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For the 255th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Rosa Campbell, historian and author of The Book That Taught the World to Orgasm and Then Disappeared: Shere Hite and the Hite Report.
In this episode, Rosa unpacks the groundbreaking (and controversial) legacy of Shere Hite and her bestselling work, The Hite Report—a feminist text that revolutionized how we talk about women’s pleasure, desire, and dissatisfaction. We get into Hite’s unlikely path—from being raised by a single mom in a conservative environment to modeling and working in the sex industry—and how those experiences uniquely positioned her to challenge dominant narratives about sex. We also explore the global impact of The Hite Report, the cultural backlash that ultimately erased Hite from mainstream feminist history, and why her work is still relevant today despite all the progress.
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For the 254th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes writer, journalist, and professor Mallary Tenore Tarpley.
Mallary is the author of Slip: Life in the Middle of Eating Disorder Recovery, and her work reframes recovery not as a clean, finished destination, but as a messy, ongoing “middle place” where progress and setbacks coexist. In this episode, we talk about how grief, control, and perfectionism shaped her eating disorder after losing her mother at a young age, what treatment actually looks like behind the scenes, the concept of normative discontent (the cultural reality that most of us struggle with our bodies), how slips can become opportunities for growth instead of shame spirals, and how she talks to her kids about food, bodies, and emotions in a way that breaks generational cycles. Plus, we dive into the complexities of pregnancy and postpartum recovery with an eating disorder history.
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For the 253rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, the tables are turned—host Courtney Kocak is interviewed by returning guest and Spent author Antonia Crane about her debut memoir Girl Gone Wild on its pub date!
Girl Gone Wild is an unwittingly feminist coming-of-age about ambition, delusion, sex, shame, and misogyny—from growing up in small-town Minnesota to chasing her Hollywood dreams… including a stint selling T-shirts on the Girls Gone Wild tour.
We go behind the scenes of the book’s 15-year journey from first essay to publication and its evolution. We also talk about sex work, addiction, abusive relationships, “dark teachers,” the writers who shaped Courtney’s voice, the challenge of fact-checking memory, and why memoir is about emotional truth more than perfect accuracy.
For more from today's special guest host, Antonia Crane:
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For the 252nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes life coach, transformation specialist, and author Dr. Dravon James.
Dr. Dravon is the author of Forgiveness: The Pathway to Happiness, and her approach reframes forgiveness as an act of self-love rather than as something we do for those who hurt us. In this episode, we talk about why waiting for an apology keeps you stuck, how unresolved resentment shows up in your relationships, and practical tools for starting a forgiveness practice—especially after a breakup, which is when I’ve needed it most. We also get into the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation, and how to set boundaries without holding on to anger.
For more from today's guest, Dr. Dravon James:
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For the 251st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author and professor Kelly Foster Lundquist.
Kelly’s debut memoir, Beard: A Memoir of a Marriage, unpacks her first marriage to a man who would later come out as gay. Raised in evangelical purity culture, Kelly married young and spent years navigating a relationship shaped by religious expectations and conversion therapy's ripple effects.
In this episode, we talk about discovering the reality of her husband’s sexuality in real time, the psychological aftermath of that unraveling, and the challenge of learning to trust herself again. We also get into queer theory as a liberatory framework, the cultural trope of the “beard,” dating and desire after heartbreak, and how writing this book helped Kelly access forgiveness for everyone involved.
For more from today's guest, Kelly Foster Lundquist:
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Preorder 10 copies of Girl Gone Wild to join The Confessional—a live memoir writing residency during the launch of Girl Gone Wild. For more details, visit www.courtneykocak.com/teaching.
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For the 250th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares an audio essay cut from her debut memoir, Girl Gone Wild, about aging in the entertainment industry and why finding her first maybe-gray hair down there took her back to the Sony hack.
Here's a link to Courtney's Open Secrets essay: https://opensecretsmag.substack.com/p/sony-hack-amy-pascal-gray-pubes-pubic-hair-dye
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And here's a link to Rachel Kramer Bussel's How to Write Erotica episode: https://www.privatepartsunknown.com/how-to-write-erotica-with-rachel-kramer-bussel/
Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
Preorder 10 copies of Girl Gone Wild to join The Confessional—a live memoir writing residency during the launch of Girl Gone Wild. For more details, visit www.courtneykocak.com/teaching.
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For the 249th episode of Private Parts Unknown, we’re revisiting a favorite episode from the archives, originally part of the Mind Trip series, which explores the modern psychedelic renaissance as waves of decriminalization, legalization, and corporatization build across the United States.
In this third installment of the series, former co-host Sofiya Alexandra interviews Courtney Kocak about her first ayahuasca experience—two ceremonies over the course of one weekend. They dive into Courtney’s intentions going in, what happened during the ceremonies, how she began integrating the experience afterward, and what it all meant in the days that followed.
For more from the Mind Trip series, check out this playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/5Sabv4TOwfOmD2OwvPyxBJ
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For the 248th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes journalist and author Elyssa Goodman.
Elyssa is the author of Glitter and Concrete: A Cultural History of Drag in New York City, a sweeping look at more than 150 years of drag—from 19th-century male impersonators and mafia-run clubs to the rise of RuPaul’s Drag Race and today’s political backlash. Through rich archival research and interviews with contemporary performers, Elyssa reveals drag as not just spectacle, but survival strategy, community lifeline, and radical art form.
In this episode, we talk about the forgotten history of drag kings, how queer communities carved out space under criminalization, the impact of mainstream visibility, and why today’s moral panic around drag is part of a cyclical pattern. We also get into what gives Elyssa hope about the future of drag. This episode is a glitter-soaked reminder that gender has always been a performance—and that drag, in its many-splendored forms, has always been here.
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For the 247th episode of Private Parts Unknown, the tables are turned—host Courtney Kocak sits down with Trio House Press junior editor Lili Gourley to talk about her debut memoir Girl Gone Wild.
Girl Gone Wild is a coming-of-age tale of ambition, delusion, drugs, sex, and misogyny... including selling T-shirts on the Girls Gone Wild bus.
This special episode is a behind-the-scenes look at the book’s 15-year journey from first essay to publication, the revision process, how the Girls Gone Wild tour became the title essay, substance abuse, the writers who influenced her journey, how memoir can literally heal you, and, most importantly, what I hope you get from reading it.
Preorder Girl Gone Wild now—it directly supports the show and helps the book reach more readers. Get your copy of Girl Gone Wild from Bookshop.org or Amazon.
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For the 246th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Nebraska-based swinger, porn performer, and legal sex worker Ms. Amanda.
Ms. Amanda has spent more than a decade moving between often-siloed sexual worlds. In this interview, she takes us behind the scenes of her long-term marriage, her foray into the swinger lifestyle, how that evolved into porn and legal sex work at the Love Ranch, and the realities of working within Nevada’s regulated brothel system. We talk about how she turned pleasure into a business with Kasbh Inc. and her other sexual endeavors, the care work at the heart of sex work, and how she defines her own boundaries after years in the industry.
For more from today's guest, Ms. Amanda:
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For the 245th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes New York Times bestselling author, journalist, and screenwriter Deborah Copaken.
A former war correspondent turned chronicler of intimacy, Deborah has spent her career examining what it means to choose love over conflict and what it's like to be a woman in a world hostile to women. In this interview, Deborah reflects on finding the greatest love of her life at 56, navigating a relationship shaped by Alzheimer’s caregiving, and what motherhood has given her. She also talks candidly about midlife women's health and her life-affirming friendship with Nora Ephron.
For more from today's guest, Deborah Copaken:
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