To be jealous is to be human. It is what you do with that feeling that counts.

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Our resident psychologist Dr Emily Musgrove is in the studio to talk about THAT podcast moment: the one where Ryan admitted he was jealous of Hugh and Hamish Blake’s relationship. The one that lives in Imperfects history.

According to Dr Em, we develop the emotion of jealousy at just 9 months old, and it shows up everywhere; family, work, school, friends.

Feelings around jealousy can be extremely painful, especially if it is accompanied by shame.

In this episode, Dr Emily explores why jealousy can be so dangerous when not listened to, and why our jealous behaviour can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

See you on the other side.

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00:00 - The Day Has Arrived
02:48 - When Ryan Revealed He Was Jealous of Hugh & Hamish
7:45 - Shame Tells You Not To Speak It
10:02 - Harry Styles Walks Into a Super Market
15:54 - You’re Making My Dog Jealous
22:31 - Feeling Jealous vs Being Jealous
43:49 - Hugh, Ryan & Hamish: 4 Years Later
47:50 - How To Have The Conversation (And Build Trust)
59:32 - You Can Feel Jealous AND Still Trust

🫖 Episodes mentioned in this episode

• Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self Doubt - https://bit.ly/3QG8MXo

💻Things to check out

• Uncertainty vs inevitable pain study - https://bit.ly/43NWFKQ

🎵Songs to listen to

• Jealous Guy by John Lennon - https://bit.ly/43NWzCY

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Want can you learn from playing with a child?

In today's Academy of Imperfection, Bluey creator Joe Brumm joins us (for real life), with Hamish Blake stepping in as guest host.

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In this episode we dig into the world of play - ”the voluntary overcoming of unnecessary obstacles”, we find out what makes a ‘good’ player and why kids' imaginative play tends to fade around age 12.

Josh and Hugh take the chance to wax lyrical about their favourite Bluey episodes, Rain, Fruit Bat, Born Yesterday, The Decider (to name a few). And all three dads also share some moments of parenting shame as we discuss the constant battle for attention between our phones, and our kids.

00:00 - Hamish Blake from Rove
08:13 - Bluey, The Most Streamed TV Show of All Time
11:51 - The Best Definition of Play You've Ever Heard
21:00 - It’s All Improvising
38:02 - Permission to Pretend Again
51:20 - My Kids Wouldn’t Have The Dad They Have Without Bluey
54:00 - Doing Something Just for Fun Is a Valid Reason
58:07 - Being Present In a World of Distractions
01:22:00 - The Bluey Episode That Made a Room Full of Footballers Cry
01:27:16 - Let Them Lead and See What Happens

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/eMigxjhCkcs 

🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• How (and why) Ryan dumped his iphone https://bit.ly/4vi83uA

📺 Things to watch

• Bluey - Shadowlands https://bit.ly/4eTzKTA
• Bluey - Calypso https://bit.ly/3QT6NyT
• Bluey - Magic Xylophone https://bit.ly/4gdY057
• Bluey - Born Yesterday https://bit.ly/3SvY5HA
• Bluey - Bin Night https://bit.ly/4gd89Pt
• Bluey - The decider https://bit.ly/4eHS1V4
• Bluey - Faceytalk https://bit.ly/4wpWWju
• Bluey - Pass the parcel https://bit.ly/4gi9PXU

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How do you raise a child whose brain works differently?

This episode is for parents of kids with ADHD. And parents who have ADHD. And people who don’t have a diagnosis, but would consider themselves ‘fast and loose’. And for everyone who knows someone who fits the above criteria.

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Janelle Booker, a psychologist who specialises in ADHD, is BACK, this time, to talk to parents of ADHD kids, and how to parent when you yourself have ADHD.

And also, ADHD-curious Hamish Blake is here too.

We look at the role of dopamine, energy vs stressors, and how to make your mornings less chaotic and more compassionate.

Hamish and Janelle. What a duo.

0:00 – A dynamic duo: Hamish and Janelle
5:58 – The penny drop moment for Hugh
11:35 – ADHD or Fast and Loose?
19:56 – The beauty and beast of ADHD brains
22:38 – The life of an ADHD kid
27:16 – A crash course on dopamine
37:26 – Structure, sleep and school
44:38 – Identity and diagnosis
55:13 – ADHD kids and friendships
1:02:50 – Parenting WITH ADHD
1:16:29 – Finding and supporting regulation
1:23:13 – Slo-pamine
1:28:54 – Let’s talk about the strengths
1:34:35 – Get ‘em outside!

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/WwEBTIMohwg

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Janelle Booker - Living With ADHD - https://bit.ly/4g0CUXK
• Hugh’s ADHD…brief - https://bit.ly/4g567Rw
• Maria Ruberto - Advancing Despite Adversity - https://bit.ly/4uYFbGS

💻Things to check out

• Janelle’s website - https://bit.ly/3QJdO5t
• The MEHRIT Centre - https://self-reg.ca/
• The ADHD Parent Circle Online Program - https://bit.ly/4g5Anvu
• ADHD Women’s Support Group (Perinatal and Early Parenting) - https://bit.ly/3T0BJ0N
• Online Q&A with Janelle about ADHD parenting - https://bit.ly/4g5wneu

📖Things to read

• ADHD: A Delightful Human Difference. Reframing ADHD for Good, by Janelle Booker and Matthew Johnson - https://bit.ly/4w7scU3

🎧Things to listen to

• Hamish & Andy podcast - https://bit.ly/43Z0RHJ
• Controlling Your Dopamine For Motivation, Focus & Satisfaction, by Huberman Lab - https://bit.ly/4xPnMCZ

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How do you choose who to trust? And how do you show others that you are trustworthy?

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In this Academy of Imperfection, we are joined by Jimmy Wales, co-founder of Wikipedia. No biggie (BIG biggie).

And if there’s one thing Jimmy knows, it's how to garner and imbue the trust of millions.

You’re right in feeling like the general level of trust globally is low right now, but this episode is here to step through Jimmy's 7 rules which will help you build, rebuild, and solidify what is in our innate human behaviour.

Trust is important, and so is this conversation.

0:00 – BIG deal on the internet
8:41 – The heart behind it all
14:57 – Trust is always personal
20:22 – It’s human nature
23:33 – Good guys of the internet
30:35 – Don’t take sides
38:23 – The circle of trust
40:15 – Own up
46:03 – Let’s call them a civil person

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/Z1SPClxSfYI

📖 Things to read

• The Seven Rules of Trust, by Jimmy Wales - https://bit.ly/4vi83uA

🎧Things to listen to

• How to Build (And Rebuild) Trust with Frances Frei - https://bit.ly/4vfMMSl

🏆Competitions to enter

• Imperfects LIVE at the Balwyn Cinema Gold Class Double Pass - https://bit.ly/3S0E0Zr

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Do you think you have grit?

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Research has shown that the most common characteristic of elite performers and high achievers is grit.

Understood as the passion and perseverance for very long term goals, Grit is not about natural ability or talent, but rather how we choose to grow.

Your favourite resident psychologist, Dr Emily Musgrove, is back in the studio this week to talk about how you can become a grittier person!

We also look inward, as Josh asks how to maintain grit when it feels like your inner critic is overwhelmingly loud.

Dr Em, so great to have you back.

0:00 – Down with the nonchalance!
5:43 – Talent vs Excellence
10:40 – Interested in finding your interests
16:42 – For the non-naturals in the room
24:22 – Effort is essential for excellence
32:17 – Practicing, kindly
35:01 – Hope is earned
42:06 – The good and bad criticism
53:45 – Encountering pain and discomfort
59:54 – For the greater good
1:06:09 – The dark side of perseverance

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, click here - https://youtu.be/JmcLV7DGL4k 

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Dyson Heppell - Whatever It Takes… To Forgive - https://bit.ly/4egeneO
• Nedd Brockmann - The Man, The Myth, The Neddgend - https://bit.ly/4egfATo
• Dr Emily - Hope - https://bit.ly/43YalTr
• Bri Lee - Babies+Climate=Anxiety - https://bit.ly/4xlrYdl
• How I Built ‘Dis’ - The Resilience Project Story - https://bit.ly/4aH0dSP

📚Things to read

• Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance by Angela Duckworth - https://bit.ly/4vzoe6o
• Self-efficacy, by Albert Bandura - https://bit.ly/4fx4KdW
• Master of Change, by Brad Stulberg - https://bit.ly/4xCbUEv
• Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise, by Anders Ericsson - https://bit.ly/3Q9cIje

📺Things to watch

• THE GAP, by Ira Glass - https://bit.ly/4xjkuHL

⭐️Things to donate to

• JMB Foundation - https://jmbfoundation.org.au

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At just 16, Ellyse Perry was the youngest person to ever debut for the Australian International Cricket team. 13 days later, Ellyse debuted for the Matildas.

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Arguably one of the greatest athletes of our time, Hugh, Ryan and Josh chat to Ellyse about how she stays so grounded amidst her incredible success, and whether she is able to separate who she is from what she does.

Ellyse chats to the guys about her relationship with her dad (Josh and Hugh furiously take notes), and how both her parents were able to instil a love of trying rather than winning.

And then we get onto social anxiety; what it feels like for Ellyse, why she loves silent retreats, and how she manages it in front of her fans.

Ellyse, you are a literal ray of sunshine. Please come back anytime.

If you’d like to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/xAZeLzcG43Y 

0:00 – Is THAT AI?
5:05 – Running (and bowling) it’s natural course
11:24 – The feeling of not trying
17:18 – Parents: Be A Good Sport
29:22 – Prepare to be disappointed
40:23 – Bitter sweet World Cup
46:48 – The complexity of ego
1:03:54 – Practicing presence
1:10:30 – Hugh’s advice for big moments

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - (1:14:20) - https://bit.ly/3PRku11
• WHO ARE YOU? with Dr Emily (+ secret code word) - (17:20) - https://bit.ly/4e1SxeV

📖 Things to read

• Perspective by Ellyse Perry - (29:22) - https://bit.ly/3PSMaCI
• Ellyse Perry’s children’s books - https://bit.ly/4e1TyDM
• Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman - (1:11:40) - https://bit.ly/437yxT9

📺Things to watch

• Carl Sagan’s Pale Blue Dot - (1:17:27) - https://bit.ly/3PSPKNa

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We have a BIG announcement.

August 19. Balwyn Cinema. Our first ever live podcast recording. With Hugh, Ryan, Josh, Dr Emily, and you?

ARE YOU AS EXCITED AS WE ARE?!

And you could win your way there! THE ULTIMATE GOLD CLASS DOUBLE PASS includes: 2 x tickets, flights or a limo if you're already in Melbourne, accomodation for the night, popcorn, choc top, sparkling wine and a personal escort to your seats by former Balwyn Cinema employee Hugh van Cuylenburg!

🏆 Enter here NOW - https://www.theimperfects.com.au/balwyn-entry/

Tickets will go live Monday June 8.

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BUT to enter the competition OR buy tickets, you need a codeword (lowercase). And the only way you will hear the codeword is to be a Little More Imperfects subscriber and listen to the latest episode!

So quick, subscribe here!

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We can’t wait to see you there x

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We can’t control what happens to us, but we can control how we respond. At least, that’s what the Stoic’s say.

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Today we are joined (deep breath Hugh) by Stoic philosopher Ryan Holiday.

Using the wisdom of the past to appreciate the present, Ryan’s work is dedicated to communicating how the practicalities of stoic philosophy can help us lead more present, mindful and resilient lives today.

In this incredible chat, Hugh, Josh and Ryan (our Ryan), each present Ryan Holiday with something they have been struggling with in their own lives. Through the lens of Stoic philosophers Marcus Aurelius, Seneca and Epictetus, Ryan Holiday talks to how stoicism can really help us to live into our values, prioritise presence, and deal with existential dread.

We discuss with Ryan the importance of understanding what will actually make you happy (spoiler: it’s not a billion dollars), and how to reframe death as a reminder that we must appreciate every moment (or not waste anymore with shame and guilt).

This episode, and its practical take-aways (which you can find listed in our newsletter), has been a long time coming.

Ryan, what an absolute honour.

0:00 – What is Stoicism?
13:26 – For the Josh’s of the world
17:07 – Time and Energy of Worrying
27:01 – The illusion of freedom
33:50 – Am I a bad friend?
38:58 – Practicing what you preach ft. presence
45:42 – If today was your last day
50:22 – 5 quotes for a Stoic life

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🫖 Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Pat Cummins - Love, Loss & Life - https://bit.ly/4dHKR2F
• Maria Ruberto - Sleep Your Way To Your Top - https://bit.ly/4dHKPYB

📖 Things to read

• Letter’s from a Stoic by Seneca - https://bit.ly/49WVNqB
• ALL of Ryan’s books - https://bit.ly/43uHsxZ

✍️Journals to journal

• The Daily Stoic - https://bit.ly/49qJ6Em
• My Imperfect Life - https://bit.ly/4tZ8qJ6

🎟️ Things to get tickets to

• Daily Stoic Live with Ryan Holiday - https://bit.ly/4uK72Lt

💻Things to check out

• Ryan’s website - https://bit.ly/4v3Vh24
• The Resilience Project - https://bit.ly/3Q4LOc4

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In the age of AI, do you feel that your future is more uncertain?

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In today’s Academy of Imperfection, we’re joined by Dr Joel Pearson; a neurofuturist, whose work centres around predicting how AI will impact every aspect of our lives from now on.

While many of us (us included) first and foremost imagine the impacts of AI in a tech-revolution-y, robot butler-y, terminator-adjacent way, this episode goes deeper.

Joel discusses how young people are forming attachments with AI companions and how we might see, perhaps the first generation in known history with a lower IQ than the one beforehand.

We talk about the tangible and interconnected mental health impacts that this major societal disruption will have, and Hugh and Josh ask how in the world can we broach this topic with our kids?

BUT, this episode isn’t all doom and gloom. Joel is a tech-optimist, after all.

We talk to Joel about how we can foster human connection, and continue to develop our critical thinking skills, whilst not turning away from AI altogether.

Joel, this has been invaluable.

If you want to watch this full video on YouTube, follow this link - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GPGa6heppjE 

0:00 – The episode we’ve been putting off
10:10 – The only certainty is disruption
14:15 – Impact of AI on the brain
21:23 – Rewards and moral responsibility
27:11 – A scary mental health spiral
30:31 – Think of the children
35:10 – You may now kiss the AI
45:06 – Purposeful Utopia
58:42 – Seeing is no longer believing
1:02:21 – The Roadmap to AI
1:11:35 – Finding Motivation in Limbo
1:18:15 – Let’s Stack Some Habits

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - (1:22:53) - https://bit.ly/4dW7Bfa
• Dr Emily - The Certainty of Uncertainty - (1:22:53) - https://bit.ly/3RTAjVl
• James Clear - Down The Habit Hole - (1:22:00) - https://bit.ly/4wIg5xV

📖 Things to read

• The Intuition Toolkit by Dr Joel Pearson - (3:18) - https://bit.ly/4v5NnFM
• Matt Shumer App Development Industry Blog - (27:11) - https://bit.ly/4uo65rY

💻Things to check out

• Joel’s website - https://bit.ly/4upBURa
• Tristan Harris’ Center for Human Technology - (1:25:40) - https://bit.ly/4wGrFJZ
• Figure Three Robotics - (42:51) - https://bit.ly/42J2Uiz
• Joel's work at the University of NSW as Deputy Director of Human Readiness UNSW AI Institute - https://bit.ly/4nPA89G 

📺 Things to watch

• House of Dynamite - (26:21) - https://bit.ly/4uw5PYg

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What is your envy telling you?

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Dr Emily Musgrove, our resident psychologist, is back in the studio to talk about the green-eyed monster, and more importantly, how we can work with it to incorporate more gratitude, appreciation and awareness into our lives (hallelujah).

Founded in the evolutionary practice of assessing our status in comparison with others, envy comes from the feeling of lacking something that someone else has.

In what may have been an adaptive function for a cave person to secure their basic needs, our brains are not equipped for the intense comparison fed to us via social media.

Dr Emily chats to Hugh, Ryan and Josh about the layered experience of envy, and how often, it stems from feeling not-enough or unworthy.

Of course, Dr Emily brings the strategies. We explore how to work with envy in our own lives, and how to acknowledge it in the lives of our friends and family to protect important relationships.

Dr Em, we’ll see you for the sequel on jealousy soon.

To watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/B7acUnoekSc

0:00 – Envy vs Jealousy 9:08 – Keeping up with the Jones’ 8:16 – A message around ‘enoughness’ 25:12 – The energy of being a hater 36:50 – A deep longing for a difference experience 42:13 – On the flip side 52:45 - Acknowledge the hard 59:18 – The social emotion 1:07:18 – Working with envy

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned in this episode

• Dave Hughes - Me, Myself & Ego - https://bit.ly/4ua3mSP
• Hamish Blake - Let’s Talk About Self-Doubt - https://bit.ly/4fl7omR
• Dr Emily - Acceptance, That’s Radical - https://bit.ly/4ugEHwe

💻Things to check out

• Leon Festinger’s Social Comparison Theory - https://bit.ly/4npfIE5

📺Things to watch

• ‘Onesies’ Bluey episode - https://bit.ly/4eGTqLS

📖Things to read

• The Way We Are, by Hugh Mackay - https://bit.ly/4wsJuff
• Status Anxiety, by Alain de Botton - https://bit.ly/4tvbGeL

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Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’?

For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.

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Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.

We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.

And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.

Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.

If you want to watch this full episode on YouTube, follow this link - https://youtu.be/okQnOwV2MJE 

0:00 – An Imperfect Meet-Cute
6:44 – The night of the assault
19:28 – Identity, privilege, and idealism
33:09 – Family Dynamics
41:16 - World Class Difficult Conversation
47:39 – The Waiting Game
59:15 – Reuben’s Letter
1:04:24 – A divine test
1:10:30 – Just help
1:18:46 – How can you be a better friend?

🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode

• Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - https://bit.ly/49voquJ

🎧Things to listen to

• SportsGrad Podcast - https://bit.ly/42V75HT

💻Things to check out

• SportsGrad - https://bit.ly/49p2hOD

🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start

• 1800 RESPECT
• Centre Against Sexual Assault - 03 5441 0430 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm) OR 1800 806 292 (Sexual Assault Crisis Line)

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