Trigger Warning: This episode contains references to grief and the loss of a child.

What alcohol was really costing me was my peace, my presence, and a life that felt true and authentic. That's the realization both Michelle and Susan come to with the help of Coaches Hayley and Cole. Michelle just hit 30 days and is only now connecting the dots between what alcohol was really costing her and the fear, impatience, and disconnection she'd written off as just life. Susan is alcohol-free and sitting with a grief so deep she wonders if she deserves to feel better at all. This one is real, raw, and worth every minute.

In Michelle’s session:

Why wine still felt tempting even when she knew it was no longer serving her

The link between drinking, marriage, routine, and end-of-day shutdown

Creating new patterns, from different seats on the couch to different drinks at dinner

Noticing how alcohol affects patience, sleep, stress, and health data

Questioning the fear that changing her drinking could change her marriage

Seeing what alcohol was really costing me in calm, clarity, and connection

Letting go of future-tripping and staying present

And more topics…

In Susan’s session:

Processing grief, guilt, and the heartbreak of losing her son

Why self-compassion feels so hard after loss

Looking back at drinking through a new lens

Exploring whether guilt feels like a way to stay connected

Realizing she was not 100% responsible for everything that happened

Using writing and reflection to hold grief without picking up a drink

And more…

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.

Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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What does it take to finally walk away from drinking when you love the party, love your people, and have never once thought of yourself as someone with a problem? Brooke was a high-functioning extrovert running a business and raising a family when a quiet voice in her head kept telling her something was off. Once she found The Path and started doing the real work, she discovered how alcohol-free living improved her anxiety in ways she never anticipated, and two and a half years later she has not looked back once.

Brooke discusses:

The brain scan that first linked her alcohol use to her health and sparked a decade-long journey toward change

Taking 10 months alcohol-free, returning to drinking after a family trip, and why she never judged herself for it

How COVID neighborhood happy hours quietly accelerated her relationship with alcohol

Joining The Path in August 2023 and the hungover weekend trip that became her last

Discovering she was an extrovert living with social anxiety and how that reframed everything she thought she knew about her drinking

How alcohol-free living improved her anxiety by removing the daily double whammy of hangxiety and giving her space to actually feel and respond

The shift from "I can't have it" to "I don't want it" and what real alcohol freedom looks and feels like

Morning Pages, journaling, therapy, books, and other low-barrier tools that helped her most in the early days

Why self-awareness and willingness are the two things that make every other tool actually work

And more on identity, belonging, and building a life that feels the same on the inside as it looks on the outside...

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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Ever reach for a drink because your feelings felt too big, too messy, or too hard? How often have you wondered what is the best way to feel your feelings without drinking? Coaches Soraya & Cole show that it isn't about white-knuckling through emotions; it's about letting them in. Dianne walked away from 15 alcohol-free years after her son's ultimatum broke her, and hasn't found her way back. Beth takes care of everyone around her but never lets anyone take care of her.

In Dianne’s session:

Fifteen years alcohol-free & what brought her back to drinking after leaving AA

Why the "data point" approach still feels like failure in year two of The Path

The family estrangement that cracked her open & how she’s been numbing it since

The moment she realized every negative feeling about herself comes directly from drinking

What is the best way to feel your feelings without drinking when the pain feels too big to face

More on habit vs. craving, self-belief, & finding your way back to yourself.

In Beth’s session:

How alcohol-free days uncovered emotions she never knew she was carrying

The habit of stuffing feelings down and why it kept her stuck drinking

Learning emotions are not problems to fix, just experiences to witness and feel

Why perfectionism and shame go hand in hand & how both fuel the urge to drink

The fear of burdening others with her feelings and what that costs her

An exercise in sitting with sadness & the surprising relief it brought

More on journaling, self-compassion, & breaking perfectionism

Soraya Odishoo is a compassionate Certified This Naked Mind Coach who blends somatic healing with therapeutic models to support recovery. She serves people who feel disconnected from their true selves and want freedom from substances or behaviors that no longer serve them. She takes a trauma-informed, heart-centered approach with a strong focus on accessibility for BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ communities.

Learn more about Coach Soraya: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/soraya-arjan-odishoo-alpc/

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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 How Can I Prevent Relapse and Does All Sober Time Count? - Reader Question - EP 30 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-30-reader-question-how-can-i-prevent-relapse-and-does-all-sober-time-count/

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Ready to take the next step on your journey? 

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Trigger warning: This episode contains references to domestic violence, sexual assault, self-harm, disordered eating, substance use, and mental health crises.

What does an alcohol-free life transformation actually look like from the inside? For Valerie, it looks like CrossFit at 4:30 AM, a flourishing marriage, a challenging career, and a self she genuinely loves for the first time at 36. But getting here meant surviving an abusive relationship, years of drinking as a survival tool, and a long search for belonging that took her to martial arts competitions in Korea, AA meetings, and finally a bookstore where Annie Grace's book changed everything. This is her story.

Valerie and Coach Cole discuss:

Growing up without consistent support and turning to alcohol as a survival tool from age 18

How a deeply abusive relationship pushed her drinking to its darkest point and left her searching for a way out

The moment she put down her last drink without a plan and never looked back

Why AA gave her community but not the alcohol-free life transformation she was truly looking for

How Annie Grace's book found her in a bookstore and rewired the way she understood herself and alcohol

Building her CrossFit community as the foundation of belonging, she had been searching for her whole life

What spontaneous alcohol freedom feels like and why she has not had a single craving in 14 months

Letting go of the need for family approval and turning compassion inward for the first time

And more on healing, self-love, and the extraordinary life that opened up when she stopped drinking...

Episode links: https://go.tnmprograms.com/start-here-quiz

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Trigger Warning: This episode contains references to PTSD, depression, loss, and self-harm.

What if the thing you've never tried, not once in your whole life, turned out to be the answer? Beverlee is fresh out of eight years of isolation, finally learning how to stop drinking when you feel overwhelmed by caregiving, grief, and years of putting herself last. Steve is 75, alcohol-free since July, and sitting with something brand new: the idea that he doesn't have to fix everything. Coaches Cole and Soraya guide both of them in discovering what it means to show up for themselves.

In Beverlee’s session:

Years of isolation, caregiving, and a demoralizing environment, and what finally started to shift

The moment Beverlee recognized she'd been hiding her drinking, and herself, for most of her life

A profound inner child healing exercise that brought tears, release, and a long-overdue reunion

What self-compassion actually feels like in your body, and how to locate it when you've only ever given it away

Why curiosity can open the door to compassion when compassion feels completely out of reach

And more on the other side of hiding…

In Steve’s session:

How Steve found his "why" at age 75 and has been alcohol-free since July

Why adult children carrying old wounds don't have to define you or your peace

How to stop drinking when you feel overwhelmed by family tension and unresolved grief

The Groundhog Day cycle of drinking

The shift from waiting for your kids to love you to walking in with love for yourself first

And more on belonging to yourself and trusting the process

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole:⁠ https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/⁠

Soraya Odishoo is a compassionate Certified This Naked Mind Coach who blends somatic healing with therapeutic models to support recovery. She serves people who feel disconnected from their true selves and want freedom from substances or behaviors that no longer serve them. She takes a trauma-informed, heart-centered approach with a strong focus on accessibility for BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ communities.

Learn more about Coach Soraya: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/soraya-arjan-odishoo-alpc/

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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Breaking the nightly drinking habit can feel impossible when alcohol has been “normal” your whole life—so what happens when you finally decide to choose you? Shannon grew up with alcohol in the background, avoided drinking for years, and then slowly found herself becoming the “drinking buddy” in a marriage where beer was everywhere. When the boys moved out and her drinking escalated, she hit a gut-check moment that made her realize she felt trapped—and she wanted out. In this episode, Shannon shares how a TNM masterclass sparked hope, how she signed up for support on a day she truly didn’t want to go home, and what it looked like to rebuild her evenings without white-knuckling. She also opens up about the quiet kind of pride that comes from learning you can count on yourself again—and how she’s navigating boundaries and communication with a partner who still drinks.

Shannon discusses:

What it’s like to grow up around alcohol—and not realize how much it shaped you

Why Shannon didn’t drink much early on, and what changed later in life

When “just beer” turns into a nightly routine you can’t ignore

Breaking the nightly drinking habit when cravings feel automatic after work

How shame keeps people stuck—and how awareness helps you get free

What surprised Shannon after she stopped drinking

Building self-trust one choice at a time—without needing a dramatic moment

Holding boundaries at home while staying connected in a relationship

Why worry can feel like love—and what it costs you

Learning to approach hard conversations with more safety and less panic

And other topics…

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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 Using Alcohol for Stress Relief - Naked Life Story – Allison B. - EP 715 - https://thisnakedmind.com/ep-715-naked-life-story-allison-b/

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Ready to take the next step on your journey? 
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Ever notice how the craving doesn’t wait til you get home? How it shows up the second the day gets heavy? Coaches Cole and Hayley sit down with Beth and Patrick to unpack what’s really happening under the urge to drink, and how to respond with support instead of self-criticism. Along the way, they answer a question so many of us have asked: What is the best way to deal with stress without alcohol? Beth learns a new way to understand her cravings, and Patrick builds momentum with small, realistic steps that stick.

In Beth's session:

Why work stress makes weekday cravings feel so intense

The firefighter analogy: seeing the part of you that reaches for alcohol as a protector, not an enemy

Replacing "control" with "connection" as a new way to approach cravings

A somatic exercise to sit with difficult emotions

How setting a check-in timer throughout the day can prevent cravings from building up

Building confidence by stacking small wins and evidence that you can ride out tough moments

Learning the best way to deal with stress without alcohol when panic hits at work

And more…

In Patrick's session:

Why retirement unexpectedly led to more drinking and weight gain

The difference between behavior-based and emotion-based goals

How micro commitments create lasting change without overwhelm

Experimenting with yoga, pickleball, martial arts, and guitar as alcohol-free alternatives

Using the "closer or farther" question as a pattern interruption before happy hour

The best way to deal with stress without alcohol, when boredom and habit take over

And more…

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the CAMH. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.

Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Episode links:nakedmindpath.com

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Ready to take the next step on your journey? 

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TRIGGER WARNING: This episode contains discussions of substance use, parental substance abuse, blackouts, and trauma-related behaviors.

Letting go of wine culture—what if it’s not about losing something… but getting you back? Sherri grew up in a world where partying was normal, alcohol was everywhere, and being “the fun one” felt like her role. Over time, that same “fun” turned into nightly wine autopilot, constant bargaining (“just one,” “only certain days”), and the kind of loneliness that sneaks up on you when drinking starts shrinking your life. Then one Saturday, Sherri wandered into a library and found The Alcohol Experiment—and the experiment mindset finally gave her a way to step out of the shame spiral and into curiosity. Today, Sherri has become an integral part of The Alcohol Experiment Facebook group—her honest, funny, real posts continue to encourage people on day one, day thirty, or year six. Honestly? She’s the unofficial TAE mascot. In this episode, Coach Cole and Sherri talk about what changes when you stop fighting yourself and start choosing yourself.

Sherri and Coach Cole discuss:

Sherri’s early years: when partying was “normal” and alcohol was everywhere

How wine turned into identity (“I can’t imagine me without it”)

The exhausting moderation loop: rules, resets, bargaining, repeat

Why drinking slowly shifted from social to isolating

Blackouts, staying home to “be safe,” and the loneliness that followed

The library moment that introduced Sherri to The Alcohol Experiment

Letting go of wine culture without shame—using curiosity instead

The power of community + accountability inside the TAE Facebook group

Why Sherri has become an integral part of the group (and the unofficial TAE mascot!)

What changes over time: cravings as passing thoughts, confidence as a new normal

And more…

Episode links: alcoholexperiment.com

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Ready to take the next step on your journey? 

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What if working through urges to drink didn't have to feel like fighting failure? In this episode, Coaches Cole and Hayley sit down with Kristen and Nicola — two Path members — for Alcohol Freedom Coaching sessions that shine a light on how our urges to drink can become our greatest teachers rather than our enemies. Kristen drinks to escape overwhelm, creating a self-perpetuating cycle, while Nicola has been battling self-doubt that sends her spiraling when an urge to drink hits. Both coaches show their guests how curiosity, compassion, and intentional choices can help with working through urges to drink and building real confidence in living alcohol-free.

In Kristen’s session:Overwhelm and the urge to numb out after a hard dayThe real cost of “forgetting” and what true peace meansSpotting early cues in your body before cravings growA quick reset: breath, stretch, five minutes to yourselfAsking for a minute without guilt or people-pleasingWorking through urges to drink with a plan you can repeatAnd more

In Nicola’s session:The doubt loop: “don’t hope or you’ll be disappointed”Fear of quitting alcohol and fear of the unknownMeeting thoughts with compassion instead of resistanceSelf-soothing tools that bring you back to the presentSocial moments without alcohol (tonic water, leaving when you choose)Keeping routines while changing what happens nextAnd more topics

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost and used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free and focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, and adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change and mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, and find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

Hayley Scherders is a certified TNM Coach with training from the Canadian Addiction and Mental Health Association. Drawing from personal experiences, Hayley understands how tough change can be and provides a safe, compassionate, and judgment-free space where her clients can feel supported. She believes that with the right mindset, anyone can change their life at any time.

Learn more about Coach Hayley: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/hayley-scherders/

Episode links: nakedmindpath.com

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Ready to take the next step on your journey? 

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Picking health over alcohol—what if that choice could feel less like deprivation and more like relief? Monica grew up in a culture where drinking wasn’t just normal, it was identity: being the fun one, staying late, shining at happy hour, making alcohol the “reward” for workdays, celebrations, stress, and everything in between. Even when the downsides started showing up (worse anxiety, feeling run-down, the exhausting mental math of “when’s my next drink?”), not drinking didn’t feel like a real option—just something you powered through until you “earned” going back.

After reading This Naked Mind, Monica finally had language for what she’d been living: cognitive dissonance. She could see alcohol clearly…and still want it. She tried breaks, challenges, and milestones, but it kept feeling like white-knuckling. Then she joined The Path and something shifted. Instead of forcing a forever decision, she learned how to pause, observe, and stack up real-life evidence—what actually happened when she didn’t drink at a birthday, during the holidays, in hard relationship moments.

In this episode, Coach Cole and Monica talk about how rewiring happens one data point at a time—and how choosing self-compassion over self-judgment helped alcohol become small and insignificant. Monica also shares a powerful realization from pregnancy, and a moment of fear that made her see just how badly she wanted freedom.

Coach Cole and Monica discuss:

Growing up with alcohol as identity: “life of the party” and the go-to reward

Why “just drink less” kept feeling impossible (even with motivation)

How The Path helped Monica start observing instead of battling herself

Stacking evidence: first alcohol-free “firsts” that built confidence

Anxiety dropping when alcohol left the equation—and what surprised her mostPregnancy, “it’s not an option,” and what that revealed about her true preferences

A health scare thought that exposed the depth of the pattern—and the breakthrough it sparkedPicking health over alcohol through curiosity, compassion, and real-life proof

And more topics…

Episode links:

nakedmindpath.com

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Ready to take the next step on your journey? 

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Breaking routine drinking patterns can feel like the most difficult part of finding freedom in your relationship with alcohol. Our brain kicks into autopilot mode, and suddenly, it seems like a drink magically appears in our hands. Figuring out what feeds that pattern is key to breaking it. Today, Coach Soraya works with Cheryl, who's about to spend five months in Mexico, where daily drinking is the norm, and her husband leads the party every day. Then Coach Cole joins Jennifer, a single mom and nurse practitioner who traded wine for sugar and is carrying way too much alone. Both guests learn to embrace one truth: you don't have to drink to belong.

In Cheryl’s Session:

Mexico drinking culture: walk, lunch, games, drinks…repeat

Breaking routine drinking patterns when “fun” has always meant alcohol

Handling “How long are you doing this?” and “What about Christmas?” questions

Redefining fun and honoring your limits without apologizing

Exit plans and boundary-setting when parties run late

Having an honest conversation when your partner drinks more than you do

In Jennifer’s session:

Sugar cravings and weight gain after going alcohol-free

Spotting the shame voice and why it backfires

Breaking routine drinking patterns when nights feel restless and overloaded

Creating friction (less convenience) to interrupt autopilot choices

Delegating the mental load: lunches, dishes, and daily responsibilities

Practicing compassion so change feels lighter—and more sustainable

Soraya Odishoo is a compassionate Certified This Naked Mind Coach who blends somatic healing with therapeutic models to support recovery. She serves people who feel disconnected from their true selves & want freedom from substances or behaviors that no longer serve them. She takes a trauma-informed, heart-centered approach with a strong focus on accessibility for BIPOC and LGBTQIA+ communities.

Learn more about Coach Soraya: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/soraya-arjan-odishoo-alpc/

Cole Harvey is a certified Naked Mind Senior Coach. For years, he felt lost & used alcohol as a way to cope, until he decided to go alcohol-free & focus on finding his purpose. Through curiosity, self-compassion, & adventure, he transformed his life. As a habit change & mindset coach, Cole helps young men understand themselves, build better habits, & find meaning.

Learn more about Coach Cole: https://thisnakedmind.com/coach/cole-harvey/

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