What are you tolerating?

Often the things we are "putting up with" are ruling our life quietly. Sometimes if we "let go" of those glaring objects or closets full of demands we free ourselves up for more joy. 

Maybe it wasn't meant to be. I used to get so hurt by people saying things they thought were true or well meaning. Now I recognize they aren't true or helpful and I can ignore them and not let them name me or shame me.

Do you know someone who "thinks" they are positive and really they are so negative?

Our self worth and self talk shows up whether we like it or not. Some people think they are so positive when they have so much self loathing it oozes out of them. They can't accept a compliment and yet they don't recognize how it shows up.

Self love is a gift of community service.

Not the usual comparison, but the self talk comparison when we hear someone share. What a relief when I realized where those comparing thoughts were coming from.

I am not talking about listening to others but rather listening to the content coming in. It is easy to compare ourselves when we are listening half heartedly. We hear people saying you guys and lumping us in to a category or with a group we may not consciously be a part of or they share a story saying if you do thus and thus you will get these results and so because we aren't listening fully, our subconscious feels like we failed because we didn't get the same results and we feel bad and often don't even know why.

You might think your favorite podcaster is just looking for a pat on the back, but NO!

If you take the time to give your favorite podcasts a 5 star rating it helps other people find them and get the benefits of all they have to offer. It isn't an ego thing but more of an algorithm or google thing. It helps them get to the top of the page so others can find them. 

It is easy and you can make it a habit, listen, rate, and sometimes review.  

Easy!! 

ENOUGH

I almost took the bait.

I got a call from my county sheriff's office saying they had an urgent message, but not an emergency. When they called back the scam played out and I almost fell for it. 

For those of us who will likely never win an Oscar, that's OK! Watching the Oscars made me so aware of all of the people who are doing all the things to make the film "Oscar Nomination" worthy. I thought of all the amazing people I get to interview who are making a difference and doing amazing things who will never get an Oscar. Yet their work is as valuable!!! You are enough you matter!!!

Matching the type of conversation you are having makes a difference. In his book: Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of by Charles Duhigg he talks about the three different conversations we have and when we are matching our conversation it will be a win win.

Listen to understand and make sure you are getting it right. It's called looping for understanding. And what about the constant uh huh nudging?

Do you ever feel like you are stuck? You are doing all the right things and not getting results? 

Could you be holding on to some resentments? 

I discovered I was harboring some ridiculous resentments from my past and when I let go it felt so GREAT!