- 32 minutes 8 secondsI'm Starting to Resent Something I Care About
Have you ever cared about something so much that you started to resent it? You keep showing up, taking responsibility, and doing what needs to be done. But when it feels like nobody else is putting in the same effort, something that once mattered to you can start to feel like a burden.
This week on Sober Friends, Matt and Steve talk about a struggling Monday night AA meeting and the frustration that comes with trying to keep something alive. Steve shares why he feels responsible for the meeting's future, while Matt reflects on how his own priorities have changed. The conversation moves beyond AA into work, family, and the expectations we place on ourselves.
How do you know when you're taking on too much? Are other people expecting too much from you, or are you putting that pressure on yourself? And how do you step back from something you care about without feeling like you're letting people down? It's a conversation about resentment, responsibility, and learning that caring about something doesn't mean you have to carry it all yourself.
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20 October 2026, 5:00 am - 34 minutes 34 secondsWhy Do I Miss Things Before They're Gone?
Have you ever been enjoying something good, only to find yourself already worrying about when it's going to end? Maybe it's time with someone you love, a relationship that's going well, or a period in your life when things finally seem to be falling into place. Instead of enjoying what's happening, you're already preparing yourself for what you might lose.
When Matt's son came home from college for the weekend, the excitement of having him home quickly turned into sadness about having to say goodbye again. That realization led to a bigger question: Why do we sometimes start missing things before they're even gone? Matt and Steve share their own experiences with anticipating loss, worrying about the future, and trying to protect themselves from pain that hasn't happened yet.
For those of us in recovery, these feelings can be especially uncomfortable when alcohol is no longer there to numb them. We talk about fear, acceptance, and whether constantly preparing ourselves for disappointment actually makes anything easier. We haven't figured out how to stop worrying about what comes next, but maybe recognizing the pattern can help us spend a little more time enjoying what we have right now.
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13 October 2026, 5:00 am - 36 minutes 4 secondsI Can’t Handle One More Change of Plans
You had a plan for the day. Now someone needs you to drop everything, another arrangement falls through, and you’re scrambling again. At some point, one more change feels like more than you can handle.
Matt shares a weekend that pushed him past his limit and how ADHD and autism affect his response to disrupted routines. Steve recognizes his own version: offering to help, then getting frustrated when it interrupts his plans. Both talk honestly about letting frustration build—and feeling like they have to explode to be heard.
Alcohol once helped them change how that pressure felt. Handling it sober means figuring out when to step in, when to say no, and what helps before frustration takes over. The conversation also turns to the ways perfectionism can keep simple recovery practices out of reach, even after years without a drink.
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6 October 2026, 5:00 am - 39 minutes 4 secondsI Keep Trying to Figure Everything Out Ahead of Time
What happens when you’ve stopped drinking, but your brain still wants guarantees?
Matt and Steve talk about the need to research, plan, anticipate, and control what happens next — from work and money to cooking dinner and doing projects around the house. Underneath it is a harder problem: uncertainty. If you can figure everything out ahead of time, maybe you can avoid getting it wrong, wasting your time, or feeling like you failed.
Recovery doesn’t make that instinct disappear. It gives you a different way to respond to it. This episode is about learning to tolerate not knowing, letting other people do things their way, and recognizing that progress can mean handling life differently even when the old thinking still shows up.
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29 September 2026, 5:00 am - 31 minutes 16 secondsWhat If I Don’t Need to Get Better at Drinking? — Suzanne Warye
What if the problem isn’t that you haven’t figured out how to drink the right way?
Suzanne Warye, host of The Sober Mom Life and author of The Sober Shift, joins Matt to talk about the exhausting work of trying to control alcohol, wondering whether you’re “bad enough” to quit, and realizing that you don’t need to hit someone else’s rock bottom before deciding drinking isn’t working for you.
Suzanne also shares why traditional recovery language never quite fit her, how she moved from seeing sobriety as deprivation to experiencing it as freedom, and why there can be more than one way into an alcohol-free life.
Learn more about Suzanne, The Sober Shift, and The Sober Mom Life at:
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22 September 2026, 5:00 am - 31 minutes 57 secondsIs It Okay to Question AA?
What happens when something that helped save your life starts to raise questions?
For many people in recovery, there can be an uncomfortable tension between gratitude and honesty. You can believe that AA, meetings, and the recovery process have given you something valuable while still having questions about parts of the program, the language, or the way recovery is sometimes presented.
Matt and Steve talk about what it means to question recovery without rejecting it. They explore the difference between healthy curiosity and resistance, why questioning can actually be part of personal growth, and why one person’s path to recovery does not have to become everyone’s path. Sometimes the most honest question is not “Why am I struggling with this?” but “What can I learn by being willing to ask?”
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15 September 2026, 5:00 am - 33 minutes 42 secondsI’m Doing Everything I’m Supposed To. Why Isn’t It Enough?
I’m doing what I’m supposed to do. I’m showing up. I’m putting in the work. So why does it still feel like I’m falling short?
Matt and Steve talk about the nagging belief that you should always be doing more—at work, in recovery, and in life. That leads them into a bigger question: are you doing things because they actually help, or because you’re trying to prove you’re doing recovery the “right” way? Prayer, meetings, reading, routines, productivity—even good habits can become boxes to check when the purpose gets lost.
Recovery isn’t about performing it perfectly. Eventually, it becomes about learning how to live: handling difficult days, treating people well, taking care of yourself, and building a life you no longer need to escape from.
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8 September 2026, 5:00 am - 37 minutes 23 secondsSomething Actually Wrong, or Does It Just Hurt?
Sometimes something can hurt deeply even when nothing is wrong.
After dropping his son Owen off at college, Matt expected the hard part to be worrying about whether he would be okay. Instead, the emotion hit when he realized the opposite: Owen was ready. He had found his people. He was going to be fine. And a chapter of Matt’s life as a parent had changed anyway.
Matt and Steve talk about grief that comes without tragedy, what it means to be present for moments you can’t fix, and how sobriety changes the way we experience painful feelings. Not every uncomfortable emotion is a problem to solve. Sometimes it just hurts—and learning not to run from that can be part of recovery.
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1 September 2026, 1:00 pm - 31 minutes 57 secondsI Keep Finding the Next Thing That Could Go Wrong
Sometimes you solve the thing you were worried about and feel relieved for about five minutes. Then your brain finds something else that could go wrong.
Matt and Steve talk about what uncertainty does to them, from travel and job changes to money, family responsibilities, and situations where you've prepared as well as you can but still can't control the outcome. They also look back at the role alcohol used to play as a reliable way to shut down that discomfort, at least temporarily.
Matt isn't trying to become fearless or convince himself everything will work out. He's trying to notice when fear of an uncertain outcome is keeping him from taking the next reasonable action—and learning that sometimes doing what you can has to be enough.
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25 August 2026, 5:00 am - 35 minutes 23 secondsWhy Do I Keep Apologizing for Needing Help?
Why is it so hard to ask for help without immediately feeling like you need to apologize for it?
Matt and Steve talk about the shame that can come with needing support, the belief that we should be able to handle everything ourselves, and the fear that struggling will make other people think less of us. They also get into pride, people pleasing, emotional overwhelm, and the difference between actually owing someone an apology and simply being uncomfortable with needing them.
Recovery doesn’t make the need for help disappear. Sometimes it teaches us how to stop treating that need like a personal failure.
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18 August 2026, 5:00 am - 34 minutes 1 secondI Wasn’t Crying About What I Thought I Was Crying About
You can spend a lot of time trying to fix the thing that seems to be causing your anxiety and still miss what’s actually underneath it.
For Matt, the panic looked like money, college costs, and the fear of letting his son down. But when the emotion finally came out, it opened into something bigger: grief, change, getting older, losing control, and realizing that some parts of life can’t be solved before they’re felt.
Matt and Steve talk about why sobriety can bring us face-to-face with emotions we used to avoid, numb, or drink over—and what changes when we stop demanding certainty and start dealing with what’s actually there.
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