What skills will our children really need to thrive in a world that's changing faster than ever?

As parents, we spend so much time thinking about our children's future. And with AI and technology transforming the world they'll grow into, two skills feel more important than ever: confidence and resilience.

In this special episode, created in partnership with Stagecoach Performing Arts, I'm joined by performance and drama play expert Sarah Chitty to explore how we can help our children develop the confidence to use their voice, handle nerves, take risks, make mistakes and keep going when something feels uncomfortable.

We talk about why confidence isn't about being the loudest child in the room, but about building genuine self-esteem and learning to trust who you are. Sarah also explains why girls can become particularly self-conscious between the ages of 8 and 12, and what we can do as parents to give them safe spaces where they can take risks, express themselves and feel seen and heard.

We also explore the surprising role that drama, play and performing arts can have in developing skills that extend far beyond the stage, from communication and teamwork to handling fear, presenting ideas, reading body language and having the courage to say yes to new opportunities.

And Zoe shares her own experience of Stagecoach Performing Arts as a child and why she believes those early experiences helped give her the confidence to stand up in front of hundreds of people, pursue new opportunities and, eventually, start Motherkind.

• How to build genuine confidence and self-esteem in your child

• Why girls' confidence can dip between 8 and 12

• How to help children handle nerves, fear and failure

• Why play and creativity can build lifelong resilience

• Simple ways to encourage children to find their voice and take healthy risks

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Have you ever felt like maternity "leave" was the wrong word for what you were actually doing?

In this powerful Moment, broadcaster and author Emma Barnett shares the phrase that changed how she — and so many mothers listening — understood motherhood: maternity service.

Emma explains how the reframe came to her during an intense week of solo parenting, and why swapping just one word completely shifted her relationship to those early, relentless months. Together, Zoe and Emma dig into the "death and rebirth" of matrescence, the strange creative clarity that can show up in the fog of new motherhood, and why so few honest portraits of this stage of life exist. If you've ever felt blindsided by who you became after having a baby, this conversation will leave you feeling far less alone — and hand you some new language for what you lived through.

• Why "maternity service" fits better than "maternity leave"

• How the reframe came to Emma mid-heatwave

• The unexpected creative clarity of new motherhood

• The "death and rebirth" of matrescence

• Why honest portraits of new motherhood are so rare

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During August, the Motherkind team and I try to practise what we preach by slowing down, taking some time off and making the juggle just a little easier over the summer holidays.

So, throughout the month, we're bringing you some of our most listened-to episodes of the year so far.

If you’re the person who remembers the PE kits, books the appointments, sorts the childcare, knows when the suncream needs reapplying and automatically assumes you’re looking after the children unless you’ve specifically arranged otherwise — this episode is for you.

This week’s episode is with author Lou Beckett for a brilliantly honest conversation about being the default parent and the invisible mental, emotional and physical load so many mothers carry.

Lou describes default parenting as something bigger than the mental load. It’s not only thinking about everything that needs to happen; it’s doing it, managing it and carrying the underlying assumption that ultimately, you are responsible. And often, couples don't consciously choose these roles at all. They simply fall into them after having children and never stop to renegotiate them.

We talk about what that does to your identity, your relationship and your time — including Lou's experience of stepping away from her career while her husband's career accelerated, and the gradual feeling that she had lost sight of who she was outside motherhood.

Lou also shares what has actually helped them change the dynamic at home: having honest conversations about responsibility, creating space for both parents' needs and recognising that wanting time for yourself doesn't make you selfish. We also talk about the enormous standards mothers place on themselves, comparison, mum guilt and why sometimes “good enough” really is enough.

This is a funny, validating and incredibly relatable conversation for any mother who has ever thought: Why does everything seem to fall to me?

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• How to recognise if you’re the default parent

• Why the mental load so often falls to mothers

• How to start sharing responsibility more equally

• Why motherhood can leave you feeling like you’ve lost yourself

• How to let go of guilt and make space for yourself again

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Key Topics

Default parent • Mental load • Invisible labour • Overwhelmed mothers • Mum guilt • Parental burnout • Sharing the load • Motherhood identity • Relationships after children • Maternal mental load • Asking for help • Self-care for mothers • Working motherhood • Losing yourself in motherhood • Parenting roles

If the summer holidays have left you feeling overstimulated, overwhelmed and like you haven't had five minutes to yourself, this Moment is for you.

When the children are around more, routines disappear and the noise, demands and mental load feel relentless, it's incredibly easy for our nervous systems to tip into stress mode. You might find yourself snapping over something tiny, wanting to escape to another room, giving in because you can't handle one more request—or simply shutting down completely.

In this Moment, Zoe explains what's actually happening in your nervous system when motherhood feels too much, and why these reactions aren't something to feel ashamed of. She shares simple techniques you can use in just a few minutes to move out of fight, flight, freeze or fawn, widen your window of tolerance and release some of the stress you've been carrying.

You'll also discover why completing the stress cycle can be so important for preventing burnout, and how changing the way you speak to yourself can help you feel calmer and more regulated when family life gets intense.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Moment

• How to recognise your own stress response

• A simple breathing technique to calm your nervous system

• How to complete the stress cycle and release built-up tension

• Why your inner critic makes overwhelm feel even harder

• How five minutes a day can help you feel calmer and more regulated

If this Moment resonates, you can listen to the full episode here: Can 5 minutes a day really change your motherhood?

And if you want to put these ideas into practice, Zoe teaches them step-by-step inside Five Minute Motherkind—21 days of simple five-minute practices designed to help you feel calmer, happier and more like yourself again. 

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During August, the Motherkind team and I try to practise what we preach by slowing down, taking some time off and making the juggle just a little easier over the summer holidays.

So, throughout the month, we're bringing you some of our most listened-to episodes of the year so far.

If you've ever wondered why you're eating well, exercising, and still struggling with brain fog, exhaustion, or stubborn belly fat, this episode is going to completely change how you think about your body.

This week I'm joined by bestselling author and women's health expert Dr Mindy Pelz. We explore why so much health advice has been designed around male bodies, why chronic stress changes everything for women, and how understanding your hormones can help you feel calmer, think more clearly and work with your body rather than against it.

We also dive into fasting for women, why it isn't one-size-fits-all, what every mother should know about stress and self-care, and Dr Mindy's fascinating perspective on why perimenopause isn't something to fear—but a powerful new chapter of leadership and confidence.

Whether you're navigating early motherhood, feeling overwhelmed by brain fog, or starting to think about perimenopause, this conversation is packed with practical, hopeful insights.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why chronic stress makes belly fat harder to lose

• The surprising connection between fasting, brain fog and calm

• Why women need a different approach to fasting than men

• How to support your hormones through every stage of life

• Why menopause could be your most powerful chapter yet

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Key Words

Women's health • Hormones • Fasting for women • Intermittent fasting • Brain fog • Belly fat • Stress • Cortisol • Metabolism • Blood sugar • Perimenopause • Menopause • Hormone health • Female health • Weight training for women • Protein • Nervous system • Burnout • Self-care • Maternal wellbeing • Energy • Longevity • Healthy ageing • Midlife • Motherhood • Women's wellbeing • Confidence • Emotional health • Motherkind

Have you ever looked around at your life and wondered why it feels so hard just to keep up?

In this powerful Moment, Dr Giselle Goodwin shares the personal turning point that changed the course of her life—and the research that followed.

After reaching a breaking point on her 35th birthday while juggling two young children and two businesses, Giselle became convinced she simply wasn't coping. But years later, after completing a PhD in women, work and wellbeing, she discovered something that completely changed her perspective:

It wasn't her that was failing. It was the impossible expectations placed on modern mothers.

Together, Zoe and Giselle explore why so many women feel overwhelmed, burnt out and like they're constantly falling short, despite doing more than ever before. If you've ever wondered why motherhood feels so much harder than you expected, this conversation will leave you feeling seen, understood and far less alone.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Moment

• Why so many mothers feel like they're failing

• The three jobs modern women are expected to do

• The hidden pressures driving burnout and mum guilt

• Why motherhood isn't the problem—our expectations are

• The one message every overwhelmed mother needs to hear

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• Jurassic Oceans Exhibition at The Natural History Museum. Kids go half price.

During August, the Motherkind team and I try to practise what we preach by slowing down, taking some time off and making the juggle just a little easier over the summer holidays.

So, throughout the month, we're bringing you some of our most listened-to episodes of the year so far.

Can you be an ambitious mother without feeling guilty?

Emma Grede believes you can, and that our children actually benefit when they see us fully expressed, fulfilled and living in alignment with our own values.

Emma is one of the world's most successful entrepreneurs, co-founder of SKIMS, CEO of Good American, founding partner of Safely, investor on Shark Tank and author of Start With Yourself. But this conversation isn't really about business. It's about the invisible pressure mothers carry, the impossible standards we set ourselves, and how to build a life that feels true to you.

Together, Zoe and Emma explore why so many mothers feel depleted, how to let go of guilt, and why success looks different in different seasons of life. Emma shares the parenting philosophy that has helped her build multiple global businesses while raising four children and why she believes children don't need a perfect mother; they need one who is fulfilled.

They also discuss work-life balance, career ambition after children, asking for help, letting go of control, sharing the parenting load, and why learning to say no is one of the most powerful leadership skills a mother can develop.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

• Why your children need a fulfilled mother, not a perfect one

• How to let go of mum guilt and make decisions with confidence

• Why success changes through different seasons of motherhood

• How to stop doing everything and start asking for help

• The boundaries that protect your time, energy and ambition

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Zoe’s favourite Aspire episode with Emma Grede: “Don’t Let Anyone Control You With Money” with Reese Witherspoon

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Do you ever sit down to rest... only to feel like you should be doing something else?

In this Moment, Zoe is joined by psychologist and author Dr Nicola Jane Hobbs to explore why so many mothers struggle to slow down. The answer isn't that you're lazy, bad at resting or doing motherhood wrong. It's that your nervous system has learnt that being busy feels safe.

Together they explore why matrescence can feel like such a shock to our system, how years of rushing make stillness feel unfamiliar, and why learning to weave tiny moments of slowness into your day can help your nervous system feel calmer, safer and more regulated.

Nicola also shares a beautiful redefinition of rest: it's not just lying down or getting more sleep. Rest is anything that helps your nervous system switch off its stress response.

If you've ever struggled with mum guilt or burnout, or found it impossible to truly relax, this conversation will completely change the way you think about rest.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why your nervous system can experience slowing down as a threat

• Why rest feels so uncomfortable after becoming a mum

• Tiny ways to teach your nervous system that slowness is safe

• A new definition of rest that actually feels achievable in motherhood

• Why resting benefits both you and your children

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Do you already feel the pressure to make this summer magical?

Maybe you're trying to juggle work, childcare, family holidays, the mental load and the constant feeling that you should be doing more. If so, this episode is for you.

In this solo episode, Zoe shares the simple mindset shifts that can help you let go of mum guilt, stop chasing the perfect summer, and focus on what your children will actually remember. She explores why asking for help before you're overwhelmed is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, why feeling guilty doesn't necessarily mean you've done something wrong, and how lowering the pressure can help everyone enjoy the holidays so much more.

If you're looking for practical advice to help you navigate the school holidays with more calm, connection and self-compassion, this episode is packed with simple reminders you'll come back to all summer long.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why feeling guilty doesn't mean you've done anything wrong

• How to let go of the pressure to create the "perfect" summer

• Why children remember how summer felt, not what you spent

• The importance of asking for help before you reach burnout

• Simple ways to reduce the mental load during the school holidays

• How to create more connection with your children this summer

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Have you ever shouted at your child and been instantly overwhelmed with guilt?

If you've ever wondered, "Why did I react like that?" or worried that losing your temper means you're a bad mum, this Moment is for you.

In this honest Moment episode, Zoe shares a parenting moment she's not proud of and the powerful insight that completely changed how she understands motherhood anger. She explains why snapping at our children is rarely about the moment itself, what the "drip, drip, drip effect" teaches us about stress and emotional overload, and why your nervous system, not your parenting, is often driving your reaction.

You'll also discover simple, science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system throughout the day, understand what your anger might be trying to tell you, and replace guilt with greater self-compassion.

If you've been feeling overwhelmed, emotionally reactive or stuck in a cycle of snapping at your children and then feeling guilty afterwards, I hope this conversation reminds you that you're not failing. You're human, and there is another way.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why snapping at your children is rarely about the moment itself

• The "drip, drip, drip effect" and how stress builds throughout the day

• How to regulate your nervous system before reaching breaking point

• Why anger is often a sign of unmet needs

• Practical ways to widen your "window of tolerance"

• How to repair after losing your temper without carrying shame

• Why anger can become a catalyst for healthier boundaries and positive change

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Do you ever find yourself saying yes when you desperately want to say no? Feeling resentful, overwhelmed or taken for granted, but not quite sure why?

In this week's Motherkind episode, Zoe sits down with therapist, bestselling author and boundaries expert Nedra Glover Tawwab to explore why so many mothers struggle to set healthy boundaries—and how learning to do so can transform every relationship in your life.

Together, they unpack why resentment is often a sign that a boundary is missing, how motherhood changes our friendships, and why boundaries aren't about controlling other people—they're about honouring your own needs. Nedra also answers real questions from the Motherkind community, covering everything from asking for help without micromanaging, navigating difficult family dynamics, setting boundaries with grandparents and in-laws, managing work expectations, and protecting your time without feeling guilty.

If you've ever struggled with people-pleasing, found yourself carrying the invisible mental load, or wondered why you're constantly feeling frustrated or emotionally exhausted, this conversation will leave you with practical scripts, compassionate insights and simple tools you can start using today.

💡 In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why resentment is one of the biggest signs that a boundary is missing

• What healthy boundaries actually are (and what they aren't)

• Practical scripts to help you set boundaries without guilt

• How to ask for help without micromanaging your partner or family

• How motherhood changes friendships—and how to reconnect

• What to do when someone repeatedly ignores your boundaries

• How to navigate boundaries at work without feeling like you're letting people down

• Why boundaries strengthen relationships rather than damage them

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Connect with Zoe:

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This Motherkind episode is sponsored by:

• Headline sponsor Wild Nutrition, the brand raising the bar for women’s supplements. Want to feel the Food-Grown difference yourself? Get 50% off for three months at wildnutrition.com/motherkind. Ts and Cs apply.

• Jurassic Oceans Exhibition at The Natural History Museum. Kids go half price.