Welcome back Tiny Adults! This month's BBC – Benson Book Club episode is all about trauma, your brain, and why you can’t just ‘get over it--because Your Body Keeps The Score ;)

We’re covering:

🧠 How trauma rewires your brain & nervous system

🚨 Fight, flight, freeze, or dissociation—what’s your response?

⚖️ Why some people heal and others stay stuck in the past

⚠️ The part of trauma where therapy can actually make things worse

TIMELINE:

🔑 First 20 min: Brain basics—survival mode & stress responses.

🔥 Midway: How the brain detects danger & why triggers feel automatic.

⚡ 30 min mark (my favourite part!): A deep dive into trigger responses.

Trauma isn’t just in your mind—your body keeps score. So, is your brain still in survival mode, or is it finally learning to feel safe? Download this episode and listen now to start your healing journey today.

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Welcome to our Monthly Zodiac Bonus Episode, dropping the third week of every month! This January, we’re giving you the ultimate guide to getting an Aquarius man obsessed with YOU.

Get ready to uncover:

🔥 The key traits that make Aquarius tick—and how to use them to your advantage.

🔥 Foolproof ways to grab his attention and keep him coming back for more.

🔥 What he secretly loves (and what will send him running).

🔥 Warning signs he’s pulling away—and how to flip the script fast.

🔥 The art of winning him back if things fall apart.

Whether you’re crushing on an Aquarius, dating one, or trying to reignite the spark, this episode has everything you need to turn his world upside down. Don’t just play the game—master it.

Hit play now and make this January all about owning the Aquarian heart.

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Welcome to the official first Almost Adulting episode of 2025! Today, we’re breaking down what’s holding you back and how to rewire your brain to unlock unshakable confidence.

Spoiler alert: Confidence isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn, and today I’ll teach you how to master it in 5 simple steps.

In this episode, we'll unpack: 

The 4 Biggest Confidence Killers: (4:31)

• Confidence Killer #1: Caring too much 
• Confidence Killer #2: Your #1 biggest hater
• Confidence Killer #3: The biggest thief of joy
• Confidence Killer #4: Your #2 biggest hater

I share my own personal story of how I overcame social anxiety, bullying, and self-doubt—and went from invisible to unstoppable. (14:02)

The 5 call to action Steps that will change your life: (28:43)

1. Change How You Interpret Feedback
2. Use This Affirmation to Change Your Reality
3. Keep Promises to Yourself
4. Fake It ‘Til You Become It
5. Understand That Everyone’s a Loser

You'll learn how to:

• Silence the voice in your head that tears you down.
• Stop caring about other people’s opinions (for real this time).
• Flip the script on rejection and self-doubt.
• Use affirmations and power poses to build confidence fast.
• Create an environment that helps you thrive.

This episode is your ultimate confidence cheat sheet. Ready to level up? Hit play now!

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In this raw and insane episode, I break down my wild two-week nightmare during the LA fires. From flames creeping toward my house and having to evacuate in chaos to my house getting broken into.

Oh, and all those conspiracy theories? I’m spilling the truth—was it arson? Is State Farm really bailing on people? And why was LA so unprepared for this? Buckle up, because I’m sharing everything you didn’t know the LA fires and debunking/confirming the conspiracy theories everyone’s been talking about.

 Hit play to find out what really went down during the LA/Palisades fires. 

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From frozen grapes under tables to dodging dating disasters to becoming a born-again virgin and reclaiming self-worth—this year was a journey. Tune in as I spill on heartbreaks, hilarious fails, and the glow-up moments that made it all worth it. Plus, the realest advice you'll ever hear if you think they're the one (spoiler: they probably hate you) and a step-by-step guide to manifesting your dream partner on New Year’s night for 2025. Grab your wine, bestie—it’s reflection and manifestation time. ✨

We will be back on January 16, 2025 with the first episode and a whole new structure. <3

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Ever wished procrastination was an Olympic sport because you’d definitely win gold? Well, it’s time to change that mindset, one tiny step at a time! 

In today's episode, we're diving into the genius of the 2-Minute Rule from Atomic Habits by James Clear. Discover how this bite-sized approach to habit-building can turn even the most persistent procrastinator into a productivity powerhouse. 

Learn from the greats like Twyla Tharp and the biggest procrastinator you know (me!) to transform those daunting tasks into do-able habits. Whether it’s conquering clutter or finally starting that side hustle, you’ll be amazed at how just two minutes can change your life. 

Ready to become a master of small wins and big gains? Tune in and stop procrastinating today!

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Ever felt like fear was running the show? In today's episode, I start by sharing my personal journey of how I went from eating lunch alone in the school bathroom to overcoming social anxiety. This pep talk is exactly what you needed to hear at this exact moment. You're welcome.

Then, I answer calls from YOU my besties!!! We discuss:

1. Is he the one or are you settling? Learn how to identify patterns and know when to walk away.
2. Recovering after betrayal/cheating: What I learned from being cheated on, and what NOT to do in your next relationship. 
3. A decade without sex—should she stay or go? I give therapy advice on what language to use to reignite her connection or to find the closure she needs. 

Your story deserves to be heard! Call me at (310) 439-8019 to share your questions, struggles, or just spill some juicy tea! Subscribe now for new episodes every Thursday. Let’s dive in and start thriving—together

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This week, we kick off with a hilarious throwback to my 12-year-old self being an absolute menace (prepare for secondhand embarrassment!). Then, we dive into YOUR CALLS. Your heartfelt, hilarious, and jaw-dropping voicemail questions and stories. From navigating loneliness after moving to a new country to dealing with relationship resentment from a ruined vacation, and even the ultimate tale of reclaiming your power after infidelity—it’s all here. Oh, and what happens when your best friend chooses a boyfriend over you?

Grab your headphones—it’s about to get deep, raw, and empowering. Let’s unpack, laugh, and grow together. Got a story or question? Call in at (310) 439-8019 and let’s make your voice the star of the next episode!

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This week, Violetta shares the hilarity of being dumped by someone she didn’t even know she was dating and catching the gaze of a hot (but very taken) actor. She also dives into her DMs to give one of you advice on why your partner might be obsessing over your wild past—and spoiler: it’s all about their insecurities, not you.

The episode wraps with 10 Things Emotionally Intelligent People Don’t Do. From managing emotions and embracing fear as growth to building trust and navigating happiness, Violetta breaks down how emotionally aware people thrive without letting their feelings take the wheel. Tune in to learn how to master emotional resilience and live your best, most balanced life.

Got a juicy question or wild story? Dm Violetta at @violetbenson on Instagram for a chance to be featured in next week’s episode. Let’s laugh, learn, and glow up emotionally—hit play!

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Ever wonder how special you must think you are to believe you’re the victim in every story you tell? To assume that when you fall, all eyes are on you, and when you fail, everyone is laughing? Seriously, how special do you have to feel to believe that little old you is not just the center of your own world, but the focus of everyone else’s universe too?

Are you Hey Besties! 🌟 Welcome to this week's episode where we’re diving deep into a mind-blowing chapter from Mark Manson's "The Art of Not Giving a F*ck." Get ready for some serious truth bombs!

We’ll unravel how our brains are wired and how we can change that. Plus, we’ll discuss Manson’s Law of Avoidance and why you need to be super careful about what you believe, especially those tricky “repressed memories.”

And finally, the quest to find your true identity – the answer might surprise you. Buckle up, it’s gonna be a wild ride!

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They say men control the world, but I say that women control the men. 

On today's special episode, catch up with Violetta as she spill her latest intrusive thoughts and a halloween party gone sh*t—and then get ready for dating wisdom that flips the script on love and relationships. Get ready for insider secrets to the male's psych to get him obsessed.

We discuss:

• The Power of Praise: Why giving a little ego boost makes him crave your attention.
• Be His Queen—Silently in Control: How to stay in control of the relationship while letting him feel like he’s "the man."
• Secrets from "Why Men Love Bitches" and "Men Are From Mars & Women Are From Venus": Tips that turn any date into the one you want.
• Boosting His Self-Esteem: How to be his safe haven and keep him invested.
• Mastering His Heart by Stoking His Ego: Make him feel like a hero—The knight-in-shining-armor metaphor and how men are motivated by feeling needed and appreciated.

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Get ready to take notes because these tips aren't just for anyone—they're for those who are ready to take back their power and get the princess treatment they've been longing for.

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