- 20 minutes 6 secondsI Wanted to Become a Good Man But Had No Idea What That Actually Meant - Until I Did This #689
Ask 10 men what a good man actually is, and you'll get 10 different answers. Ask most of them to live it out, and they go silent.
We've spent more than a decade arguing about what masculinity is, picking it apart, telling men what they shouldn't be. And somewhere in the noise, we forgot to give men something to aim at.
In this episode, I walk you through the three-part framework I use with every man I coach: Define Him. Find the Gap. Vote Him Into Existence. This isn't about telling you who to be. It's about helping you figure that out for yourself — and then start closing the gap between who you are now and the man you actually respect.
You'll learn:
- Why most men are chasing better with no real target, and how to fix that
- The difference between values and standards, and why both matter
- How to audit your calendar to see what you actually value (not what you think you do)
- The four pillars: Strong Body, Calm Mind, Clear Purpose, Confident Life
- The four gaps that keep men stuck: skills, experiences, environments, and identity beliefs
- What timeline therapy is, and why it was completely transformative for me
- The three voting moments every man faces daily, and how to win them
- Why you don't become a good man at some future point.
You become him in the next decision.Free Life Performance Scorecard (takes less than 4 minutes) → https://scorecard.lachlanstuart.com.au/
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow24 May 2026, 8:00 pm - 16 minutes 43 secondsDo You Feel Alone in a Crowd? The Truth About Male Loneliness No One Talks About #688
You could be surrounded by people at a work party, at home with your family, at a barbecue with your mates, and still feel completely alone. That's not a weakness. That's what loneliness actually looks like for most men. And 43% of us are living it right now.
In this episode, I break down why male loneliness is one of the most urgent conversations we aren't having, why the men most affected are 35–49 year olds, and, more importantly, exactly what you can do so you're never one of those statistics.
You'll learn:
- Why you can feel alone in a crowd, even with the people closest to you
- The alarming stat: 43% of men report feeling lonely (and middle-aged men are hit hardest)
- How loneliness is directly linked to depression, anxiety, and poor physical health
- The common causes most men never see coming: divorce, retirement, moving towns, solo parenting, and more
- The 3 loneliness traps for high-performing men, including the one where you confuse being busy with being connected
- The glass balls vs rubber balls framework, and how to know which relationships you can't afford to drop
- Why outgrowing old friendships doesn't mean you're done, it means you need a new skill set
- Three action steps you can take this week to start building genuine connectionIf this hits a nerve, the next step is the Life Performance Scorecard. It's a free five-minute assessment that shows you exactly where you're winning, where you're leaking energy, and what to fix next across Strong Body, Calm Mind, Clear Purpose, and Confident Life.
Take the scorecard here → https://scorecard.lachlanstuart.com.au/Take the "Life Performance" Scorecard: HERE
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow17 May 2026, 8:00 pm - 14 minutes 3 secondsThe Strong Body Dashboard: How to Use Data to Build a Body That Carries You Through Hard Times #687
When life gets hard, most people sacrifice the one thing they need most, their body. Sleep drops. Training stops. The habits that kept them going disappear overnight. In this episode, I share the nine-month period where I did exactly that, moved back from playing elite rugby in France, didn't know what I was doing with my life, and numbed it all with parties and alcohol instead of doing the work. I also break down the Strong Body Dashboard: the simple tracking system I use with every client to make sure your body stays strong enough to carry you through the hard times.
You'll learn:
- Why your body is the vehicle and your mind is the driver|
- The exact moment I hit rock bottom, and the 16-week challenge that changed everything
- Why having an "excuse" to protect your health is actually a superpower
- The Strong Body Dashboard: Sleep, Recovery, and Strain
- Why WHOOP data makes better decisions possible (and which wearable to use)
- The training template I recommend for anyone without a specific event goal
- How Lachie and his wife kept training 12 weeks postpartum, and why it matteredIf this hits a nerve, the next step is the Life Performance Scorecard. It's a free five-minute assessment that shows you exactly where you're winning, where you're leaking energy, and what to fix next across Strong Body, Calm Mind, Clear Purpose, and Confident Life
Take the "Life Performance" Scorecard: HERE
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow10 May 2026, 8:00 pm - 10 minutes 26 secondsNew dad. Zero routine. Still training. Here's why #686
Life as a new dad has flipped everything. But some things are non-negotiable. In this video I break down why I'm still prioritising training, sleep, and mobility even through the chaos of fatherhood, and why these three things have nothing to do with vanity and everything to do with who I want to be. If you're going through a big life season and feeling the pull to let your health slide, this one's for you.
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow3 May 2026, 9:00 pm - 12 minutes 32 secondsAre You Actually Performing, or Just Coping? #685
Most men don't have a performance problem. They have an awareness problem. The Life Performance Scorecard is a four-part framework built around the Core 4: Strong Body, Calm Mind, Clear Purpose, and Confident Life.
In this video I break down what each area means, why it matters, and how to use your score to close the gap between where you are and where you want to be.
Take the free 2-minute scorecard at https://scorecard.lachlanstuart.com.au/.
If you want to go deeper, check out my coaching at https://www.lachlanstuart.com.au/coaching
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow26 April 2026, 8:00 pm - 6 minutes 42 secondsWhy Growth Feels Like Failure (And What to Do When You Hit the Wall) #684
You may feel stuck right now. But the truth is you're probably just standing at the start line of a distance you've never run before.
In this video I break down why growth feels like failure, why feeling like an idiot during the learning process is actually proof you're doing it right, and the four pillars I'm using right now to level up my own identity.
You'll learn:
- Why you don't have a growth problem — you have an information gap
- The difference between You and You 2.0 (and how to close it)
- Why 44% of professional skills will be disrupted in the next year
- The 4 pillars: Education, Habits, Beliefs, and Emotional Control
- Why resistance isn't a sign to stop — it's a sign you're finally doing something that matters
- The permanent upgrade that no one can ever take away from you
If this hits a nerve, the next step is the Life Performance Scorecard. It's a free five-minute assessment that shows you exactly where you're winning, where you're leaking energy, and what to fix next across Strong Body, Calm Mind, Clear Purpose, and Confident Life.
Take the "Life Performance" Scorecard: HERE
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow19 April 2026, 8:00 pm - 5 minutes 39 secondsWhy Grown Men Have No Real Mates Left (And How I'm Fixing Mine) #683
Most men are one bad week away from having no one to call. Not because they're not liked. Because somewhere along the way, they stopped making the deposits.
In this video I break down the friendship recession hitting men right now, why male loneliness is quietly destroying high-performing blokes, and the simple rule I'm using to rebuild my circle as an adult.
You'll learn:
- Why friendships fade when life gets full
- Why making new mates is a core life skill, not a nice-to-have
- The "bring a new bloke" rule and the follow-up that actually matters
If this hits a nerve, the next step is the Life Performance Scorecard. It's a free five-minute assessment that shows you exactly where you're winning, where you're leaking energy, and what to fix next across Strong Body, Calm Mind, Clear Purpose, and Confident Life.
Take the scorecard here → https://lifeperformance.scoreapp.com/
I'm Lachlan Stuart. Life performance coach, keynote speaker, and founder of The Man That Can Project. I've run 58 marathons in 58 days across the United States and 8 marathons in 8 days across every state and territory in Australia, all to raise awareness for men's mental health. I help high-performing men build stronger bodies, calmer minds, clearer purpose, and more confident lives.
Subscribe for weekly videos on resilience, life performance, and becoming the man you're capable of becoming.Take the "Life Performance" Scorecard: HERE
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow12 April 2026, 8:00 pm - 9 minutes 15 secondsLoneliness Is as Deadly as Smoking 15 Cigarettes a Day. Here's the Fix #682
Loneliness is as dangerous as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. And more men than ever are heading there — not because they're isolated, but because the people around them aren't actually filling the void.
In this episode, Lachie Stuart shares a simple but powerful social circle audit he uses with coaching clients, and exactly how to build a circle that energises your life rather than draining it.
This episode covers:
- Why work colleagues aren't real friends — and the dangerous gap that creates
- The energiser vs drainer audit: how to map your social circle in 10 minutes
- What to do when your energisers are too busy or too far away
- How to make new friends over 30 without it being awkward
- The warm introduction method — why Lachie brought a stranger to golf
- Why the social circle you have is the ceiling of what you believe is possible
- Don't let success make you the loneliest person on the planet
Free Experience Bank PDF: https://www.lachlanstuart.com.au/experiencebank
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow5 April 2026, 8:00 pm - 20 minutesHow I Built a Life I Actually Want to Live #681
How do you go from broke, directionless, and feeling worthless at 23 — to running a multiple 6-figure coaching business that has reached over a million men?
In this episode, Lachie Stuart shares his full origin story — unfiltered.
From the $25 personal development event he almost said no to, to the bricklayer on stage who changed his life, to 6 men in a Brisbane café, 58 marathons in 58 days, and the book, documentary, and keynote stages that are coming next — this is the journey in full.
This episode covers:
- The mindset that had Lachie believing he was unworthy of success at 23
- The $25 event that changed the entire direction of his life
- How he built an audience on Instagram with no plan and no strategy
- The men's circle that started with 6 people and reached thousands
- His NLP master's, the Foundations Workshop, and Strong Men of Value Academy
- 58 marathons in 58 days — and the personal breakthrough that followed
- The Life Performance System — making coaching measurable and trackable
- What's coming next: book, documentary, keynote circuit, and a 2027 challenge
Free Experience Bank PDF: https://www.lachlanstuart.com.au/experiencebank
Work with Lachie (waitlist): https://www.lachlanstuart.com.au/coaching
Book Lachie for Speaking: https://www.lachlanstuart.com.au/speaking
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow29 March 2026, 8:00 pm - 11 minutes 21 secondsWhy Men Hit a Midlife Crisis (And How to Avoid It) #680
What do midlife crises and young people going into debt have in common?
They both stem from the same root cause: a lack of new experiences.
In this episode, Lachie Stuart shares the framework he uses with every client — the Experience Bank, to help men at any stage of life start collecting the experiences that build clarity, confidence, and a life worth living.
Lachie covers:
• Why staying in one lane means never really knowing who you are
• The 5 types of experiences to collect in the next 12 months
• The difference between a bucket list, mini bucket list, and reverse bucket list
• How a rugby prank in freezing France became one of his favourite stories
• The free Journal app he uses to track his reverse bucket list
• What he told a grade 12 student this morning — and what he'd tell himself at 18
Free Experience Bank PDF: lachlanstuart.com.au/experience-bank
Work with Lachie: https://www.lachlanstuart.com.au/speaking
Take the "Life Performance" Scorecard: HERE
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Do Something Today To Be Better For Tomorrow22 March 2026, 8:00 pm - 16 minutes 54 secondsThe Two Problems Blocking High Performers #679
Most men know they're capable of more. So why aren't they living it?
In this episode, Lachie Stuart — men's life coach and founder of the Man That Can Project, identifies the two distinct problems that keep high-performing men stuck: the Comparison Trap and the Floating Problem. They look similar from the outside, but they need completely different solutions.
Lachie shares:
• Why the standard gratitude advice backfires (backed by a University of Colorado study)
• The 3-step framework to dismantle the comparison trap — starting today
• The 3 questions that reveal whether you're floating
• How stacking small wins (from running 58 marathons injured) creates massive momentum
• Why a 90-day push is all it takes to close the gap between who you are and who you know you could be
This isn't motivational fluff. It's a practical framework you can act on before this episode ends.
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