Love and Abuse

Paul Colaianni

  • 26 minutes 12 seconds
    Did you sign up for a life of indentured servitude?

    If you feel trapped in a maze of emotional manipulation, hoping for a change that never comes, you might realize you've signed up for something you didn't expect and certainly don't want. There's a history lesson in this episode that may give you all you need to know for what the future holds for your relationship.

    1 April 2026, 12:20 am
  • 27 minutes 18 seconds
    They say they love you but they hurt you anyway

    Some people seem to care but then do awful things. When they do, it's hard not to question if they love you at all.

    24 March 2026, 11:12 pm
  • 24 minutes 42 seconds
    I feel like a bad person for being abusive back

    Sometimes emotionally abusive people heal and change. Sometimes they just... change. Either way, when the victim of their behavior gets a "break", they might discover a lot of buried emotions that are just itching to come out.

    19 March 2026, 12:38 am
  • 51 minutes 49 seconds
    The healed emotional abuser is more than just a behavioral change

    I've seen emotionally abusive people heal and become completely different people. You wouldn't even recognize them! And when you no longer recognize the person who's hurt you over and over again, that might be a very good thing.

    13 March 2026, 10:23 pm
  • 24 minutes 37 seconds
    Do we talk about divorce during the argument or the calm period

    When you've decided to leave the emotionally abusive relationship, when is the best time to bring it up? During the storm or the calm?

    3 March 2026, 11:14 pm
  • 43 minutes 26 seconds
    Do I accept that this is how theyll be forever

    Some behaviors are unacceptable. Some people are unacceptable. Just what should you accept and what should you do when you can't? Emotional abuse has a tendency to make you feel completely powerless, unable to make such decisions.

    10 February 2026, 10:52 pm
  • 44 minutes 41 seconds
    When its impossible to get away from all the toxic behavior

    Some relationships end but continue leaving destruction in their wake. Some don't end and you suffer through the daily drip-feeding of emotionally abusive behaviors until you lose your sanity. When there's no way away from all the toxicity, what can you do?

    29 January 2026, 10:41 pm
  • 32 minutes 22 seconds
    Dont call them what they really are, it will work against you

    Calling a duck a duck makes sense. But this logic works against you in the emotionally abusive relationship. Calling out an abusive person for who they are might just turn the whole thing around on you.

    14 January 2026, 9:58 pm
  • 51 minutes 30 seconds
    Total defeat and burnout in the emotionally abusive relationship

    Every relationship should have stopping points when you feel yourself slipping away. Emotional abuse operates as a slow drip-feeding of toxic behaviors that gradually erode boundaries.

    9 January 2026, 7:43 pm
  • 33 minutes 11 seconds
    When you are a captive audience to the emotionally abusive monologuer

    The endless monologue of some emotionally abusive people is a tactic that keeps you silent and submissive. It's designed to wear you down until you finally give in.

    30 December 2025, 11:19 pm
  • 53 minutes 19 seconds
    Ive stopped being abusive, let's have sex

    Some emotionally abusive people do heal. And once they do, they might feel the relationship will be great from that point on. What they don't consider is that the victim of their abusive behavior is only starting their healing process.

    4 December 2025, 6:55 pm
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