If you care about how you look, you care about yourself — and that matters. This episode I get into why looks aren't as shallow as we make them out to be, and why paying attention to your appearance is really just another form of self-respect. I talk about where the "looks don't matter" narrative comes from, why it's not actually true, and how taking care of how you look can be one of the most honest signs that you're taking care of yourself.

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You have to break up with someone before you can actually let yourself fall in love with them. This episode I get into the four segments of falling in love: the fantasy phase, the crack, the choice, and what's on the other side. I get personal about the two times I almost lost the relationship I'm now 7 years into, why men fall harder and sabotage harder, and why boring, mundane love is actually the goal, not the warning sign. If you've ever felt like you don't deserve the love you're being given, this one's for you.

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One of the hardest parts of growing up is that nobody tells you what it actually looks like to turn into someone new. This episode is about that in-between place — not who you used to be, not fully who you're becoming yet.

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why I said goodbye to the happy times..

For a while, this podcast lived in the highlight reel. the happy, easy, curated moments. This episode is about why I'm saying goodbye to that version of it.

Don't worry, I'm not going anywhere. This is just the time for a much-needed change, and I'm genuinely excited to build this next chapter with you.

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listen to this if you are having a bad day.... wait, it isn't a bad day. it is a bad moment.

Getting over someone is hard. Getting over someone during the holidays? That’s a whole different kind of heartbreak.

In this episode, I want to sit with you through that. No fake cheer, no “just be grateful” advice. Just real talk about what it feels like to show up to family dinners with a broken heart, to dodge questions about someone you’re still hurting over, and to pretend you’re okay when you’re not.

I’ll walk you through a few things that might help, and one hard truth you might not want to hear—but might need to. This one’s for anyone feeling lonely in a room full of people, anyone who just wants to stay home and cry, and anyone wondering if it’s okay to not feel merry this year.

Because it is. And you’re not alone.

The voicemails are open and the submissions are in, and folks we have a lot to talk about. It is time for some tough love talks on breakups, right person wrong time and being ready to heal.

We spend so much time obsessing over the 20% of things that don’t really matter—what they think of us, if we said the right thing, if we’re doing enough—when in reality, 80% of our happiness comes from the simplest things. The people who show up. The moments that make us feel alive. The things we do just because they make us happy.

This episode is your reminder to stop giving so much of your energy to the things that won’t matter in a year. Let’s talk about shifting your focus, letting go of what’s draining you, and learning how to actually enjoy your life.

We’ve all wondered if timing ruined something good—but was it really just bad timing, or were they never meant to stay? In this episode of The Relationship Audit, we break down the truth behind "right person, wrong time" and whether it’s worth waiting for.

Taking risks is terrifying, but staying in the same place out of fear is even worse. In this episode, I dive into why we’re so afraid to take risks, what’s really holding us back, and how to push past the fear to chase what we truly want. If you’ve ever felt stuck or scared to make a move, this one’s for you.

Let’s talk about risk-taking, personal growth, and why the biggest risk is not taking one at all.

Let's audit people who have cheated in their relationships. Breaking down the why, and discussing how to move forward. Do you need to breakup? Let's talk about it

This is the first episode of the new series The Relationship Audit. I eventually want this series to be in person conversations with you, but I wanted to start. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this. Do you like the written form? Would you rather voicemails? Zoom calls? or in person audits?

Thank you so much for listening