• 28 minutes 1 second
    261. what if part of you doesn’t want to get better? (feat. dr. blaise aguirre)

    why are some people afraid to ask for help, even when their mental health is getting WORSE?! today’s guest is dr. blaise aguirre—an assistant professor in psychiatry at harvard medical school in the department of psychiatry. he is a child and adolescent psychiatrist and the founding medical director of the 3east dialectical behavior therapy continuum of care at harvard affiliated mclean hospital. 


    in this episode, i’m reuniting with dr. aguirre to discuss how my treatment at 3east saved my life– and why this program worked for me when nothing else did. dr. aguirre also draws his clinical expertise to unpack all things teen mental health, breaking down topics including self-hatred, agency, family dynamics, & more! 

    whether you’re struggling with your mental health or love someone who is, this episode is your guide to what makes treatment actually work

    we talk about:

    03:27 what makes teenagers more likely to accept help for their depression

    08:57 finding agency as a teen in inpatient treatment 

    12:52 why mental health challenges aren’t an intelligence issue

    17:13 the role of self-hatred in depression 

    20:38 how depression can impact our relationships 

    23:40 what really motivates us to change our worst habits 

    mentioned:

    dr. aguirre’s previous episode

    dr. aguirre’s instagram

    dr. aguirre’s books

    mclean 3east


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    22 August 2026, 5:15 pm
  • 31 minutes 14 seconds
    260. you don’t have to be in crisis to need help (feat. hailey hardcastle)

    if you want to learn more about how our generation can create lasting change in mental health, this episode is for you!

    today’s guest is hailey hardcastle—a gen z mental health advocate who helped pass landmark legislation in oregon allowing students to take mental health days off from school. she was honored by teen vogue as one of the "21 under 21: young women changing the world," and her ted talk on student mental health has been viewed more than 4 million times.

    fun fact: this episode was recorded live at the active minds 2026 mental health conference—the nation’s leading mental health conference for young adults!

    during this conversation, we discuss our personal mental health journeys, how hailey’s advocacy helped turn an idea into a state law, the most effective ways to advocate for gen z mental health, and so much more– including answering audience questions! 

    we talk about:

    1:52 why hailey became a mental health advocate at a young age

    4:50 how she helped passed a bill allowing student mental health days

    7:34 effective ways to open up to your parents about your mental health

    12:44 what stops people from asking for help with their mental health

    19:04 maintaining our mental health as adults vs. as teens

    21:50 the future of mental health policy + advocacy

    23:54 advice for people wanting to become mental health advocates

    25:22 finding local mental health advocacy opportunities

    27:10 what motivates us to speak up about mental health

    29:06 tips on pushing forward mental health legislation

    mentioned:

    hailey hardcastle

    hailey’s ted talk

    active minds

    mental health conference

    house bill 2191 (student mental health days) 

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    7 August 2026, 4:10 pm
  • 36 minutes 29 seconds
    259. why you feel LOST after graduation (what actually helps!)

    i’ve recently made a big career change and learned a LOT about my mental health along the way… so let’s talk about it! 

    in this solo episode, i’m explaining what sparked this transition in my life & how i’m planning on optimizing this period of change to improve my routines, habits, and overall mental health. 

    so, if you’re also going through a major life shift in your 20s– or are wanting to figure out whether you should take the plunge into a new chapter of life– here’s how to do so while optimizing your mental health!

    i talk about:

    1:52 the career shift i’m making & why!

    12:56 my advice for college students & post-grads facing career uncertainty

    14:47 why new beginnings are the perfect time to work on your mental health

    15:57 mental health areas i’m prioritizing in this new season of life

    22:42 staying motivated as a post-grad (vs. as a college student)

    26:04 a mindset shift for improving your mental health habits

    29:25 defining what makes my life worth living

    31:22 journal prompts for goal-setting, career planning, & more! 

    mentioned:

    succeeding as a psych major (pt. 1)

    succeeding as a psych major (pt. 2)

    dr. angela duckworth’s episode

    mental health book club episode

    how to change

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    💌 ask me a question or leave feedback on the podcast!

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    23 July 2026, 1:00 pm
  • 22 minutes 13 seconds
    258. why you never feel good enough (even when you're doing everything right) dr. marisa g franco

    how can someone have high self-esteem but low self-worth??! today’s guest is dr. marisa g. franco— a psychologist, author, professor, and friendship expert. she writes about how to build relationships with yourself and others for psychology today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like the new york times, the telegraph, and vice.

    in this episode, we continue last week’s conversation on self-worth and relationships. this time, we’re focused on the internal factors behind self-worth, such as your emotions, identity, and more!


    we talk about:
    2:11 why it can be easier to validate someone else's feelings instead of our own
    3:28 the two different types of self-esteem (& which one leads to better relationships)
    5:04 how to process your emotions to improve your self-worth
    7:10 why gaining self-worth can change your life for the better
    8:26 ways we reinforce our insecurities without even realizing
    12:58 pushing back against our own (& other people's!) insecurities
    16:08 misconceptions about self-worth
    17:06 if gen z struggles with self-worth more than other generations


    mentioned:
    dr. franco’s previous episode
    dr. franco’s instagram
    dr. franco’s website
    pre-order worth

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    16 July 2026, 6:02 pm
  • 26 minutes 52 seconds
    257. why you can be loved and still feel unlovable (feat. dr. marisa franco)

    why do some people struggle to accept love?? today’s guest is dr. marisa g. franco— a psychologist, author, professor, and friendship expert. she writes about how to build relationships with yourself and others for psychology today and has been a featured connection expert for major publications like the new york times, the telegraph, and vice.

    in this episode, we talk about how our self-worth impacts our ability to love ourselves– and receive love from others. 

    we talk about:

    01:38 how self-worth and relationships are tied together

    05:16 how you can be loved but not feel loved

    06:16 how memories become the database of your self-worth

    08:50 external vs. internal validation

    10:10 how to rewrite the memories that shaped you

    14:20 supporting someone who can't accept your love

    15:38 low self-worth and feeling misunderstood

    18:46 how i found 1% of hope in recovery

    20:50 what we get wrong about attachment styles

    26:02 the one thing to take away from this episode

    mentioned:

    dr. franco’s previous episode

    dr. franco’s instagram

    dr. franco’s website

    pre-order worth

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    4 July 2026, 3:41 pm
  • 20 minutes 48 seconds
    256. 10 years of therapy in 20 minutes (what i wish i learned sooner!)

    wanna know what over a decade of therapy, a psychology degree, and my own podcast have taught me about mental health?! in this solo episode, i’m breaking down the key takeaways that i’ve learned throughout my mental health journey.

    in honor of it being mental health awareness month, i’m condensing everything i’ve learned from receiving intensive mental health care and years of dbt therapy as a suicidally depressed teenager– combined with my psychology education at upenn and my experience creating this very podcast– to make your 12-step guide to maintaining your mental health.

    by the end of this episode, you’ll know all the mental health tips + tricks i wish i’d known when i was struggling!

    i talk about:

    • why avoidance is impacting your mental health 

    • how to start getting better at recognizing your emotions

    • my mantra for dealing with conflict more effectively

    • relationship changes + how to navigate them 

    • the power of secondary emotions 

    • effective ways to reach your goals + stabilize your mental health

    • a mental health quote that changed my life

    • an underrated aspect of managing your mental health 

    • whether we can use our mental health to predict our futures

    • the mindset that was stopping me from building a life worth living

    • how distraction can actually save lives

    • what i learned in therapy that changed my self-esteem forever

    mentioned: 

    atomic habits

    dr. blaise aguirre episode

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    4 May 2026, 10:15 pm
  • 23 minutes 31 seconds
    255. why it’s so hard to ask for help (and how to start!)

    if your mental health is getting worse, but asking for help feels like too much, this episode is for YOU. 

    in this solo episode, i explain why so many of us can be reluctant to open up about our mental health before breaking down the techniques you can try to be more vulnerable. 

    by the end of this episode, you’ll learn how to lower your anxiety around asking for help– because vulnerability is the key to recovery! 

    i talk about:

    • why i didn’t ask for help when my mental health started struggling

    • how our environment + upbringing shape our mental health 

    • the impact of depression on our self worth + anxiety

    • using exposure therapy to try actually being vulnerable 

    • a communication technique that helped me open up to my parents

    • easier ways you can practice being vulnerable on a regular basis

    • choosing the right people to share with + setting clear expectations

    mentioned:

    ep.254 (why they’re not getting help)

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    17 April 2026, 7:58 pm
  • 19 minutes 37 seconds
    254. how to help someone who doesn’t want help (without making it worse)

    how do you help someone who’s struggling with depression??

    in this solo episode, i answer a mom's question on how she can best support her son with his depression. i explain how my mental health journey taught me what the best– and worst!– ways are to be there for someone who’s depressed– and three conversation ideas you can try out.  

    whether you’re a parent, sibling, or friend, this advice can apply to anyone who wants to be a support system for their loved one.


    i talk about:

    • what to do if someone you care about is feeling hopeless

    • why encouragement can be invalidating when you’re depressed

    do’s + don’ts for supporting someone who’s depressed

    • using dbt diary cards to validate 

    • the best ways to offer advice to someone with depression 

    • how depression + anger are linked

    • three ways to make someone feel less alone


    mentioned:

    ep.209 maddy ellberger

    ep.156 diary cards

    ep.248 diary cards

    ep.215 caroline fleck

    validation by caroline fleck

    mclean 3east


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    4 April 2026, 6:04 pm
  • 24 minutes 4 seconds
    253. why therapy didn’t work… until this

    when i think about a major turning point in my mental health journey, this one conversation is truly what kickstarted my recovery. 

    in this solo episode, i break down the moment in intensive mental health treatment that changed my outlook on mental health recovery, what led me to being hospitalized for my mental health in the first place, & how i began to recover from severe depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation. 

    if you are on the fence about whether to ask for help with your mental health (or have a loved one in that exact spot), this episode details when i was in the exact same spot: i explain how i went from not believing i could get better to feeling hopeful that i could recover & build a life worth living. 


    i talk about:

    • why i needed intensive mental health treatment 

    • the question my doctor asked me that changed my life

    • how i almost got turned away from my mental health treatment 

    • dbt wise mind & how that impacted my journey

    • my biggest fears going into a residential mental health facility 

    • being vulnerable when you’re getting mental health care

    • the mindset i had going into getting residential mental health care


    mentioned:

    dr. blaise aguirre ep.

    mclean 3east


    ☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:

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    19 March 2026, 10:51 pm
  • 13 minutes 34 seconds
    252. stop overthinking—ask yourself this!

    are you a chronic emotional over-invester?! in this solo episode, i explain how a simple mental health mantra transformed my mentality around emotional boundaries and even lowered my anxiety!

    by the end of this episode, you’ll know how to stop the emotional over-involvement and start prioritizing your mental health


    i talk about:

    • the mental health mantra that’s changed my life 

    • why stress can actually be good for you?!

    • 3 questions to ask yourself if you’re emotionally over-investing

    • if you’re problem-solving or just being anxious?

    influencing vs. controlling as anxiety responses  

    • times you might be over-involving yourself emotionally

    • how to lower your anxiety + set emotional boundaries in your relationships 


    ☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:

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    2 March 2026, 7:34 pm
  • 14 minutes 33 seconds
    251. why college feels different for gen z (feat. dr. scott barry kaufman)

    why is the college experience SO different for our generation??! today’s guest is dr. scott barry kaufman— a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author who is passionate about helping all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. he is a professor of psychology at columbia university and host of the psychology podcast, which has received over 30 million downloads worldwide. 

    in this episode, we break down why gen z students are having such a unique college experience– and what that means for our mental health.


    we talk about:

    • if college students are struggling more with their mental health than ever

    • college students ten years ago versus today

    • pros + cons of ai use in college 

    • what good leadership looks like to our generation 

    • whether standardized tests really matter

    • paths outside of a traditional four-year college


    mentioned:

    dr. kaufman’s instagram

    dr. kaufman’s website

    dr. kaufman’s newest book

    the psychology podcast

    center for human potential

    ☕giveaway! want coffee on me? every month, i gift one listener a starbucks gift card to enter:

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    25 February 2026, 10:17 pm
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