Today’s show is all about navigating the school system when your child has disabilities—and how to do that with clarity, confidence, and a whole lot more support. My guest is Stacey Shubitz, author of the new book Make the School System Work for Your Child with Disabilities: Empowering Kids for the Future. In this episode, Stacey shares her journey as both an educator and a parent, and we dig into what parents really need to understand about special education, effective communication with schools, and the IEP process. She offers practical, empowering strategies for advocating for your child, managing the complexity of the system without losing yourself, and finding moments of joy and meaning along the way, even if (or when) the path feels overwhelming.

About Stacey Shubitz 

Stacey Shubitz is a certified literacy specialist and former fourth- and fifth-grade teacher in the New York City Public Schools and a public charter school in Rhode Island. Since 2009, she has been a literacy consultant, supporting teachers with writing instruction. Stacey has also taught graduate literacy education courses at Lesley University and Penn State–Harrisburg.

She is the Chief of Operations and Lead Writer for Two Writing Teachers, a leading resource for writing instruction since 2007. She also co-hosts the Two Writing Teachers Podcast. Stacey earned an M.A. in Literacy Education from Teachers College, Columbia University, and an M.S.Ed. in Childhood Education from Hunter College.

She has published several books about writing instruction, including Welcome to Writing Workshop and Craft Moves. Stacey’s most recent book, Make the School System Work for Your Child with Disabilities: Empowering Kids for the Future, was published by Guilford Press in January 2026. In this book, she shares her experiences as both a parent and an educator, equipping families with real-life stories, inclusive resources, and the knowledge to advocate for their children confidently. Stacey lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and children.

Things you'll learn from this episode 

• How Stacey’s dual perspective as an educator and parent strengthens her advocacy for families in special education

• Why educating yourself about your rights, school processes, and the IEP system is essential for effective advocacy

• How partnerships with teachers — built through clear, ongoing communication and regular check-ins — support your child’s success

• Why building a support network helps parents navigate the overwhelm of special education

• How practicing consistent self-care and finding joy in small moments protects parents from burnout

• Why celebrating every bit of progress, no matter how small, helps families stay grounded and encouraged

Resources mentioned

• Stacey Shubitz’ website

• Make the School System Work for Your Child with Disabilities: Empowering Kids for the Future by Stacey Shubitz

• Parenting Training & Information Centers

• Two Writing Teachers Blog

• Two Writing Teachers Podcast

• Stacey Shubitz’s Substack

• Stacey Shubitz on Instagram

• Stacey Shubitz on LinkedIn

• The Kids Who Aren’t Okay: The Urgent Case for Reimagining Support, Belonging, and Hope in Schools by Dr. Ross Greene

• Strength-Based Assessments with Dr. Jade Rivera (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• The Strength-Based Assessment Lab at Bridges Graduate School of Cognitive Development

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Picture this. You’re sitting in the neuropsych’s office after you just got your kid’s diagnosis. You’re relieved to have some information on how to help them but have no clue how to explain their neurodivergence to them. Do you talk about the science? Do you wait until they are a certain age where they might understand more about their brains? Or maybe you think about waiting for them to start asking the questions. If you can relate, you’re not alone in wondering what the best way to have this conversation is. And the reality is, the how and when does matter. Dr. Liz Angoff has spent years working with children and families to make learning differences easier to understand. She’s the author of the Brain Building Books, a resource designed to help kids see their neurodivergence as a strength rather than a limitation.

In our conversation, Liz shares why early and open discussions about neurodiversity are so important, how parents can guide their children through assessments in a way that fosters trust, and why shifting from a deficit-based model to a discovery-based approach can be transformative for the whole family. We also explore how different kids process this information in their own ways—some may embrace it, while others, especially teenagers, might resist labels altogether. She also provides thoughtful strategies to meet kids where they are and help them feel seen and supported. If you’ve ever struggled with how to talk to your child about their neurodivergence, this episode is full of practical insights and reassurance.

Liz Angoff, Ph.D., is a Licensed Educational Psychologist with a Diploma in School Neuropsychology, providing assessment and consultation services to children and their families in the Bay Area, CA. She is the author of the Brain Building Books, tools for engaging children in understanding their learning and developmental differences. More information about Dr. Liz and her work is available at ⁠www.ExplainingBrains.com⁠.

Things you'll learn from this episode

* How early conversations about neurodiversity help normalize differences and make children feel unique and valued

* Why parents should approach assessments as discovery processes rather than problem-solving exercises

* How to prepare children for assessments by discussing their experience to foster understanding and trust

* The importance of respecting how children choose to process information about their neurodivergence, especially teenagers resistant to labels

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Today we’re taking a fresh, much-needed look at screen time—one that moves beyond fear, shame, and power struggles and into something far more nuanced and humane. My guest is Ash Brandin, also known as TheGamerEducator, and the author of the new book, Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family. In this episode, Ash and I talk about screen time through the lenses of social equity and moral neutrality, and why empowering kids with skills, not control, is key to navigating technology well. We also explore practical strategies for managing screen use, how engaging with kids around their interests can change everything, and what a truly collaborative approach to technology can look like inside families. This is a grounded, compassionate conversation for anyone feeling stuck or conflicted about screens and modern parenting.

About Ash Brandin, EdS

Ash Brandin, EdS, known online as TheGamerEducator, empowers families to make screen time sustainable, manageable, and beneficial for the whole family. Now in their 15th year of teaching middle school, they help caregivers navigate the world of tech with consistent, loving boundaries, founded on respect for children, appreciation of video games and tech, and knowledge of pedagogical techniques. Ash has appeared on podcasts including Thinking with Adam Grant, Good Inside with Dr. Becky, and Culture Study with Anne Helen Petersen, and has contributed to articles featured on Romper, Scary Mommy, Lifehacker, The Daily Beast, USA Today, and NPR. Their bestselling book, Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family debuted in August, 2025. In their free time, Ash loves to hike, bake, play video games, and spend time with their family.

Things you'll learn from this episode 

• How screen time can be reframed more positively when we move away from fear-based narratives

• Why understanding social equity issues is essential for having nuanced, moral-neutral conversations about technology

• How focusing on access, behavior, and content helps parents manage screen time more effectively

• Why empowering kids with skills—and engaging with their interests—builds trust and connection

• How creating safe, clear boundaries allows children to explore technology responsibly

• Why collaborative approaches (and simple tools like the sticky note trick) make screen time transitions smoother and more supportive

Resources mentioned

• Power On: Managing Screen Time to Benefit the Whole Family by Ash Brandin

• Ash Brandin on Instagram

• The Game Educator (Ash Brandin’s Substack)

• The Game Educator (website)

• Meryl Alper on Screens & Growing Up Autistic in the Digital Age (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• Kids Across the Spectrums: Growing Up Autistic in the Digital Age by Meryl Alper (via MIT Press website)

• Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Dr. Devorah Heitner

• Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World by Dr. Devorah Heitner

• Dr. Devorah Heitner on Online Safety, Internet “Rabbit Holes,” and Differently Wired Kids (Tilt Parenting Podcast)

• Dr. Devorah Heitner on the Pros & Cons of “Managing” Our Kids’ Screen Time (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• Dr. Devorah Heitner on Parenting Kids Who Are Growing Up Online (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• Dr. Alok Kanojia on How to Raise Healthy Gamers (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• We Asked Roblox's C.E.O. About Child Safety (Hard Fork episode)

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I know that there are concerns among many families that their child’s self-esteem can be negatively impacted by a label, or that others, including teachers may treat a child differently if they know they have one or more diagnoses, especially because of the stigma associated with neurodifferences. So this is what Dr. Karen Wilson and I get into — demystifying the process and offering suggestions for approaching these important conversations. 

In our conversation, Karen breaks down the kind of language we can use when talking with kids about their diagnosis, as well as how that conversation will likely continue to evolve as our kids get older. We also talked about how to navigate this process with a child or teen who is resistant to labels, why it’s critical that we have all of these conversations from a foundation of prioritizing and recognizing strengths.  and how to have this conversation in a household with neurotypical siblings.

Dr. Karen Wilson is a Clinical Neuropsychologist, Director of West LA Neuropsychology, PC, the founder of ChildNEXUS.com, and the host of the Diverse Thinking · Different Learning podcast. She specializes in the assessment of neurodevelopmental disorders in children and adolescents, and she has extensive experience evaluating children and adults who present with neurological, medical and psychiatric disorders.

Things you'll learn from this episode:

* What a diagnosis actually is and what it can mean to a family

* How to balance communication surrounding your child’s areas of strengths and weaknesses so the emphasis is not on challenges

* What types of language to use when talking with your kids about their diagnoses, and how to evolve language as kids get older

* How to navigate talking with children and teens about their neurodifferences if they’re resistant to labels or being “otherized”

* Best practices for talking about diagnoses in households with neurotypical siblings

* How to give kids the tools and empowerment they need to ultimately feel confident navigating situations in their lives where they are judged by their diagnosis and related stigma

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Today’s episode is a little different—it’s just me, revisiting the Tilt Manifesto I wrote back in 2015 as part of my development of Tilt Parenting. In this solocast, I share the context in which that manifesto was born, what was happening in my own life as a parent of a neurodivergent child at the time, and why there felt like such an urgent need to challenge the dominant parenting narratives around compliance, productivity, and “normal.” This is a look back — and a look forward — rooted in gratitude, curiosity, and hope.

Resources Mentioned

The Tilt Manifesto 

Jonathan Field’s podcast The Good Life Project

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Today we’re exploring unschooling—not just as an educational choice, but as a deeply personal and often healing journey for parents themselves. My guest is Esther Jones, an unschooling mother of three, the founder of The Unschool Space podcast, and the author of The Parent’s Handbook to Unschooling Yourself. Esther was led into unschooling by her own children, who challenged her to unravel long-held beliefs about parenting, learning, and neurodiversity. Esther and I talk about what it really takes to step away from conventional expectations and learn to trust children’s natural learning processes. We also explore the emotional work parents often need to do along the way, the importance of self-care and community support, and how mindfulness and self-compassion can become essential tools as families build lives beyond traditional schooling—ones where both kids and parents can truly thrive.

About Esther Jones

Esther Jones is an unschooling mother of three, founder of the The Unschool Space podcast and author of the recently published The Parent’s Handbook to Unschooling Yourself.Esther was led into unschooling by her children, who have helped her unravel years of conditioned beliefs around parenting, children, learning and neurodiversity. Today, she supports other parents in transforming their mindset and building a life beyond traditional schooling in which their children and themselves can thrive, using mindfulness and self-compassion as the foundational tools for change.

Things you'll learn from this episode  

• How unschooling requires parents to unlearn old beliefs and embrace the discomfort that signals growth

• Why trusting children to lead their own learning allows them to explore in organic, joyful ways

• How self-care and community support strengthen a parent’s ability to show up for their child in an unschooling environment

• Why each child’s needs may look different from their parent’s—and how modeling our own passions supports their learning

• How online resources can expand support networks and deepen confidence for unschooling families

• Why the unschooling journey often becomes a healing process for parents as much as a learning journey for kids

Resources mentioned

• Esther Jones’ website

• The Parent’s Handbook to Unschooling Yourself by Esther Jones

• The Unschool Space Podcast

• Esther Jones on Instagram

• Esther Jones on Substack

• A Conversation with Dr. Naomi Fisher on Self-Directed Learning (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• Blake Boles and His Book, Why Are You Still Sending Your Child to School? (Tilt Parenting podcast)

• Why Are You Still Sending Your Kids to School? The Case for Helping Them Leave, Chart Their Own Paths, and Prepare for Adulthood at Their Own Pace by Blake Boles

• The Art of Self-Directed Learning: 23 Tips for Giving Yourself an Unconventional Education by Blake Boles

• Blake Boles on the Gift of Unschooling (Tilt Parenting podcast)

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This week I’m talking with Dr. Lynyetta Willis about navigating the journey when a child is newly diagnosed with a neurodifference. A psychologist turned family coach, Lynyetta specializes in empowering women in their relationships, as well as combines her foundation in psychology and trauma healing with best practices in empowerment coaching to help her clients strengthen their parenting, partnerships, and personal growth to create joyful, connected, and harmonious families. 

There are so many things I could have talked about with Lynyetta, but I wanted to dig into what happens to a couple, and a family, when a child is newly diagnosed — an often challenging and real process for many parents of differently wired kids. We talk about the sister emotions of grief and guilt, the importance of self-compassion and self-care in the process, how to handle different reactions in partnerships, and more.

 About Lynyetta

Dr. Lynyetta G. Willis, psychologist and family empowerment coach, helps frustrated families break unhelpful patterns and cross-generational cycles so they can move from stable misery into peaceful harmony. She helps her clients and audiences learn to strengthen their parenting, partnership, and personal growth practices so they can feel harmony in their hearts and homes.

What You'll Learn in this Episode:

• The difference between practicing clinical psychology and coaching work

• What are the common emotions after a diagnosis and how to process them in a healthy way

• Lynyetta’s PATHS framework: Perspective, Awareness, Tools, Healing, Self-Empowerment

• Tips for getting on the same page as parenting partners

• What is meant by the term “stable misery”

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Today we’re digging into executive function — what it really is, why it matters so much for neurodivergent kids (and adults!), and how we can better support these skills without judgment or overwhelm. Sarah and I talk about how awareness around executive function has evolved, why self-regulation is foundational, and how different skills — emotional, cognitive, and behavioral — are all interconnected. She shares her supportive, nonjudgmental coaching philosophy, along with practical ideas for helping kids with lagging executive function skills and navigating resistance when it shows up. Most importantly, Sarah reminds us that there is so much hope here: executive function skills can grow, and there are concrete steps we can take to help our kids thrive.

About Sarah Kesty 

Sarah Kesty helps amazing neurodivergent people create strategies to thrive! She is an executive function, autism, and ADHD coach and host of the Executive Function Podcast. A 4-time teacher of the year, Sarah’s Brain Tools School coaching and learning programs support high schoolers, college students, adults, and coaches in developing executive function skills to smooth out life.

Sarah specializes in translating research into real-life, actionable strategies. She regularly writes and presents for international groups and publications, including The Humane Society, State Departments of Education, Psychology Today, and Edutopia. Sarah’s trainings teach businesses and schools to create environments and systems that support executive function. Her mission is to make the world brain-friendly, inclusive, and a little more fun. An avid birder and local Trail Guide, she and her family live in San Diego, surrounded by nature. Her book for teachers, Growing Executive Function, was released September 2025 (Solution Tree).

Things you'll learn from this episode 

• How executive function serves as a foundation for success and why self-regulation is central to these skills

• Why “living in hard mode” can hinder executive functioning and how environmental factors play a major role

• How executive function skills can be taught, supported, and improved over time

• Why non-judgmental, supportive coaching helps children build confidence and reduce avoidance

• How visual aids and small, structured supports can make time management more accessible

• Why recognizing and celebrating small wins reinforces progress and builds hope for continued growth

Resources mentioned

• Sarah Kesty’s website

• Growing Executive Function: Empowering Secondary Students With Skills for Lifelong Success (Executive function made easy for teachers) by Sarah Kesty

• Stop Playing in Hard Mode (Psychology Today)

• Sarah Kesty on Psychology Today

• Sarah Kesty on Instagram

• Sarah Kesty on YouTube

• Sarah Kesty on Edutopia

• Sarah Kesty on Facebook

• Seth Perler (executive function coach)

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This week I’m bringing back to the podcast Dr. Devon MacEachron, a New York-based psychologist specializing in assessment and educational planning for gifted and twice-exceptional learners. The last time Devon was on the show, we talked about the assessment process for 2e learners, but today we’re moving on to the next natural step of this conversation, and actually, the next step for a parent whose child has been identified as having any sort of neurodifference, from dyslexia and ADHD to a processing speed or sensory issue.

And that step involves really exploring this question: What now? As in, what should I do with this information? How should I feel about it? Where do I begin? How can I figure out a way to navigate this unknown path in a way that’s in alignment with my values and will best support my child?

This is a very practical episode intended to give you a framework for processing what can be overwhelming or unexpected information and then moving forward with confidence.

THINGS YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:

• If and when to disclose a diagnosis to a child

• A step-by-step breakdown for what parents should do once they receive a diagnosis for their child

• Whether or not parents should consider getting a second opinion

• How to vet advice and therapies and other approaches for addressing a child’s unique challenges

• Why it’s critical that we view children through a strengths-based lens

• Dr. Devon’s best practices for navigating the journey of raising a differently wired child

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Today’s conversation is all about shifting from a mindset of limitation to one of empowerment and possibility. My guest is Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman, a psychologist, professor, and bestselling author whose work focuses on helping all kinds of minds live creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized lives. In our conversation, Scott shares insights from his latest book, Rise Above, which explores the concept of the victim mindset and how we can move beyond it. We talk about the role of neurodivergence in shaping perspective, the traps of learned helplessness and rejection sensitivity, and the character strengths that help us cultivate resilience and personal growth. Scott also reflects on his own journey toward empowerment and what it means to truly rise above our limitations—both real and perceived.

About Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman

Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman is a psychologist, coach, professor, keynote speaker, and best-selling author who is passionate about helping all kinds of minds live a creative, fulfilling, and self-actualized life. He is a professor of psychology at Columbia University and director of the Center for Human Potential. He hosts The Psychology Podcast, which has received over 30 million downloads and is widely considered among the top psychology podcasts in the world.

Things you'll learn from this episode

• How Scott Barry Kaufman’s personal experiences shaped Rise Above and his exploration of the victim mindset

• Why a victim mindset is not fixed—and how self-empowerment and learned hopefulness can transform it

• How rejection sensitivity and cognitive distortions can reinforce feelings of victimhood, especially in children

• Why leveraging character strengths and modeling emotional flexibility builds resilience and growth

• How an empowerment mindset helps individuals take ownership of their challenges and personal development

• Why self-compassion and realistic expectations are essential parts of the ongoing journey toward self-actualization

Resources mentioned

• Dr. Scott Barry Kaufman’s website

• Rise Above: Overcome a Victim Mindset, Empower Yourself, and Realize Your Full Potential by Scott Barry Kaufman, PhD

• Via Institute on Character

• VIA Youth-103 (Age 13-17) (Currently being tested)

• Dr. David Yeager on the Science of Motivating Young People (Full-Tilt Parenting)

• 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People: A Groundbreaking Approach to Leading the Next Generation―And Making Your Own Life Easier by David Yeager, PhD

• Mindset: How We Can Learn to Fulfill Our Potential by Carol Dweck

• Dr. Tamar Chansky on Children & Negative Thinking (Tilt Parenting episode)

• Freeing Your Child from Negative Thinking: Powerful, Practical Strategies to Build a Lifetime of Resilience, Flexibility, and Happiness by Dr. Tamar Chansky

• Dr. Sharon Saline on Understanding Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD) in Tweens and Teens (Tilt Parenting episode)

• Dr. David Yeager on the Science of Motivating Young People (Tilt Parenting episode)

• 10 to 25: The Science of Motivating Young People: A Groundbreaking Approach to Leading the Next Generation―And Making Your Own Life Easier by David Yeager, PhD

• Victim Culture & Self-Actualization (Scott on the Last Meal with Tom Nash podcast)

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The neuropsych assessment process can be daunting and complicated to navigate, especially in recent years as a result of COVID,  so I’m excited to share my conversation with pediatric and adolescent young adult neuropsychologist, Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman. Jonine’s work is about taking into consideration the whole child and the big picture when assessments are being done. 

In this episode, we talk about what parents should think about when vetting psychologists to assess their child, the difference between a neuropsych, a psychoeducational, and a psychological assessment, and how parents can navigate getting a better assessment if they believe their child got the wrong diagnosis. We also talked about what to do with all the feedback parents get from an evaluation and how that feedback can best be relayed to our kids, and to their schools.Dr. Jonine Nazar-Biesman has over 25 years of experience specializing in assessing and treating children, adolescents, and young adults with neurodevelopmental disorders such as Autism, ADHD, learning differences, and genetic conditions. She works closely with families, treatment teams, schools, and the community to ameliorate social-emotional, behavioral, and educational challenges.  

Things you'll learn from this episode:

• What parents should think about when looking for someone to do an assessment for their child, as well as tips for vetting evaluators
• The difference between a neuropsych, a psychoeducational, and a psychological assessment
• How Jonine works with students and adjusts the evaluation process during the assessment in response to what she’s discovering
• How parents can navigate getting a better assessment if they believe their child got the wrong diagnosis
• Whether or not a neuropsych evaluation would benefit every neurodivergent child
• How feedback is ideally shared with parents, kids, and schools after an assessment has been completed
• How the COVID pandemic has impacted the assessment process
• How parents can best use the detailed feedback they receive as part of the neuropsych evaluation process

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