Happy Trans Eve of Snack! Tuck chats with Mattie Lubchansky & Calvin Kasulke about how to know whether you're on a date, deal with ambivalence towards certain HRT effects, and cope with the fact that you didn't transition earlier. (Also: trebuchets, glory holes, and nonbinary Donald Duck.)

Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear us discuss whether you should tell your husband about your affair(!!), whether you should flee the country(!), and how to explain FFS to your cis wife. We also share our favorite memories from the Gender Ordeal tour, including the time we met a piss ghost(!!!).

Find Mattie on No Gods No Mayors and Temporal Culture War. Find Calvin around town idk.

Submit advice questions or AMA prompts via our new form for a future episode like this one!

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Tuck and Ozzy chat with scholar Marquis Bey (they/them). Topics include:

• If we abolish gender, what will happen to sex changes?
• Is nonbinary bourgeois?
• Learning about nonbinary from incarcerated queer studies students
• If neither of us care about gender, then what are we doing on this gender podcast?!
• Plus: Burner genders, replacing "community" with "swarms," and pushing back against the assimilation of they/them

This Week in Gender: Nicole Kelly spotlights QueerSouf, one of the 2025 Gender Reveal grant recipients. (Transcript here.)

Find Marquis at marquisbey.com. Marquis's new book, Nonbinary Life, will be released on April 16.

Planning a Trans Day of Snack event? Apply for a microgrant at bit.ly/TDOS2026.

Save $5 on Sex Change and the City in the Girl Dad shop with code SNACK!

Join our Patreon to access our weekly newsletter and monthly Gender Conceal episodes, including our upcoming advice episode with Mattie & Calvin!

Find transcripts and starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal.

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Tuck outlines two options for this year's Trans Day of Having a Nice Snack festivities.

Want to plan your own Trans Day of Snack event? Apply for a microgrant at bit.ly/TDOS2026.

A full transcript of this episode (and all of our TDOS episodes) is available on our website.

Submit questions for our upcoming Gender Conceal episode with Mattie and Calvin at bit.ly/GCadvice.

Donate to the microgrant fund via PayPal.me/TWoodstock or @Tuck-Woodstock on Venmo.

Read more about Trans Day of Snack's history here and here.

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Tuck chats with the internet's own AK (they/them) about baseball disease, fantasy hockey shows, and the most iconic scene from Twilight.

Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of the Phillies' horrible bodily fluids, Happy Feet-related top surgery, and AK's journey to becoming a jumpsuit influencer on January 6. (Plus, more baseball!)

Find AK @dumplingmenace on IG and Bluesky.

Submit advice questions or AMA prompts via our new form!

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Tuck chats with trans studies scholar and Minneapolis resident Aren Aizura (he/him). Topics include:

• How a protest camp in the Australian desert helped free dozens of immigrant detainees(!!)
• How Aren's kids are reacting to ICE occupying their neighborhood
• How Twin Cities organizing has remained leaderless and decentralized
• Being subjected to archaic HBIGDA "true transsexual" guidelines and a political background check while trying to access top surgery!?
• Plus: Australian hippies, tear gas, Tim Walz, the YMCA sauna, and audio of a baby talking to a cat in a bag :)

Through The Wire, a 10-min independent documentary about the 2002 breakout from Woomera Detention Center, is available to stream here. (cw: incarceration, injury, police violence)

Find Aren on Bluesky @incommensurati. Aren's book, Mobile Subjects, is available from Duke University Press.

Join our Patreon to access our weekly newsletter and monthly Gender Conceal episodes.

Find transcripts and starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal.

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Tuck chats with human rights advocate and organizer Ash Tifa (she/her). Topics include:

• Do human rights laws actually ensure our rights?
• What media coverage is missing/misunderstanding about what's going on in the Twin Cities
• Are Black leaders and queer people being intentionally targeted for arrest?
• Plus: Ireland vs US immigrant detention, living in a post-constitutional state, and keeping your nose warm in a Minnesota winter

[Note: This episode was updated on 02/17/2026 to remove a question per Ash's request.]

Submit a piece of Theymail: Today's message was from Roguish Goblin Stories.

Find Ash at ashtifa.com and outfront.org.

Order Sex Change and the City or catch Tuck on book tour in Baltimore on Feb 12.

Join our Patreon to access our weekly newsletter and monthly Gender Conceal episodes, including last month's episode with Encanto's Jess Darrow.

Find transcripts and starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal.

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Tuck chats with Encanto actor Jess Darrow (they/them) about working with Disney as outspoken queer person, singing the transest possible song for their Encanto audition, being queer-awakened by a certain Disney couple, and declaring pole dancing the most they/them hobby.

Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear how Tuck and Jess met via goofing off on Letterboxd… plus Jess coming into their queerness while making Encanto; their mission to make Captain Hook gay; their big discovery about comedians; their takes on RATS and GREECE; their hot take on cishet relationships; and much more!!!

Find Jess at @jessdarrow_ on IG and on IMDb.

Find Tuck on book tour in Baltimore on Feb 12: RSVP here.

Submit advice questions or AMA prompts via our new form!

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Tuck and Ozzy chat with author Megan Milks (they/them). Topics include:

• The queer and trans potential of milk
• Writing fantastical slug erotica and bull insemination scenes
• Dating and writing advice from Samuel Delany
• What even is a kink, you know?
• Plus: New Narrative, the "overwhelming influence of The Argonauts," and finally getting out of high school

This Week in Gender: Tuck reads their favorite book review of 2025.

Find Megan @sklimnagem and meganmilks.com. Mega Milk is available now.

Order Sex Change and the City or catch Tuck on book tour in Baltimore on Feb 12.

Join our Patreon to access our weekly newsletter and monthly Gender Conceal episodes, including last month's episode with Alma Avalle.

Submit a piece of Theymail.

Find transcripts and starter packs at genderpodcast.com. We're also on Instagram @gendereveal.

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TGIJP's Zen Blossom chats with historian, artist, and organizer Andrea Horne for the California Report Magazine podcast.

Photos(!) and a full transcript are available at KQED.org.

For more conversations with trans youth, plus a bonus chat with artist and activist Donna Personna, check out the California Report Magazine's Love You For You series.

Tuck chats with writer and union organizer Alma Avalle (she/her) about the Transparent finale, Trader Joe's dream to destroy the NLRB, and Alma's experience getting very publicly fired from Condé Nast in an egregiously illegal instance of union retaliation!

Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of Emilia Perez, paywalled Condé gossip, "Anna Wintour's elite fiefdom rocked by woke soap opera," and much more!

Find Alma at @goodbyealma across platforms and @picnic_mag on IG.

Download issue 1 of Picnic Magazine for pay-what-you-want, and don't forget to sign the petition to reinstate the Fired Four.

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Tuck chats with cartoonist Lee Lai (she/her) about gossip, projection, emotional journalism, toxic relationship dynamics, annoying transmascs, the hazards of being overly self-reliant, and more.

Listen to the full episode on Patreon to hear discussions of puberty 4, comic-reading etiquette, she/her mustache, maladaptive trans coping mechanisms, creative dialogue bubbles, and whether hormones physically relocate your feelings in your body.

Find Lee Lai at lee-lai.cargo.site, on IG @_leelai, and on Patreon.

Find Tuck on book tour in Portland on Dec 19! (For real this time.) RSVP here.

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