Many married couples carry a secret: one of them doesn't like sex—they may even dread it. For years, sex has felt more like obligation than pleasure, and they've quietly believed something must be wrong with them.

This week, we're tackling the unspoken question: "What if I'm married and I don't like sex?"

We'll talk about the real reasons sex can feel difficult or even painful, and call out a few common lies that keep couples stuck.

If you've ever felt confused, disappointed, or alone in your struggles with sex, this conversation offers hope, practical insight, and the reminder you don't have to stay where you are.

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Q&A: Past sexual trauma inhibits my ability to enjoy sex. Is there hope that I can heal? (video)

Q&A: Sex has never been pleasurable in our marriage. Should I fake it? (video)

Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery

God, Sex & Your Marriage by Juli Slattery

Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Juli Slattery

Restoring the Pleasure by Cliff & Joyce Penner

Enjoy! The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Cliff & Joyce Penner

Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz

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Life gets busy—especially with kids, work, and everyday stress. But research shows that couples who consistently make time for each other are significantly happier in their marriages.

This week, we're talking about why date nights matter more than you think. We'll tackle common obstacles couples face, like exhaustion, busy schedules, lack of childcare, and awkward conversations. Plus, you'll hear simple and practical tips to help you reconnect with your spouse—even in the busiest of seasons.

Guests: Dr. Greg & Erin Smalley

Check out our newest Hot Topic Kit: Healthy Dating & Boundaries.

Follow-up Resources:

Take the Date Night Challenge: 52 Creative Ideas to Make Your Marriage Fun by Greg & Erin Smalley

Date Night Conversation Starters from Greg & Erin Smalley

Q&A: How often is "normal" for having sex in marriage? (video)

You know your spouse's love language, and you try to use it. So why is their love tank always running on empty?

This week, we're expanding the classic framework to include personality nuances, seasonal shifts, overdoing it (yes, that's possible!), and love tank "leaks." Plus, you'll learn why gifts aren't always about money and why physical touch isn't always about sex.

Join us for a conversation about moving past formulas and becoming a better student of the one you love.

Guests: Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott

Follow-up Resources:

Listen to Dr. Gary Chapman talk about the Five Love Languages on Java #592 The Love Language that Matters Most.

Take the free relationship assessment at myheartchart.com

The Five Love Languages Premium Assessment

The Love Language That Matters Most by Dr. Gary Chapman, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott

Follow Les & Leslie at @lesandleslie

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Maybe you're already living together. Maybe this topic feels uncomfortable. Maybe you've never questioned it before.

This week, Juli unpacks what God says about living together before marriage, what (secular) research is telling us, and how covenant—not convenience—creates lasting security.

Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz & Joe Caruso

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Follow-Up Resources:

Preorder 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Sex, Love, and Intimacy by Dr. Juli Slattery

Q&A: Is God okay with me having sex with someone I love even if we're not married?

Q&A: What is the difference between sexual integrity and purity?

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Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06

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Men get a lot of mixed messages about masculinity. Some say it's toxic. Others say it doesn't really matter anymore. It's no surprise guys are left wondering, "What does it even mean to be a good man?"

This week, Juli sits down with Brant Hansen, author of The Men We Need, to get honest about the struggles men face and why true strength looks very different from the stereotypes we're used to. This conversation is an invitation to see manhood not as a problem to fix, but as a calling worth stepping into.

Guest: Brant Hansen

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Follow-up Resources:

The Men We Need:God's Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up by Brant Hansen

Blog: 3 Reasons Women Tend To Take Over in Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog: 7 Ways We Unknowingly Sabotage Intimacy in Our Marriages by Dr. Juli Slattery

Blog: Resign As Boss: How To Help Your Husband Lead by Dr. Juli Slattery

Video: Q&A: How Can I Help My Husband Grow Up and Take Responsibility?

Follow Brant Hansen at @branthansen

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

What's okay in the bedroom—and how are married couples supposed to know?

In this episode, Juli doesn't hand you a checklist. Instead, she walks you through three questions every couple can ask when navigating gray areas in the bedroom.

From pornography and fantasy to sex toys and more, this conversation helps you discern where you may need to draw a line and where you may need to step out of your comfort zone.

Joined by Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso, this episode marks the kick off of a new series inspired by Juli's newly revised, upcoming book, 25 Questions You're Afraid to Ask About Love, Sex, and Intimacy.

Co-Hosts: Hannah Nitz, Joe Caruso

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Follow up resources:

Check out our brand-new Hot Topic Kit: Pornography in Marriage.

Blog: What's OK in the Bedroom? (Includes a list of what God has said "no" to)

Book: God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

Book: Passion Pursuit: What Kind of Love Are You Making? by Dr. Juli Slattery and Linda Dillow

Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz

Follow Joe Caruso at @joecaruso06

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Are awkward "side hugs" the best we can do when it comes to opposite-sex friendships?

Juli sits down with author Bronwyn Lea, who helps us rethink what it means to live as brothers and sisters in God's family. They talk about why we often confuse intimacy with sexuality, how Jesus modeled close, non-romantic relationships, and what healthy Christian community can look like (even in a sex-saturated world).

Listen in to discover how moving beyond fear-based boundaries can lead to more connection and stronger, life-giving friendships in the body of Christ.

Guest: Bronwyn Lea

Follow-up Resources:

Beyond Awkward Side Hugs: Living as Christian Brothers and Sisters in a Sex-Crazed World by Bronwyn Lea

What Defines an Intimate Relationship? by Dr. Juli Slattery (blog)

Q&A: What is the Purpose of My Sexuality as a Single? w/Dr. Juli Slattery

Q&A: How Can I Tell The Difference Between Sexual Desire And A Desire For Intimacy? w/Dr. Juli Slattery

Surrendered Sexuality: How Knowing Jesus Changes . . . Everything by Dr. Juli Slattery

Follow Bronwyn at @bronwyn_lea

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

Juli unpacks four of the most common (and subtle) lies we believe about sex, desire, and compatibility. From "sex is about expressing myself" to "the best sex is compatible sex," they explore how these ideas shape our relationships—and how God invites you into something deeper.

If you've ever felt stuck, confused, or distant from God because of sexuality, pull up a chair—this conversation is for you.

Co-hosts: Hannah Nitz and Joe Caruso

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Follow-up Resources:

Surrendered Sexuality by Dr. Juli Slattery

God, Sex, and Your Marriage by Dr. Juli Slattery

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Follow Hannah Nitz @hannahnitz

Follow Joe at @joecaruso06

What if your relationship with God didn't start with how broken you are—but with how beloved you are?

This week, Juli is joined by Marty Solomon, host of the BEMA Podcast, to explore the difference between our Western desire to have all the answers and the Bible's invitation to mystery, curiosity, and wonder. They talk about how systematic theology can both help and hinder our faith, and why being "beloved" is more foundational than being "right."

This conversation reframes how we see our humanity in light of God's steadfast love—not as a problem to fix, but as a relationship to steward.

Guest: Marty Solomon

Preorder Marty's new book, The Gospel of Being Human: How Asking Better Questions of the Bible Reveals Who We Are

Listen to The BEMA Podcast (we recommend starting with Season 1)

Follow Marty Solomon at @marty_solomon

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

If you're trying to heal after betrayal, you may be doing everything you were taught to do—and still feel stuck.

Sometimes we unintentionally sabotage our own healing—all in the name of love and forgiveness. Instead of feeling better, you end up feeling silenced, unsafe, and confused about why healing hasn't happened.

Author and counselor Tammy Gustafson joins Juli to share four necessary phases of healing, and three common mistakes that actually shut it down. With clinical insight and biblical wisdom, this conversation will help you move forward with strength and hope.

Guest: Tammy Gustafson, LPC

Follow-up Resources:

Preorder Broken to Brave: Your Courageous Act of Healing After Intimate Betrayal (comes out Jan. 27)

Register for The Betrayal Healing Conference, January 26-30. (It's online and free.)

Take the Betrayal Healing Quiz to find what phase of the journey you're in.

Q&A: Does My Spouse Watch Porn Because of Me?

Q&A: How Do I Know if My Spouse Is Repentant After a Betrayal?

Thriving Despite a Difficult Marriage by Drs. Chuck and Mike Misja (for the betrayed spouse who stays in a marriage even though their spouse is not doing the work needed to heal)

Follow Tammy at @tammylgustafson

Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy

There's more to the masturbation conversation than simply "right" or "wrong." Could it be an issue of spiritual maturity for some of us—whether we're married or single? Can it be used in a healthy way in marriage? Join us to have your thinking challenged!

Co-host: Hannah Nitz

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Follow-up resources:

Masturbation: Is It Wrong? (Juli's blog)

What's OK in the Bedroom? (Juli's blog)

Is Masturbation a Sin? You May Be Asking the Wrong Question (Juli's blog)

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Follow Authentic Intimacy at @authenticintimacy