Note: This episode was actually recorded for my other podcast, Problematic. But I originally recorded the conversation when, for a short time, my podcasts were merged. So don't let the outtro confuse you!



Today I’m sharing my conversation with Seerut Chawla. We talk about her brief foray into cancelling someone on the internet, her change of heart, and both of our experiences waking up to the insanity and cult dynamics of cancel culture… It’s a good one!



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THANKS! BYE! HAPPY BELATED MEMORIAL DAY AND/OR HAPPY TUESDAY

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Today I am sharing my conversation with Leslie Schilling, MA, RDN, CSCS, CEDRDS-S, where she talks about diet culture and purity culture in the church (and how is mirrors our culture at large!). We also chat about Gwen Shamblin, the infamous "Christian" cult leader, and the way the bible was (mis)interpreted.

Though, today's episode is from the perspective how to change the mindset in the church from a focus on purity, to one of love, acceptance, and "grace" (a word Leslie breaks down in the conversation!). This episode is for all people, regardless of your religion, because the parallels run so deep.

And next episode will be a different conversation of leaving Fundamental Christianity and finding trauma healing.

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Read the beginning of Tired as F*ck or The F*ck It Diet

Find Summer Innanen's free Body Neutrality Workshop here: bodyneutralityworkshop.com

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Hello! Today's episode is short and sweet... I'm starting off with a 10 minute audio-chapter from the audiobook of Tired as F*ck. And, that audio clip just so happens to be about anxiety, and what it's like to be a person with a normal amygdala (aka, not a psychopath).

Then, I go over the three different "categories" of anxiety you will deal with when healing your relationship with food and weight!

This episode is brought to you by Tired as F*ck, coming out on February 8th! Read the beginning! Get your pre-order bonuses!

And Summer Innanen's Free Body Neutrality Workshop. bodyneutralityworkshop.com

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January 5th was the 10 year anniversary of The F*ck It Diet!!! (and my 34th birthday!) It's not the ten year anniversary of the book... but of my actual journey on The F*ck It Diet.

So, in celebration, I got on instagram live and read two excerpts from my new book Tired as F*ck, where I talk about what my TFID "epiphany," and what the beginning of my actual journey looked like. THEN the next day, my computer broke, so I'm currently posting this from my new $126 backup chrome book while my macbook pro gets fixed.

But in this episode, I'm sharing the clip from instagram live where I read those two excerpts!!!

Tired as F*ck comes out in exactly one month! On February 8th!!!

If you want to receive the rest of the excerpt where I share the beginning of my own f*ck it diet, pre-order Tired as F*ck, screenshot your proof of purchase, and then go to thefuckitdiet.com/fun and sign up for the pre-order bonuses!

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Today's conversation is with Africa Brooke! Coach, writer, podcaster, and author of the viral open letter, "Why I'm Leaving the Cult of Wokeness." We talk about her journey to where she is now, the dynamics behind what we call "cancel culture," the parallels between our own healing journeys, and tons more.

Find Africa on Instagram here

Find Africa's website here

 

And if you want to help me/the podcast:

Check Out my second book Tired as F*ck!

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In today's episode, reporter Jessica DeFino explains how our skin works, and how beauty culture is actually damaging our skin health with skin "care" products. This is one of my favorite episodes on my podcast so far, (up there with my Laziness Does Not Exist episode from a year ago).
Just like our relationship with food and diets, where we are led to believe we need diets, which leads to worse health and a worse relationship with food longterm… the same thing is true for our skin. Beauty companies have convinced us we need their products, but their products are disrupting our natural skin barrier and biome, and lead us to needing MORE of their products. Great for them. Not so great for us.
Important Links:

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Pre-order Tired AF and get your pre-order bonuses (including Author's Commentary on The F*ck It Diet book)

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Today's episode is a conversation I had with Tash Ngindi, aka @thethicknutritionist. We talk about her early diet days, her disordered days in nutrition school, and her journey to realizing that weight loss does NOT work the way we think it does.

Find and follow her here: @thethicknutritionist and thethicknutritionist.com

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And, as I mention at the end of the episode, you can read the beginning of my second book, Tired AF here: thefuckitdiet.com/tired 

And learn about pre-order bonuses here: thefuckitdiet.com/tafbonus

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This post and episode is brought to you by my live program, The F*ck It Diet Club. It's only running one time in 2021. Two months of live support, community, video Q&As, daily prompts, weekly beliefs to focus on, and all of us using TFID book as a textbook. Enrollment closes January 14th.

Six years before I started my own "F*ck It Diet," I read the Intuitive Eating book by Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch, and decided I was going to heal my eating. I was 18 years old, and I'd already been extreme dieting for over 4 years. I was an extreme dieter, and an extreme binger. My weight violently yo-yo'd up and down every few months. And I was sure I was a food addict.

Reading the Intuitive Eating book was the very first time I had any idea that dieting was toxic, and wired to backfire. It spoke to me. I wanted to heal. But I was young, and desperate, and still stuck in extreme self-objectification. I was about to go to school at NYU for Musical Theater, and I also had a lot of health issues that I'd been trying to heal with my extreme diets. I wanted to heal my relationship with food, but I wasn't ready. I also didn't really understand some very important parts of the journey to food and body freedom. Remaining thin was still my top goal, and there was really no way to fully heal while continuing to prioritize weight control.

So over the next 6 years, while I thought I was eating intuitively, I was actually not. I was still dieting, and obsessing over my hunger and fullness cues, and calling it "intuitive eating."

Then I'd read the books and blog posts from other "mindful eating" gurus, and assume they were continuing my education on intuitive eating, when in reality, they were taking me further and further away from true intuitive eating.

Sometimes people read my work and think I'm ragging on Intuitive Eating and saying it doesn't work. I promise you, I am not. Intuitive eating is life changing, evidence based, and the dietitian authors of the book are trail-blazing experts who have changed more lives than anyone could begin to count. But people do misinterpret intuitive eating, en masse. A lot of those people become influencers themselves, and water down the intuitive eating teaching.

There are a lot of deeply ingrained diet beliefs that many of us hold, that will keep us from truly eating intuitively, and instead, keep us in a quasi-healed state, where we're still sneakily micromanaging our food intake, which will inherently still keep us obsessed with food, and feeling out of control around food.

I made a lot of mistakes during those 6 long years, so I'm sharing those mistakes in the hopes that you won't make the same mistakes I made.

Ready???

 

1. I thought I had to listen really, really closely to my hunger and fullness cues

Listening to your body is one thing. It's what we want! But listening obsessively? Not exactly what we want. And not exactly what is gonna lead to a better relationship with food.

Here is the thing: after years of dieting, we usually feel REALLY out of control around food, so it makes sense that we assume that we need to pay extreme attention to every bite we take, and our exact level of hunger or fullness. The problem is, we don't trust ourselves or our bodies. We are still operating under the belief that our appetite has to be micromanaged. It actually doesn't.

In the beginning of stepping away from diets, we are often extremely hungry, hungrier than we think is ok or healthy or rational. And we think it's a sign that we are out of control, and that our hunger needs to be curtailed. But actually, our hunger needs to be fed. Which brings me to....

 

2. I thought I would immediately eat a small / "perfect" amount of food

Along the same lines, I thought when I started 'eating intuitively' - I'd eat small, perfect intuitive amounts of food. But that is still diet culture. That is still making assumptions about how much we "should" need to eat. Guess what?!?!

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Today I'm sharing my chat with Annie, one of my very best friends from all the way back in High School. We talk about our disordered eating that started in high school, and how we got out of the diet cycle in our twenties. Annie also just had a baby and has things to say about toxic diet culture during pregnancy.

Content Warning: Talk about disordered habits, disordered thoughts, and pregnancy weight gain amounts.

Annie's current favorite pregnancy & post-partum accounts:

@Drsterlingobgyn
@drcassidy
@mypelvicfloormuscles
@ourmamavillage
@prenatalyogacenter
@karrie_locher
@drnicolerankins
@onestrongmamaprenatal

Annie also mentioned that if anyone has questions for her about pregnancy/post-partum, they can follow her private instagram @anniebmccarthy and DM her :-)

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Sponsors:

-TANYA MARK. Tanya is a non diet nutritionist, body image coach, and she’s professionally certified in Intuitive Eating and Eating Psychology. She gets it. It’s not easy ditching diet culture’s BS messages. And she has a plan for you. If you’re ready to ditch food guilt and body shame for good, grab her free guide: 5 Steps to Stop Feeling Crappy About Your Body & Make Eating Easy. Grab the free guide and get started today. And follow Tanya on Instagram!

-SIDE BY SIDE NUTRITION. Side By Side’s dietitians work to empower people to become their own nutrition experts. Their team of health at every size and weight inclusive nutrition therapists work virtually all over the United States - and locally in Colorado. They work both individually with clients of all ages, genders, and diagnoses in addition to running ongoing online groups - including an IE and body image support group, meal support groups, Binge Eating Disorder Support Group, and Restorative Yoga.

They put out free weekly content on their YouTube channel, blog, and instagram to help inspire your journey to a trusting and self-compassionate relationship with food and your body. They offer one on one nutrition and body image therapy to those who struggle with eating disorders, disordered eating, chronic dieting, they also take a variety of insurances including the large commercial insurance companies Cigna, Aetna, and United Healthcare. If you are ready work one-on-one, you can email [email protected] or call 708-717-7394. sidebysidenutrition.com

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Today I'm reading stories that were sent in by listeners, and answering some questions that were sent in!

Just me and you babyyyyyyyy.

 

Today's Sponsors:

Alissa Rumsey is a registered dietitian and certified intuitive eating counselor who empowers women to eat and live unapologetically. Her weight-inclusive private practice specializes in intuitive eating, body image healing, and disordered eating recovery with virtual 1:1 coaching, group programs, and online courses. She is also the author of the upcoming book, Unapologetic Eating. You can check out all of her offerings at alissarumsey.com or access her free guide: 5 steps to Getting Started with Intuitive Eating at http://alissarumsey.com/getstarted

Stefanie Michele -  A certified health coach and Mother of 3, Stefanie healed from binge eating and orthorexia after years of struggling (thanks in part to TFID) and now helps other people through the process as her job. She also specializes in helping women heal from long standing body image issues. Follow @iamstefaniemichele and go to iamstefaniemichele.com/get-started to get her Free Guide: Unsubscribe from diet culture).

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Today I chat with Casey Bonano, a dietitian specializing in eating disorders, about what to expect when you are in the early stages of re-feeding. For instance, what if someone eats a whole box of waffles?! Is that too much?

We also focus on how to support a loved one who is healing their relationship with food, as well as how to talk to your loved ones if you are healing your relationship with food. 

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Instagram quick follows:

Casey Bonano - @dallasnutritionalcounseling

Side By Side Nutrition -@sidebysidenutrition

Kirsten Ackerman - @theintuitive_rd

Unmeasured - @movementunmeasured

Simi Botic - @simibotic

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Learn more about this episode's sponsors:

SIDE BY SIDE NUTRITION. Side By Side’s dietitians work to empower people to become their own nutrition experts. Their team of health at every size and weight inclusive nutrition therapists work virtually all over the United States - and locally in Colorado. They put out free weekly content on their YouTube channel, blog, and instagram to help inspire your journey to a trusting and self-compassionate relationship with food and your body.

They work both individually with clients of all ages, genders, and diagnoses in addition to running groups -including a body image group and binge eating group. They offer one on one nutrition and body image therapy to those who struggle with eating disorders, disordered eating, chronic dieting, they also take a variety of insurances including the large commercial insurance companies Cigna, Aetna, and United Healthcare. If you are ready work one-on-one, you can email [email protected] or call 708-717-7394. sidebysidenutrition.com

KIRTEN ACKERMAN, NON-DIET DIETITIAN. This episode is brought to you by Kirsten Ackerman, who was my guest on the April 12th episode where we talked about Weight Loss Surgery. Kirsten works virtually and can help guide you to restore trust in your body, attune to your own internal cues, and explore practices of body image healing. She is also the author of The Intuitive Eating Plan, host of the Intuitive Bites Podcast,  follow her on instagram @theintuitive_rd. Or go to theintuitiverd.com/
UNMEASURED is a virtual monthly barre membership that trades the toxic diet culture BS for body celebration. For just $25 / month you get access to a virtual library of do-anywhere barre classes refreshed weekly, curated playlists, form + modification tutorials. UNMEASURED was created for you by barre instructor Simi Botic.  Free from shame and judgment, you can honor your body and enjoy a fun, intuitive relationship with movement. you can go to unmeasured.simibotic.com

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