Alive and Free

Bob Gardner

Time to rip the cover off what really works to ditch addiction, depression, anger, anxiety, and all other kinds of human suffering. No, not sobriety. We're talking the "F" word here – Freedom. We'll share straight from the trenches what we've learned from leaving our own addictions behind and coaching hundreds of others to do the same. And since it's such a heavy topic, we might as well have a good time while we're at it.

  • 37 minutes 51 seconds
    You Don't Have to Have Issues

    When something happens, there doesn’t always have to be an issue with it. You can let go of the response and control it. We’ll talk about it more today. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • I was leading myself to my own grave because of some teachings that I had likely misinterpreted. (12:15)
    • A lot of people would rather be right and miserable and perpetuate the misery, than dissipate the reactions. (19:35)
    • I want to teach people the skills of having a choice in how they feel. (20:00)
    • I thought I was going to break everything in what I knew, or sensed, was the right way forward. (31:00)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    1 August 2024, 4:00 am
  • 39 minutes 52 seconds
    I Am... Except When I'm Not

    We have often had people who have a single belief of who and what they are. It’s not that they’re wrong for that, it that they had never tried to challenge it before. People who were “superior” to them had given diagnosis and those were taken to heart. Today we’ll talk about it more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • A lot of people we encounter had their mom, their teacher, their mentor tell them something and that’s never been challenged. (13:10)
    • Internally, I don’t want to put the keys in the lock that are almost a fit, but to a perfect fit. I’d rather make them on the inside. (19:20)
    • Medical doctors aren’t always right and I think they would appreciate if we said; I don’t think that’s accurate and here’s why. And together you could figure out a solution. (30:30)
    • Trauma is not a thing and if me saying that is upsetting, then maybe its an invitation to set down all that. (39:15)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    25 July 2024, 4:00 am
  • 1 hour 17 minutes
    Divine in the Details

    Today, we’re going to take a pretty deep dive into some religious things. Growing up in the mormon church, I had some things indoctrinated in me that were causing me disease. We’ll talk about it more in todays episode. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • Your body is what qualifies you to be alive and when you understand what a magnificent gift it is, t can lead you out of all the things that you’re struggling with. (29:45)
    • I wanted to know what did all these, terms really mean in the context that they were given. (44:25)
    • I started getting these waves of just feeling good to be in my body and this vibrant life inside my limbs. (48:10)
    • I want people to be able to partake of the joy and happiness and well being that their bodies can create. (54:50)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    27 June 2024, 4:00 am
  • 35 minutes 35 seconds
    Win the War Within

    The main goal is to win the war within you. Not just to beat the symptoms, but the full battle that is causing tensions and stresses in your body. Today, we’re going to talk about it more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • The body has some way of remembering how it’s reacted in a situation before. (10:10)
    • You are the hardest person you will ever coach. Because you have the same blind spots as the person that you’re coaching. (17:00)
    • We are striving for permanence in an impermanent universe. (20:30)
    • It’s not psychology, but physiology with a psychological impact. (32:45)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    20 June 2024, 4:00 am
  • 28 minutes 27 seconds
    Description vs Prescription

    Description; “I feel happy”. Prescription; “I’m doing all of these things so I should be feeling happiness”. Don’t let the prescriptions and “shoulds” in life, run over the descriptions, and the present moment. Today, we’ll talk about this more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • In a list, you’ll be given prescriptions, not what will become good, natural byproducts of your living experience. (14:30)
    • “Where am I at, where am I headed, and what do I need to shift in order to move in that direction?” (17:00)
    • Take a step back and think, what if everything will just naturally happen, if I just focus on what’s important right now? (17:50)
    • Are you actually satisfied with the direction you’re moving, are you satisfied with the pace that you’re moving at? (20:25)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    13 June 2024, 4:00 am
  • 30 minutes 42 seconds
    F1 Love

    After the 2024 Miami GP, Lando Norris gains his first win and declares his love to everybody. Now, after a grueling two hour race, he probably felt relieved and wasn’t actually feeling “love”. Today, we’re going to talk about this more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • In that moment, was he really feeling love? (10:15)
    • Feelings of love and kindness are a direct result of the state that the body is in, in any given moment. (14:20)
    • Like I’ve been saying for a long time, your thoughts and emotions are a byproduct of the body. (20:00)
    • There is a big difference between your senses, and what you make of your senses. (28:20)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    6 June 2024, 4:00 am
  • 38 minutes 22 seconds
    To the Wives... "It's not you, it's me."

    This one’s for the women. A man’s “addiction” to pornography doesn’t mean that there is something wrong with you or that you need to change. It is just the way that his body has found to cope with his discomfort. We’re going to talk about this more today. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • Because the “addiction” is no longer sexual, we look at; what are they coping with? (15:50)
    • Depression, shame, and guilt are all mechanisms that are engaged in order to solve an ongoing problem. (17:25)
    • It’s a chasing of a sensation all because, the person is unconscious of the way that they have built discomfort into their lifestyle. (25:35)
    • Women, there is nothing wrong with you. And if the guy is wanting to change, that is evidence that he cares and that you are enough. (36:20)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    30 May 2024, 4:00 am
  • 31 minutes 59 seconds
    Get Good Help

    If you’re going to get help with something, at least get good help. Ruminating on the problem won’t solve it, so find someone or something that looks at the source, not the symptom. We’ll talk about this more today. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • Do you really want validation on your trauma? (5:20)
    • If you don’t want things to continue down their current path, validation will not get you to another place. (7:20)
    • When bad help becomes the main source, it causes rumination on the symptoms, and not on the causes. (16:50)
    • If you’re going to get help, then get good help. (:)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    23 May 2024, 4:00 am
  • 44 minutes 52 seconds
    Bad Therapy by Abigail Shrier

    Therapy is not really as useful as it seems. In reality, therapy gets you to just ruminate on thoughts and situations that are no longer useful to you. Instead of spending time pouting about it, learn from it and move on. Today, we’re going to talk about that more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • When going to some form of entertainment, the emotional controls are almost willfully set aside for the enjoyment of another story. (6:05)
    • No doubt, teenagers all over the planet have these hormonal things that show up, and have situations that they have emotions about. But it’s being blown out of proportion to where everybody is being taught, everybody will have emotions that are too big for them and these tools are needed. Instead of; there might be an emotion from time to time, no big deal. (10:40)
    • There becomes such a focus on the problem that it becomes overwhelming and it can seem like there’s no hope. (27:30)
    • Don’t feel bad if the tools that have been given to you aren’t as effective as some other ones out there could be. (43:50)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    17 May 2024, 4:00 am
  • 21 minutes 50 seconds
    Money and Monsters

    Money isn’t the source of happiness and problems in life. It might just be some warning lights on your dashboard of life. Today, we’ll talk about this more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • You’re thinking of this creeping up debt as a problem, when all that’s happened in the past is that a new solution to the problem has been found. (3:10)
    • The money in your wallet might be a monster. (8:30)
    • Life is the greatest give that you can get. (20:50)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    9 May 2024, 4:00 am
  • 34 minutes 48 seconds
    Evolutionary Biology, Science, and Myth

    Biology, evolution, science, and religions are all great and can be useful tools in life. But they shouldn’t interfere with your experience. We live in the present, the now. Not 100, not 500, not 5000 years ago. Today we’re going to talk about this more. Have a listen.

    Highlights:

    • There isn’t a bodiless it out there, like god, that is saying; “this is the case and you must accept it”. But because it’s in a book, people accept it. (9:05)
    • Just because you can connect all the dot’s on the paper, doesn’t mean that you actually understand the paper. (17:20)
    • It’s not that science is bad. But in the end, it’s not needed to live a powerful life.
    • The effort to try and understand the distant past, has prevented people from making use of the present, in order to have a powerful experience in your life. (33:35)

    Need help unlocking mental, emotional, and physical freedom in your life? Grab my new book, Built for Freedom: Adventures Through Stress, Anxiety, Depression, Addiction, Trauma, Pain, and Our Body’s Innate Ability to Leave Them All Behind on Amazon (or Audible) here: https://www.amazon.com/Built-Freedom-Adventures-Depression-Addiction/dp/B0BS79GMYN  

    Or head over to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/  and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

    2 May 2024, 4:00 am
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