Today’s guest is one of the most funny, relatable and completely open people we’ve been lucky enough to chat with. Tanya Hennessy is a comedian, radio announcer, TV presenter, multi-bestselling author and content creator. 

We kick this chat off by speaking about something Tanya recently wrote about called the ‘catch up trap’. It’s where we all seem to be just ‘catching up’ with our friends and recapping our lives rather than actually creating new memories together. It can be reflective of the stage of life that we’re in, but it can also make you question whether it’s a good use of our time to just be relaying what we’ve been up to since the last time we spoke. When was the last time you created ‘new’ memories with your friend? Tanya is now all about creating these new memories and seeking deep joy from her friendships. 

Tanya has been very open with her long ‘journey’ with challenging fertility. The main difference is that Tanya speaks about it in real time, not hindsight. Tanya is currently going through the process of her 7th round of IVF and has tried quite literally everything that you could imagine.

Something we are often asked during Ask Uncut is how to speak about kids, pregnancy or trying to conceive with a friend that you know has been struggling with their own fertility. Unfortunately there is no one size fits all answer of how to do it right. But, we ask Tanya how she navigates her friendships with her loved ones that have kids, how she responds to social media announcements and things like baby showers etc.
Tanya also speaks about the things that we need to address on a systemic level like pregnancy loss care and removing the deafening silence of fertility struggle stigma.

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Over the past 4 months we have been working on this very special project; a brand new 10 part mini series called Cloud, hosted by Life Uncut’s Executive Producer Keeshia Pettit. 

Cloud is a podcast series created to discuss ADHD and late age diagnosis; a conversation that was sparked after Keeshia’s own diagnosis. The name Cloud is inspired by the experiences of many late-diagnosed women who describe finally feeling like a “cloud was lifted” after learning more about the different ways that their brains work and how they ‘fit’ into society.

With all of the content about ADHD on social media explaining what the condition is, I’ve been on quite a journey figuring out the difference between what I thought were personality flaws and what is actually symptomatic of this condition. I realised that there was a bit of a gap of what to do next. What was I meant to do with all of this information? Cloud was created to fill that gap. It explores the intersection of ADHD with identity, relationships, career, and well-being so that we can live more fulfilling and more present lives.

Each episode will offer insight into a different aspect of ADHD from guests like Mark Manson, the author of ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, psychiatrist Dr Kieran Kennedy, focus and attention expert Johann Hari and relationship experts Sabrina Zohar and Logan Ury.

Today’s conversation is about emotional dysregulation, shame, masking, impulsivity, self criticism and success. 

• We chat:
  • Why I was so hesitant to speak publicly about ADHD
  • The ‘oversaturation’ of ADHD content on social media 
  • How ADHD presents differently in girls and women
  • Wondering if I'd have known earlier, would life have been easier?
  • How I've changed since diagnosis
  • How Britt & Laura feel I've changed
  • Rejection sensitive dysphoria, emotional dysregulation, shame, impulsivity and time blindness.
  • Am I a chameleon or am I masking?

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Today's episode is with our favourite cast away. Matt is back from the jungle and he's dishing the tea on the behind the scenes of what happened in camp. 
To summarise, it's not been sunshine and rainbows and special reunion times between our mum and dad... Britt is actually the therapist of today's episode.
We speak about:

• The real reason Matt didn't quit
• Matt's bone to pick with Britt
• Who Matt expected to win
• The part that Laura hated of Matt on screen
• Laura's travel with the kids and filming the finale
• How Lola has responded to Matt being away
• What Matt and Laura have been bickering about since 
• Whether Matt *self pleasured in the jungle (this one will shock you)

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer all of your deep, dark and burning questions!
We had to record this episode a few days early because we didn’t know if Laura would be on a plane to South Africa to be reunited with Matt after I’m a Celebrity, Get Me Out Of Here!
By this time, you’ll well and truly know the outcome of whether he made it to the final and whether Laura survived the 30 hours of flying with two kids!

Vibes for the week:
Britt - Netflix Apple Cider Vinegar 
Keeshia - Mid Amanda Keller and Anita McGregor Know How Lucky They Are 
Laura - Case-Mate Stick It!

Then we jump into your questions!
CAN I DATE MY LATE HUSBAND’S FRIEND?
My husband passed aways in an accident nearly 3 years ago, he was 29 and we had been together since we were 16. After years of heartache (which will live with me forever) I’m finally feeling open to the idea of dating again. I’ve recently reconnected with an old friend who was a friend of my husbands too. He has the most grounded, secure, kind energy and I have found myself having feelings for him. I have no idea where he stands on this situation and whether or not he just sees me as a friend. I want to ask him/ tell him how I’m feeling but I don’t want to get it wrong and potentially uplift our friendship. Help

THEY NAMED US GODPARENTS WITHOUT ASKING US FIRST
A couple of weeks ago, my husband and I attended my cousin's baby's dedication at church. All was going well until they announced in front of all our friends and family that my husband and I were the Godparents to their child....We were shocked. There was no previous conversation surrounding this topic, and my husband and I agreed that if they asked us, we would politely decline as it's a serious role to take on as we already have 3 kids of our own (and wanted to try for another). We stood there awkwardly smiling and didn't know how to react. We were never "asked" to be their child's Godparents and were announced with the title in front of everyone with no prior discussion. Is it rude of me to have a conversation with them and explain that we thought it was unfair of them to announce that in front of our family when we were never even asked if we would take on the role, or should I say nothing and pretend like we aren't bothered by it?

SHOULD I HAVE MY PARTNERS PHONE PASSCODE?
I have a lot of trust issues… I’ve had a rough time with relationships and trust. I always go through my husband's phone (once a day I would say) not necessarily finding anything just “making sure”. About a month ago I asked him to change his password so I couldn’t go through his phone anymore. What do you ladies think about this; not having your partner's phone password? Do you think it will help my trust as I have to keep reminding myself he is a good guy and my past is still haunting me or do you think it’s unhealthy? I did counselling for a long time after my previous relationships but now it’s too expensive with two children.

COULD MY PARTNER BE GETTING A FREE RIDE?
I have been with my partner for 5 years and we are expecting our first child. I already owned a house before meeting him and have since sold it so we can buy something for our growing family. The issue is, I am the only one contributing to the deposit and it is a large sum of money from the sale. He is older and has no assets of his own. How do I navigate this so I don’t resent him for ‘getting a free ride’ to a house which I’ve worked so hard to have for myself? I can’t help but resent him for not getting his shit together earlier. For context, we had similar upbringings and occupations so there isn’t much of a salary difference between us.

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP.

Every week we live across the country at 3pm on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
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What's on the show

• Britt's wardrobe malfunction at the Bridget Jones premiere (or did she?)
• Do twins ACTUALLY use being twins to get out of trouble?
• Britt's Dancing With The Stars partner Craig Monley 
• Chrissy Tiegen is in hot water (literally) with her bathing habits (again)
• Britt chats about media rewriting the 'cougar' narrative
• Tara Pavlovic on normalising couples counselling
• The Pick Up  has a Ghost Baby haunting the studio?
• Your worst date stories

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When it comes to topics like pleasure and  sex, we all have different biases and shame that we carry and  it’s difficult to distance ourselves from the conditioning and societal values that we’ve grown up with. But this episode is definitely going to make you evaluate your thoughts on sex, shame and empowerment. 

Joining the podcast today is sexologist and academic Dr Hilary Caldwell. Hilary was a sex worker in secret for 20 years and kept her double life from her friends and family. She didn’t have any of the stereotypes that seem to surround women for their reasons of getting into the sex industry and she certainly didn’t need to be saved from it.
Hilary has used her experiences in the industry alongside her research to unpack why we feel so much internal shame when it comes to sex. 

Dr Hilary Caldwell is an academic with a Masters in Health Science and Applied Science. Her doctorate, ‘Women Who Buy Sex in Australia’ was the first study in the world to explore women buying sexual services and was informed by her professional career in the field of sexology. 

We chat:

• Hilary’s reasons for entering the sex work industry and whether they’re the same as everyone who enters the industry
• Hilary’s experiences entering the industry that oppose preconceived ideas and the things she regrets
• Why Hilary continued nursing at the same time
• Why she kept her other work a secret from friends and family
• What made Hilary want to enter academia and infiltrate the system
• The different experiences that women have around sex in comparison to men
• Emotions like jealousy and how poly relationships navigate jealousy
• Some of the things that sex workers collectively keep secret
• Why sex workers are fighting for decriminalisation rather than legalisation of their industry

You can find more from Hilary at her website

And instagram 

You can find Hilary’s book “Slutdom: Reclaiming shame-free sexuality”  

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First up, please vote to save Matt in the jungle here!
Laura is slightly concerned about Lola's 'spontaneity' if they end up being sent to South Africa to be there for the final of I'm a celeb. She's developed a new way to release her rage 🌙.

Britt has asked one of us to be a very important person involved in her wedding, but it's not Laura... Laura knows exactly why she wasn't asked. If you had the option of seeing your friend's wedding dress before their wedding day without their permission, would you take a sneak peak? Be honest!

It's valentine's day this week. We're here to celebrate all of the Valentines, the galentines, the palentines and the ... dogentines. Would you rather a 'traditional' valentines gift like flowers, chocolates etc, or something more 'practical'?

Do you think it's okay to vent to your friends about your partner? We unpack what Jake said to Ashleigh on MAFS about 'breaking the trust' after she went to speak with one of the other contestants about some of the horrible things he said about other women during the photo ranking challenge. We speak about what makes it okay to vent and what makes it a bit of a betrayal to your partner.

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Welcome back to ask uncut where we unpack your deepest, darkest dilemmas.
Did you have a good 'theme' for your hens? We might all be going as the different versions of Britt. There are a few to choose from!

We have spoken about Laura's revelation about how chickens reproduce for the past few weeks but today we list the ridiculous things that you didn't learn until far too late. 

Vibes and unsubscribes for the week:
Britt - unsubscribing from fake real estate photos
Keeshia - Prof G Markets Podcast
Laura - The brand - Kinga Csilla

Then we get into your questions!

DO I GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE BECAUSE SHE IS?
One of my closest friends has a toxic relationship with her toddler's father. He abandoned her around the time of the birth, and for the first year of the child's life. He has a drinking problem, has cheated, has said some really vile things and even got her pregnant again while having another girlfriend on the side. As you can imagine, I've been there for all of this, and stepped in during his absence a lot. I obvs hate his guts. After being away from him for some time and getting her life back together, he has come crawling back, and now they are back on and LIVING together. I physically cannot bring myself to support this, and I feel awful because I have distanced myself entirely for months. Am I being selfish, and should I give him another chance because she is? I haven't told her how I feel but my silence and absence I think would speak volumes - and hers does too. How to handle this?

DO I TELL MY HUSBAND MY PAST DATING LIFE INCLUDED WOMEN?
My husband and I are happily married with kids. We’ve been together for about 8 years. He’s a pretty open guy generally speaking but we are from a conservative city so I do sometimes hear comments from him and his family to suggest otherwise. I listened to your episode yesterday about talking about your past relationships. My husband has never wanted to hear about my past relationships, nor share much about him. So here’s the thing… My past few years of relationships before we got together were with women (one of which I lived with). I have no issue with my sexuality but the years of not sharing these details with him have made this into a bigger deal in my head and I feel like if he found out now, it would be a bit of a shock to him. So my question is, should I tell my husband I like pussy or leave it?

COUSIN’S HUSBAND SAYS HE HAS FEELINGS FOR ME
My cousin “Shelly” and her husband “Dean” have been together for 14 years and have 3 kids. Recently, they’ve joked about separation and divorce. My husband and I also have kids and often catch up with them. Over the past few weeks, Dean started messaging me, saying Shelly didn’t want him to talk to me but he needed to tell me something in person. I ignored him at first, thinking it was strange, but he kept insisting. I assumed he’d found out something about my husband as our relationship has also been very rocky. Today, when we caught up, Dean told me he and Shelly were essentially separated but staying together for the kids. He said he’d been unhappy for years but felt happy and comfortable around me, repeatedly complimenting me and saying he likes being around me. It was clear he has feelings for me, so I tried to shut it down, reminding him that he and Shelly have been through a lot and we are family. Should I tell Shelly what happened? I don’t want her to think I’m betraying her or have ill intentions. I feel blindsided and thrown into their drama. Our family can be intense, and if this gets out, it’ll likely cause a huge mess. I don’t want to hurt my cousin.

MY FRIEND’S BOYFRIEND FOLLOWS PROBLEMATIC ACCOUNTS
My really good friend has this boyfriend who I have been a bit wary about because of some of his political views. He follows some far right, almost conspiracy level accounts that are hectically pro trump, and other dangerous men like Ben Shapiro etc. He also follows a LOT of onlyfans girl’s accounts. Here's where it also gets a little complex- my friend is Asian and has joked about perhaps her (white) boyfriend being with her only because she is Asian and wondering if he has "yellow fever" (a derogatory term for men who like to date Asian women because of the kink of submissive behaviour). All of the women were Asian creators on his follow list. My friend doesn't have instagram so she won’t check to see who he is following. Should I tell her about his instagram account or just stay out of it?

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It's our weekly round up! The best of the week from our National radio show THE PICKUP. 

Every week we are live across the country on the KIIS Network. You can listen live on iHeart radio, or catch up here each week!
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What's on the show

• Can you judge someone by the bread of their dog
• Cyber farting a criminal case
• MAFS expert John Aiken
• Ben exposed himself on TV
• Angie Kent and her IVF journey

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We’ve said it a hundred times; communication is everything. But we aren’t really ever taught how to actually communicate. What makes someone a good communicator? And why is it so important? People aren’t just born good communicators and it’s something that we can all improve our skills on. 

Joining the podcast today is Pulitzer prize winning reporter and author Charles Duhigg. Charles’ most recent book titled ‘supercommunicators’ investigated the simple and tested methods for communicating and connecting with anyone. Charles went deep on what exactly makes someone THE person that everyone wants to have conversations with; whether it be in your romantic relationship, at work, with friends and even with strangers. 

We speak about:

• How having ‘different types’ conversations with partners is likely why you feel misunderstood or not listened to
• Becoming ‘neurally entrained’ and using the ‘matching principle’ to be a good communicator
• How to ask the right questions
• The communication of conflict and how to avoid it - ‘when you’re feeling furious, get curious.’
• Can you ‘learn’ to use communication in a manipulative way
• EQ, unlike EQ is learned, not born with
• The difference between true vulnerability and fake vulnerability

You can find more from Charles at his website 

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His book “supercommunicators - How to unlock the secret language of connection’ is available in hardcopy and audiobook on audible and spotify. 

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Video Produced by Vanessa Beckford

Recorded on Cammeraygal Land

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Lola turned 4 and Matt would apparently prefer a mango than... intimate time with Laura. Mangoes are particularly juicy at this time of the year though.
Britt has been very busy for the last few weeks working on a secret project that she can finally reveal! We speak about how Ben felt when he first found out, why the show has such a spicy reputation overseas and how she's been going with her partner!

Are celebrities 'renting' wombs?
Surrogacy is nothing new to the celebrity world but the response to Lily Collin's baby arrival was quite unusual. Comments like: "Surrogacy becoming a trend between celebrities is one of the finest expressions of capitalism," and "You are so rich that you think you can use a woman as an incubator and you can purchase a baby."

We unpack whether we feel differently about surrogacy if a surrogate is commissioned for non medical reasons. In a world where women are told they can 'have it all and be it all,' do we have a problem when a woman outsources her pregnancy?

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