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Rachel Hollis gives a tough-love talk on self-deception—how people perform a version of their lives (especially through social media) to feel significant, but end up emptier because they avoid facing what’s real. She breaks down three common lies (performing growth instead of doing it, living in “someday,” and performing for an audience) and offers steps to get honest: a reality-check person, a calendar/bank audit, and saying the true thing out loud.

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00:00 Scarcity Mindset & Why “Faking Abundance” Feels Empty

01:09 Meet Rachel Hollis + Why This Episode Is Tough Love

03:36 The Pattern: Performing Your Life Instead of Living It

06:10 Rachel’s Vertigo Story: When Emotions Show Up in the Body

08:55 You Can’t Fix What You Refuse to Face (Fake It Till You Make It?)

11:13 What Self-Deception Is—and Why Your Brain Does It

14:22 Sawyer, Mirrors, and the Cost of Not Seeing Reality Clearly

19:21 The Quest for Significance: Social Media, Scarcity, and “Looking Successful”

28:10 3 Types of Self-Deception (Type #1: Performing Growth vs. Real Growth)

30:05 When Self-Help Becomes a Trap: Consuming vs. Actually Growing

32:01 ‘Eat Pray Love’ Syndrome: Changing Scenery Without Changing Patterns

33:26 Real Work Isn’t Cute: The Uncomfortable, Unseen Healing Process

35:39 Self-Deception #2: Living in ‘Someday’ Instead of Facing Today

38:35 Self-Deception #3: Performing Your Life for an Audience (Social + AI)

44:07 The Way Through: Ego Deaths, Radical Honesty, and Letting Go of the Facade

46:06 Her Biggest Ego Check: Why ‘Girl, Wash Your Face’ Was Mostly Luck

50:14 3 Practical Steps to Get Real: Accountability, Audits, and Saying It Out Loud

54:37 Closing Reminder: You’re Human—Choose Truth in One Area This Week

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Fan Fave Replay Original Air Date - December 16, 2024

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Have you ever wondered why so many people give up on their dreams? In this episode, we’re diving into the five biggest reasons people quit—and more importantly, how you can avoid falling into the same traps. Whether it’s fear of failure, lack of support, or feeling stuck when the road gets tough, we’ll unpack the hidden obstacles that hold people back and share actionable advice to help you stay motivated, focused, and on track. If you’ve ever felt like giving up on a goal, this episode is for you. Let’s turn those doubts into determination!

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00:00 Stop Wasting Energy on Naysayers

01:02 Introduction to the Podcast

01:42 Why People Give Up on Their Dreams

02:29 The Power of Tenacity

03:11 Five Reasons People Give Up on Dreams

03:45 Voice of Authority: A Dream Killer

05:00 Rachel's Journey to Becoming an Author

10:57 Self-Publishing Success

19:26 Handling Unsolicited Opinions

25:50 When Someone Else Beats You to It

26:03 Your Unique Story Matters

27:18 Facing the Fear of Competition

27:54 Embracing the Hard Work

30:02 Breaking Down Big Dreams

32:12 Surround Yourself with Dreamers

34:40 The Long Journey to Success

39:47 Turning Short-Term Failures into Long-Term Wins

46:21 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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Rachel challenges the idea that motivation is the key to change, arguing that motivation is fleeting and often leads to shame when goals slip, especially when people use harsh self-talk, comparison, or other unhealthy tactics to “get motivated.” She explains that real progress comes from routines, habits, and ritual—showing up for your life every day in ways that fit your real circumstances, including mid-level days and hard days influenced by stress, hormones, or life seasons.

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00:00 Show Up Every Day (Without Hustle): Aligning With Your Future Self

01:04 Welcome + Intention for a Perspective Shift

02:30 Rachel’s Background: 15 Years of Personal Development Lessons

03:35 Why Goal-Setting Culture Creates Shame (The Motivation Trap)

06:18 Motivation Fades—Build Routines, Habits, and Rituals Instead

08:07 Great Days, Bad Days, and the ‘Middle’ Where We Get Stuck

12:37 Toxic Motivation Tactics: Self-Hate, Caffeine, and Comparison

17:42 Personal Story: Diet Culture, Binge Cycles, and Why ‘It Works’ Doesn’t Last

24:27 Business Example: Stop Waiting for the Market—Hope Isn’t a Strategy

27:00 The Red-Things Exercise: You See What You’re Looking For (Choose Your North Star)

30:05 Make Change Automatic: What If Growth Was as Easy as Brushing Your Teeth?

30:55 Your Weird Little Habits: Nose-Blowing, Sleep Positions & Chapstick Rituals

32:46 Why Habits Feel Mandatory: Triggers, Cues & The Power of Habit

34:18 The Framework Starts Here: Stop Relying on Motivation

35:49 Goal Type #1: The ‘One Thing’ That Changes Everything

38:32 Consistency Beats Intensity: Falling in Love with the Process

40:41 Goal Type #2: Chasing a Feeling in Hard Seasons

42:34 Goal Type #3: ‘Future You’ Persona + Vision Details

44:31 Perfectionism & Analysis Paralysis: Just Choose a Direction

46:59 Build Systems That Work: Recipes, Experiments & Habit Stacking

53:11 Time Expectations + Environment: The Map, the People, and Momentum

59:34 Find Your Community (Free or Paid) + Final Challenge: Do One Thing This Week

01:02:40 Wrap-Up: You Don’t Need Motivation—You Need a Process

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In this episode of the 'Ask Rach' Rachel answers questions on feeling directionless, financial struggles, and competitive friendships. Rachel provides practical advice on embracing passion, managing finances, and fostering authentic connections.

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00:00 Identifying Toxic Friendships

01:04 Welcome to Ask Rach

02:01 How the Podcast Works

03:45 Angie's Question: Feeling Stuck

05:00 Finding Joy and Purpose

14:10 Financial Struggles and College Costs

27:03 Competitive Female Friendships

38:15 Final Thoughts and Farewell

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In this episode of The Rachel Hollis Podcast, Rachel Hollis offers a wealth of practical advice for small business owners on how to increase profitability and scale their ventures. Addressing common challenges such as overworking without increasing profits, and the importance of focusing on profit rather than just revenue, Rachel dives deep into key business concepts.

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00:00 Introduction to Profit Strategies

01:05 Meet Rachel Hollis

01:35 Common Struggles of Business Owners

05:28 The Importance of Profit Over Revenue

06:57 Understanding Gross and Net Revenue

14:45 Real-Life Business Examples

20:32 Maximizing Customer Transactions

29:54 Maximizing Customer Spend

32:00 The Importance of Upselling

33:52 Leadership and Mindset

39:20 Direct Access to Customers

46:51 Financial Clarity for Business Growth

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In this episode, Rachel Hollis delves into the destructive nature of comparing ourselves to others. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she explores why we feel the need to compare and how it often leads to measuring our lives against superficial metrics. Rachel highlights the importance of focusing on our own paths and internal metrics of joy, peace, and fulfillment.

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00:39 Welcome to the Show

01:10 The Death of Joy: Understanding Comparison

01:45 A Childhood Story: The Heartbeat Project

04:24 The Real Issue with Comparison

05:16 Why We Compare Ourselves

07:25 A Personal Anecdote: The Bar Class Experience

12:19 The Problem with Visible Success

14:05 The Cost of Success

17:31 Comparison as Self-Punishment

18:50 Taking Responsibility for Your Own Life

24:51 Dealing with Negative Self-Talk

26:55 Jealousy as a Guide

29:22 Conclusion: Embrace Your Journey

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In today's episode, Rachel addresses the common struggle of losing momentum with new goals shortly after setting them, especially at the start of a new year. Instead of focusing solely on the goal, she emphasize the importance of building sustainable systems that can support achieving these goals. Let's figure our your system!

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00:00 The Excitement and Disappointment of New Year Goals

00:39 The Importance of Systems Over Goals

01:57 Defining Your 2026 Vision

03:32 Building Effective Systems for Success

04:41 Recap and Setting Up for February

08:52 Personal Health Journey and System Failures

14:22 Experimentation and Perfectionism in Systems

15:20 Creating Your Personalized System Framework

21:18 Exclusive Content and Community

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In this episode of the Rachel Hollis podcast, Rachel dives into listener questions about challenging relationships and friendships.

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00:00 Introduction and Initial Thoughts

01:02 Welcome to Ask Rach

02:54 Advice on Unhealthy Relationships

09:08 Dealing with Friendship Issues

19:01 Balancing Motherhood and Self-Care

29:12 Final Thoughts and Farewell

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In this episode, Rachel Hollis addresses the frustration of working hard towards goals without making significant progress. She identifies common pitfalls like self-sabotage disguised as productive activity, goal avoidance, and the allure of potential over commitment.

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00:26 Meet Rachel Hollis: Your Guide to Real Life

01:06 Understanding High Achievers and Their Struggles

01:39 The Origin of Today's Episode

02:38 The Sneaky Trap of Goal Avoidance

05:13 Deferred Courage Syndrome: A Common Pitfall

11:07 The Illusion of Preparation

13:38 Bargaining with Fear: A Dangerous Game

14:35 Motherhood and Personal Goals: Finding Balance

19:17 Addicted to Potential: The Allure of 'Someday'

23:47 The Fear of Failure: Why It Holds You Back

25:52 Building a Supportive Community

27:30 Conclusion: Aligning Actions with Goals

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Original Airdate - July 11th 2025

In this episode, Rachel Hollis discusses her personal journey of losing weight during perimenopause. She shares the frustration and challenges she faced, including a major shift in hormones that made her usual fitness and nutrition routines ineffective. Rachel emphasizes the importance of experimentation and finding what works specifically for your body.

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01:18 Personal Struggles and Realizations

01:46 The Turning Point: Getting Real with Myself

02:37 Detailed Breakdown of My Weight Loss Journey

03:04 Podcast Introduction and Disclaimer

04:02 Understanding Perimenopause and Weight Gain

07:51 The Frustration of Unexplained Weight Gain

12:12 Experimenting with Diet and Exercise

22:05 Family Support and Nutritional Guidance

28:18 The Frustration of Dietary Changes

31:46 Introduction to the Slow Carb Diet

33:07 Morning Protein Routine

36:27 Calorie Counting Realizations

40:06 Adjusting to a Strict Nutrition Plan

46:35 The Impact of Anti-Inflammatory Diet

51:42 Experimenting with Nutrition

55:12 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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In this episode, Rachel Hollis discusses the importance of financial freedom and practical ways to earn a raise without burning out. She emphasizes setting a clear goal for a raise, having open conversations with managers early on, and improving the quality—not just quantity—of your work.

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00:00 Introduction: Working Smarter, Not Harder

00:57 Welcome to the Show: Life, Real Life

01:37 The Importance of Financial Freedom

03:26 Taking Ownership of Your Financial Future

06:50 Seven Practical Ways to Get a Raise

07:36 Decide That a Raise is Your Goal

14:56 Have the Conversation Early

22:10 Improve How You Work, Not Just How Hard You Work

27:54 Invest in Yourself

30:44 Track Your Wins Like an Athlete

32:23 Expand Your Impact

33:50 Act Like Someone Who Already Earns More

38:26 Conclusion: Set the Intention to Earn More

39:22 Closing Remarks and Upcoming Episodes

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