sustainable.
These truths may feel uncomfortable at first, but once integrated, they can fundamentally change how you experience intimacy, self-worth, and connection.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why emotions are not something to avoid, but powerful feedback tools
How vulnerability creates safety, not weakness
Why receiving support is a key part of healthy interdependence
How compromise strengthens connection without self-abandonment
Why being imperfect does not mean you are defective⏱️ Timestamps:
00:00 – These Truths Can Transform Your Life
00:35 – 1. Your Feelings Are Your Friends
02:03 – 2. Vulnerability Is Healthy and Necessary
03:10 – 3. Leaning on Someone and Receiving Support From Them Is Not Weak
04:34 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
04:55 – 4. It Is Important to Make Concessions in the Form of Compromises
05:37 – 5. It Is Normal and Human to Have FlawsMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/23 January 2026, 10:00 am - 12 minutes 32 secondsWhen the Avoidant Won’t Commit, A Secure Person Reacts Like THIS
Start Healing Your Attachment Style With Personalized Courses Taught by Thais Gibson. Free for 7 Days (Enough Time to Complete a Full Course). Limited-time Offer:
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-21-26&el=podcastWhen someone won’t commit, it can trigger anxiety, self-doubt, and the urge to chase or over-explain.
But a securely attached person doesn’t beg, pressure, or abandon themselves.
They respond with clarity, boundaries, and self-trust, and that response changes everything.
🎥 Episode Summary
In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down exactly how a securely attached person responds when a dismissive avoidant won’t commit, and how you can reverse engineer that response in your own healing journey.
You’ll learn the key differences in commitment timelines across attachment styles, how secure individuals communicate needs without pressure or ultimatums, and how they protect their time, energy, and emotional well-being when commitment remains unclear.
This episode is essential if you:
Feel stuck waiting for someone to “decide”
Are dating an avoidant partner who won’t commit
Tend to self-silence or people-please to keep connection
Want to respond with confidence instead of anxiety✨ Key Takeaways
✔ Why attachment styles have different commitment timelines
✔ How secure people express interest without pressure
✔ The difference between clarity and ultimatums
✔ Why secure people don’t take avoidance personally
✔ How to communicate needs while holding empathy
✔ What secure boundaries look like in real conversations
✔ Why ending codependent patterns restores self-trust⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 – How A Secure Person Reacts When An Avoidant Won’t Commit
00:36 – Each Attachment Style Has A Different Expectation
01:16 – The Anxious Preoccupied And Dismissive Avoidant Timelines
02:01 - The Fearful Avoidant And Secure Timelines
04:07 - Not Everybody Follows the Same Expectations
04:41 - A Securely Attached Person Would Not Take Differences Personally
05:07 - How A Secure Person Reacts When They Don’t Want To Commit
06:48 - A Secure Person Expresses Their Own Needs
08:22 - Ending Relationship Codependency and Enmeshment Promo
08:51 - How A Secure Person Communicates They Want To Commit
10:22 - A Securely Person Shows the Avoidant That There’s a Natural Consequence For Not Showing UpMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/21 January 2026, 10:00 am - 6 minutes 19 secondsA Dismissive Avoidant Experiences THESE 4 Stages After A Fight
Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course — Free Forever! Start Creating Relationships That Last.
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-19-26&el=podcastAfter a fight with a Dismissive Avoidant, it can feel like they shut down completely, emotionally unavailable, distant, and unaffected.
But what looks like indifference on the outside is often a complex internal process happening beneath the surface.
Understanding what’s really going on can change everything, especially if you want to stop chasing, over-explaining, or losing yourself in the process.
🎥 Episode Summary
In today’s video, Thais Gibson breaks down the 4 internal stages a Dismissive Avoidant attachment style typically experiences after a conflict or argument.
You’ll learn why dismissive avoidants shut down, distance, and deactivate, not because they don’t care, but because emotional intensity feels unsafe at a nervous system level.
This episode is essential if you:
Are in a relationship with a Dismissive Avoidant
Feel confused by shutdown, stonewalling, or emotional distance after conflict
Want to respond in a way that supports connection without self-betrayal
Or are a dismissive avoidant wanting to understand your own internal process✨ Key Takeaways
✔ Why shutdown and stonewalling are self-protection strategies
✔ What Dismissive Avoidants are actually trying to escape after conflict
✔ The distancing stage and internal deactivation dialogue
✔ How space (when respected) leads to emotional recovery
✔ Why reconnection happens slowly and why pushing backfires
✔ The curiosity and learning stage, when growth becomes possible
✔ How codependent patterns keep conflict cycles stuck⏱ TIMESTAMPS
00:00 – What Happens to Dismissive Avoidants After an Argument?
00:36 – Stage 1: Shutdown or Stonewalling
01:58 – Stage 2: Distancing
03:55 – Stage 3: Recovery and Connection
04:57 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
05:18 – Stage 4: Curiosity and LearningMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
💼 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/company/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/19 January 2026, 10:00 am - 23 minutes 2 secondsTop 10 Signs You Have A Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
Get 7 Days Free Plus Lifetime Access to Our Ending Codependency Course Free Forever!
Start creating relationships that feel safe, connected, and fulfilling.
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life-codependency-course?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=dream-life-codependency-course&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=pod-01-17-26&el=podcastYou may want love, connection, and intimacy… yet still feel overwhelmed, misunderstood, or suddenly disconnected when relationships get close.
If this resonates, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, and it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. These patterns are learned subconscious strategies designed to keep you safe.
In this video, Thais Gibson walks you through 10 powerful signs of Dismissive Avoidant attachment, helping you understand where these patterns come from and how they impact your relationships, so you can begin creating deeper, healthier connections without losing yourself.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why different attachment styles operate with different subconscious “rules for love”
How emotional neglect shapes dismissive avoidant behaviors
Why vulnerability, conflict, and criticism can feel so threatening
What causes sudden emotional shutdowns or loss of feelings
How healing codependency supports secure attachment and emotional safety⏱️ Timestamps:
00:00 – The Attachment Styles Have Different Subconscious Rules for Love
01:25 – 1. You’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable
03:01 – 2. You Rely on Escapism as a Strategy to Avoid Your Feelings
06:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
07:15 – 3. You Dislike Conflict
08:22 – 4. You Are Sensitive to Criticism
10:46 – 5. You Have a Low Emotional Bandwidth at All Times
12:12 – 6. You Often Feel Misunderstood
14:56 – 7. You Believe That Everyone is Responsible for Themselves
17:54 – 8. You Want a Relationship That Is Simple, Harmonious, and Low-Effort
19:19 – 9. You Lose Feelings Suddenly in Relationships
20:51 – 10. You Believe That You Are Incapable of Giving Other People What They NeedMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
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If this resonates, you may have a Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style, and it’s not because something is “wrong” with you. These patterns are learned subconscious strategies designed to keep you safe.
In this video, Thais Gibson walks you through 10 powerful signs of Dismissive Avoidant attachment, helping you understand where these patterns come from and how they impact your relationships, so you can begin creating deeper, healthier connections without losing yourself.
In This Episode, You’ll Learn:
Why different attachment styles operate with different subconscious “rules for love”
How emotional neglect shapes dismissive avoidant behaviors
Why vulnerability, conflict, and criticism can feel so threatening
What causes sudden emotional shutdowns or loss of feelings
How healing codependency supports secure attachment and emotional safety⏱️ Timestamps:
00:00 – The Attachment Styles Have Different Subconscious Rules for Love
01:25 – 1. You’re Afraid of Being Vulnerable
03:01 – 2. You Rely on Escapism as a Strategy to Avoid Your Feelings
06:53 – Ending Codependency Course Promo
07:15 – 3. You Dislike Conflict
08:22 – 4. You Are Sensitive to Criticism
10:46 – 5. You Have a Low Emotional Bandwidth at All Times
12:12 – 6. You Often Feel Misunderstood
14:56 – 7. You Believe That Everyone is Responsible for Themselves
17:54 – 8. You Want a Relationship That Is Simple, Harmonious, and Low-Effort
19:19 – 9. You Lose Feelings Suddenly in Relationships
20:51 – 10. You Believe That You Are Incapable of Giving Other People What They NeedMeet the Host
Thais Gibson is the founder of The Personal Development School and a world leader in attachment theory. With a Ph.D. and over a dozen certifications, she’s helped more than 70,000 people reprogram their subconscious and build thriving relationships.Helpful Resources:
🧠 Take the Free Attachment Style Quiz
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=attachment-quiz&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast📚 Read the Learning Love Book
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/learning-love?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=learning-love&utm_medium=organic&el=podcast🎧 Discover Podcast Episodes
https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/podcast?page=1📝 Read the PDS Blog
https://blog.personaldevelopmentschool.com/Let’s Connect on Socials:
📸 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/
📘 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool
🎵 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson
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