In this episode, Brett breaks down why so many driven people feel behind, overwhelmed, or like they’re never doing enough — even when they’re already working hard, carrying responsibility, and trying to do things the right way.

He talks about how easy it is to get pulled into the performative bullshit people post online, start comparing your real life to someone else’s curated season, and let your attention get hijacked by things that have nothing to do with your actual priorities.

This episode is not about lowering your standards or giving yourself an excuse to coast. It’s about getting honest about what matters most right now, protecting your attention, killing the noise, and making sure your energy is going toward the things that can actually move your life, business, relationships, health, or purpose forward.

Brett walks through seven practical reminders for getting back on track when you feel overloaded:

1.⁠ ⁠Audit your inputs
2.⁠ ⁠Stop turning other people’s seasons into your standards
3.⁠ ⁠Find the real needle mover
4.⁠ ⁠Create more selfish moments
5.⁠ ⁠Kill more low-value obligations
6.⁠ ⁠Lower the scope without lowering the standard
7.⁠ ⁠Get back into your own life

If you’ve been overthinking, comparing, carrying too many open loops, or feeling like everyone else has it more figured out than you do, this episode is a direct reminder to return to your own priorities and stop letting everything act like it deserves equal access to you.

 

What You’ll Learn:

 

•⁠ ⁠ How to filter what deserves your attention

•⁠ ⁠ How to shield yourself from distracting noise

•⁠ ⁠ Tips for creating stronger boundaries

•⁠ ⁠ Why more selfish moments are a good thing

 

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In this episode, Brett breaks down some of the most common mistakes speakers and presenters make—and why those mistakes usually have nothing to do with intelligence or expertise.

Most people don’t struggle because they’re unprepared or because they don’t know their material. They struggle because communication is more nuanced than that. Human attention is limited. Interpretation is messy. And if your message isn’t clear, structured, and relevant, even good ideas get lost.

Brett walks through practical ways to distill your message, flesh out your core concept without rambling, and avoid the kinds of mistakes that make audiences tune out. He also shares several exercises to help you stop overthinking, get clearer on what you actually want to say, and communicate in a way that better connects with the people in front of you—whether you’re speaking to athletes, executives, students, clients, or a general audience.

You’ll also hear how many speakers unintentionally self-sabotage through overexplaining, trying to say too much, or assuming that because something makes sense in their head, it’ll automatically land with others.

If you want to become a more effective speaker, presenter, coach, or communicator—this episode gives you practical tools you can use right away.

For more on this—and to actually practice these skills with real-time coaching and feedback—join us for Art of Coaching Speaker School on May 16–17 in Phoenix, Arizona.

Go to artofcoaching.com/speaker for details.

  What You’ll Learn:  

•⁠  ⁠How to distill your message so you can actually connect with your audience

•⁠ ⁠ How to flesh out your idea so you feel like you got your knowledge across

•⁠ ⁠ Exercises to help you stop overthinking and get more clarity

•⁠ ⁠ How to avoid self-sabotaging when you speak or present

 

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It’s one of the most common ways that intelligent, thoughtful people can end up sending mixed signals and unintentionally cause misunderstandings. 

And the irony is that the people who do it most often are usually the ones who care a great deal about being thorough, guiding others, teaching, and not being misunderstood. 

In this episode, Brett breaks down the root causes of over-explaining and offers advice on how to both curb it and leverage it when it’s actually appropriate. 

Most importantly, you’re going to get strategies that can help you in the workplace, when presenting to others, or simply to help you clarify and simplify your own thoughts so your credibility is never undermined.

 

What You’ll Learn   • The most common causes of over-explaining so you can recognize it in yourself   • Tactics you can use both proactively and retroactively — in the moment and after the fact   • Circumstances where over-explaining can actually help you, and how to know the difference   • Strategies for distilling your message so it lands the first time

 

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In this episode, Brett fulfills the request of a listener who asked him to go through some of his biggest gold nuggets — some of the one-liners, some of the distilled raw material that has mattered and inspired him the most over the years.

Whether that had to do with communication, power dynamics, self-awareness — all the things he’s learned in those kinds of contexts — that’s what you’re going to get in this episode.

Brett lists off some of the quotes and one-liners he loves most, that he constantly goes back to, and gives some context around why they still hold up.

If you enjoyed this episode or those like it, you’re going to love Brett’s next book.

Go to artofcoaching.com/book to preorder your copy of The Antihero Advantage — Brett’s latest work with Portfolio/Penguin Random House.

  What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Why certain people rationalize their behavior even when it goes against their own values   ∙ The flaw most people make when trying to get lasting buy-in   ∙ How perception influences credibility and expertise — and what to do about it   ∙ Why doubling down on who you are is your biggest competitive advantage

 

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We’ve all had somebody in our life we genuinely wanted to help — but couldn’t seem to get through to. Maybe they’re going through a rough season. Maybe they seem shut down.

Maybe they’re stuck in a pattern they can’t see. Sometimes that person’s been us.

This episode digs into what’s actually happening when someone won’t let you in, why logic almost never changes behavior, and what to do instead.

We cover why most people default to the wrong influence tactics when they’re trying to reach someone, what people are really protecting when they put up walls, and how comparison — even when it comes from a good place — can make the problem worse.

If you’ve ever said “they’re just not motivated” about someone you care about, this one’s going to reframe that for you.

 

“If you or someone you know is struggling with depression or thoughts of suicide, please seek professional help. You can reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline anytime by calling or texting 988.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​“

  What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Strategies for breaking through when someone seems despondent or completely shut down   ∙ What to check yourself on when you catch yourself problem-solving instead of connecting   ∙ ⁠The one influence strategy you’re probably relying on too much — and why it’s making things worse

 

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Most people have spent years studying feedback — the frameworks, the techniques, the dos and don'ts. But almost nobody has ever been asked one simple question before receiving it: How do you want feedback?

That's the focus of today's episode. Brett breaks down why this single question might be the most underrated communication tool in your arsenal — and why it works on a level most people never think about.

It's not a hack. It's not a trick. It's old-style values that the noise of modern leadership advice has buried. And once you start using it, you'll wonder why you ever walked into a feedback conversation without it.

  What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Why most feedback conversations fail before a single word is spoken.   ∙ How one question disarms defensiveness and gives you useful intel at the same time.   ∙ ⁠The difference between catering to someone's preferences and surrendering to them.   ∙ Why this is power dynamics in action — and why that's a good thing.

 

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For myself and a lot of other people, it seems like folks are getting more and more unprofessional. Not just individuals — organizations too. 

 

People hide behind screens. They don’t want to have real conversations, and it chews up time and wastes energy.

 

You’ve got to find a way to get past that in today’s world.

 

So today we do a broad ranging Q&A on how to be assertive when you need to be — whether you’re dealing with a lazy contractor, a business that didn’t deliver, or just trying to get out of your own head. 

 

How to frame conversations whether they’re over email or in person, so you decrease the likelihood of things escalating. How to take the governor off, say what you need to say with a clear, assertive message, and maintain your composure in the process.

 

What You’ll Learn:   ∙ How to say the hard thing without over-explaining, apologizing for it, or walking it back   ∙ Why most people mistake conflict avoidance for kindness — and what it's actually costing them in their relationships, career and credibility   ∙ How to deal with people who are unprofessional or hide behind screens instead of having a real conversation   ∙ How to stop overthinking

 

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In this episode, Brett breaks down many of the themes that rarely get addressed in modern leadership conversations.

He talks about power dynamics, internal and external conflict, and what it actually looks like to lead when the situation isn’t clean or clear.

That includes navigating manipulative behavior, managing seemingly no-win situations, and making decisions that can carry real personal and professional ramifications.

The situations faced can tempt you to soften your standards or drift into people-pleasing just to keep external stakeholders satisfied.

Brett explores how to avoid that trap, how to read the room more accurately, and how to assess what’s really going on beneath the surface — not just in others, but in yourself.

He also shares an update on his upcoming book with Penguin Random House, which releases December 1, and explains why he chose to focus on the morally gray, psychologically demanding side of influence and leadership.

Preorders are live at artofcoaching.com/book.

  What You’ll Learn:   ∙ The morally gray decisions that challenge your assumptions and beliefs   ∙ How internal conflict can be more destabilizing than external opposition   ∙ The subtle ways leaders drift into people-pleasing to satisfy stakeholders   ∙ Navigating manipulative behavior and seemingly no-win environments

 

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Most people can name a great coach or leader. Far fewer can explain what actually makes one. In this episode, Brett breaks down what separates truly elite coaches and leaders from everyone else—and it's not what most people expect.

From the role of self-awareness to the uncomfortable truth about dark triad personalities who win, Brett challenges the romanticized version of coaching and replaces it with a more honest, battle-tested one. If you work with people in any capacity—athletes, executives, teams—this episode will sharpen how you see the craft and yourself.

  What You’ll Learn:   ∙ The specific traits that separate elite coaches from effective ones   ∙ Why measuring success by wins alone misses the full picture   ∙ Common arguments people make to defend toxic coaching—and why they fall short   ∙ How self-awareness directly impacts a coach's ceiling and longevity

 

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In this episode, I break down the legitimate number one tip you need to understand if you want to present your ideas more effectively — in a way that actually connects with people.

There are a lot of folks out there who’ll tell you how to be a better speaker, then hand you something obvious you probably already knew. And to be clear, I’m not here to demean that kind of advice — some of it is helpful.

But this is different.

From a big-picture strategic lens, this is the one thing that, if you get it wrong, puts you in a bad spot immediately. And if you get it right, it upgrades everything: your clarity, your presence, and how well people actually track with what you’re saying.

For more tips, techniques, and resources to help you communicate more clearly and connect more effectively, go to artofcoaching.com/speaker.

  What You’ll Learn:   ∙ The questions to ask before you present so you actually understand your audience and their real pain points   ∙ How to use this insight in team meetings, tough conversations, and everyday leadership moments   ∙ Some of my favorite strategies for getting out of your own head   ∙ A simple framework to tailor your message and make it more concise

 

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Ever notice someone’s withdrawn, quiet, or clearly bothered—but when you ask “what’s wrong?” they shut down even more? You’re not alone. Most people approach these moments with good intentions but terrible execution, and it backfires every time.   In this episode, Brett breaks down why the classic “what’s wrong?” or “are you okay?” almost never works—and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to frame your approach so people actually feel safe opening up, rather than defensive or interrogated.   What You’ll Learn:   ∙ Why asking “what’s wrong?” triggers defensiveness and makes people clam up   ∙ The psychological principle behind why people withdraw when confronted directly   ∙ How to lead with intent so your concern lands as care, not criticism   ∙ Specific language frameworks to use with a spouse, colleague, or team member who seems off

 

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