Break the Cycle with DSD
Duane Robert
The podcast focusing on recovering from toxic narcissistic relationships with specific help to break the cycle of abuse for yourself and children. All are welcome and this podcast, and YouTube channel, serve both men and women, moms and dads.
- 21 minutes 15 seconds219. How to Co-Parent Minimally with a Narcissist Playing the Perfect Parent
Are you constantly made to look like the “uncooperative” parent while your ex plays the perfect one on paper? You’re not alone. In this video, we dive deep into what it’s like to co-parent with a toxic or narcissistic ex who manipulates perception, weaponizes cooperation, and uses your kids to provoke emotional reactions.🎯 What You’ll Learn: • The harsh reality of trying to co-parent with a toxic ex • What “hybrid no contact” really means and how to apply it • How parallel parenting helps protect your sanity • The danger of over-communicating and how to document defensively • Why trying to “prove” the truth to others often backfires • Tools and scripts to manage school communication, scheduling, and more💡 Whether you’re deep in litigation or just trying to survive the week, these strategies are survival tools for reclaiming your peace while staying legally compliant.👉 If you’ve dealt with a narcissistic co-parent or are navigating high-conflict custody, drop a “REMOTE” in the comments to show you stayed until the end and to support others on this journey.🛠️ Resources Mentioned: • Video on Hybrid No Contact • Groundhog Day Effect: Easing transitions when your kids come back from the other home • Court-approved communication apps (Our Family Wizard, Talking Parents)
20 June 2025, 7:53 pm - 30 minutes 33 seconds218. Should I Tell My Child the Truth About Their Narcissistic/BPD Parent?
If you’re co-parenting with someone who has narcissistic or BPD traits and you’re in a 50/50 custody situation, this podcast is for you.
A listener asked: “My son is 3.5 years old—do I say anything about his mom, or just keep her out of my house entirely?”
In this podcast, I dive into:
How to talk to a young child about a toxic parent (without causing damage)
The mistakes I made early in my divorce—and what I’d do differently
When to speak, what not to say, and how to create emotional safety
Groundhog Day syndrome and how to stop it
Why your home must become your child’s emotional anchor
Tips for neutral transitions, boundaries, and avoiding triangulation
💡 Whether you’re just entering family court or are years into the battle, this podcast will give you grounded, field-tested advice to protect your child—without turning them into the battlefield.
👉 Drop your thoughts or questions in the comments—let’s help each other through the chaos.
2 June 2025, 4:54 am - 18 minutes 53 seconds217. Crossing the Finish Line: Life After Family Court Ends | Surviving a High-Conflict Divorce
After years of surviving family court, toxic co-parenting, and the emotional warfare of dealing with a narcissistic ex, the day finally comes—your child turns 18. The court orders stop. The forced contact ends. You’re finally free. But what happens next?
In this video, I reflect on my own journey and what it feels like to finally cross the finish line. I talk about:
The countdown to 18 and how fast it really goes
What it really means when court oversight ends
How to emotionally process your new freedom
Tips on creating a clean break from your ex
Why letting your children lead matters post-18
Protecting your peace and rebuilding your life
How to become a guiding light for others still in the storm
Whether you’re just starting this battle or nearing the end, this video offers support, perspective, and hope.
👉 If you’re in the thick of it, know this: you will make it.
📢 If you’ve made it, consider sharing your story below to encourage others.
🔑 Secret word of the day: radio 📻
Drop it in the comments if you made it to the end!
25 May 2025, 11:36 pm - 1 hour 30 minutes216. Blowing the Dust Off: A Test Livestream with Calls and Real Talk About Narcissistic Recovery
In this impromptu test livestream, I dust off the setup, tackle some technical hiccups, and get back into the groove of live streaming! Together, we revisit the heart of this channel: creating a safe space for honest conversations about recovery, relationships, and overcoming narcissistic abuse. I field live calls, including one powerful story of perseverance and healing through a challenging family dynamic.
If you’re struggling with toxic relationships, recovering from a divorce, or navigating complex emotions, this is a community for you. We also cover topics like setting boundaries, finding clarity, and learning to advocate for yourself in difficult situations.
📞 Call-In Line: 424-375-5483
📲 Sign Up for SMS Notifications: Text “DSDLive” to 844-598-0002 for updates.
If you’re new, check out the Mindset for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery playlist on the main channel page—your starting point for healing and building resilience.
💬 Share your thoughts in the comments or join the live chat next time. Let’s keep the conversation going!
26 January 2025, 10:25 pm - 20 minutes 27 seconds215. Can You Find Love After Divorcing a Narcissist? Success Stories and Insights
In this podcast, I tackle a powerful viewer question: “Do you know of anyone who, after divorcing a narcissistic spouse, went on to remarry, build a new family, and live a healthy life?” This is such an important topic, and the short answer is: YES, it’s possible—but it takes work.
I’ll share key insights into what’s required to break the cycle of toxic relationships, including:
✔️ Doing the inner work to heal and grow.
✔️ Setting and maintaining firm boundaries.
✔️ Learning to trust your gut and recognize red flags.
✔️ How healthy relationships can feel “off” at first due to past trauma.
I also share inspiring stories, including insights from Eric Carroll (Dad Talk Today) and my own experiences, to show you that healthy love is attainable after narcissistic abuse.
💬 Have you remarried or entered a healthy relationship after a toxic one? Share your story in the comments to inspire others. And if you made it to the end, type “YETI” in the comments to let me know!
🔗 Resources Mentioned:
🎥 Mindset for Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Playlist – Start your healing journey here.
If you enjoyed this video or have more questions you’d like me to cover, let me know in the comments! Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this video with someone who needs hope.
#HealingAfterNarcissism #HealthyRelationships #NarcissisticAbuseRecovery
13 January 2025, 3:06 pm - 35 minutes 2 seconds214. When do you take your ex back to arbitration?
Listener asks the question of do I take her to arbitration again on minor stuff or just save my money?
Show Notes
Duane discusses a question a listener asks about when to go to court and when to fight the battle? He covers the topics of what do you really hope to accomplish? Will this action “move the needle”. You have to take a hard look at the reality of the situation and what is the perception of other people involved.
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During the show you can call in live at
- 1 (424) 373-5483
- 1 (424) DSD-LIVE
- Web Interface - free dialing
- You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website
Table of Contents
🔗Links Mentioned During Show
Show Sponsor
This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis
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23 July 2024, 5:01 am - 24 minutes 33 seconds213. Why are dad’s rejected? How to cope with the pain!
Father’s always seem to be rejected by children, we discuss the reasons and how to cope.
Show Notes
A common problem people experience in high conflict narcissistic divorces and custody is being rejected by your children. This is a very painful thing to experience and it is very hurtful when you feel your own children “rejecting” you. In this episode Duane discusses the reason this occurs and ways to help you cope with the frustration and disappointment when your children are used as weapons.
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During the show you can call in live at
- 1 (424) 373-5483
- 1 (424) DSD-LIVE
- Web Interface - free dialing
- You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website
Table of Contents
🔗Links Mentioned During Show
Show Sponsor
This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis
Links to find out more!
16 May 2024, 6:34 pm - 1 hour 45 minutes212. Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse
Slower learner | Take your life back after narcissistic abuse
Show Notes
DSD discusses the reality of it taking time to learn how futile it can be struggling to make a different in your life with a narcissistic ex. Duane shares how he continues to see people struggling with this concept. You get stuck in the mode EXPECTING justice and accountability. He shares how he hates to see people only learn this lesson after losing in court and then questioning why they even fought for it. Ultimately you have to take things slow and give yourself time to accept and see the reality of your situation. In the end focusing on your children and the relationship you have, and are building with them, is the key!
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Participate in the show!
During the show you can call in live at
- 1 (424) 373-5483
- 1 (424) DSD-LIVE
- Web Interface - free dialing
- You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website
Table of Contents
00:00:00 - Start
00:01:49 - New Topic
00:01:58 - New Topic
00:18:46 - New Topic
00:25:18 - New Topic
00:31:19 - New Topic
00:36:13 - New Topic
00:46:15 - New Topic
00:50:19 - NEW CALLER
01:02:07 - CALLER END
01:03:39 - NEW CALLER
01:10:48 - NEW CALLER
01:12:16 - New Topic
01:19:05 - New Topic
🔗Links Mentioned During Show
Show Sponsor
This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis
Links to find out more!
14 March 2024, 3:26 am - 1 hour 36 minutes211. Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important!
Taking care of yourself | hobbies are important!
Show Notes
In this episode Duane talks about the importance of having a hobby or something that you enjoy doing. He also talks about the struggles when you are down, depressed, and beaten with ways to push yourself to break yourself out of that downward spiral. He then fields questions from others on silver bullets, narcissists seeking control, being forced to spend time with the ex, and finally an update on his current medical situation.
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During the show you can call in live at
- 1 (424) 373-5483
- 1 (424) DSD-LIVE
- Web Interface - free dialing
- You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website
Table of Contents
00:00 Start
02:55 - Welcome to the livestream
06:04 - Finding some positive to do hobbies
17:19 - Advice on handling message about school
21:20 - Narc fishing for control
29:57 - Supervised visits and lashing out
36:14 - Having to spend time with the ex
37:16 - When drop offs are late
39:54 - Silver bullet - supervised visits
47:02 - Don't respond immediately
52:49 - Worry about kids and narcissism
59:41 - Paranoia and narcissists
01:01:27 - Graduations with ex
01:08:03 - Realizing you have narc friends
01:12:03 - Getting to the other side!
01:13:03 - Our child as abusers?
01:21:48 - Ex should be normal around kids
01:25:31 - Narc mom blaming you?
01:31:32 - Medical update on me
01:35:21 - End of show wrap-up
🔗Links Mentioned During Show
Show Sponsor
This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis
Links to find out more!
14 February 2024, 6:05 am - 1 hour 32 minutes210. You MUST deal with the pain!
Dealing with the pain is the only way to get through this
Show Notes
In this episode DSD starts with a clip from Brad Pitt talking about his experience of running from the pain and ultimately how he worked through it to take his like back! Duane has a discussion with the audience about their experiences and ways to approach things
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During the show you can call in live at
- 1 (424) 373-5483
- 1 (424) DSD-LIVE
- Web Interface - free dialing
- You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website
Table of Contents
00:00 Start
03:24 New Topic
11:46 New Topic
28:56 New Topic
38:06 New Topic
43:07 New Topic
01:04:26 New Topic
01:10:17 New Topic
01:14:23 New Topic
01:16:18 New Topic
01:22:34 New Topic
🔗Links Mentioned During Show
Show Sponsor
This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis
Links to find out more!
10 February 2024, 3:43 am - 2 hours 2 minutes209. Letting go and update on civil case
A deep dive discussion on the struggles of letting go with an update and review of the redacted Order Sustaining Demurrer on my civil case.
Show Notes
In this episode DSD talks about the struggles and importances of learning to “let go”. We discuss how difficult it is to actually do, being forced to learn the “lesson”, recognizing when you’re being pulled back in, and notice when you are stuck in the rumination cycle. Duane then shares how things really start to change ONCE you accept the situation and allowing yourself to “move on”. He also shares that unfortunately this process takes a LONG time and for some even years. DSD shares that it took him about 2 to 3 years for it to really sink in.
Duane then provides an update with a reading on the final Order Sustaining Demurrer that was finally sent and signed by the court. This leads into a discussion on various aspects of court.
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During the show you can call in live at
- 1 (424) 373-5483
- 1 (424) DSD-LIVE
- Web Interface - free dialing
- You can also leave a voicemail through the DSD website
Table of Contents
00:00 Start
03:17 - The Struggles of Letting Go
27:20 - Review of comments
50:05 - Order Supporting Demurrer
2:01:25 - End of show wrap-up
🔗Links Mentioned During Show
Show Sponsor
This episode was sponsored by Hypnosis Downloads - you can find out more and support the Podcast by visiting http://www.dadsurvivingdivorce.com/hypnosis
Links to find out more!
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