Were You Raised By Wolves?

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Nick Leighton

43 minutes 26 seconds

Spotting Americans Abroad, Declining to Go Horseback Riding, Singing on Airplanes, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle spotting Americans abroad, declining to go horseback riding, singing on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS
- AMUSE-BOUCHE: The American Lean
- A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Turning around with subtlety
- QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to assume someone's pregnant because of their halloween costume? How do we decline to take people horseback riding?
- VENT OR REPENT: Rude at the airport coffee shop, Singing "Happy Birthday" on airplanes
- CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks for the land, Thanks to a flight attendant
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- Blackening candle wicks
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Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 284
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3 November 2025, 9:00 am
26 minutes 55 seconds

Decoding "Mountain Formal," Pacifying Picky Houseguests, Sharing Sushi Platters, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about decoding what "Mountain Formal" means on a wedding invitation, pacifying picky houseguests, sharing sushi platters, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:
- Will wedding guests be confused by a “Mountain Formal” dress code?
- What should you do if someone wishes you a happy birthday on the wrong day?
- How does one respond to houseguests who complain about the brand new mattress you bought specifically for their visit?
- Is there an established etiquette for sharing sushi?
- What’s the right thing to do when strangers join your table at a coffee shop?
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- Puck's final monologue from "A Midsummer Night's Dream"
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CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 283
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27 October 2025, 8:00 am
38 minutes 15 seconds

Second Helpings: Enjoying a Fika in Sweden, Staying at Bed & Breakfasts, Telling Guests What Not To Bring, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle enjoying a fika in Sweden, staying at bed and breakfasts, telling guests what not to bring to your party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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EPISODE CONTENTS
- AMUSE-BOUCHE: Fika
- A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bed & Breakfasts
- QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should both my partner and I sign a wedding card if only one of us was invited? How do we get guests to not bring wine to our wine party?
- VENT OR REPENT: Cookie Dough Dreams, A used brush
- CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Waiving in cars, A nice review
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- Gustav III’s risk assessment on coffee consumption; A medical history report
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CREDITS
Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton
Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

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TRANSCRIPT
Episode 180
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20 October 2025, 8:00 am
28 minutes 11 seconds

Second Helpings: Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about picking the correct utensil for mac and cheese, spelling like an Australian, lingering in stores after they're closed, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)
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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:
- What is the correct utensil for eating macaroni and cheese?
- Should we let our best friends know in advance that we plan on giving them a Christmas gift?
- I'm an American living in Australia...should I use Australian spelling rules?
- When driving down a busy street, is it proper to slow down to allow cars to exit parking spaces?
- Is it rude for customers to stay in a small store past closing time?
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
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CREDITS
Hosts: Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnema
Producer & Editor: Nick Leighton
Theme Music: Rob Paravonian

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TRANSCRIPT
Episode 165
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13 October 2025, 8:00 am
35 minutes

Wiping Fingers With a Yubifuki, Dining at Michelin-Starred Restaurants, Calling Strangers “Pal,” and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using a yubifuki in sushi restaurants, dining at Michelin-starred restaurants, calling strangers "pal," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS
- AMUSE-BOUCHE: Yubifuki (指拭き)
- A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Michelin-starred Dining
- QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to call strangers “bud” or “pal”? Is there an age at which you’re too old to have personal items monogrammed?
- VENT OR REPENT: Heel scraping in Queens, Snot rockets at the gym
- CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a friend, Thanks to our Patreon members
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- Furoshiki and Tenugui
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CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 282
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6 October 2025, 8:00 am
27 minutes 29 seconds

Hosting Surprise Houseguests, Correcting Misspelled Signs, Sending Late Sympathy Cards, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hosting surprise houseguests, correcting misspelled signs, sending late sympathy cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:
- What’s the best way to handle being surprised by four extra houseguests?
- When is it appropriate to tell a business that some of their signage is misspelled?
- Is it appropriate to send a sympathy card four years after the fact?
- What should we do if a server says she'll comp our drinks but then leaves them on the bill?
- Is there a polite way to ask someone where they got their bra?
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- Anniversary Bonus Episode
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CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 281
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29 September 2025, 8:00 am
47 minutes 4 seconds

Discovering Bone Dishes, Enduring Waiting Rooms, Texting Wedding Thank-Yous, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bone dishes, enduring waiting rooms, texting wedding thank-yous, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS
- AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bone Dishes
- A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Waiting Rooms
- QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What’s the etiquette of holding elevator doors while you’re having a conversation? Is a non-personalized text response an acceptable thank you note for a wedding gift?
- VENT OR REPENT: Using laptops in restaurants, Blocking driveways
- CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a dentist, A nice review
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- ⁠Bone dishes on Wikipedia
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CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 280
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22 September 2025, 8:00 am
28 minutes 13 seconds

Dodging In-Law Requests, Melting Candy Bars in Diapers, Hiding Coffee Truths, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dodging requests from mothers-in-law, playing unfortunate baby shower games, neglecting to disclose when you're serving half-caf coffee, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:
- How do I decline my mother-in-law’s request to throw a dinner party in my home?
- What is the right way to ask friends if they are actually serious about throwing us a baby shower?
- What’s the best response when someone says they’re going to be out of the office?
- How do I get my colleagues to stop asking me to get in touch with my husband on their behalf?
- Should you tell guests when you serve less than fully caffeinated coffee?
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- "Guess the candy bar" game
- "Seascapes" by Hiroshi Sugimoto
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CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 279
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15 September 2025, 8:00 am
41 minutes 52 seconds

Using Napkins in Italy, Changing Passwords on Friends, Handing Strangers Your Phone, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using paper napkins in Italy, changing streaming service passwords on friends, hanging strangers your phone, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS
- AMUSE-BOUCHE: Paper napkins in Italy
- A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being an AirBNB host
- QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I need to let an old acquaintance know that I've changed my streaming service password and their free access has ended? What's the polite way to get people to stop giving me books to read?
- VENT OR REPENT: Strangers giving you their phones, Taking too long to make coffee
- CORDIALS OF KINDNESS: Thanks to a neighbor, Thanks for doing your homework
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- ⁠Pasticceria Romolo in Salerno, Italy⁠
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CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT
⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 278
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8 September 2025, 8:00 am
13 minutes 30 seconds

Anniversary Bonus: Holding Teacups Properly, Escaping Boring People, Clapping for Plane Landings, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! It's our six year anniversary and we found a never-before-heard episode deep in the archives just for you. In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the right way to hold teacups, escaping boring people at parties, clapping when airplanes land, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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EPISODE CONTENTS
- AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding teacups properly
- A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: How to escape boring people at parties
- QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to clap when an airplane lands?
YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO...
CREDITS
Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠
Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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1 September 2025, 8:00 am
29 minutes 27 seconds

Overreacting to Messy Houseguests, Skipping a Friend’s Wedding, Wiping Down Sticky Trucks, and More
Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about overreacting to messy houseguests, skipping a close friend's wedding, wiping down sticky trucks, much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

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QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:
- What should I do about a friend who asked me to “make adjustments” to a piece of art I made for them?
- Are we overreacting to messy houseguests?
- What should we do about a close friend who’s skipping our wedding?
- How should I deal with a colleague who doesn’t wipe down our shared truck?
- What should I do about a thank you note I received for a gift I did not give?
- Aftermath: Abandoning dinner guests
THINGS MENTIONED DURING THE SHOW
- ⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode with question about abandoning dinner guests in your kitchen
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CREDITS

Hosts: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ & ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Leah Bonnema⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Producer & Editor: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Nick Leighton⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Theme Music: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Rob Paravonian⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

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TRANSCRIPT

⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Episode 277
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25 August 2025, 8:00 am
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