Apparently, there’s a new term for “not giving a shit” as a seduction strategy: Being “nonchalant.”

“I don’t care if you like me. Maybe I like you, maybe I don’t. I’m here. Sorta. But…I could be anywhere else, with anyone else, doing anything else.”

Wow. What a turn on. Be still, my beating heart.

*Woman faints from all the emotions this stirs in her*

In this episode:

• Normalize love bombing
• The Neil Strauss and Dan Bilzerian “school of dating” for cowards and retards
• Indifference as a seduction strategy
• Is it possible to give “the ick” to someone by showing them too much love?
• Chintzy vs. generous fuckers
• A woman’s egg choose the sperm it wants—out of millions of options. IT KNOWS.

COME TO ANAMI LAND!

We’ll be opening our private, exclusive Anami Land membership community in the coming weeks.

Meet high-level, Anami-esque friends and lovers.

Looking for more outrageous, wild and brave humans? Find them in Anami Land.

Go to kimanami.com/anamiland to signup on the waitlist and be notified of when we open the doors.

It's always their fault. 

Everyone’s got a narcissist story these days. IT’S ALWAYS THE FAULT OF THE NARCISSIST! 

Someone said to me a few years ago that a narcissist is essentially someone who hasn’t healed their trauma. And they aren’t interested in healing it. 

But what if this isn’t about how evil and awful the narcissist is? What if it’s about you and the 8000 red flags and signs you ignored, telling you this wasn’t right? 

In fact, that’s the only thing it’s about: How you chose wrong and how blaming someone else is keeping you stuck in a cycle of victimhood and re-traumatization. 

In this episode: 

• The price for being a victim and not taking radical self-responsibility 
• Scorpions gonna sting. Narcs gonna narc. Do you play with them anyway? 
• Why is there “chemistry” with a narcissist or someone who may not be good for you? 
• Does that mean that all “chemistry” now can’t be trusted? 
• 99.9% of relationships have this flaw 
• The most important juncture in any relationship 
• The reasons why people stay where they know it’s not good for them 
• How to break free and choose better: and choose YOU. 

COME TO ANAMI LAND! 

We’ll be opening our private, exclusive Anami Land membership community in the coming weeks. 

This will be a place for people who’ve taken our salons to keep going in there work. And for those of you who’ve been hovering on the outskirts of Anami Land, it’s open to you too. 

People have been asking—begging—us to create a dating site for ages. 

This will function as that, a community for like-minded Anami enthusiasts—singles, couples, men and women—everyone looking to take their lives, growth and relationships to the next level. 

Go to kimanami.com/anamiland to signup on the waitlist and be notified of when we open the doors. 

In a conscious, Anami-style relationship, the only acceptable answer to any invitation from your partner is: F*CK YES!!!

Would you like to learn how to have better sex? F*ck yes!

Do you want life-changing G-Spot, cervical and squirting orgasms? F*ck yes!

Would you like to be able to become a multi-orgasmic man, fuck for three hours straight and learn to separate orgasm from ejaculation? F*ck yes!

Most relationships are held together by their collective—and TACIT—that is, unspoken—agreement to stagnate together.

In Anami Land, we have a pact to GROW together.  The kinds of things I talk about—what BECOMES the NORM around here—is the stuff of legends.

• Women having a hundred orgasms in a row
• Couples having 72-hour sex dates
• Men being multi-orgasmic and able to orgasm without ejaculation 
• Couples having sex from across the room and across the planet (my specialty, haha) 

These things ONLY happen when both people are ALL IN.

It’s f*ck yes! or bust. 

In this episode:

• How to change a stagnant relationship from “maybe later” and “we’re too busy” to “fuck yes!” 
• Starting a relationship with “fuck yes!” ​​​​​​​
• How I train myself for “fuck yes!” moments 
• The day I caught 35 waves surfing 
• Living in Anami Land means a perpetual “fuck yes!” 
• “Bare minimums” in Anami Land: HINT: transcendental, multi-million-dollar-deal-generating blow jobs 

Coming Together: Registration closes tonight at midnight PST!

My quintessential mind/body/spirit Tantric and creative genius spiritually orgasmic portal for couples to come together emotionally and sexually. 

You'll learn: 

• How to create a conscious relationship that elevates you into the highest, most evolved versions of yourselves 
• And generates the most quantum, life-changing orgasms: G-Spot, cervical, squirting for her and orgasms without ejaculation for men. And anal for both of you. Because don't you know? You can find God up your ass. 
• Learn how to use your sexual energy to pro-creatively build your lives with 
• Lifelong passionate intimacy becomes your daily reality: the stuff of Well-F**ked All Star legend 
• My step-by-step techniques for cathartic and blissful yoni and lingam massages
• How to clear space, communicate openly and have the tough conversations in your relationship that remove blockages and clothing. Instantaneously. 
• The ins-and-outs of sexual reflexology.  The ultimate therapeutic healing every time you have sex and touch each other. 
• How to use different sex acts to make more cash. Eh, not that way. But through activating your energy channels and learning how to shape matter, space and time. Yes, that's what we do here in Anami Land, mf. 
• Why most women don’t achieve the "I saw God" vaginal orgasms and how they can. 
• Super stamina techniques for men. 
• And much more 

Fuck yes, we're in!

https://kimanami.com/lovers

In today’s episode we interview a couple who have had the most dramatic—and fastest—turnaround I’ve ever seen. 

They were in a *beyond* sexless marriage. 

They were intimate 2 or 3 times—a year.

In the span of a few hours they did a massive 180 and they’ve been full speed ahead ever since. 

 It’s never too late. If it’s possible for them, it’s possible for you too.

In this episode we’ll talk about the two most important things they did. Also: 

• The power of “all in”
• Sex 2-3 times a year for over a decade
• From divorce court to 4 hours of sex 
• A life-changing Tantric retreat
• Tossed the Viagra and Cialis
• Healing each other through intercourse
• Past issues and resentments evaporating almost instantly
• Staying together “for the children”? 
• That person really needs a cock up their ass
• Surrendering and vulnerability as a man
• At age 64, the plan is to “fuck until the day I die” 

COMING TOGETHER FOR COUPLES is now open: 10 weeks to gourmet, life-changing sex!

In my online signature program for creating conscious relationships and quantum sex, you’ll learn:

• Sexual reflexology of the yoni and lingam
• My prescription guide for different sexual positions to heal various ailments
• Tantric and Taoist techniques to harness your sexual energy and use it for healing, rejuvenation and creative genius
• How to have multiple, full-body and energy orgasms
• Supercock stamina techniques for men
• Amplifying masculine and feminine polarity to increase your chemistry attraction: going from buddies to headboard slammers
• And all my secrets to coming together

Signup now.

As in, our genitals are oracles. When they speak, they reveal our innermost truths. 

We can have conversations with our own genitals. What’s even more fun, is having them with our partner’s genitals.

In today’s episode I speak with Well-F**ked All Stars and Coming Together Alumni Carla and Pracarsh about their relationships with each other’s cock and pussy:

How they grow and shift and change, depending on how much they open and how well they are loved. And when asked, what they have to say.

In this episode: 

• An Anami-inspired marriage 
• Only dishonesty can break the relationship
• Our genitals size and shape change as we release any stuck energy in them
• Blocks malform your body
• “His cock keeps growing bigger!”
• Conversations with cock
• Godly energy in our genitals
• Sentient breasts
• Genitals demand coherence and honesty. Otherwise they shut down.
• Yoni massage and jade egg to unwind a “hard” and closed vagina
• Genital curses
• Alchemizing past wounds together through sex
• “Vibrations of energy come from my yoni all the way up my body and I get transported into different dimensions.”

Says Carla: “Being in a conscious monogamous relationship where the container is sealed between you, has seriously been one of the most healing and beautiful experiences of my life.”

COMING TOGETHER FOR COUPLES SALON

EVERY couple can be having hours of sex, energy sex, multi-orgasmic sex, 20, 30, 40 orgasms in a session sex, and be turned on by each other for decades. 

it's the Anami Guarantee. 

I walk you through how to get there, step-by-step, in the Coming Together for Couples Salon. This is my 10-week online program for couples where you’ll learn everything from: 

• How to have wild, 10-hours long Tantric sex 
• How to communicate from the heart and genitals to achieve deep vulnerability 
• Guided lingam and yoni massage 
• Techniques to achieve all the deeper orgasms in women: G-spot, squirting and cervical 
• Achieving superstar stamina in men and have full control over when you orgasm 
• Or IF you do: I’ll also teach you how to orgasm without ejaculation 
• Feminine and masculine polarity to amplify these energies in your life and bed, This is the secret to the hottest—and lifelong—sexual chemistry 

One of my absolute most favourite concepts in ALL of my work is the idea of:  Fuck them until you change them. 

Our sex acts have the power to transform us. But only when they hit a certain level of Anami gourmet-style sex. 

The big barometric question I always ask people about their sex lives, and the way you can tell whether you’re having Anami-style gourmet sex or plebeian junk-food sex, is: 

Does sex change your life? Do you feel energized, rejuvenated, euphoric, healed, transformed and like you’ve seen God? 

If not, you’re doing it wrong. 

Anything other than that isn’t hitting the mark. At least in Anami Land. 

In this episode we speak to Well-F**ked All Stars Jared and Vi:

• The emotional catharsis of squirting
• Healing and alchemizing past trauma through sex
• Male G-Spot liberation
• Orgasm without ejaculation for him 
• SHE LOVES HIS COCK. Can’t get enough of it.
• From religious suppression to: “if the entire bed isn’t unusable with wetness after we’re done, then it was a small session.”
• 3-hour sex date impact lasts for a week 

COMING TOGETHER FOR COUPLES SALON 

EVERY couple can be having hours of sex, energy sex, multi-orgasmic sex, 20, 30, 40 orgasms in a session sex, and be turned on by each other for decades. 

it's the Anami Guarantee. 

I walk you through how to get there, step by step, in my Coming Together Salon. This is my 10-week online program for couples where you’ll learn everything from: 

• How to have wild, 10-hours long Tantric sex 
• How to communicate from the heart and genitals to achieve deep vulnerability 
• Using your sexual energy to alchemise ALL of your relationship and personal issues 
• Step by step guided lingam and yoni massage 
• Techniques to achieve all the deeper orgasms in women: G-spot, squirting and cervical 
• Achieving superstar stamina in men: being able to have full control over when you orgasm 
• Or IF you do: I’ll also teach you how to orgasm without ejaculation 
• Feminine and masculine polarity to amplify these energies in your life and bed, This is the secret to the hottest—and lifelong—sexual chemistry 

To signup, go to kimanami.com/lovers

A few weeks ago I put up an Instagram post comparing the male models of the 90s to male models in 2025. 
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DU_J5P8EVHN/?igsh=dDU0Y2xjbW1qNmY1

It went mega-viral. 

Putting them side-by-side made the differences SO much more dramatic. 

Juxtaposing these legendary men with imposing jawlines and ravishing bone structure with the mincing, fairy-like, pre-pubescent unf**kable boy-children. 

What happened? 

Where did all the testosterone go? 

In this episode: 

• The old Rat Pack vs. the new Rat Faces 
• Who would you rather: Henry Cavill or twink Timothee Chalamet? 
• Is hormonal birth control destroying women’s ability to choose masculine men? 
• The only “toxic” masculinity is the LACK of it
• Casting directors can’t even find masculine looking young actors anymore 
• Are we all being gay-frog boiled? 
• How to avoid xenoestrogens
• Building dopamine and testosterone naturally 
• Coming out of anti-masculine programming and the resurgence of the manly man 
• Using sexual energy to increase your masculine power 

COMING TOGETHER FOR COUPLES SALON

For more on how to build your masculine smolder—and for your woman to cultivate her feminine surrender—check out my Coming Together for Couples Salon which opens in early April. 

We deep dive into all things masculine and feminine energies to create the hottest sexual polarity and chemistry. 

In the meantime, you can signup for my free Coming Together 7-Day Sex Cleanse. 
 
 Each day, you’ll receive an email with an assignments to deepen into each other, sexually and emotionally.

Side effects of this Sex Cleanse may include: 

~ Ejaculate-soaked bed sheets

~ Broken bed frames

~ Being fully energized by each other's life force energy

~ Clearing of relationship blocks

~ Stronger stamina

~ Feelings of safety and security

~ Sky-rocketing libidos

Signup today.
https://kimanami.com/lovers

Hell hath no fury like a woman underf**ked. When you have an underf**ked woman on your hands, you’ll know it. 

Because she’ll MAKE you know it. It will be loud and clear. 

Her underf**ked behavior is a cry for help. A cry, which distinctly says “F**K ME.”

Men THIS is your job. THIS is your raison d’être. 

So… how do you f**k her? Do her moods merit different techniques? Indeed they do. 

I’ve got you. In this episode: 

• Signs your woman is underf**ked 
• Which orifice and when? 
• Sex is medicine. Oral is medicine. Anal is medicine. 
• Throat-gasms for the win 
• What to do when your woman nags and belittles you 
• Ideal frequency of sex 
• Ideal duration of sex 
• What to f**k IN and what to f**k OUT of each other
• Junk food vs. gourmet sex 

The Coming Together Salon for Couples is coming soon! In this 10-week online salon you’ll learn:

• How to harness the healing and creative power of your sexual energy
• Sexual reflexology maps of the genitals
• My sexual position prescription guide
• The full orgasmapedia—all of the life-changing vaginal orgasms for women
• Superstar stamina techniques for men to last for hours and how to orgasm without ejaculation.

The salon begins in April. In the meantime, signup for my FREE 7-Day Sex Cleanse and to be notified when the salon opens for registration.

https://kimanami.com/lovers

Being a well-f**ked couple isn’t all fun and games, you know. There are some serious issues that come to pass, and I’m here to help you through them.

In this episode: 

• The 5 biggest well-f**ked couple problems
• Navigating life and hotel rooms with a prolific squirter 
• Which private island to have your sex weeks at 
• What to do when people keep throwing cash at you 
• Dumping your underf**ked friends: it’s okay. You’ll find new, well-f**ked ones in Anami Land 
• Setting and keeping the bar high: your moral and ethical responsibility to guide the underf**ked out of their morass and stupor of underf**ked blindness and into the light 

We can get through this. Together. 

 
***

Signup for the free 7-Day Sex Cleanse

A weeklong sex date. Anami-Style. Each day, you'll receive homeplay to deepen into each other emotionally and sexually.

Side effects of this 7-Day Sex Cleanse may include: 

• Ejaculate-soaked bed sheets
• Broken bed frames
• Being fully energized by each other's life force energy
• Clearing of relationship blocks
• Stronger stamina
• Increasing trust, intimacy and openness
• Sky-rocketing libidos

Signup here.

https://kimanami.com/lovers

Someone alerted the “All women need HRT!” community that I put up an apparently oh-so controversial post: 

That I don’t take HRT. 

They came RUNNING. 

A gang of underf**ked orcs, rabid, foaming at the mouth, grunting and panting, clambering over the hills and mountains to arrive at my page and tell me HOW DANGEROUS IT WAS THAT I WASN’T TAKING HRT AND I WAS SO LUCKY THAT I DIDN’T HAVE SYMPTOMS AND JUST WAIT UNTIL MY VAGINA FALLS OFF. 

In true Anami-style, I took down each of these underf**ked orcs one-by-one. 

We even held a “Who wore it better/ who would you rather f**k” poll?” 

Frumpy HRT doctor or Hot asf no-HRT Kim Anami? 

In this episode: 

• Whiners get bitch-slapped.
• Are menopause and perimenopause entirely Nocebo effect? 
• The New Yorker columnist who “racismed” me 
• Is simply “being a woman” a lifelong pathology that requires medicating from puberty until death? 
• Is Serena Williams a great tennis player because she’s lucky?
• A crash course is standing your ground against mindless, NPC, underf**ked orcs 
• A woman who knows how to live in a female body: me 
• Victims vs. victors. Whining vs. winning 
• Being well-f**ked makes you wittier, smarter and hotter. It’s just a fact. 
• It also makes you not get menopause symptoms 

My original post that started all the controversy:

https://www.instagram.com/p/DUQ41LgkQrd/?igsh=MWVmNDBzdzY3MThhdg==

My responses to the underf**ked orcs:
https://www.instagram.com/p/DUlnn2ejxmU/?igsh=MWl1MjR4ZDJyOXdtNg==
https://www.instagram.com/reel/DUqqrIQEfrZ/?igsh=MW00MzJ5c3o3bzR6Zw==

Check out my new Psychedelic Menopause Substack: 
https://psychedelicmenopause.substack.com

Signup for my upcoming Psychedelic Menopause Salon waitlist: 
http://kimanami.com/psychedelic-menopause 

Listening to the wisdom of the body and healing thyself is the ultimate flex. Not your peptide and supplement stack.

In an era of every biohacker selling their supplements and peptide stack, every integrative and regular physician flogging their HRT and TRT, I’m not even remotely interested in their offerings.

What’s always fascinated me, is the idea that I can source this healing power from within.

Taking a pill or a drug?

Not a flex, in my world.

It’s the opposite—dependency and a cop-out.

The sales pitch that you need a medication, supplement or machine in order to feel good, forever and ever—and you can’t ever be without it?

This is the ultimate snake oil.

I’m inspired by the notion that we have the power to heal ourselves.

Everyone can.

THIS is the true flex in my world and in Anami Land:

 Connecting with our own bodies and highest wisdom as the oracle. As allies.

 Rather than an enemy and something to be subjugated.

Today’s episode is a replay of the Insta Live I did last week, with an additional introduction from me. We talk: 

• A body glossary of reproductive issues and their symbolic meanings
• Exiting the “age of apology” and normalizing greatness. Not me though, muthafukkas, I never apologized. Unless you count this, the greatest non-apology EVAH! 
• Winning, not whining 
• Vaginal electrocution and lube forever OR being hot as fuck and rocking bikinis and surfing big waves at age 55. You choose.
• Body-positivity vaginas and cocks or superior, cosmically enlightened ones
• The slow tiptoe and MLM scheme of outsourcing reproductive power, starting with Pap Smears and “abnormal cells” and ending in C-sections 
• The root cause of ailments like incontinence, IVF, PCOS, difficult periods and menopause 
• Why didn’t her Oura ring stop her from having a C-section? It knows everything, right? 
• Abortion-rabid “feminists” as the most self-oppressed women in society 
• Flute-playing, articulate vaginas that make a man ejaculate or stop him from ejaculating—the ultimate “flex” 
• Shooting ping pong balls is the normal, healthy baseline and minimum skill for all vaginas 

To receive access to my FREE masterclass: We Are the Elite! We Are Kung Fu Vaginas, click here.