I am so excited to be bringing this conversation with repeat guest Addison Bevere to you! Addison is the author of the book Words with God: Trading Boring, Empty Prayer for Real Connection, and his work has really stayed with me since our last discussion. I have, in fact, told so many people about how his heart for faith feels grounded, honest, and alive, and, in this new episode, we talk about his new prayer journal that accompanies his book which is designed as a 40-day invitation to build a more real rhythm with God rather than trying to achieve perfect performance. After all, prayer should not be performative!

One of the themes that keeps coming up throughout our conversation is the idea that prayer isn’t about getting the words right, and I reflect a bit about my own experience learning to slow down and practice rest as a spiritual discipline, something I never really thought much about before. Addison explains how many people feel they are “bad at prayer” because they approach it through shame or expectation rather than connection, and, instead, he frames prayer as simply showing up honestly and paying attention.

We also unpack how quickly our mornings can be hijacked by screens, anxiety, or the pressure to immediately start producing, with Addison sharing a simple but powerful practice: when you wake up, breathe, rest in the moment, and allow your mind and heart to settle before grabbing your phone. He explains how early morning brain states may be uniquely open to reflection, creativity, and spiritual awareness, and I also reflect on how this practice has helped me move from feeling overwhelmed by life’s demands to seeing them as opportunities to respond with love and intention. Addison highlights the importance of writing down fears, burdens, or questions that can help name what we are carrying and create space for clarity.

If you have ever felt unsure how to pray, struggled with slowing down, or longed for a deeper sense of closeness with God, this conversation offers a gentle, practical framework for beginning. I hope that you enjoy this conversation with Addison, and, as always, I would love for you to reach out with your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Welcome Addison Bevere back to the show!

[2:07] - Addison believes that prayer thrives on relationship, not performance, and frees us from shame.

[5:48] - Showing up honestly before God each morning is more important than fighting distraction or cultural pressure.

[8:16] - Addison asserts that morning openness invites rest and awareness, while phone use often replaces calm with anxiety.

[11:02] - Listeners are encouraged to breathe, rest, and avoid phones after waking to help nurture creativity.

[13:24] - Surrendering control each day leads to clarity, compassion, and wisdom.

[16:57] - Addison reminds us that remembering answered prayers and embracing limits helps foster humility, trust, and deeper spiritual growth.

[19:39] - I describe relying on the Holy Spirit to guide parenting and daily conversations for me.

[21:58] - Hear how morning listening helps Addison speak compassionately rather than react from a place of insecurity.

[24:49] - I reflect on how starting the day slowly helps me reflect and reconnect with God and my body.

[25:51] - According to Addison, writing fears or pain gives language to emotions, helping awareness and release.

[27:22] - Hear how anxiety can help signal inner needs, helping discern God’s guidance vs. condemning voices.

[30:44] - True prayer invites closeness with God and others, avoiding religious rigidity.

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Just as a forewarning, this week's episode might be a little bit TMI, but I did mention it coming up in a recent episode – my recent colonoscopy! While I don't get into the especially gritty details, I talk openly with Jesse about my experience because I really wanted to share the full story. I kept hearing from people who were scared of the procedure or avoided it because of what they’d heard about the prep, and I was nervous too, especially after reading all the horror stories online, but I found that preparation and good guidance made a bigger difference than I had expected!

Listen in as I walk you through why I had the procedures in the first place, including my long history with chronic anemia and how my doctors wanted to look for possible root causes rather than just treat symptoms. A big part of the episode is the prep experience because honestly, that’s what people tend to dread the most. However, I talk about starting a low-residue diet days early, sticking to very bland foods, and what it actually felt like to move into the clear-liquids phase. I share how hunger, brain fog, and low energy showed up for me and how surprisingly manageable the laxative process was compared to what I feared. I also mention small practical things that helped such as choosing certain drinks and realizing that some flavors quickly became unappealing once prep started.

I then walk you through the procedure day itself - checking in, getting an IV, anesthesia, and what it felt like waking up after sedation. The sedation was so strong and peaceful that I can understand why people describe it as a really good nap. In fact, I kind of didn't want to wake up! I also reflect on how disorienting that it felt trying to talk afterward when my brain wasn’t putting words together correctly.

I also, of course, touch upon recovery, what my results looked like so far, and why I truly believe that these screenings are worth it, so if you have been afraid of getting a colonoscopy, I really hope that this episode with Jesse makes it feel a lot more approachable!

As always, please feel free to reach out! I would love to hear your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode shares my colonoscopy and endoscopy experience, addressing fear, prep, and cancer detection.

[4:44] - Hear how I underwent procedures mainly because chronic anemia persisted since childhood and pregnancy complications occurred.

[7:16] - Hear how low hemoglobin and ferritin levels led my doctor to recommend colonoscopy and endoscopy for diagnosis.

[10:42] - I reflect on how I began a strict low-residue diet early, avoiding fiber, fruit, vegetables, and acidic foods.

[13:52] - Hear how the clear-liquid phase felt surprisingly difficult, causing intense hunger, weight loss, and constant emptiness.

[16:36] - I share how clear-liquid days drained my energy.

[18:39] - I avoided mixing Miralax with my favorite drinks because prep may have made those drinks unappealing later.

[20:32] - Preparing for laxatives, I found the worst fears exaggerated; one nauseous hour passed and then relief.

[23:49] - Hear how mixing Miralax with Gatorade surprisingly tasted fine, and calories plus electrolytes improved my energy.

[26:00] - I share how I chugged 36 ounces of prep fluid over two hours, experienced mild thirst, and slept mostly well.

[29:43] - I describe how the anesthesiologist warned of a “spicy” feeling before sedation, and I instantly lost consciousness.

[32:47] - Hear how I was completely out under propofol sedation, awakening groggy but unaware of the procedure.

[34:56] - Waking from propofol felt hypnotically peaceful, and my body stayed unusually difficult to rouse.

[37:18] - Hear how I wanted more sleep after waking, felt groggy, spoke coherently, but couldn’t fully process conversation.

[39:27] - Hear how, post-procedure, I was so disoriented that I dropped food in the car but still ate it!

[42:22] - Recovery was quick, and results looked good, although biopsies and stool tests are still pending.

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I have been eagerly looking forward to doing this episode ever since I got my hands on Dr. Lee Warren’s new book, The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery. The title alone had Jesse asking, “Wait… self-brain surgery?” Honestly, I actually had the same thought, but what Lee shares in this conversation completely blew me away. He is a brain surgeon, and he has discovered that the same principles he uses in the operating room can be applied by each of us to literally change our own brains - via our thoughts!

Most of what runs through our minds every day is false, negative, or repetitive, keeping us stuck, but when we intentionally practice new ways of thinking, we can rewire our brains in real time and reshape the life that follows, and, in this episode of The Crystal Paine Show, Lee and I talk about why our culture often convinces us that we are powerless to change, why 80% of our thoughts are false, and how the simple act of noticing and choosing our thoughts can literally transform our neurochemistry, our bodies, and our perspective!

Lee and I dive into practical tools - from prayer and meditation to quiet reflection - that help filter out the noise and build mental habits that help make us calmer, more resilient, and more intentional. We also explore the deeply human side of change - the grief, loss, and impossible days that can feel like they could crush us. Listen in as Lee shares his personal story of losing his son and welcoming a grandchild on the same day and how recognizing that two truths can exist at once (joy and sorrow) was life-giving and transformative.

Tune in this week and see how science and scripture beautifully reinforce each other and how small, consistent actions can rebuild your mind, your habits, and your hope. If you have ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or powerless to change your thoughts and your life, then this episode will very likely challenge you, encourage you, and give you hope that real change isn’t just possible; it’s built into how you’re wired!

As always, please feel free to reach out! I would love to hear your thoughts!

In This Episode

[0:35] - Welcome to the show, Dr. Lee Warren, author of The Life-Changing Art of Self-Brain Surgery!

[1:13] - Lee argues that our thoughts physically influence our brains, giving us real agency over our lives.

[4:46] - It's important to pause to examine thoughts because doing so allows for rational thinking to replace fear and rewires healthier habits.

[7:21] - I reflect on how replacing false, negative thoughts with truth changed my brain, behavior, and parenting.

[8:31] - What we focus on filters our perception, giving us responsibility over how life appears to us.

[10:56] - Lee explains how consistently practicing positive focus rewires the brain - building calm, wise, and grounded habits.

[14:38] - Lee argues that healing ultimately comes from focusing on the future, not dwelling on past trauma or suffering.

[18:02] - Trauma breaks beliefs, not you, and small courageous actions retrain the brain for resilience!

[21:31] - Lee has learned how deep sorrow and real beauty can exist simultaneously, revealing hope even in darkness.

[24:10] - I point out how many face a pit of grief where summoning the strength to act feels impossible.

[25:07] - Hear how, for Lee, necessity forced action, showing how focused thoughts instantly change neurochemistry and emotional response.

[28:28] - Lee explains how changing your thoughts intentionally produces real-time brain and body changes, proving that mental rewiring is literal.

[30:05] - Lee and I discuss how you can only control your own responses and perspective, not others or circumstances.

[31:45] - Ultimately, you can only control yourself, not others or circumstances.

[33:19] - Lee reminds us that emotions are chemical events, not facts, and controlling your thoughts directs your emotional response.

[35:22] - Recognizing your agency in daily choices shifts perspective and builds gratitude for what you can control.

[36:35] - Lasting change requires lifelong practice and retraining learned patterns to create healthier mental habits!

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This week on The Crystal Paine Show, I want to talk about something that has unexpectedly changed my life this year - what I jokingly call my “grandma hobbies era.” When I first shared that phrase online, it stirred up more feelings than I ever expected. Some people really loved it, but some were really bothered by it. For me, it’s a playful way to describe something deeply meaningful: choosing activities that slow me down, calm my body, and help me feel present again!

Two years ago, if I had heard myself talking about puzzles, watercoloring, baking, or crocheting a scarf, I probably would have thought something had gone very wrong. Back then, my life was full of adrenaline, constant urgency, and never-ending to-do lists. I didn’t realize how tightly I was living until I started to loosen my grip, and with the encouragement of my functional medicine doctor, I began intentionally creating space - working fewer hours, building in white space, and letting go of the need to always be “on,” and in that space, I found myself drawn to simple, creative things that didn’t demand anything from me other than just my attention.

Listen in this episode as Jesse and I open up honestly about what it has been like to step out of fight mode and learn how to rest, and I share how scary it felt to reduce my work hours as the CEO of a company, how much anxiety that stirred up, and how it revealed an idol of control that I hadn't even realized I had. I also share the surprising ways that God met me in that place - financially, emotionally, and spiritually - when I ultimately chose to trust instead of hustle.

Jesse and I also talk about what it feels like when your calendar finally has breathing room, when your to-do list doesn’t fill the page, and when people start to feel like opportunities instead of interruptions. We laugh about puzzles, sourdough, and my very flexible relationship with recipes, but even more than that, we talk about what it means to live from a calmer place and show up more fully to the people and work we love!

Please tune in this week, especially if you are tired, running on adrenaline, or craving a slower, richer way to live. Maybe it’s time to find your own version of a “grandma hobby.” I hope that this conversation encourages you, and, as always, I would love to hear from you, so please feel free to reach out!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode is about how the phrase “grandma hobbies” is a playful, positive term for calming activities that have unexpectedly improved my life!

[3:07] - I talk about how leaning into energizing “grandma hobbies” helps me re-regulate my nervous system and move out of constant fight mode.

[6:44] - Jesse and I discuss how living constantly in fight-or-flight exhausts the body because it was designed only for short-term survival.

[7:30] - I explain how calming, repetitive hobbies redirect my focus and gently regulate my nervous system without adrenaline or urgency.

[9:42] - I reflect on how letting go of rigid rules revealed how I was addicted to adrenaline and uneasy with newly open space.

[11:11] - Hear how cutting back hours exposed my fear, control, and misplaced belief that success depended solely on me.

[14:40] - I argue how choosing trust over hustle showed me that rest, not control, leads to freedom.

[17:26] - Hear how working less has made my life richer, calmer, and more present across work, relationships, and creativity.

[20:28] – Jesse and I talk about how working fewer hours has improved my energy, sleep quality, and overall well-being by preventing constant exhaustion.

[21:31] - Jesse and I discuss how intentional stillness via simple, calming activities helps restore awareness, reduce stress, and regulate the nervous system!

[24:36] - I am finding that simple creative hobbies create space, restore calm, and help me show up with joy and love!

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Several years ago, Lindsey Maestas challenged me to see Jesse not as another task on my never-ending list but rather as a person again - a moment that stuck with me, and in this season of raising a big family and carrying a lot of weight, I realized how easily my marriage had slipped to the back burner. So for this episode, I invited Lindsey on to talk about what it really looks like to choose your marriage when life is busy or you are tired, hurting, or feeling like life is difficult.

Using her book Don’t Burn Your House Down as the basis of our conversation, Lindsey and I talk about the quiet disappointments that build up such as when a gift feels impersonal or you feel completely unseen and why those moments often point to deeper needs, not deal-breakers. Lindsey shares why love doesn’t “just happen,” how unspoken expectations create distance, and what to do when your spouse hears your requests as criticism or failure. We uncover the anxious–avoidant cycle, the danger of keeping emotional receipts, and why fighting fire with fire only burns the house down even faster.

One of my favorite parts of this episode is honestly when we shift away from heavy conversations and talk about rebuilding friendship. Laughter, play, small acts of service, and even silly moments can soften hearts in ways that words sometimes can’t, and Lindsay explains the power of what she calls “micro attractions” - the tiny daily choices that quietly say, “I see you.” We also talk about why trying to change your spouse almost never works and how real change begins when you look honestly at yourself.

This conversation is for anyone who feels lonely in their marriage, overwhelmed by life, or just wants to build a stronger marriage. It’s not about pretending things are fine but rather about choosing hope, humility, and connection again, even when it feels easier to quit.

In This Episode

[0:35] - Join me in welcoming Lindsey Maestas, author of Don’t Burn Your House Down!

[2:34] - Lindsey believes that love and connection in marriage require daily, intentional choices, even during difficult periods.

[4:30] - Despite struggles, couples can find hope, tools, and renewed commitment in marriage.

[7:29] - Lindsey has seen how small daily disappointments reveal deeper needs for care, attention, and consideration.

[9:20] - While you can't change my spouse, you can choose to love and communicate well.

[11:48] - Lindsey has learned that conflict often stems from unspoken expectations, and clarity requires open explanation.

[14:15] - Our anxious–avoidant patterns trap us, and breaking them requires addressing and naming the cycle.

[17:05] - Lindsey asserts that rebuilding friendship, play, and shared joy often reconnects hearts more than repeated conversations.

[20:16] - I add how, amid daily chaos, couples need to remember to nurture joy and play in their marriage.

[21:14] - Hear how fighting fire with fire fuels resentment, whereas forgiveness and grace restore connection.

[24:19] - Ultimately, marriage reveals our flaws and calls us to become more like Christ.

[27:14] - Shifting expectations from spouse to God relieves pressure and highlights small acts of love.

[29:02] - Lindsey explains how micro gestures such as noticing, serving, and affirming help build the strongest foundation in marriage.

[32:00] - Lindsey points out how letting go of resentment can lead to relational growth.

[34:00] - Becoming our best selves honors God, strengthens marriage, and revitalizes energy and joy.

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Join me and Jesse this week as I share what it has actually been like wearing a continuous glucose monitor as a non-diabetic, why I decided to try it, and what I’ve learned about my body in the process. It all starts in the middle of a very real “snowpocalypse” with canceled plans, sick kids, and a scrapped anniversary trip, which somehow turned into the perfect time to slow down, rest, and pay closer attention to my health!

I walk you through the basics of what a continuous glucose monitor is, how the non-medical versions work, and why my functional medicine doctor encouraged me to use one for a few months. I also dig into why I chose the brand that I did, what it cost, how easy it was to install and remove, and what it actually feels like to wear one day to day. (It’s way less intense than I expected, and I forgot it was even there most of the time!)

The real value for me, though, has been the data. Seeing my blood sugar in real time completely changed how I think about food, especially carbs, protein, and movement. Listen in as I share how I assumed that I had major blood sugar issues only to find out that my levels were actually pretty stable and that most of my past “crashes” were likely from under-eating and not getting enough protein. I break down the biggest patterns that I noticed such as why carb-only snacks spike my blood sugar, why starting meals with protein matters, and how even a short walk after eating can make a measurable difference.

Jesse and I also get into some surprisingly practical discoveries such as why eating the same foods in a different order changes the outcome, how workouts affect glucose levels, and why three muffins in one evening sounded fun but did not feel great later. This episode isn’t about perfection or rules. No; it’s about curiosity, small experiments, and using real feedback from my own body to make better choices, so if you have ever wondered how your habits actually impact your energy, focus, or overall health, then this episode is basically me being your guinea pig so you don’t have to be! Tune in, and, as always, I would love to hear from you, so please feel free to reach out!

In This Episode

[0:35] - We’re in the middle of a snowstorm, prepped for possible power loss!

[3:30] - Hear how my anniversary with Jesse was planned, but Micah suddenly complained of ear pain before we could leave.

[4:41] - Hear how both kids tested positive for strep, with Micah also having COVID and an ear infection.

[7:37] - I discuss how I avoided strep but feel that I might have borderline laryngitis, so I’m resting at home and taking vitamins.

[8:53] - I explain how continuous glucose monitors for non-diabetics give real-time data to help me understand my body.

[11:23] - I chose the Stello monitor because it’s accessible, affordable, and shows data without alarms!

[12:55] - The sensor is easy to insert, a tiny filament under the skin, not a needle.

[16:24] - Hear how the monitor sits in fluid around my muscle, stays secure with tape, and is barely noticeable!

[18:01] - I discuss how my device lasted nine days, was easy to remove, and unexpectedly revealed stable blood sugar.

[20:04] - I explain how eating consistently, especially protein first, stabilizes my blood sugar, while carb-only snacks cause spikes.

[22:48] - Eating carbs alone spikes my blood sugar unless I exercise immediately afterward.

[24:25] - Hear how I learned that eating protein first stabilizes blood sugar, whereas carb-first meals cause spikes.

[27:12] - I explain how combining carbs with protein prevents spikes, but carbs alone raise my blood sugar.

[28:45] - Hear how moving shortly after meals helps stabilize blood sugar, especially if I first eat carbs.

[31:45] - The order of eating foods such as protein before vegetables significantly affects blood sugar.

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Trust me, you are not going to want to miss this episode’s honest and vulnerable conversation with Stephen McWhirter, author of the memoir Radically Restored: How Knowing Jesus Heals Our Brokenness. I have really been looking forward to sharing this episode because his story is raw, unsettling at times, and deeply hopeful, and it challenged me in ways that I couldn't have expected. Listen as Stephen opens up about growing up in a home where faith was loudly preached in public but painfully contradicted in private. We talk about what it does to a child when the person who represents God also causes pain and how that kind of hypocrisy can lead to anger, rebellion, and addiction for years, and Stephen openly shares his long road into substance abuse, the surprising moment when everything began to change, and how his encounter with Jesus didn’t happen in a church pew but rather alone, surrounded by darkness and drugs where grace met him anyway.

Stephen walks us through forgiveness in a unique way, and we talk about abuse, safety, boundaries, and the very real cost of forgiving someone who caused deep wounds, especially when that person is a parent. His story of forgiving his father (not once but over a lifetime) is one of the best parts of the conversation. We also spend some time talking directly to parents, friends, and loved ones who feel helpless watching someone they care about struggle, with Stephen offering hope for those carrying quiet shame, hidden addictions, or unanswered prayers, reminding us that repentance brings things into the light.

If you are wrestling with forgiveness, addiction, trust, or the question of whether God is actually good, then this episode is absolutely for you, and if you’re the one praying for someone else and wondering if it matters, I truly hope that this conversation gives you real hope that restoration is possible, sometimes even in ways that we could never expect or plan for ourselves. Be sure to grab a copy of his book as well!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode is an interview with Stephen McWhirter, author of Radically Restored: How Knowing Jesus Heals Our Brokenness!

[1:39] - Stephen opens up about how his father’s public faith hid private abuse, fueling rebellion and addiction.

[4:18] - Alone with drugs, Stephen realized that salvation required belief, not effort.

[6:57] - Stephen believes that God met him outside church and used his story uniquely.

[10:04] - For Stephen, obediently forgiving his father was unimaginably difficult.

[12:48] - At his father’s deathbed, forgiving him aloud released Stephen and reshaped his understanding of grace.

[15:37] - Stephen argues that forgiveness involves tearing up debt and opening the door to healing.

[17:15] - Stephen asserts that a parent’s words matter most, but peers can powerfully redirect someone who is struggling.

[19:52] - Hear how Stephen longed for honest apologies and repentance because hiding only deepens damage and prevents healing.

[23:12] - Stephen believes that repentance brings hidden sin into light.

[26:13] - Stephen shares how his mother's faith taught him that prayer is active trust, especially when loving someone feels helpless.

[29:50] - Hear how knowing God’s character transformed Stephen's controlling prayers into trust that His will is genuinely good.

[32:16] - Be sure to grab a copy of Stephen's book!

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Welcome to another episode of The Crystal Paine Show! This one is a follow-up to the episode where I shared why I’m not setting goals for 2026, and if you haven’t listened to that one yet, I recommend you do so first because it gives some important context for everything I’m sharing here. Today, Jesse and I give you a peek into my “fun list” - the low-pressure, no-fail, creatively inspired approach I’m taking this year instead of traditional goals, and I am sharing how it’s already reshaping my life just eight days into 2026 (as of when we recorded this)!

I talk about the various ways that I have been learning to exist without constant urgency. Years of nonstop goal-chasing left my nervous system overworked, and letting go of that pace has forced me to ask, “Who am I without projects defining my worth?” I share how sitting quietly, arriving early, and simply having space between tasks has actually been strangely calming and unexpectedly healing. We also dive into some very practical examples: everything from decluttering and organizing our home, creating better systems for the spaces which we already have, helping our kids take more ownership, to discovering joy in cooking, exploring new crafts like watercolor and embroidery, and simply enjoying small daily rituals like tea, walks, movies, and shows!

Along the way, I also reflect on how my fun list allows me to enjoy life without pressure—no measuring, no stress, just inspiration. Listen in as I share how I am approaching social media differently this year, letting Instagram be a life-giving place again, and how I’m enjoying reading fiction for the sake of enjoyment, not just achievement. I really hope this episode inspires you to experiment with your own fun list, give yourself permission to slow down, and find joy in both the small and creative moments of life, and, of course, as always, we would love to hear from you!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This episode is a follow-up to episode 329 and discusses my “fun list” for 2026!

[1:28] - Hear how I visited a gastroenterologist due to chronic anemia, navigating confusion about colonoscopy and endoscopy.

[4:59] - Jesse and I discuss how replacing rigid goals with a flexible “fun list” reduces pressure and avoids feelings of failure for me.

[7:03] I discuss how fun lists inspire without pressure, unlike goals, which feel heavy and failure-laden for me.

[10:22] - Not setting goals challenges my identity, revealing how much I tied worth to productivity.

[13:32] - Hear how introducing myself without listing projects initially felt strange, highlighting how much I normally juggle.

[15:02] - Letting go of constant goal-chasing calms my nervous system and creates healing space.

[19:15] - Jesse and I talk about how embracing a fun list allows enjoying activities such as assembling puzzles without pressure, timelines, or discomfort with unfinished tasks.

[20:18] - I am realizing that I cherish simple pleasures and keep them flexible, trusting that rest enhances rather than hinders productivity.

[23:42] - I want to explore watercolor, embroidery, knitting, and possibly consider moving for more space.

[25:39] - Hear how managing bedrooms and sibling dynamics shows the challenges of space and kids' competitive relationships.

[27:35] - I talk about how creating home systems and decluttering improves daily life and prepares for a potential move.

[30:58] - I am aiming to enjoy cooking, gym routines, and short trips without pressure or strict goals.

[33:44] - I reflect on having rediscovered Instagram joy by posting freely and creatively, without focusing on strategy or metrics.

[36:09] - The final thing on my fun list is to read more fiction.

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Welcome to 2026, everyone! To kick off the new year, I am joined in the studio today by Sherri Hughes-Gragg, an author whose writing has truly changed the way that I read scripture and experience God. Her Advent devotional stopped me in my tracks this December, and her newest book, The Compassionate Christ, feels like exactly what many of us need as we head into a new year!

Listen in as Sherri shares her story of growing up in a deeply legalistic Christian environment where rules mattered more than relationship, and doubt wasn’t just unwelcome but was dangerous. We talk about what it’s like to keep up appearances while you are privately unraveling and how years of trying to be “good enough” created a crushing sense of failure, especially in parenting. Her reflections are tender, unfiltered, and grounded in compassion – not only for herself but for her children and anyone who has carried spiritual shame longer than they should have.

Hear how a turning point came when Sherri began studying scripture through its Middle Eastern cultural and historical context, including time spent learning in Israel. She explains how this lens transformed familiar passages and healed some long-held fears of hers, especially around the crucifixion and the belief that God turns away in our darkest moments. One moment in particular - Jesus’ words from the cross - reframed everything she thought she knew about God’s presence and faithfulness.

We also discuss how understanding God’s compassion changes everyday life: how we parent, how we handle frustration, how we engage people with whom we deeply disagree, and how we resist the urge to play Holy Spirit in someone else’s life. This episode with Sherri isn’t about winning arguments but is about what freedom can look like when fear loosens its grip and how compassion could be one of the most powerful things we offer the world right now!

In This Episode

[0:35] - I am interviewing Sherri Hughes-Gragg, author of The Compassionate Christ.

​​[1:45] - Sherri reflects on how growing beyond fear-based faith, studying Scripture’s context revealed a far kinder, compassionate Jesus.

[4:45] - Sherri withdrew while doubting God’s existence, maintaining appearances until her honesty triggered some intervention.

[6:28] - At Christian college, conformity replaced authenticity, leaving no safe space for doubt or being myself.

[9:33] - Sherri discusses how impossible religious standards left her feeling daily failure, burdened, and regretful.

[12:20] - Understanding God’s compassion challenges legalism and calls Sherri to treat even people with whom we disagree with dignity.

[15:32] - Sherri asserts that listening quietly for God means trusting Him with others, including her adult children.

[17:49] - As fear exhausted Sherri, studying the scripture’s Middle Eastern context and Jesus’ actions changed everything.

[19:26] - Hear how studying in Israel sparked a new, healing understanding of scripture’s cultural context for Sherri.

[22:36] - During edits of her book, Sherri caught herself overindulging details.

[23:12] - Learning Jesus’ cry referenced Psalm 22 revealed God’s faithfulness, not abandonment, even on the cross.

[26:56] - Experiencing God’s love over punishment brought daily peace and reshaped how Sherri parents her kids and treats others.

[28:30] - I share how recognizing God’s compassion helps me meet frustration with empathy.

[30:33] - Sherri's greatest hope is changed relationships - with God and each other - so the church reflects Jesus’ kingdom on earth.

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Books

The Compassionate Christ: Draw Near to the Risen Savior (A 31-Day Devotional Retelling of Stories from the Life of Jesus by Sherri Hughes-Gragg

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Tune in for our final episode of 2025 as Jesse and I talk about the top books we read, some major shifts in how I want to show up in life, and why I'm not setting any goals for 2026. I share my top four reads from the year - books that challenged me, inspired change, and gave me perspectives that I didn’t even know that I needed.

From Is Your Daughter Ready? by Kari Kampakis, which offers guidance on raising daughters through modern challenges, to The Fight for Us by Rebekah and Gabe Lyons, which made me face the reality of a lopsided marriage and rethink how my priorities shape our relationship, each book left a lasting mark. Habits of the Household opened my eyes to the rhythms and habits already present in our family life, helping me reframe intentionality in small, practical ways, and The Many Lives of Mama Love gave me a raw, compassionate look at addiction, incarceration, and motherhood, pushing me to expand my understanding of struggles that so many face unseen.

Alongside these book reads, I am also unpacking a major personal shift: I am not setting any goals for 2026. For someone who has been goal-oriented since childhood, this feels like an especially huge step for me, but after reflecting on a lopsided marriage, watching Jesse take such brave steps with his own coaching and health journey, and seeing how chronic stress has been silently wearing me down for decades, I realized that constant planning and pushing has been a default, not a necessity. My blood work and coaching experiences showed me how disconnected I had truly become from my own body, always running on adrenaline, cortisol, and extreme stress while mistaking calm endurance for health.

I have ultimately decided that 2026 is about creating real breathing room - intentionally cutting back on commitments, slowing down, and filling my life with creative and meaningful practices rather than arbitrary deadlines. I am really learning to treat rest as a spiritual discipline, to stop using work as a crutch, and to allow space for real healing, connection, and reflection. I hope that you will listen to this episode as I share the books that shaped my year and the mindset shift that’s shaping the next!

In This Episode

[0:35] - I am sharing my top 2025 reads, and I explain skipping goals for 2026!

[3:35] - Here about how I chose books that impacted me deeply; I highlight Is Your Daughter Ready? and The Fight for Us.

[6:32] - I discuss the impact that the book The Fight for Us had on me.

[10:13] - Habits of the Household encouraged intentional family rhythms and shaped her upcoming 2026 book.

[11:54] - I discuss how The Many Lives of Mama Love revealed addiction, incarceration, and motherhood with raw human insight.

[14:14] - Jesse focused on historical fiction and military novels this year, gaining detailed Vietnam War knowledge from Jack Carr.

[16:44] - I talk about how The Women explored Vietnam War nurses’ experiences, PTSD, and women’s challenges during the war.

[19:55] - Hear how Jesse’s coaching and functional medicine journey sparked major life changes and health improvements.

[22:50] - Overworking and chronic stress left my body constantly in fight mode, risking future collapse.

[23:27] - Early-life coping patterns influenced decades of stress, now being reversed via conscious effort.

[26:42] - Extreme stress had been normalized, hiding true health despite outward calm and endurance.

[28:37] - I reflect on how chronic stress pushed me into survival mode, disconnecting me from bodily signals and rest.

[31:40] - I realized that I had been so disconnected that I entirely missed the changing seasons.

[32:37] - Life on autopilot made me overlook reality, leaving me feeling rushed, exhausted, and ungrounded.

[35:32] - I share how overplanning caused stress.

[37:37] - Choosing no goals allows focus on creative work while reducing hours and pressure.

[40:59] - Living intentionally now highlights mindfulness and purpose but with far less stress than before.

[41:24] - Practicing rest as a spiritual discipline frees me from overwork and supports deep healing.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

The Crystal Paine Show - 307. How to Fight Less and Thrive More in Marriage (with Gabe and Rebekah Lyons)

The Crystal Paine Show - 323. Raising Daughters That Are Ready for Adulthood with Kari Kampakis

Books

Is Your Daughter Ready?: 10 Ways to Empower Your Girl for an Age of New Challenges by Kari Kampakis

The Fight for Us: Overcome What Divides to Build a Marriage That Thrives by Rebekah Lyons & Gabe Lyons

Habits of the Household: Practicing the Story of God in Everyday Family Rhythms by Justin Whitmel Earley

The Many Lives of Mama Love: A Memoir of Lying, Stealing, Writing, and Healing by Lara Love Hardin

Cry Havoc: A Tom Reece Thriller by Jack Carr

The Women by Kristin Hannah

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)

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Join Jesse and I this week as I unpack 25 things that I said yes to this year that I am really glad that I did because they have genuinely changed and improved my life. Some of them look small from the outside (like pajamas, fiction books, or shopping in-store again), but every single one has left an indelible mark on my life, our family, the business, and/or all three. I spent more time preparing for this episode than any other because I wanted to name these moments clearly and honestly, without rushing past what they have taught me.

Listen in to hear about rhythms that have helped me slow down, such as weekly Sabbaths, earlier bedtimes, and learning how to rest without guilt. I open up about choices that have really reshaped my relationship with my body such as hiring a dietitian, eating enough food, letting go of the scale for a season, and eventually saying yes to strength training and 5 a.m. workouts in a way that actually feels supportive instead of punishing. There’s also a lot here about joy and play: wearing dresses again, reading fiction, wearing real pajamas at night, traveling with my kids one-on-one, and even rediscovering how much I love showing up for baseball games!

I also share some of the heavier yeses, the kind that require courage and wisdom such as leaving a toxic relationship and investing in deeper support via a business coach and a functional medicine doctor. Alongside that, I talk about growing our team, saying no to work that no longer fits, and how leadership feels different when you’re not carrying everything alone. This episode of the show is truly reflective, practical, and deeply personal, and it is my hope that, as you listen, you’ll start noticing your own yeses - the ones that quietly changed your year, even if no one else saw them happening. Be sure to check out relevant recent episodes brought up throughout our discussion (as Jesse mentions, there are a lot of them!), and reach out to me with your own victorious yeses over 2025! I would love to hear from you, so send me an email at [email protected]!

In This Episode

[0:35] - This week, I am sharing 25 things I said yes to in 2025 that deeply impacted my life!

[2:45] - I share how weekly Sabbaths have become a meaningful time to rest, connect, and savor simple joys.

[5:54] - Hear how a gym membership unlocked childcare convenience and a love for fitness classes I never expected!

[7:08] - I have said yes to wearing dresses more often which has felt freeing.

[9:16] - I reflect on how hiring a dietitian, a quick spring break, and wearing real PJs all enhanced daily life.

[12:36] - Hear how I am learning to honor hunger and eat enough calories.

[13:25] - Reading more fiction has reignited a passion I once loved but had lost.

[15:02] - I have prioritized spending intentional time with Jesse, including local trips and completing ABC date nights.

[15:49] - Volunteering at school became important after Kristen expressed how much she wanted my presence.

[18:25] - Assisting in Kristen's classroom strengthened our connection and allowed me to meet her classmates.

[20:21] - Hear about how I took a break from scales and tracking, gaining freedom and a healthier perspective on eating.

[23:26] - Co-leading a small church group and supporting Silas in baseball really enriched family and personal growth for me!

[27:16] - I reflect on how leaving a toxic relationship required faith and courage but ultimately brought me some hard-won freedom.

[28:47] - I also said yes to weekly sessions with my business coach and how it expanded support for leadership and life decisions.

[29:47] - Trips to Disney, Discovery Cove, and a Utah retreat helped give me clarity, reflection, and renewed perspective.

[30:57] - Shopping in-store again helped bring me unexpected joy, community, and fun via finding deals and markdowns.

[32:06] - I discuss how visiting India and planning my parents’ 50th anniversary created unforgettable, meaningful experiences this year!

[33:25] - Growing my team intentionally made leadership easier and more joyful.

[35:58] - Starting Micah in pre-K early helped him become confident, curious, and more socially comfortable.

[38:43] - I reflect on how committing to 5 a.m. workouts improved my energy, rhythm, and natural sleep patterns.

[40:43] - Prioritizing earlier sleep and fewer work hours has helped restore balance, boundaries, and overall well-being.

Links & Resources

Crystal Paine

The Crystal Paine Show - 295. Surprising Lessons I Learned on My Trip to Disney

The Crystal Paine Show - 306. Our 20-Hour Overnight Getaway

The Crystal Paine Show - 308. My Very First Time Going to a Gym Class

The Crystal Paine Show - 311. Changing My Mindset with Food

The Crystal Paine Show - 318. My Parents’ 50th Wedding Anniversary Celebration

The Crystal Paine Show - 321. My 13-Day Trip to India

Books

The Frozen River by Ariel Lawhorn

Social Media

Crystal Paine on Instagram (@moneysavingmom)

Crystal Paine on Instagram (@crystaliscleaning)

Crystal Paine on LinkedIn

Crystal Paine on Twitter

Crystal Paine on Goodreads

Money Saving Mom

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Money Saving Mom Deal Seekers Facebook group

[email protected]