Are you nervous to take that step to TRULY be single, totally off the dating apps, and just focus on getting to know and love yourself? My past client Brittany is the perfect example of why doing this is SO important. 

Tune in to find out how Brittany went from having no idea who she was, to being secure and confident in herself, plus happily married with two kids!

We discuss what drew Brittany to working with me, what things she did during her break from dating, how she knew her husband was the one, advice to offer anyone in a similar position, the different benefits of therapy vs. coaching, and more!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Courtney was a single mom with two kids, divorced for six years, single for five, who was successful in all other areas of her life like friendships, career, and health...but her love life suffered. Until she met her boyfriend, but he'd never had kids before. Does it work out? Tune in to find out!

Courtney worked with me a few years ago doing one-on-one and group coaching. We chatted to see what she learned through that process, and where she's at now.

We discuss:

• What was going on in her life when she decided to work with me
• How she struggled with self confidence and being triggered after the trauma of her divorce
• What was different about her new love, Michael
• How the struggles of her past relationships taught her lessons moving forward
• How and when she decided to introduce Michael to her 12 and 10 year old kids
• Michael didn't have kids..was he understanding about her situation?

and more!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Coaching results, 4 years later! Kristy didn't want to get a coach. She said, "I'm smart, I am successful, I should be able to figure this out." When her best friend told her, "We can't keep having this conversation, you need to talk to someone" It was a sign. Kristy is a total badass, finance guru (paid off over $400K in debt in 18 months), and single mom of her gorgeous teenage daughter. We sat down to talk about "Where are things now? and Do the results last?"

We also discuss:

• What was the breaking point when she knew it was time to leave her marriage even though she had a one and a half year old daughter with him
• How she decided it was finally time to invest in a coach
• What benefits she got from coaching
• What she would say to someone considering coaching but on the fence
• How her life is now, four years later

Work with Kristy:

www.simplesuccessfinance.com

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Like many women approaching their 40's and still single, Lauren was feeling anxious, lonely, and grieving the fact that she may never get married or have kids. She was stuck in a pattern of dating the same time of guy over and over, always ending up with a broken heart...all while grieving the loss of her father.

Until she decided to commit to herself and give herself a year off from dating to focus solely on herself. That's when she started to truly see her worth and value, and now she is in a happy, healthy relationship!

Tune in to hear:

• How Lauren found out about Gumball Love and what made her decide it was time to stop the cycle and work with Melissa
• The moment Lauren knew it was time for a change
• The type of Gumball Guy Lauren was going after
• What Lauren did during her year long break from dating to discover herself and her worth
• How her relationship now is different from in the past (healthy vs. Gumball Love)
• What advice Lauren would give to someone struggling to find love and dating later in life
• How one-on-one coaching and group coaching with Melissa helped Lauren

and more!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

I am officially Mrs. Melissa Roberts!! After 20 years of searching for the right one and the trials and tribulations of dating many WRONG ones, I'm so proud to be a first time bride at 45. So many of you were asking for the wedding details, so here they are! But if you're in a place where it's too painful or sad to hear about someone else's wedding, I TOTALLY get it because I was the same way, so don't press play if you think it'll put you in a bad mood. 

It's not just about the wedding though, I also talk about:

• How to know if he's the right one
• A successful client case study
• What it's like to work with me in the 1-1 Level Up for Love program and group coaching
• Other exciting announcements about where I'm going next with Gumball Love!

You also get exclusive access to taking the beta version of the Gumball Love quiz, which will only be released for purchase once it's live! Take it now here!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @melissajaneroberts

Are you struggling with self worth, self love, and confidence? Christina Lecuyer was a beautiful professional golfer who seemed to have everything going for her..looks, fame, money, a relationship..but behind closed doors she was struggling far more than anyone knew. By DECIDING to be happier, she turned her life around, and you can too! Christina shares helpful strategies for anyone wanting to up-level their mindset, confidence and life.

Today we discuss:

• How Christina went from professional golfer, hiding an eating disorder, to loving herself and creating an abundant life
• The falsity of "I'll be happy when.. X happens"
• What she did in the very beginning to start growing confidence
• Christina's top tips for growing self confidence
• Christina's secret to her happy, successful marriage
• and more!

Connect with Christina:

Instagram: @bechristina

Website

Podcast: Decide It's Your Turn

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

The right thing to do is often the harder thing to do. I'm celebrating a client this week who decided it's time to choose herself and stop settling. I know making this kind of decision often doesn't feel like celebrating though. There is a lot of grief and heartbreak when letting go of someone you bonded with, and even loved. Today I'm talking about why the grief and tears make you stronger.

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

You've likely heard of the three attachment styles: secure, anxious, and avoidant, but we don't hear enough about the fourth: Ambivalent Attachment.

If your guy seems really intense in the beginning, pursuing you, showering you with love and gifts, but then can turn cold on a time or seems really needy, but like whatever you give him is never enough...he likely has ambivalent attachment style. 

Tune in to learn:

• What ambivalent attachment style is and what causes it
• Examples and red flags of this attachment style
• Why you might fall for someone with this attachment style
• Your own work you need to do

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

A lot of coaches out there will tell you feeling butterflies around a new guy is a bad sign, because it means your nervous system is recognizing danger. This just isn't totally true, butterflies CAN actually be a good thing, as long as they're not overtaking your ability to spot the potential red flags.

In this episode, I'm breaking down:

• What the sensation of butterflies actually is from a physiological perspective
• Why, from a physiological perspective, butterflies aren't always a bad thing
• My personal experience with butterflies and how it's gone both good and bad
• When feeling butterflies becomes a bad thing
• How you can distinguish between when the butterflies are a warning sign vs. just excitement

Feeling uncomfortable on dates, like you have to perform, be someone you're not, anxious wondering what he's thinking of you? I help my clients feel totally confident in their skin on dates, and to know how to spot the red flags. You don't have to be currently dating to work with me, in fact, it's great if you're not currently dating!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

This episode was inspired by a listener who messaged me about her situation. She says the guy is not a Gumball Guy, he's nice and he loves her, but there's other issues...she noticed he has anxious attachment style and has been unwilling to get the help he needs, their core values are misaligned, and their levels of motivation and work ethic are different. 

She's wondering if it's worth it to stick with him, or if he's not the one.

I share in this episode what questions to ask yourself to know if you should continue dating someone, even if they're not a Gumball Guy, or if it's best to move on.

If you're stuck in this situation, I can help!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger

Are you dating with a sense of urgency and a timeline? 

If you ask any happily married couple if they had a sense of urgency to find the one when they met each other, most of them will probably say no.

When you're dating with this mentality, it's like you're starving, and so ANYTHING to eat looks good. It clouds your judgement, and you'll either miss the red flags or rationalize them to keep things moving along.

In this episode, we reverse-engineer dating by looking at what causes divorces, and what happy marriages have in common, so you can know what to look for and what to avoid.

If you're having trouble moving out of that "urgency" mentality, especially if you're dating after 30, I can help!

Need help stopping the cycle of toxic relationships, living happily single, and finding true love? If you're tired of being the only person in your friend group who's not in a healthy, happy relationship, I can help you! Here's how:

• The Level Up for Love one-on-one coaching package, which includes taking the Gumball Love Assessment and Relationship Analysis, four coaching sessions with Melissa and one coaching session with Iain and Melissa as a couple, or,
• The Elite VIP Group Coaching Masterclass sessions
• Join the VIP Private Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/850443405065504
• Follow Melissa on Instagram: @themelissaleger