Whether it’s dating, making friends, or stepping into a new workplace, spotting red flags early can save you a lot of future headache. What We Said listeners submitted their biggest warning signs that someone might deserve a little side-eye — from the universally annoying “never takes responsibility” type to more subtle debates like whether not having long-term friends is a reason to think twice before inviting someone to a girls night. Some are obvious, some are controversial, and all of them spark discussion. Tune in to see where Jaci + Chelsey land, and whether you agree with their takes!

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What’s not clocking with these men? This week, Jaci and Chelsey are stepping in to help untangle your toughest relationship dilemmas. Should this listener drop the guy who refuses to leave his hometown with her? Need help with navigating a boyfriend’s suspiciously mysterious past (and wondering if honesty will actually help)? They’ll also get into the chaos of a friend group being shaken up by the dreaded performative male — because no relationship advice episode would be complete without one. This episode will leave you feeling enriched with that girly guidance you’d want from the group chat. XOXO The Valley Girls!!

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Cover up — your desperation is showing! This week, the girls are exposing your thirstiest confessions after recapping their very polar-opposite vacations. Listeners wrote in with stories that range from unhinged to downright impressive: stalking a love interest, flying across the world just to “accidentally” run into someone, faking sleepwalking for a late-night peek, and even staging serious health scares that end with ambulances being called. If this episode proves one thing, it’s that Valley girls will truly stop at nothing to get what they want <3

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After a quick catch-up, Jaci and Chelsey dive into the theme, mantra, anthem — whatever you want to call it — for 2026: the Year of the Horse. Known for bold, fast-moving energy, this year is all about confidence and momentum. The girls go even deeper into the fire element of the Horse, a combo famous for turning up the heat and pushing big risks, career pivots, and undeniable main-character decisions. Translation: trust your instincts, move with intention, and stop apologizing for wanting more. In true What We Said fashion, they’ll break down what all of this actually looks like in real life (like ruthless screen time regiments) and how to ride the energy instead of fighting it.

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Introducing the What We Said Podcast’s newest episode theme: Monthly Favorites. Jaci and Chelsey are spilling all the tea on what they’ve been wearing, watching, consuming, and critiquing lately. Topics include the habit that’s had the biggest impact on their daily lives, a nighttime ritual that completely changed Chelsey’s sleep, a deep dive into Europe’s quick and elevated cooking tips, and a movie-of-the-month pick that lived up to the hype. Tune in for those + many more, and see which favorites you might want to steal and apply to your own life.

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Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, and we’re dropping an episode that might make you want to cancel the holiday altogether. You wrote in your most horrifying dating app stories for Jaci and Chelsey to unpack, and the lineup does not disappoint; Henry on Hinge with questionable hygiene, Daniel from Duet delivering unsolicited dong pics, murder threats from Mike on Mutual, and Bumble Ben rounding things out with a blatantly bold catfish move. Names have been changed for privacy, but the stories are very real — no app is safe, and these are tales from survivors who lived to tell them.

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Another week, another piece of TikTok jargon for Chelsey to break down — this time, it’s “being in your essence.” The girls unpack what that even means, recap Jaci’s low-key 31st birthday, share their thoughts on the current season of The Traitors, and check in on how this year’s goals are going so far. Then things get messy as they dive into your family drama write-ins, featuring stolen breast pumps, side pieces accidentally crossing paths, and situations that escalate all the way to serious prison time. It’s chaotic, jaw-dropping, and exactly the kind of episode that reminds you every family has secrets.

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What do toxic mom groups, 2026 to-do lists, and being spiritually chopped have in common? Absolutely nothing — except they’re all on the What We Said Podcast’s agenda this week. The girls break down Ashley Tisdale’s recent mom-group drama and unpack who’s really at fault (and whether she’s as innocent as she claims), then shift into new-year reset mode as Jaci shares what’s actually helping her step into a clearer, more intentional mindset for 2026. To wrap it all up, Chelsey explains what it means to be “spiritually chopped,” how to spot it, and why you should avoid being it, at all costs!

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The girls are starting the year real chatty, with a Christmas break recap of Chelsey’s bold — and very accidental — “bricking” from social media. Spoiler alert: it ended up being the perfect way to free up time and energy for baking, movies, and the things they actually want to lean into this year. If there’s one takeaway from this episode, it’s that life is too short to sit around over-planning your days — it’s time to start executing on the things you’ve been dreaming about doing, even if it’s just learning how to bake sugar cookies…

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Welcome to 2026 — the happiest, healthiest, funniest, most Valley Girliest year yet. Jaci and Chelsey are kicking things off with a little personal rebranding, starting with a life audit of where they’re at and where they want to go. This year’s plans include getting outside more, finally conquering pull-ups, drafting journal prompts that actually make you think, and reassessing how much a girl can realistically handle in a single day. Normally you’d be invited to kick back and relax, but this episode is all about taking action and stepping into your best self for the year ahead.

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