How does having cancer as a child impact the way you live as an adult?

Uber successful chef and restauranteur Josh Niland doesn’t do things in halves (no, literally, have you read his book The Whole Fish?).

From opening a restaurant at 26, to becoming the first Australian to win the James Beard Book of the Year award when he was just 30, Josh’s creativity came from a place of desperation to explore every opportunity presented to him.

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Diagnosed with cancer 2 days after his 8th birthday, Josh’s childhood transformed in a matter of hours into hospital hallways, chemotherapy and facing his own mortality.

In this episode, Josh joins us in the Vulnerabilitea House to talk us through an experience which profoundly changed him, which he is now grateful for.

Hugh, Ryan and Josh (our Josh), also ask about where his drive and ambitious creativity comes from, and just how close to failure Josh’s culinary career came.

We wish this chat could have gone on longer,

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/hjZPPeKKsVA 

🫖Other Imperfect’s episodes mentioned on this episode

• Nathan Cavaleri - The Ups & The Blues - https://bit.ly/468HE7l

📺 Things to watch

• Josh’s Australian Story - https://bit.ly/4giDtKR

📚Things to read

• Saint Peter: Chapter & Verse, by Josh Niland - https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN
• The Whole Fish, by Josh Niland - https://bit.ly/4bVM0SN

🍽️ Places to eat

• Saint Peter - https://bit.ly/4qrs4gv

💻Things to check out

• Starlight Children’s Foundation - https://bit.ly/4hHDkmM
• Josh Niland’s Website - https://www.mrniland.com

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Is tough love to blame for our shame?

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We all know that parent or coach on the sideline who takes under 10’s basketball a liiitttllleee too seriously. And occasionally, tough love might seem to work in the moment, long term, the shame train isn’t going anywhere good.

Dr Emily, our resident psychologist, is here to name the shame to tame it, and teach us how we can be shame strippers too (get your head out of the gutter. Shame on you).

We go into the difference between shame, humiliation, guilt and embarrassment, bow down to the queen Brene Brown, and introduce ourselves to our own Healthy Adult.

Shamelessly, this is one of our best episodes to date.

0:00 – Ever heard of a shame stripper?
6:27 – Bow down to Brene Brown
12:25 – The other self-conscious emotions (they’re shy)
20:51 – Humour and humiliation
29:21 – Shame is a full body experience
36:16 – Beware of who you share (with)
40:43 – Manosphere + behaviour change
46:59 – Tough love + kids sport
57:07 – Working with shame
1:06:10 – Bring on the compassion!
1:10:07 – Introducing the Healthy Adult

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🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Ryan Shelton - Shame, Jealousy & Purpose - https://bit.ly/4qgEqrO
• Dr Emily - Compassion of The Self - https://bit.ly/4hqWa1k
• How do you know you’re in a thinking trap? - Maria Ruberto - https://bit.ly/4ze4eJh

🎧 Things to listen to

• Between Two Beers with Steven Adams - https://bit.ly/4g3wipS

📚Things to read

• Daring Greatly, by Brene Brown - https://bit.ly/45VT2Dx
• The Compassionate Mind, by Paul Gilbert - https://bit.ly/3UewPOq
• Movember study of the Manosphere - https://bit.ly/4wZxtOs
• Proneness to shame vs proneness to guilt research by Tangney et al. - https://bit.ly/4g4lQyl

📖Things to do

• The Mindful Self-Compassion Workbook, by Kristin Neff and Christopher Germer - https://bit.ly/4zg353K
• Othership (breath work app) - https://bit.ly/4g7Q03E

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Can nature help us to feel less alone?

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Psychologist on the incredible, Alone Australia series (remember our seminal episode with Gina Chick?), Mark Mathieson is in the Academy of Imperfection to help us understand how nature regulates our body, and how we can reconnect to it in this digital age.

Mark talks about how to uncover the person behind the persona, the science behind gardening, and why Hugh had the best sleep of his life in a tent, with no pillow.

According to Mark, human are immensely capable of change, and this episode provides a few things we can do to ensure nature is incorporated into our routines, without cramming the schedule more.

Mark, it was great to be alone . . . with you.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CIMSSRJg2vQ 

0:00 – Ice breaker: where have we gone wrong?
6:58 – The segmentation of exercise
11:46 – Evolution of Mark
18:53 – Person behind the persona
24:10 – Our virtual reality future
27:22 – Let’s learn to adapt
36:00 – Building relationships with nature
42:28 – The science of gardening and sunshine
48:53 – Eventually, reality TV gets us all
53:08 – Big city blues

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Gina Chick - Don’t Fight Life - https://bit.ly/4xj0kga
• Sean Turnell - A Prisoner’s Guide to Life - https://bit.ly/4btNKCu
• Sex for Normal People with Ita O’Brien - https://bit.ly/4btNNya
• Dr Emily - The (pesky) Hedonistic Treadmill - https://bit.ly/4yXxx2B
• Dr Paul Callaghan - How To Follow The Dreaming Path - https://bit.ly/457l9PY

📚Things to read

• Comfort Crisis, by Michael Easter - https://bit.ly/4pV10Ga
• The Dreaming Path, by Dr Paul Callaghan and Uncle Paul Gordon - https://bit.ly/4gctqrZ

📺 Things to watch

• Alone Australia (new season out now) - https://bit.ly/4yWVW8n

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All views expressed in this podcast are Mark Mathieson’s and not representative of the Department of Defence, Australia.

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What is racism, really?

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Adam Briggs, rapper, writer, actor, senator and Yorta-Yorta man, joins Hugh, Josh and guest host Nazeem Hussain, to have an honest conversation about racism in Australia.

We explore the impact of The Voice Referendum vote, how culture and community impacts identity, and why Briggs has never, ever felt the need to people please (yep, that’s the sound of us frantically scribbling down notes).

Briggs also chats about the highs and lows of bipolar II.

0:00 – No boundaries Briggs
5:26 –Big Shep’ Washing Machine
12:25 – This is racism
21:27 – A hyper-vigilante
28:06 – Perfect storm for art
36:09 – Copping it Australia Wide
43:22 – The Yes Vote
53:08 – Australian Culture
57:02 – Never just about music
1:04:50 – Make Aboriginal Cool
1:09:19 – Bipolar, therapy, training

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Ben Shewry (Pt 1) - The Other Side of Excellence - https://bit.ly/4fErGpQ
• Ben Shewry (Pt 2) - How The Chef Was Made - https://bit.ly/45sPsR7
• Ben Shewry - Making It Right (And Delicious) - https://bit.ly/4gXyDEZ
• Nazeem Hussain - Losing a Parent - https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/the-imperfects/id1476501557?i=1000589981824 

🎧Things to listen to

• Big Noter - https://www.thebignoter.com
• The Children Came Back by Briggs & Gurrumul - https://bit.ly/4fGaxMH

📺Things to watch

• Briggs’s Voice Referendum ad - https://bit.ly/4bkiTs2

📚Things to read

• Our Home, Our Heartbeat by Adam Briggs - https://bit.ly/4yQKbjW

💻Things to check out

• Rumbalara Football Netball Club - https://www.rfnc.com.au/
• Bad Apples Music - https://bit.ly/4x8Rdi3

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Sex is sometimes a taboo topic. Not today! Intimacy expert Ita O’Brien tells us all about the new normal in the bedroom, and how she’s introduced it to Hollywood.

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In 2017, Ita O’Brien changed how Hollywood approached sex scenes when she pioneered intimacy co-ordination on the hit Netflix show, Sex Education, by introducing the framework, “Intimacy On Set Guidelines”. She went on to on productions for Netflix, BBC, HBO, Hulu, Amazon, including Sex Education and Normal People, founding her own company Intimacy on Set.

And now she’s here.

Ita chats with the guys about what sex scenes were like before Intimacy Co-ordination, and all the lies movies taught us about sex. She explains the mysterious orgasm gap, why consent is the foundation of all intimacy, and maybe most importantly of all… the male and female anatomy of arousal! That bit’s at the 16min mark if you’re really in a hurry. 😉

00:00 – Meet Ita O'Brien, the World's First Intimacy Coordinator
01:32 – Inside Her Work on Normal People, I May Destroy You & Sex Education
04:17 – What Intimacy Actually Means (It's Not Just Sex)
07:34 – The Untold Story of the First-Ever Intimacy Coordinator Job
09:35 – What Sex Scenes Were Like Before Consent Guidelines Existed
12:27 – Why On-Screen Intimacy Shapes How We See Ourselves
14:33 – The Hidden Lie Movies Taught Us About Sex
16:00 – The Male Anatomy of Arousal, Explained
18:33 – The Female Anatomy of Arousal, Explained
23:17 – Why Desire Fades in Long-Term Relationships
25:59 – The Power of Touch (and Why We're Losing It)
30:39 – How Screens Are Rewiring Kids' Ability to Connect
34:08 – The Truth About the Orgasm Gap
40:30 – Why Consent Is the Foundation of All Intimacy
43:10 – Filming the Iconic Birth Scene in We Live in Time
49:52 – How to Talk to Kids About Consent and Bodies
52:24 – "Consent Is Sexy": A Call to Writers and Filmmakers
54:33 – Sex, Menopause and Intimacy at Every Life Stage

📖Things to read

Intimacy: A Field Guide to Finding Connection and Feeling Your Deep Desires by Ita O’Brien - https://www.penguin.com.au/books/intimacy-9781529954043

📺 Things to watch

Sex Education (Netflix) - https://www.netflix.com/title/80197526
Normal People (BBC/Hulu) - https://www.hulu.com/series/normal-people
I May Destroy You (BBC/HBO) - https://www.hbo.com/i-may-destroy-you
Catastrophe - https://www.amazon.com/Catastrophe-Season-1/dp/B00YGB8UYK
We Live in Time (Film4/A24) - https://www.a24films.com/films/we-live-in-time

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

Esther Perel — Let's Be Better Lovers - https://open.spotify.com/episode/1BantQso5Ef3xPn4PWNG2I

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Could you live without your phone for a month?

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This week it's just the three of us. And like Odysseus before us, we embark on a life changing epic.

Where he fought the trojans, monsters, cannibals, sirens, the oceans, a cyclops and ACTUAL GODS!!

We will do something even ‘EPIC…ER’.

We’re tackling our phones.

Each of us take on a month-long challenge to fix our worst phone habits, inspired by the ‘god of no phones’ - Christopher Nolan and the release of THE ODYSSEY (if that wasn’t obvious already, but we promise this episode isn't an ad).

We then share some of our favourite bits from behind the pay wall, from our Patreon/Subscriber community. Ryan has an unplanned, very generous on-air hair donation; Josh shares a bit from a book which changed his life a bit; which leads to one of the most honest conversations he and Hugh have ever had on (or off) the show, about comparison, self-esteem, and growing up idolising your older brother.

This is one epic journey.

00:00 — The Phone Odyssey Begins
08:54 — Our Phone-Free Pledges
19:11 — Modelling Better Habits at Home
25:29 — Hairing is Caring
37:57 — A Bit From a Book That Changed Josh’s Life a Bit
48:18 — The Conversation Between Brothers That Needed to Be Had

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Bronte Campbell - Comparison, The thief of joy ****https://bit.ly/49S1S7C
• Joe Brumm & Hamish Blake - A Bluey Print for Dads https://bit.ly/4w4ohI8
• How (and why) Ryan Dumped his iPhone https://bit.ly/3T3xdyM
• Sam Willoughby - The tragic injury that changed his life (and Ryan’s Finnastride admission) https://bit.ly/4fa5u8p

📖 Things to read

• The midnight library - Matt Haigh https://bit.ly/4vGgnE0
• How Proust can change your life - Alain de Botton https://bit.ly/4dYfCkd
• In search of lost time - Marcel Proust https://bit.ly/4vt3lJG

📺Things to watch

• The Odyssey https://bit.ly/4vY8nij
• Christopher Nolan on 60minutes https://bit.ly/4yjfZgX

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To be jealous is to be human. It is what you do with that feeling that counts.

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Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is in the studio to talk about THAT podcast moment: the one where Ryan admitted he was jealous of Hugh and Hamish Blake’s relationship. The one that lives in Imperfects history.

According to Dr Em, we develop the emotion of jealousy at just 9 months old, and it shows up everywhere; family, work, school, friends.

Feelings around jealousy can be extremely painful, especially if it is accompanied by shame.

In this episode, Dr Emily explores why jealousy can be so dangerous when not listened to, and why our jealous behaviour can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

See you on the other side.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/dlufNQ7iXCc

00:00 - The Day Has Arrived
02:48 - When Ryan Revealed He Was Jealous of Hugh & Hamish
7:45 - Shame Tells You Not To Speak It
10:02 - Harry Styles Walks Into a Super Market
15:54 - You’re Making My Dog Jealous
22:31 - Feeling Jealous vs Being Jealous
43:49 - Hugh, Ryan & Hamish: 4 Years Later
47:50 - How To Have The Conversation (And Build Trust)
59:32 - You Can Feel Jealous AND Still Trust

🫖 Episodes mentioned in this episode

• Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self Doubt - https://bit.ly/3QG8MXo

💻Things to check out

• Uncertainty vs inevitable pain study - https://bit.ly/43NWFKQ

🎵Songs to listen to

• Jealous Guy by John Lennon - https://bit.ly/43NWzCY

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Want can you learn from playing with a child?

In today's Academy of Imperfection, Bluey creator Joe Brumm joins us (for real life), with Hamish Blake stepping in as guest host.

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In this episode we dig into the world of play - ”the voluntary overcoming of unnecessary obstacles”, we find out what makes a ‘good’ player and why kids' imaginative play tends to fade around age 12.

Josh and Hugh take the chance to wax lyrical about their favourite Bluey episodes, Rain, Fruit Bat, Born Yesterday, The Decider (to name a few). And all three dads also share some moments of parenting shame as we discuss the constant battle for attention between our phones, and our kids.

00:00 - Hamish Blake from Rove
08:13 - Bluey, The Most Streamed TV Show of All Time
11:51 - The Best Definition of Play You've Ever Heard
21:00 - It’s All Improvising
38:02 - Permission to Pretend Again
51:20 - My Kids Wouldn’t Have The Dad They Have Without Bluey
54:00 - Doing Something Just for Fun Is a Valid Reason
58:07 - Being Present In a World of Distractions
01:22:00 - The Bluey Episode That Made a Room Full of Footballers Cry
01:27:16 - Let Them Lead and See What Happens

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/eMigxjhCkcs 

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• How (and why) Ryan dumped his iphone https://bit.ly/4vi83uA

📺 Things to watch

• Bluey - Shadowlands https://bit.ly/4eTzKTA
• Bluey - Calypso https://bit.ly/3QT6NyT
• Bluey - Magic Xylophone https://bit.ly/4gdY057
• Bluey - Born Yesterday https://bit.ly/3SvY5HA
• Bluey - Bin Night https://bit.ly/4gd89Pt
• Bluey - The decider https://bit.ly/4eHS1V4
• Bluey - Faceytalk https://bit.ly/4wpWWju
• Bluey - Pass the parcel https://bit.ly/4gi9PXU

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How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?

This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.

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Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to parent when you yourself have ADHD.

And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.

We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.

Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.

0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle
5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh
11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?
19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains
22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid
27:16 – A crash course on dopamine
37:26 – Structure, sleep and school
44:38 – Identity and diagnosis
55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships
1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD
1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation
1:23:13 – Slo-pamine
1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths
1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/4g0CUXK
• Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4g567Rw
• Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/4uYFbGS

💻Things to check out

• Janelle’s website - https://bit.ly/3QJdO5t
• The MEHRIT Centre - https://self-reg.ca/
• The ADHD Parent Circle Online Program - https://bit.ly/4g5Anvu
• ADHD Women’s Support Group (Perinatal and Early Parenting) - https://bit.ly/3T0BJ0N
• Online Q&A with Janelle about ADHD parenting - https://bit.ly/4g5wneu

📖Things to read

• ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - https://bit.ly/4w7scU3

🎧Things to listen to

• Hamish & Andy podcast - https://bit.ly/43Z0RHJ
• Controlling Your Dopamine For Motivation, Focus & Satisfaction, by Huberman Lab - https://bit.ly/4xPnMCZ

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How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?

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In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).

And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.

You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.

Trust is important, and so is this conversation.

0:00 – BIG deal on the internet
8:41 – The heart behind it all
14:57 – Trust is always personal
20:22 – It’s human nature
23:33 – Good guys of the internet
30:35 – Don’t take sides
38:23 – The circle of trust
40:15 – Own up
46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI

📖 Things to read

• The Seven Rules of Trust, by Jimmy Wales - https://bit.ly/4vi83uA

🎧Things to listen to

• How to Build (And Rebuild) Trust with Frances Frei - https://bit.ly/4vfMMSl

🏆Competitions to enter

• Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr

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Do you think you have grit?

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Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.

Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.

Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!

We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.

Dr Em, so great to have you back.

0:00 – Down with the nonchalance!
5:43 – Talent vs Excellence
10:40 – Interested in finding your interests
16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room
24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence
32:17 – Practicing, kindly
35:01 – Hope is earned
42:06 – The good and bad criticism
53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort
59:54 – For the greater good
1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance

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🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive - https://bit.ly/4egeneO
• Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend - https://bit.ly/4egfATo
• Dr Emily - Hope - https://bit.ly/43YalTr
• Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety - https://bit.ly/4xlrYdl
• How I Built ‘Dis’ - The Resilience Project Story - https://bit.ly/4aH0dSP

📚Things to read

• Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth - https://bit.ly/4vzoe6o
• Self-efficacy, by Albert Bandura - https://bit.ly/4fx4KdW
• Master of Change, by Brad Stulberg - https://bit.ly/4xCbUEv
• Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, by Anders Ericsson - https://bit.ly/3Q9cIje

📺Things to watch

• THE GAP, by Ira Glass - https://bit.ly/4xjkuHL

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• JMB Foundation - https://jmbfoundation.org.au

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