This week we break down what top, bottom, vers, and side mean, and why “which one are you?” might not be the best question to ask. We look at how these labels show up and what they can imply socially, and how to talk with partners about what you like (and how you don't have to talk about what you like with people who aren't partners!!... tune in and ally better!

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"I wish I could just be gay." There's a name for this: heteropessimism, being openly embarrassed or hopeless about straight dating while still doing it. This week we look at what's behind these feelings: the orgasm gap, the chore gap, the invisible mental load, and issues with dating apps. But this episode is not about blaming men; there are things that everyone can do to help shift away from heteropessimism, and we end the episode with some recommendations and challenges to take out into the streets (and sheets!) with you!

Episodes referenced: Episode 257, How men can stand up for femmes on dating apps.

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Getting a reactive ("positive") test result is hard enough on its own. But then comes the part nobody prepares you for: the conversations. This week on The Sex Wrap, we're breaking down the partner notification process without the shame spiral. We'll walk you through what to say, how to say it, and what to do when someone doesn't take it well. Because telling your partners is one of the most responsible and caring things you can do. We're also covering anonymous notification options, what information you're actually obligated to share, and how to take care of your mental health through it all. You got the result. Now let's get through the next step together.

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You did everything right — you had the talk, you asked for the results, and then... silence. This week on The Sex Wrap, we're unpacking the frustrating moment of someone disappearing the moment sexual health comes up. Is it shame? Fear? A red flag you should've clocked sooner? We're getting into why asking for STD results is still taboo, what the ghosting really means, and how to protect yourself, emotionally and physically, when someone can't handle the conversation.

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A pill a day. A shot every two months. And now: a shot twice a year. PrEP has come a long way, but the stigma around it hasn't caught up. We talk through who it's for (hint: way more people than you think!), why people still don't talk about it, and what the new injectable options actually mean for your sex life.

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This episode unpacks the loaded idea of “virginity” and the expectations that come with it. We get into how disclosure, intimacy, and power intersect, and why first-time narratives can feel so high-stakes. It’s an episode that applies to all types of virginities!

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Outdoor sex is one of the most common sexual fantasies—but what happens when fantasy meets reality? In this episode, we talk about the allure of outdoor sex—from beaches to backseats to wooded trails—and the realities that come with it. We cover consent, privacy, legal risks, environmental considerations, and how to keep things safer if you decide to take the adventure outside.

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This week on The Sex Wrap, we’re unpacking negging, the backhanded compliment that’s supposed to spark attraction but often just seeds insecurity. Is it playful teasing, pickup-artist residue, or straight-up emotional manipulation? We break down where it came from, why it “works,” how it shows up in modern dating (across genders and sexualities), and what to say when someone tries it on you. If you’ve ever left a flirtation feeling slightly smaller instead of turned on, this episode is for you.

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Today we have lots and lots of tips for making protected sex feel better! We will talk about external and internal condoms and go through the different materials of condoms and the benefits of each. Sex with a condom can feel AMAZING--if you find the right mix of type and tips that work for you!

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Most of us have probably experienced someone hitting on us that has come across as creepy. So how do you hit on someone and let them know you're interested in them sexually without being creepy? Today we break down creepiness and how to NOT be creepy with people you're interested in out in the world!

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Sexuality and Sexual Health Resource Sites:

The Sex Wrap

Kaiser Family Foundation

World Health Organization

The Guttmacher Institute

Planned Parenthood

And also see Episode 247: Should I use AI to answer my questions about sex, sexual health, and relationships?

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