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Relationships Made Easy

Relationships Made Easy

Dr. Abby Medcalf

  • 41 minutes 15 seconds
    385. Are You a Highly Sensitive Person? What the Research Actually Says

    If you've spent most of your life being told you're too sensitive, too emotional, too intense, that you need to toughen up, let things go, stop taking everything so personally, this episode is for you. Today, I'm going to walk you through what the research actually says about being a highly sensitive person, or HSP. We'll look at what's happening in your brain, why the world feels so intense for you, how to recognize this trait in yourself, and most importantly, what you can actually do with this information so your sensitivity stops running your life and starts working for you instead. And, as always, I'm going to give you five practical tools so you can start feeling more at ease with who you are, right now.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/highly-sensitive-person-hsp-science-tools

    Are you an HSP? Take the assessment: https://abbymedcalf.com/hsp-self-assessment

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    1 June 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 27 minutes 27 seconds
    384. You're Not Feeling Guilty. Here's What's Really Going On.

    There's a word people use all the time that’s causing you a lot of unneeded suffering, mostly because you’re using it incorrectly. That word is guilty. You say you feel guilty for canceling plans. Guilty for not calling your mom back sooner. Guilty for wanting more space in your relationship. Guilty for saying no. But the vast majority of the time, what you're calling guilt isn't guilt at all! You've got the wrong label on a very real feeling, and that mislabel is keeping you stuck, second-guessing yourself, and apologizing for things you don't actually owe an apology for.

    Today, I'm going to tell you what guilt actually is, walk you through the four things people most commonly mistake for guilt, and give you a three-step, concrete process for figuring out what you're really feeling so you can deal with it effectively. Because you can't solve the right problem if you've named it wrong.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/you-dont-feel-guilty

    Download Is It Actually Guilt? A Quick Diagnostic to Name What You're Really Feeling: https:/abbymedcalf.com/is-it-guilt  

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    25 May 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 49 minutes 56 seconds
    383. Are You Enmeshed or Just Close? Here's How to Tell

    Have you ever felt guilty for wanting space? Like needing a little distance from someone you love means something is wrong with you, or with the relationship? Or maybe you've watched someone you're dating and thought, "Why does their family seem to know everything about everything and have an opinion on all of it?" What you might be looking at, in both cases, is enmeshment. Today we're talking about what enmeshment actually is, how to recognize it in yourself and in the people around you, and why the line between being close and being enmeshed matters more than most people realize. I'll give you the signs across romantic relationships, family dynamics, and friendships, including what to watch out for if you're dating someone from an enmeshed family. And I'll give you tools to start untangling it without blowing up the relationships that matter to you.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/enmeshment-in-relationships

    Get the quick self-assessment called Am I Enmeshed or Just Close? It'll walk you through the key questions to help you figure out what's actually going on in your most important relationships: https://abbymedcalf.com/am-i-enmeshed

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    18 May 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 35 minutes 49 seconds
    382. Why You Can’t Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

    You’ve tried unfollowing people, making gratitude lists, staying in your own lane. And you still compare yourself to others. So what gives? You can’t stop comparing because you were never supposed to, and comparison isn’t a bad habit you can decide to quit. It’s a cognitive function, and you can’t opt out of cognitive functions. Every piece of advice that tells you to just stop is working against your own brain, which is exactly why it never sticks.

    Today you’ll learn why comparison is hardwired into you, why the standard advice fails, why some people get pulled into it more painfully than others, and the specific shifts that actually make a difference.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-cant-stop-comparing-yourself-to-others

    Download the What Is This Comparison Really Telling You? Worksheet that walks you through identifying your own comparison triggers, what they’re actually pointing at, and how to redirect when the spiral starts: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-is-this-comparison

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    11 May 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 33 minutes 35 seconds
    381. Why You Shut Off Your Feelings (And Why It's Catching Up With You)

    You're doing fine. Really. You've got work handled, the relationship seems okay, you've moved on from that fight or that disappointment, and you're not thinking about it anymore. Except, you kind of are. You just don't know it yet. That's what compartmentalization does: it doesn't actually clear your feelings away. It boxes them up and slides them onto a shelf so you can keep functioning. And that shelf? It fills up. Stay with me, because today we're going to talk about what compartmentalization actually is, why your brain learned to do it, what it costs you in relationships, and what you can do to start clearing those shelves before they collapse.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/compartmentalization-in-relationships 

    Download the Self-Assessment, Am I Compartmentalizing? https://abbymedcalf.com/compartmentalizing-assessment

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook 

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@abbymedcalfphd 

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    4 May 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 36 minutes 50 seconds
    380. The 7 Childhood Experiences That Shape Every Relationship You'll Ever Have

    You probably know what an ACE is. Adverse Childhood Experience. Trauma, instability, the things that happened to you that you didn't deserve and couldn't control. Researchers have spent decades documenting how those early experiences affect your brain, your nervous system, your relationships, and your health decades later.

    But there's a side of that research that almost nobody talks about, and it may be the most hopeful thing I've ever read: the science of what protected you. Or would have. Or still can. There are seven specific childhood experiences, what researchers now call Positive Childhood Experiences or PCEs, that have been found to dramatically reduce the lifelong impact of adversity, even severe adversity. And the most important finding isn't just about kids. It's about you, right now.

    In this episode, you're going to learn what those seven experiences are, how to figure out which ones were missing from your childhood, and most importantly, the research-backed ways adults can actually build what they didn't get.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/positive-childhood-experiences-healing-adults

    Download the My PCE Profile, a self-assessment that walks you through each of the seven positive childhood experiences: https://abbymedcalf.com/pce-profile

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/  

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    27 April 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 33 minutes 33 seconds
    379. You're Not Overreacting. Here's What's Actually Happening.

    You snapped at your partner over something small, and you already know it wasn't really about that. You've gotten defensive with your mom, shut down with your boss, pulled away from a friend, and each time there's that same moment afterward where you think: why did I react like that? The shame of it is exhausting. And the confusing part is that you can't always explain it, even to yourself.

    Today I'm giving you a new lens, not a replacement for everything you already know about yourself, but something more precise. Because there's a difference between knowing you got triggered and knowing exactly which need just got threatened. And that precision? It changes what you do next.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-overreact-in-relationships

    Download the Need Threat Identifier: https://abbymedcalf.com/need-threat-identifier. It walks you through all three needs, what a threat to each one looks and feels like across different relationships, and the one question to ask yourself when you feel activated.

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    20 April 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 29 minutes 26 seconds
    378. Stuck in a Situationship? Here's What's Really Going On

    I've been quoted in both the Wall Street Journal and Women's Health about situationships, and I’ve been on countless radio broadcasts talking about situationships, so apparently, I’m an expert on this topic, but somehow I've never done an episode with a situationship focus. That changes right now. Today you'll learn why you can't leave, what your brain and your attachment history have to do with it, and what you need to start doing differently.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-cant-leave-a-situationship


    Get the two-minute assessment: Am I in a Situationship? https://abbymedcalf.com/in-a-situationship


    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

     

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     

    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

     

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

     

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

     

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.


    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop


    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop


    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    13 April 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 27 minutes 17 seconds
    377. Relationship Anxiety Explained: Why You Feel Insecure Even When Your Partner Is Safe

    You can be in a genuinely (or relatively) healthy relationship and still feel anxious. Your partner texts you back, they show up when they say they will, and they're not pulling away or playing games. And yet, you still find yourself overthinking their tone, needing reassurance, or waiting for the other shoe to drop. If you've ever thought, "Why do I feel insecure when nothing is actually wrong?" this episode is for you.

     

    Today we're talking about why love can feel unsafe even when you're with a safe partner, what's happening in your brain when closeness starts to trigger anxiety, and why reassurance or better communication usually doesn't fix it for long.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-feel-insecure-in-a-healthy-relationship


    Download Am I Actually Unsafe or Just Activated? A 2-minute nervous system check-in for relationship anxiety: https://abbymedcalf.com/unsafe-or-activated

     

    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

     

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     

    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

     

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

     

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

     

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

     

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.

     

    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

     

    A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop

     

    Say hello on social:

    Substack: https://substack.com/@abbymedcalfphd

    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving

    LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving

    YouTube: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube



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    6 April 2026, 11:00 pm
  • 47 minutes 16 seconds
    376. Why Do I Always Feel Like a Victim? Here's What's Really Going On

    Do you ever feel like life is just constantly happening to you? Like, no matter how hard you try, you end up right back in that same exhausting place, feeling small, stuck, powerless, and like you're always the one getting the short end of the stick? If you've ever caught yourself thinking, "Why does this always happen to me?" or "Why are people always treating me this way?", you're in exactly the right place. Today I'm going to answer that question. Why you feel like a victim and why you feel powerless, where it comes from, and most importantly, what you can actually do to change it. We're going to get into the neuroscience, of course the childhood piece, and I'm going to give you concrete tools you can use starting today.

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    Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/why-you-always-feel-powerless-and-like-a-victim 


    Take the self-assessment: Am I Playing the Victim? https://abbymedcalf.com/playing-victim


    Join my online community, One Love Collective, on Substack: https://abbymedcalf.com/substack.

     

    You'll get...

    ✨ Early drops + ad-free podcast episodes

    ✨ Worksheets, journal prompts, downloads, and guided visualizations

    ✨ Community chats and live Q&A calls with Abby

    _________

     

    Subscribe to the Love Letter and get my little messages each week! 

    https://abbymedcalf.com/loveletter-opt-in/ 

     

    👉 Pick up a copy of my new book, Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries

     

    👉 Pick up The Workbook: Boundaries Made Easier to use as a companion to the book or as a standalone masterclass: https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries-workbook

     

    👉 Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book 

    ____________________________

    Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find past episodes.


    Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop


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    375. Are You Codependent or Just a Good Person? Here’s How to Tell

    You’re a caring person. You show up. You give. You’d do just about anything for the people you love. So when someone suggests you might be codependent, it stings because, from where you’re standing, you’re just being a good person. But what if both things are true? Today I’m going to show you the difference between true compassion and fear-based helping, the sneakiest place codependency actually hides, four questions to tell which one you’re doing in real time, and five things to do the moment you catch yourself crossing that line.

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    23 March 2026, 11:00 pm
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