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Bare Marriage

Sheila Gregoire

Tired of Christian pat answers about marriage? The podcast that goes in-depth into marriage, parenting, and even sex--to see how we can live the passionate life we were meant for. Paired with To Love, Honor and Vacuum--the blog!

1 hour 11 minutes

Episode 278: Why Don't Evangelical Women Want to Marry Evangelical Men?
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Al Mohler, president of Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, recently did a podcast bemoaning the fact that young women, unlike young men, are giving up on the "creation order" and abandoning marriage. But he distorts the argument, and misses the main problem: Women want to get married, but too many of the men available don't make good partners.

WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got pushed out of ministry positions in favour of marriage, and what we can do about it.
My recent article about Becoming the Pastor's Wife
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:
- Our new book The Marriage You Want
- Al Mohler's "Briefing"
- The original Wall Street Journal Article: American Women Are Giving up on Marriage
- European study about fertility and attitude towards household tasks
- Time study about mothers based on marital status
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And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

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10 April 2025, 11:00 am
1 hour 8 minutes

Episode 277: Why Emotions Aren't Feminine (and Why Women Aren't More Emotional!)
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So many evangelical pastors teach that men are rational while women are emotional. But is this true? And if women are more emotionally mature than men, then doesn't that mean that men need to learn from women? Listen in as Keith and Sheila dissect several clips from Josh Howerton, Emerson Eggerichs, Josh McPherson, and Matt Walsh.
WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got pushed out of ministry positions in favour of marriage, and what we can do about it.
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:
- Our new book The Marriage You Want
- Open letter to Focus on the Family
- Our one-sheet download on the problems with Love & Respect
- Emerson Eggerichs’ sermon dissection and the podcast that goes with it
- Carolyn Custis James' Maelstrom
- Josh Howerton clip
- Matt Walsh post
- Our podcast on emotions with Becky Castle Miller
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
3 April 2025, 11:00 am
58 minutes 33 seconds

Episode 276: Is Reading Romance Novels for Women the Same as Watching Porn?
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We know watching porn is wrong--but are romance novels just as bad? We've often heard that comparison made: Sure, guys watch porn, but remember that women read novels! Today Rebecca and I talk about when the comparison may be fair, and when it isn't. And we ask: how should we see romance novels or erotic novels? Listen in and see what you think--as we try to reason it through!
WITH THANKS TO OUR SPONSOR:
Beth Allison Barr's insightful and important new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife: How Marriage Replaced Ordination as a Woman's Path to Ministry. Learn how women got pushed out of ministry positions in favour of marriage, and what we can do about it.
And join Beth Allison Barr and Karen Swallow Prior and me for a FREE webinar TONIGHT, March 27, at 9 pm EST. Registration is FREE.
TO SUPPORT US:
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
LINKS TO THINGS MENTIONED:
- Our new book The Marriage You Want
- Our puberty course for parents to talk to kids about puberty and sex: The Whole Story
- Study that Rebecca mentioned about dark romance
- Study on how reading erotica can change our behaviour
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
27 March 2025, 11:00 am
1 hour 7 minutes

Episode 275: Becoming the Pastor's Wife feat. Beth Allison Barr
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What if marriage replaced ordination as a woman's path to ministry? What if we've systematically erased the stories of women ministering in the past, and in so doing silenced women's voices and removed opportunities to serve Jesus? Today Beth Allison Barr joins us to talk about her new book Becoming the Pastor's Wife!
REGISTER FOR OUR FREE WEBINAR
Join Beth Allison Barr, Sheila, and Karen Swallow Prior on Thursday, March 27 at 9 pm for a FREE webinar (recording will be available afterwards if you can't make it live).
Register here

BECOMING THE PASTOR'S WIFE
Find the book here

TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
- Our new book The Marriage You Want (read the Amazon reviews!)
- Everywhere you can get it
- Keith's series on The Danvers Statement
- Our Podcast on the Danvers Statement
- Beth's original podcast with us about The Making of Biblical Womanhood:
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
20 March 2025, 11:00 am
52 minutes 34 seconds

Episode 274: The Marriage You Actually Want
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The Marriage You Want is LIVE! Our book launched this week, and in this week's podcast we take a broad, investigative look into the state of evangelical marriage publishing, and why there has very little change in the top 10 books in decades. Plus what it means to have SAFE and HEALTHY marriage advice! Come celebrate with us in episode 274 of Bare Marriage!

THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Order it on Amazon
- Other places to buy!
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
- Download our healthy sexuality rubric and see how the bestselling marriage books fared!
- Our podcast on the 5 faulty premises of Christian books
- Our analysis of the Christian marriage publishing industry
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
13 March 2025, 11:00 am
57 minutes 20 seconds

Episode 273: Are Traditionally Christian Marriages Linked to More Immaturity? The Data Speaks!
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It's episode 273 of the Bare Marriage podcast! We found that certain beliefs are correlated most with emotional immaturity--passive aggressiveness; outbursts of anger; emotional dysregulation. In our research for our book The Marriage You Want, we found that when couples believe the husband should have the tie breaking vote, they score lower on maturity.

Is this because emotionally immature people are drawn to these beliefs? Or do these beliefs hamper maturity? Today we talk about why it's actually both, and what that means for our own personal responsibility.

THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Order it on Amazon
- Other non-Amazon links!
- Send your pre-order receipts to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.com to get our pre-order bonus!
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
- Download our healthy sexuality rubric and see how the bestselling marriage books fared!
- Check out our post on why complementarianism is linked to emotional immaturity and toxic church cultures
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
6 March 2025, 12:00 pm
41 minutes 30 seconds

Episode 272: Is "Acts of Service" Love Language Really a Cry for Help? All New Bonus Stats!
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What if the "acts of service" love language is masking something else--the totally unequal division of labor that many couples have, and Gary Chapman ignores? Plus does the "physical touch" love language mask something wrong in the bedroom? ALL NEW BONUS STATS today! Some of them aren't even in the new book!
PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Pre-Order on Amazon
- Get other links to Pre-Order
- Send in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.com
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED
- Our post about the study showing that the love languages are junk science
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
27 February 2025, 12:00 pm
57 minutes 45 seconds

Episode 271: What the Unfairness Threshold Tells Us About Marriage (and Mental Load!)
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PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Pre-Order on Amazon
- Get other links to Pre-Order
- Send in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.com
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

And her FACEBOOK PAGE has been HACKED--so please join the new official one!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
20 February 2025, 12:00 pm
1 hour 15 minutes

Episode 270: What Does Prioritizing Marriage Look Like? Plus Do You Have to Choose Between Being a Good Wife and a Good Mom?
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Prioritizing your marriage can be tough. How do we spend enough time together? Do we need more date nights? And MOMS—don’t forget to be a wife first and a mom second! But in all this talk, are we missing the bigger point? If we’re functioning as a team, doing life together, then affection will grow. But if you see your kids as threats to your marriage, or think you can connect with a date night when you haven’t been in the trenches together all week, you’re not going to feel close. A new way of thinking about prioritizing your relationship—without the GUILT! Based on new stats from The Marriage You Want!

PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Pre-Order on Amazon
- Get other links to Pre-Order
- Send in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.com
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
13 February 2025, 12:00 pm
54 minutes 17 seconds

Episode 269: The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs—and Why Compromise Doesn’t Work
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Ever tried to find a compromise when you’re having an argument—but even the compromise doesn’t seem fair? In today’s podcast we explain why—using what we call The Marriage Hierarchy of Needs. We talk about this in our new book The Marriage You Want! Basically, compromise only works if you both start off on equal footing. But if one of you is already doing more than their fair share, compromise just makes it even more unequal. So let’s talk about foundation vs. frills, how to overcome entitlement, and why unfairness can’t go on forever!

PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Pre-Order on Amazon
- Get other links to Pre-Order
- Send in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.com
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
6 February 2025, 12:00 pm
58 minutes 24 seconds

Episode 268: Why Data Shows That Teamwork, Not Hierarchy, Is the Key to a Great Marriage!
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What is the biggest key to a great marriage? Teamwork! Let’s talk about how teamwork is associated with all the good outcomes we want for marriage—better sex; feeling close; resolving conflict—everything! But complementarianism, on the other hand, is associated with all the bad outcomes. Good outcomes and bad outcomes tend to travel together—and complementarianism travels with the bad stuff! Hear about all our new data from our new book The Marriage You Want!

LINKS

PREODER THE MARRIAGE YOU WANT
- Pre-Order on Amazon
- Get other links to Pre-Order
- Send in your preorder receipt to preorder@marriageyouwantbook.com
TO SUPPORT US
- Join our Patreon for as little as $5 a month to support our work
- For tax deductible donations in the U.S., support Good Fruit Faith Initiative through the Bosko Foundation
- And check out our Merch, or any of our courses!
- Join our email list!
THINGS MENTIONED IN THE PODCAST
- Reel from BrandonTalksMarriage
- Our reel on whether women want leaders or someone to take initiative
- The podcast that reel was based on (Marriage on the Rock)
- The Gospel Coalition reel about doing “risky” things
- The original podcast where Cynthia Westfall appeared
Join Sheila at Bare Marriage.com!

Check out her books:
And she has an Orgasm Course and a Libido course too!

Check out all her courses, FREE resources, social media, books, and so much more at Sheila's LinkTree.
30 January 2025, 12:00 pm
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