How to find your voice when you need to be heard, learn when it's smart to choose silence, and communicate better with the people who matter most.

Elaine Lin Hering is a former Lecturer of Law at Harvard Law School. She works with organizations and individuals to build skills in communication, collaboration, and conflict management. She is the author of the book Unlearning Silence: How to Speak Your Mind, Unleash Talent, and Live More Fully.

In this episode we talk about:

• How we learn silence and self-editing
• How we often miscalculate the cost-benefit when it comes to speaking up or staying silent
• Elaine's four steps to learn how to speak up and find your voice
• How we can unintentionally silence others, especially those closest to us, and what to do about it

This episode originally aired on May 15th, 2024.

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Your blindspots and biases block your success and happiness. Here's how to navigate that.

Dr Kirstin Ferguson AM is an award-winning leadership expert, author and columnist, ranked among the top 50 management thinkers in the world. Her career began in the Royal Australian Air Force and includes roles as CEO of a global consultancy and Acting Chair of the ABC. She holds a PhD in leadership and culture, writes the popular 'Got a Minute?' column in The Sydney Morning Herald and The Age, and is a Member of the Order of Australia.

In this episode we talk about:

• The concept of blindspotting – what it is and how to do it
• The power of intellectual humility and how to practice it
• The difference between seekers and knowers – and when each mindset is useful
• The three major thinking traps
• How to disentangle ego from identity, manage defensiveness, and turn feedback into growth
• The role of curiosity in finding truth, building psychological safety, and leading more effectively
• How to "read the room" in workplaces, relationships, and global contexts
• The key to good leadership
• The importance of modeling uncertainty as a leader

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In this episode, our Teacher of the Month Jeff Warren guides you through a meditation practice inspired by Zen and the Diamond Sutra: "Don't Know Mind."

Sometimes the need to know—certainty about what's true, what's coming next, or how things "should" be—can create tension, anxiety, and overthinking. The antidote? Letting go of that need, resting in curiosity and openness, and cultivating a mind that dwells nowhere.

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Related episodes: Working With a Brain That Doesn't Behave | Jeff Warren

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In this short solo episode, Dan shares a major update: after hearing from listeners and subscribers, he and the team have built a brand-new meditation app — 10% with Dan Harris. He explains why he returned to the app world, what makes this offering different, and how it's designed to help you build (and keep) a practice through community, live sessions, guided meditations, and more. Dan also announces a 30-day free trial and a special upcoming New Year's challenge with Joseph Goldstein.

Important links:

• Download the new app: iPhone/iPad: App Store / Android: Google Play Store
• Step-by-step guide for existing subscribers
• Contact support: [email protected] (hi, Roy!)

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It is okay—and even beautiful—to be the idiot you are.

Jiryu Rutschman-Byler is a Soto Zen Buddhist priest and teacher in the lineage of Shunryu Suzuki Roshi, with dharma transmission from Sojun Mel Weitsman. Jiryu has trained residentially in Zen temples since 1996, and currently serves as a co-Abbot of San Francisco Zen Center through his role as Abiding Abbot of Green Gulch Farm Zen Center. Jiryu is the final editor of legendary Zen master Shunryu Suzuki's Becoming Yourself: Teachings on the Zen Way of Life.

In this episode we talk about:

• The legacy and teachings of legendary Zen master Shunryo Suzuki.
• What is Zen
• How to work with your day to day problems — and also life and death problems
• How to soften the mind
• Whether to meditate with your eyes open or closed
• What does it really mean to become "one" with everything
• Why life isn't something to be "figured out"
• The connection between the oft-misunderstood concept of "allowing" and being more effective in your life
• The concept and practice of faith
• The magic of the universe

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• The Fundamental Mystery of the Mind, Annaka Harris
• A Radical Question To Put Your Problems Into Perspective | Annaka Harris

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A Darden School of Business professor explains how to use doubt to your advantage.

Bidhan (Bobby) Parmar, PhD, MBA, is the Shannon G. Smith Bicentennial Professor of Business Administration and Associate Dean for Faculty Development at the Darden School of Business at the University of Virginia. He teaches courses on business ethics, collaboration, and creative and critical thinking.

In this episode we talk about:

• The common human allergy to discomfort and uncertainty
• The benefits of doubt
• The difference between choice fatigue and 'analysis paralysis'
• The nine subtle signs of analysis paralysis
• Why we need to be paying more attention to process vs. outcome
• How to have confidence in the face of doubt
• The role of rupture and repair in relationships
• The crucial final steps in the decision-making process – specifically one Bobby calls "After Action Reviews"
• And much more

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• 9 Subtle Signs of 'Analysis Paralysis'
• radicaldoubt.com

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Meditation can be gorgeous… and it can be absolutely bewildering. If you've ever wondered, "Am I doing this right?" or "Why does this feel so intense?", this conversation is for you.

In this vintage conversation from 2016, Dan sits down with legendary dharma teacher Steve Armstrong for a clear, compassionate walkthrough of the progress of insight—including why meditation sometimes gets harder before it gets easier, how to navigate the so-called "dark night" phases, and how to keep going without getting lost in the weeds of self-doubt.

Steve has guided thousands of students through the twists and turns of practice with uncommon precision, humor, and heart. And now, the community has the chance to support him in return. Steve is currently living with a brain tumor, and he and his wife Kamala Masters (a formidable dharma teacher in her own right, who has also been a guest on this show) are facing significant medical and caregiving costs. If you feel moved, you can find the GoFundMe at this link. Our company has also made a significant contribution to support Steve and Kamala.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why meditation can sometimes trigger emotional turbulence

• How to understand the "stages" of insight (without clinging to them)

• Practical ways to stay steady when your practice feels chaotic or confusing

• How to distinguish between a genuine opening and plain old overwhelm

• Why equanimity isn't passive—it's powerful

Steve has spent decades helping people wake up. This episode is a chance to receive that wisdom—and, if you're able, to reflect it back with your support.

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• Get Happier Without Losing Your Edge | Kamala Masters

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An NBC Nightly News anchor shares insider tips from the belly of the beast.

Tom Llamas is anchor and managing editor of NBC Nightly News with Tom Llamas and anchor of Top Story with Tom Llamas, a daily streaming primetime newscast on NBC News NOW. He has been in broadcast journalism for over 25 years.

In this episode we talk about:

• How to be a better listener
• Practices for continued growth and curiosity as you get older
• The role of both faith and meditation in Tom's life
• The role of exercise
• The role of friendship
• His family's dramatic history and the impacts of becoming the first Latino anchor of a weekday evening news broadcast
• And much more

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Additional Resources:

• The Lion Tracker's Guide to Life

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The case for love and compassion in a world that's filled with hatred and division.

Sharon Salzberg is a meditation pioneer, world-renowned teacher, and New York Times bestselling author. She is among the first to bring mindfulness & lovingkindness meditation to mainstream American culture fifty years ago. She has written many books, including her latest, a kids book called Kind Karl.

In this episode we talk about:

• How the quality of metta, or loving kindness, can be an antidote to fear
• The wisdom of having a loving mindset in the face present dangers
• Love
• Can love be a strength?
• The different flavors of "loving kindness"
• The four types of enemies, which include the outer enemy, the inner enemy, the secret enemy and the super secret enemy

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• Dan's son teaching Loving Kindness Meditation

• Metta Hour Podcast

• Donate to the Insight Meditation Society's Fundraiser

• Sharon's books

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Everything you want to know about cannabis, but were afraid to ask.

Dr. Riley Kirk is a cannabis research scientist and educator with a Ph.D. in pharmaceutical sciences, specializing in natural product chemistry. Her new book is Reefer Wellness: Understanding Cannabis Science, Culture, and Medicines.

In this episode we talk about:

• The endocannabinoid system – and how it works in the body
• The science-backed health benefits of cannabis
• The risks of cannabis use – including questions about psychosis, schizophrenia, and specific risks for adolescents
• The fascinating history of the cannabis plant
• The criminalization, racism and propaganda machine within that history
• The legality of cannabis now in the US
• Different modes of use
• Where to source your products
• And much more

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• Bioactive podcast
• @cannabichem
• The Network of Applied Pharmacognosy (NAP)

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If you've ever found yourself immediately abandoning your adult composure the second someone around you gets upset, we've got your back.

In today's episode, the inimitable Jeff Warren returns with a practice to help you stop absorbing everyone else's stress and start holding healthy boundaries without turning into a jerk. Jeff — who is both a dear friend of Dan's and one of the funniest meditation teachers alive — walks you through how to stay grounded in your own body even when the people around you are melting down.

This meditation is especially helpful if you tend to:

• Fix other people's problems without being asked

• Rush to make everything okay the instant someone frowns

• Get overwhelmed by other people's moods

• Lose your boundaries around demanding or sensitive humans (including the tiny ones)

To get more meditations from Jeff and our other teachers — plus join our weekly live sessions (every Tuesday at 4pm ET) — you can sign up at DanHarris.com.

Related episodes: Working With a Brain That Doesn't Behave | Jeff Warren

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