We're passionate about the intersection of faith, family, and finances.

It's at the core of pretty much everything we do here at Family Teams.

So when we get a chance to sit down with someone else who's passionate about the same things, we love to trade notes and benefit from their wisdom.

Today we're joined by Derrick Kinney, the "easy-to-understand money guy", who helps families reach their first million.

Derrick has a lot of practical advice both financially but perhaps more importantly, on how to develop deep family unity, build a generous family culture, and relieve yourself (as a Christian) from the burden of money shame and conflict.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 The Intersection of Faith, Family, and Finances

1:19 How To Do An Annual Sabbatical

9:04 Waiting For Generosity?

13:40 Christians Are Deeply Conflicted About Money

19:47 Backing Yourself Into A Commitment

25:14 Keeping Family Unity High

Resources Mentioned:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/derrickkinney/

Newsletter: https://successforadvisors.myflodesk.com/winyouridealclients

5 Days To Transform Your Family FREE Course: https://familyteams.com/transform

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

We've mentioned Erica Komisar multiple times on this podcast, so it's a great pleasure to be able to interview her on today's episode.

Erica is a mother, clinical social worker, psychoanalyst, parent coach, and author. She is particularly known for her defense of motherhood and a woman's instinct to mother against our very anti-family culture.

This conversation gave a lot of scientific background to a lot of what we talk about here at Family Teams, as well as extremely helpful practical wisdom for parents today.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Intro

0:19 The Instinct of a Mother

3:00 The Value of Guilt

6:38 The Nature of Empathy

11:32 "Parenting" vs "Mothering"

19:45 The Fragility of Young Boys

25:17 3 Traditions

32:05 Why It's Important To Call This Injustice

34:38 Multigenerational Family As The Answer?

40:34 The Cost of Conflict and Speaking Up

Resources Mentioned:

Erica's Website: https://www.ericakomisar.com/

Being There by Erica Komisar: https://www.amazon.com/dp/0143109294/

Free 5 Day Course to Transform Your Family Into A Team: https://familyteams.com/transform

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

If you spend any time in conservative Christian circles, you're going to think we're absolutely nuts for saying this.

Nuclear family is NOT the answer?

No. It's not. It's not even close to biblical.

And no, we're not advocating for some new invention that makes us no different than the culture we swim in.

We believe that God created a much different family unit than the nuclear family, and that the nuclear family is an insane, extremely modern design.

In this episode, we'll break down why the nuclear family isn't actually God's design, what IS His design, and how to live it out at home.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Is The Nuclear Family God's Original Design?

1:29 Is The Nuclear Family "Insanity"?

10:44 Why Is The Church Falling For This?

11:44 Stay At Home Moms Are NOT In The Bible

Resources Mentioned:

FREE 5 Day Course To Transform Your Family Into A Team: https://familyteams.com/transform

Family Inc: https://familyteams.com/inc

Take Back Your Family by Jeff Bethke: https://www.amazon.com/dp/1400221765/

Adam Lane Smith on Lila Rose: https://youtu.be/03tF_RtnRRo?si=dTsNS8L0VcarnOeT

The Charismatic Calvinist Reel: https://www.instagram.com/reels/DXWwXfPAZAF/

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

Do most men need fatherhood to become the man God wants for them to be?

The conversation around becoming a father is getting framed these days as a "lifestyle choice".

But...

That's ridiculous.

Fatherhood is one of the hardest things you can do, which means it fits in perfectly with how God reveals meaning to us.

You have to go through the Cross to get to the Resurrection.

So why are so many men choosing to forego the incredible, meaningful, and yes, difficult journey of fatherhood?

There are a few people who are connecting a couple of dots here in the secular culture, including Chris Williamson of Modern Wisdom, so in this episode, we react to a few viral takes on fatherhood, and connect ALL the dots to understand God's design for family.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Do Men Need Fatherhood?

1:23 Chris Williamson on Family

11:14 How The Message About Family Got So Distorted

12:46 Richard Reeves: Why Fatherhood Is So Important For Men

18:45 The Cost If We Keep Going Down This Path

26:06 Wealth as Relationships

Resources Mentioned:

Modern Wisdom Clip: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oVe38uG4CKU&t=86s

Richard Reeves Clip: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DYVjR73J1Rb/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link&igsh=NTc4MTIwNjQ2YQ==

Andrew Bagley Clip: https://www.instagram.com/reels/DVHB3raCday/

Integrated for Christian, Business-Owning, Fathers: https://familyteams.com/integrated

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

You're busy. You have young kids. You feel like you're barely keeping your head above water most days.

How in the world are you supposed to fulfill the Great Commission as a family?

This is the question that keeps so many Christian families stuck in survival mode, never stepping into the missional calling God has for them.

Mark and Michelle Tiderman have cracked the code on this. With 4 kids ranging from 10 to 18, they've built a family culture where mission isn't an add-on, it's integrated into everything they do.

And the best part? Their approach is so practical and accessible that ANY family can start implementing it today.

In this episode, Mark and Michelle share how they've coached youth sports, served their neighbors, hosted open dinners, and built deep gospel conversations with people in their community, all while raising their kids to see mission as a normal part of life.

You'll learn why your kids are actually an ASSET to your mission (not a liability), how to transition from serving people to sharing the gospel with them, and why focusing on faithfulness over impact changes everything.

If you've been wondering what your family team is actually supposed to DO, this episode will give you the clarity and practical steps you need.

On this episode, we talk about:

00:00:00 Intro

00:00:50 What Is A Family Team Supposed To Do?

00:05:52 How God Chooses Your Trajectory...Through Your Kids

00:09:50 From Service To Sharing The Gospel

00:14:44 Does Mission Detract From Family?

00:16:37 Partnering

00:18:47 Faithfulness Over Impact

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

What is most missing in Christian parenting today, as we barrel headlong into the rapidly changing unknown of a broken culture?

Courage.

That's the hypothesis of Isaac and Angie Tolpin, who have spent decades making courageous choices raising their 9 children and walking out God's calling on their life.

Guys this was such an inspirational episode. The Tolpin's ministry, Be Courageous, is so well aligned with Family Teams, and their message is so needed at this particular moment in time.

You will love this episode, packed full of diagnosing why family and culture are here and what to do about it, but also very practical and balanced biblical parenting, marriage, business, and life wisdom that you can put into practice today.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Intro

0:22 Refugees From PNW Family Culture

3:27 You vs. The Generations

7:43 The Provision Tension With Lots of Kids

13:31 Being A Wife and Mother of a Courageous Husband

18:01 How Dads Can Integrate Their Family In Their Work

27:15 Protecting Kids From Technological Creep

35:01 The AI + Parenting Challenge

41:01 The Key To Courage

Resources Mentioned:

Courageous Parenting by Isaac and Angie Tolpin: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0H378533C/

Be Courageous Ministry: https://www.becourageousministry.org/

Be Courageous App: https://www.becourageousministry.org/app

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

My 17 year old daughter Kaira just spoke at the national speech tournament in Minneapolis, where her speech was 10th in the nation.

I thought she absolutely nailed the idea of family as a team, and the main tool she's seen our family use to truly create this as a reality in our multi-generational family.

If you've ever wondered what our kids truly think about this stuff - if it actually lands with them and impacts them - I think this shows just how much they're picking up.

Plus, it's a succinct and amazingly delivered argument for our number 1 tool that we recommend to all family teams.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Intro

0:33 The US Has Become Number 1 (Uh Oh)

2:11 The 3 Words That Broke Western Family

3:21 How To Fix The Family

5:40 Practical Wins

7:45 Practical Tips To Start This Today

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Resources Mentioned:

FREE COURSE: 5 Days To Transform Your Family Into A Team: https://familyteams.com/transform

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

Should we as Christian parents really aim to be kicking our kids out of our home as soon as they turn 18?

This is an EXTREMELY cultural - not Biblical - idea, yet I meet SO many Christians who believe the lie.

Instead of taking the 3 obvious milestones the Bible talks about when it comes to maturing children and our roles as mothers and fathers, we just swallow the cultural lie, hook, line, and sinker, and then wonder what went wrong.

In this episode, we break down the actual lie, where it came from, and then give you the TRUTH of scripture to wield against a culture that wants to destroy families...in this case, especially by taking kids out of the home as quickly as possible and leaving no space for a multigenerational family to form.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Intro

0:49 Does This Actually Shift at 18?

19:39 Myron Golden on 18

23:30 The 3 Biblical Milestones

30:20 Milestone 1

39:30 Milestone 2

48:10 Milestone 3

53:08 Where To Find The Answer

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

99% of the Evangelical Christian world gets this wrong, and it's absolutely destroying our families.

We've fallen into the trap of thinking of the family in secular terms, instead of looking at the Bible and asking what God's vision was for the family, since HE created it.

In this episode I break down 3 of the main critiques against the modern family, and go into the 3 promises of building your family like a TEAM instead of a group of individuals.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 99% Get This Wrong

0:50 The 3 Critiques of the Modern Family

3:49 What Are We Aiming At?

5:29 How Did God Design Family?

12:03 3-Fold Promise of the Family

Resources Mentioned:

FREE "5 Days To Transform Your Family Into A Team" Mini Course: https://familyteams.com/transform

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

The family compound...

This is such a hot button topic, and often a very emotional topic.

So, we decided to look at 2 competing visions (Willie Robertson vs. Dave Ramsey) and break them down with a nuanced conversation.

Jeremy and Jeff have experienced this first-hand, so they're talking about this from lived experience and hard-earned wisdom.

Should you actually try to build a family compound?

Why or why not?

What questions should you answer first?

How do you know if it'll be a good idea?

Listen to this and see how close the tear-jerking dream is to reality for your family.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 Why Family Compounds Are Amazing

4:01 Why Family Compounds Are Terrible

11:47 It Doesn't Just Happen

14:56 The Grandmother Dream

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!

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Andrew Bagley of the Visible Hand says children didn't get expensive...they got unnecessary.

And his argument is right on.

This sounds insulting at first, but watch the clip and you'll understand.

The problem is, he breaks down the problem brilliantly...but doesn't give a solution.

Not only that, but you'll hear it screamed from the rooftops: "children really ARE too expensive!"

So what are you supposed to do about it?

Risk the regret of not having kids? Only have 1 child?

We don't think so.

We want to equip you to live out the Biblical vision for family, which usually includes having kids early and often.

How?

One key shift in how you see family.

Listen until the end to hear our solution, but make sure you truly understand the REAL problem first, without just accepting clickbait headlines about kids costing $300,000 or whatever.

On this episode, we talk about:

0:00 $300,000 Kids?

4:42 Is More Choice Always Better?

10:10 Not A Single-Player Game

13:01 Family vs. Lifestyle Optimization

16:26 Why God Actually Created Family

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Hi, welcome to the Family Teams podcast! Our goal here is to help your family become a multigenerational team on mission by providing you with Biblically rooted concepts, tools and rhythms! Your hosts are Jeremy Pryor and Jefferson Bethke. Make sure to subscribe on Apple, Spotify, or YouTube so you don't miss out on future episodes!