Why is emotional intelligence (EQ) the #1 quality modern women are looking for in a partner? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with fabulous dating and relationship coach Chris Gillis. Known for his deep understanding of human consciousness and "emotional fluency," Chris explains how men can move past "spreadsheet logic" to create real, lasting chemistry.

Julie and Chris explore the "empathy loop" and why acknowledging feelings must always come before trying to fix problems. Whether you're a "nice guy" struggling to get a second date or a high-achieving professional looking to deepen your connections, this conversation provides the tools to shift from performing to actually being seen.

Inside this Episode:

Spreadsheets vs. Soul: Why treating a woman like a problem to be solved kills chemistry and how to prioritize empathy instead.
The Empathy Loop: Mastering the art of vulnerable disclosure and responding with validation.
Childhood "Cheat Codes": Using early memories to bypass defensive walls and build instant comfort on a first date.
Masculine & Feminine Energy: Understanding the "king and queen" dynamic and why men must lead with emotional safety.
The "I'm Sorry" Test: Why the ability to admit fault is a marker of high-level emotional maturity.
Detaching from the Outcome: How showing up with curiosity rather than an agenda can lead to unexpected romance.

Connect with Chris Gillis: Find more coaching resources at ConsultantChris.com or follow him across all platforms @ConsultantChris.

Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find your person? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.

#CupidsCoach #ChrisGillis #EmotionalIntelligence #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #EQ #Masculinity #DatingStrategy

Is online dating leaving you feeling more disconnected than ever? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman welcomes the ultimate people connector of Santa Fe, Maggie Lamb. As the founder of Local Singles, Maggie has built a thriving community of nearly 2,000 members dedicated to face-to-face interaction, networking, and authentic romance.

Julie and Maggie dive into why building a local social circle is essential for your emotional health and how to navigate the transition from "married" to "single" with a growth mindset. Whether you live in New Mexico or are just visiting, this episode reveals the magic that happens when you step out of your comfort zone and open your heart to new possibilities.

Inside this Episode:

The "Tiny Town" Advantage: Why meeting singles in person is the best way to bypass the superficiality of dating apps.
12 Connections in 1.5 Hours: A look at Maggie’s unique, structured small-group socials that foster deep, meaningful conversation.
The "Revolving Door" Myth: Why seeing familiar faces at events is a comfort, not a roadblock, and the importance of consistent attendance.
Mindset for Success: How to shift your energy from "finding a person" to "contributing to the room" to boost your natural magnetism.
Safety and Privacy: Practical tips for high-profile or private singles, including the use of "calling cards" and Google Voice.
The Santa Fe Secret: Debunking the rumor that there are no good single men in the desert.


Connect with Maggie Lamb: Join the community and find upcoming events at LocalSingles.me or find the group on Meetup.

Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to jumpstart your social life? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.

#CupidsCoach #MaggieLamb #SantaFeDating #InPersonConnection #Matchmaking #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #LocalSingles

Are you living in "boy psychology" or stepping into your true strength as a man? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with coach, entrepreneur, and author Mike Raboor to discuss his direct approach to mindset, discipline, and accountability.
Mike dives deep into the concepts from his new book, "Man Up," exploring why modern culture often promotes weakness through a "dopamine economy" of immediate comfort. He shares his personal journey from a multimillionaire lifestyle of external validation to finding true internal peace through "self-applied suffering" and radical responsibility.
Inside this Episode:
• The "Disciplined Savage": Understanding when to embrace your inner strength and how to tame it with honor and respect.
• Radical Responsibility: Why "manning up" means taking ownership of every area of your life.
• Breaking the Comfort Addiction: The power of a 4:00 AM protocol, cold plunges, and morning rituals to reprogram your brain.
• Boy vs. Man Psychology: Why a man produces more than he consumes and the importance of serving your community and family.
• The Truth About Modern Dating: Why "Mr. Nice Guy" is actually boy psychology and why alpha women struggle to find men who can lead.
• Peace Over Happiness: Why happiness is just an expectation met, while peace comes from the process of becoming who you want to be.
Connect with Mike Raboor: Find more about his protocols and coaching at mikesuniversity.com or follow him on Instagram @mikeradoor
Connect with Julie Ferman: Ready to find your "Natural Match"? Register for free and private matchmaking at JulieFerman.com.
#CupidsCoach #MikeRaboor #ManUp #Masculinity #PersonalGrowth #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #MindsetMastery

Dating Outside Your "Type" with Jennie Agin Are you stuck in a cycle of "one-date wonders"? This week on the Cupid’s Coach Podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with Jennie Agin, founder of Storyful Matchmaking, to reveal why your "type" might be exactly what's keeping you single.
Discover how to reinvent your dating rules through the power of activity-based dates—from character-revealing board games to nature-focused "Adventure Rabbi" retreats. We dive into the art of the second date, sitting with the discomfort of first meetings, and finding "vicarious joy" in small moments.

Key Takeaways:
* Dating Outside Your Type: Why moving past surface-level preferences leads to deeper connection.
* Low-Pressure Dates: How activities like board games serve as the ultimate character test.
* Nailing the Second Date: Practical tips for women to suggest options while staying in their feminine energy.
* Smart, Soulful Connection: Navigating the "tender" early stages of dating with open-mindedness.

Connect with Jenny Agan: Visit StoryfulMatchmaking.com. Connect with Julie Ferman: Register at JulieFerman.com.

#CupidsCoach #StoryfulMatchmaking #Matchmaker #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #DatingOver30 #ColoradoDating

New Year, New Intentions: Doing More of What You Love

Happy New Year, everyone! It’s the beginning of 2026, and as we look ahead, I have a big question for you: What is it that you really love to do that you just haven’t been doing enough of lately? 

In this episode, I’m inviting you to join me on a mission to bring more joy, simplicity, and open space into your life. We talk about why we often fill our calendars until there’s no room left for ourselves, and why I’ve started scheduling everything from my naps to walks with my husband and dog.

We also dive deep into the habits that build happy, lasting relationships. I share some powerful research from John Gottman about celebrating wins and expressing gratitude , and I tackle a phrase I hear way too often: "I don't want to be a nurse or a purse." I’ll tell you exactly why that mindset might be the very thing keeping you single and how to shift toward a more generous, giving heart.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

The Blessing of Simplicity: How I’m using AI to simplify my kitchen and my life.


Breaking the "Nurse or Purse" Habit: Why this phrase is a total turnoff to quality men and how to actually handle financial and health expectations.


Mastering the Closeness Loop: Learning the difference between reacting and truly responding with empathy.


The Art of the "Lasso": Tips for women on being easy to schedule with and for men on developing patience.


Secure Attachment: How to practice warmth and reliability so your partner feels safe with you.

Whether you’re a "Golden Bachelor" or re-entering the dating scene after a gray divorce, let’s make this the year you move from "me" to "we" by being the healthiest, happiest version of yourself.

#CupidsCoach #JulieFerman #NewYearIntentions #DatingAdvice #RelationshipGoals #GottmanMethod #DatingAfter50 #TransformMeToWe

2026 Dating Trends with the "Digital Matchmaker"
Are you ready to "outsmart Cupid" in 2026? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach podcast, host Julie Ferman sits down with a true industry rockstar: Julie Spira, America’s top online dating expert and founder of Cyber Dating Expert. With four decades of digital innovation and media experience, Julie Spira has watched every major trend shift—from the dial-up days of AOL to the AI-driven world of today.
The two Julies dive into Spira's latest feature article, "Dating Trends to Expect in 2026," which outlines why singles are now demanding clarity, consistency, and emotional substance over surface-level thrills. Whether you are navigating a "gray divorce," re-entering the dating world after being widowed, or curious about the new role of AI, this episode is a masterclass in modern romance.
Inside this Episode:
* The 2026 Recalibration: Why "emotional safety" is replacing high-octane chemistry and performative "love bombing".
* Gray Divorce as a Gateway: Viewing a late-life split as a "courageous recalibration" rather than a failure.
* Widowed & Ready: Giving yourself permission to find companionship without guilt and why the "two-year rule" is officially outdated.
* The "Tiny Town" Dynamics: Exploring dating in community-driven markets like Palm Springs versus the freeway-focused grind of Los Angeles.
* The Digital Shift: How daters are using AI as a "warm-up tool" for pre-date nerves and why crowdsourcing your dating life on Reddit is going by the wayside.
Join us for a candid look at the future of connection. It’s time to stop playing games and start finding the partner who treats you right on a Monday morning—not just a Saturday night.
Read the Full Article: Check out Julie Spira's Dating Trends to Expect in 2026 at CyberDatingExpert.com.
#CupidsCoach #DatingTrends2026 #GrayDivorce #CyberDating #EmotionalSafety #RelationshipAdvice #Matchmaking #JulieSpira

https://cyberdatingexpert.com/2026-dating-trends/

Doing Dating Better with the "Profile Helper"
Are you feeling burnt out by the "dopamine slot machine" of modern dating apps? In this episode of the Cupid’s Coach podcast, veteran matchmaker Julie Furman sits down with the "OG" of online dating, Eric Resnick of Profile Helper. With over 40 years of combined experience, they share a candid look at how to navigate the digital dating world without losing your mind—or your heart—to the wrong people.

Julie and Eric dive into the shift from traditional sites to social discovery apps, the truth about "unnatural matches," and why your profile should never feel like a sales pitch. Whether you're recently divorced, widowed, or just frustrated with swiping, this episode provides the "training wheels" you need to transition from "me" to "we".


Key Takeaways:
* Dating App Evolution: Understanding the "sweet spot" between traditional apps and casual swiping. 
* The "First Week" Rule: Why you should aim to meet in person or via video within 3 to 7 days to avoid "dying on the vine". 
* Age & Height Reality: Moving past rigid checkboxes to focus on shared values and lifestyle alignment. 
* Privacy & Safety: How to protect yourself from romance scams and when to use tools like Google Voice. 
* Authentic Photos: Why candid "friend-captured" shots often beat stiff professional portraits. 
Connect with Eric Resnick: Get a free profile assessment at ProfileHelper.com.

#CupidsCoach #DatingPodcast #OnlineDatingTips #Matchmaking #DatingAfter50 #ProfileHelper #RelationshipAdvice

How do you find true compatibility in dating — especially later in life?
In this episode, Julie Ferman chats with Ann, founder of After Hello, about navigating age gaps, attraction expectations, lifestyle differences, and emotional intelligence in matchmaking.
Key takeaways:
* Why fantasy dating can set you up for frustration
* How to assess compatibility beyond surface-level checklists
* Managing power dynamics and expectations around money
* Using phone calls and virtual dates to streamline connections
* Insights from Anne’s own love story and client experiences
Dating later in life is about connection, alignment, and flexibility — not just chemistry.

Is the label, "Narcissist" misused and overused? Yes. Let's clear things up. Julie shares colleague Marina Edelman's short list on what narcissism REALLY is, how to spot it, and why you should run the other way.

Tim Molnar, Dating Coach/author of Date Smarter, uses research-backed strategies and social science insights to evolve the dating landscape. How developing the art of social magnetism and saying YES to IRL events is .... dating smarter. 

Authenticity is the new Sexy. Bob C. Grant, Relationship Coach, shares how feelings are different for men than women. What's the magic that women bring to men's lives? A woman's success and strength - is it intimidating to men, or maybe just annoying? What does support look like, and the power of the slow burn approach to sex.