Finding love isn’t about gimmicks or games. It’s about something far more profound than we’ve ever been taught. In this podcast by renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Ken Page, you’ll learn the most effective, research-backed tools for transforming the way you date--and finding authentic love.
The biggest study of the American single experience just came out.
In this episode, I interview one of its key authors; Dr. Amanda Gesselman, Director of Sex & Relationship Science at Match and a Research Scientist at the Kinsey Institute.
Get ready to hear some really fascinating things about what's happening for single people in America. Sex, love, dating, AI; it's all in this report!
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4:21 Turning the Tables: Singlehood as Empowerment
9:34 The Emotional Disconnect Between Men and Women
17:56 Intentional Dating The 30-Minute Rule
23:16 Attraction vs. Attraction Patterns
30:35 The Silent Epidemic Miscommunication in Dating Intentions
39:52 Gen Z and the Gender Spectrum
41:26 AI in Dating Useful Tool or Dealbreaker
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Are you chasing love that leaves you feeling unworthy or uplifted?
Ken Page reveals the two pivotal questions that can revolutionize your search for love and shield you from unnecessary heartache.
Drawing from four decades of psychotherapy and personal growth, Ken explores the profound difference between "attractions of deprivation"—those intense, addictive relationships that mirror old wounds—and "attractions of inspiration"—connections rooted in mutual respect, safety, and emotional integrity.
He also unpacks how asking one soulful question—“Do I feel safe and seen?”—can fast-track your journey to secure love and deepen your own self-worth.
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03:23 What Is an Attraction of Deprivation
07:11 Personal Story The Relationship That Nearly Trapped Ken
09:37 Why Deprivation Feels Like Home
13:10 The Three Cs of Choosing a Partner
15:34 The Second Key Question Do I Feel Safe and Seen
18:01 The Brave Act of Asking for What You Need
21:22 Building a Secure Attachment Style Through Self-Protection
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Can a broken road really lead you home to love?
Ken Page shares the raw and profound story of how he finally found real, lasting love—by embracing his deepest fears, honoring his longing, and listening to the gentle whispers of spirit.
From navigating intimacy during the AIDS crisis to forming a heartfelt support group of “chronically single shrinks,” Ken weaves a touching narrative of heartbreak, healing, and joy.
His journey leads to adopting a child from Cambodia, launching his Deeper Dating movement, and marrying the love of his life just before his father’s passing.
This is a story about trust, transformation, and the sacred, messy path to authentic love.
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0:43 Embracing Neurosis: The Gifts Hidden in Shame
8:18 The “Wave” of Repulsion and How It Sabotages Love
11:30 The Secret to Overcoming the “Ick”
14:41 Realizing He Wanted to Become a Father
20:27 Creating the Deeper Dating Movement
23:39 A Holocaust Survivor's Blessing
24:34 Saying Yes Before Goodbye: A Hospice Wedding
25:43 Trusting the Broken Road
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What happens when the search for love pulls you away from your soul—and how do you find your way back?
Ken Page shares the deeply personal next chapter of his emotional, spiritual, sexual, and romantic journey in the second part of this series.
From navigating New York’s vibrant and chaotic gay underground of the 1980s to an unexpected spiritual reawakening in the Wind River Mountains of Wyoming, Ken opens up about his struggles with love, addiction, loss, and the journey toward self-acceptance.
Through heartbreaking stories and soul-shifting insights, he reveals how he began to integrate his sexuality with his spirituality and laid the foundation for his life’s work.
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6:32 Discovering the gay cultural renaissance in NYC
10:12 Fitting in with the beautiful and unattainable
13:28 Launching a therapeutic practice and gay men’s groups
16:43 A dream that revealed the truth about love
18:02 Finding God again in the Snow Peak mountains
21:11 Michael’s AIDS diagnosis and the start of a legacy
24:18 Re-entering spiritual life with caution and care
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What happens when spiritual devotion and gay identity collide in the search for love?
In this raw, never-before-shared episode of The Deeper Dating Podcast, Ken takes you on an intensely personal journey through his early spiritual awakening, sexual discovery, and search for authentic connection.
From mystical meditations and cult-like spiritual circles to heartbreak, celibacy, sexual compulsion, and finally integration,
Ken explores the winding path that led him from loneliness and longing to a deeper understanding of self, love, and the divine.
Vulnerable, courageous, and powerfully human.
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5:28 Losing his friend group and finding solitude
6:42 A radiant stranger in the vegetable aisle
9:45 Meeting Paramahansa Yogananda through a book and a photo
11:53 Telling Bruce “I love you” and being fully received
25:34 Losing spirituality and reclaiming his sexual self
27:53 The tension between sexuality, spirituality, and identity
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This is an episode first published in March 2024. It’s one of our most popular.
How do you turn your dating life into a true spiritual path that heals your heart, connects you to the deepest parts of your being, allows you to have experiences that are truly transcendent, and allows you to find real healthy love dramatically more quickly? This episode will teach you how.
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02:16 – What “Spiritual” Really Means in the Context of Love
05:48 – The Power of “Coming Out” with Your Authentic Self
10:06 – Why We Unconsciously Sabotage Love
13:35 – The Spiritual Roots of Defensive Dating Behaviors
17:55 – The Shame Around Tenderness and Big Love
19:18 – Soft Confidence vs. Rigid Perfectionism
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In this episode of the Deeper Dating Podcast, Tarah and EJ Kerwin of Relationship Renovation share their unique model for fostering authentic sexual expression that heals and strengthens relationships. Discover how to navigate the challenges of communicating about intimacy, from early dating to long-term partnerships, and create a connection that’s both liberating and deeply fulfilling.
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What does it mean to date like you really mean it? And what are the 4 things you can do to to dramatically speed your path to healthy lasting love?
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Do you make yourself smaller, ask for less, reveal less, to protect your relationship? This is the Empath's Trap, making ourselves smaller in the service of love. In this episode, you'll learn about the Empath's Trap and how you can get out of it to be your full self in your intimate relationships.
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You've decided to lead with authenticity in your search for love. But how do you protect yourself against all of the bad behavior and heartache that's out there? How can you be vulnerable, but not naive? How can you open up to romance but still protect your heart? Learn how in this episode.
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You've started dating someone new, and you're pretty excited. You know, to look out for red flags, and to take in the green flags. But there are so many things no one teaches us about nurturing a promising new relationship. In this episode of the Deeper Dating Podcast, you'll learn keys to success that we never get taught.
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