Can you actually date men when it feels like everyone is telling you not to trust them? We're unpacking how social media, clickbait headlines, and a constant stream of negative dating stories can make distrust feel like the default. We discuss why the loudest relationship narratives often aren't the most common ones, how to separate real red flags from fear-driven assumptions, and why paying attention to patterns of behavior matters more than blanket rules about who can or can't be trusted. We also explore how past experiences shape our expectations, where accountability belongs on both sides of dating, and how to balance healthy skepticism without closing yourself off to genuine connection. Enjoy!

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What if the secret to feeling more alive is going back to the good ol' days of having a crush? In this episode, Yue explores why the excitement, curiosity, and unpredictability of an innocent crush can reconnect us to the very things that make us human. As technology and AI make our lives increasingly efficient and predictable, she argues that it's spontaneous, real-world interactions that spark joy, creativity, and emotional vitality. Whether you're single, partnered, or simply craving more excitement in your everyday life, this episode will inspire you to embrace the small moments of anticipation that remind us what genuine human connection feels like. Enjoy!

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Is the rising cost of everything making you question whether love is still worth pursuing? We're unpacking how inflation, financial stress, and layoffs are impacting modern dating – and why media has declared 'dating has become a "rich person's game.' We discuss how money influences everything from who asks whom out to whether couples should split the bill, why financial anxiety is causing people to delay dating altogether, and how to date in practical ways that eliminate overspending (and why emotional investment matters more than expensive dates anyways!) Enjoy!

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While it's true that trust takes time to grow, it absolutely starts revealing itself from the very beginning...if you know what to look out for. In this episode, Julie breaks down the subtle early signs of trustworthiness, how you can tell so much based on how someone responds after moments of disconnection, and ways you can show you're the type of person people trust on early dates too. If you've been relying on chemistry to tell you whether someone is right for you, this episode will help you shift the question from "Do I feel a spark?" to "Is trust being built between us?" because that's the foundation that allows healthy, secure relationships to grow. Enjoy!

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In the final day of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about one of the deepest sources of self-doubt in dating: our relationship with our bodies.

In this episode, Natalie Carey shares how body image struggles can shape our self-esteem, relationships, and what we believe we deserve in love. We discuss moving toward body acceptance, letting go of impossible standards, and learning to appreciate yourself in a deeper way. If you've ever felt like your appearance determined your worth in dating, this episode is your reminder that confidence isn't about looking a certain way—it's about believing you're already deserving of love and connection exactly as you are.

Learn more about Natalie Carey visit https://www.barbellblondie.com/

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In Day 6 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about the relationship that shapes every other relationship: the one you have with yourself.

In this episode, Katie Sturino shares her journey of rebuilding confidence and reclaiming her dating life after years of insecurity and self-doubt. We discuss how past experiences shape our self-worth, why perfection isn't the key to confidence, and how learning to feel comfortable in your own skin changes the way you date and who you choose.If you've ever felt like you're somehow not enough for love, this episode is your reminder that confidence isn't earned—it's built by learning to believe you're already worthy.

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In Day 5 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about the courage it takes to let people see the real you.

In this episode, we explore why so many of us hide our quirks and edit ourselves while dating—and how that often keeps us from finding the connections we truly want. Through MK's story, we discuss taking emotional risks, showing your personality sooner, and trusting that the right person will appreciate the things that make you different. If you've ever worried that you're too much, too weird, or not enough, this episode is your reminder that confidence grows when you stop shrinking yourself to be chosen.

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In Day 4 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about what it really means to feel desirable—and why confidence and attraction start from within.

In this episode, certified sexologist Shan Boodram shares why flirting is simply intentional communication, how chemistry develops, and why embracing your sexuality and desires can make dating feel more empowering. We discuss how to stop performing for other people and instead feel more comfortable expressing interest, attraction, and authenticity. If you've ever questioned whether you're attractive enough or struggled to own your desires, this episode is your reminder that confidence comes from feeling connected to yourself first.

Learn more about Shan Boodram visit https://www.shanboodram.com/

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In Day 3 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're focusing on one of the biggest confidence killers in dating: taking every disappointment personally.

In this episode, we're joined by Case Kenny to discuss how to stop letting rejection, ghosting, and almost-relationships define your worth. We explore why being single can actually be a superpower, how to separate other people's choices from your value, and why confidence isn't about avoiding heartbreak – it's about trusting yourself enough to keep going. If dating has left you feeling discouraged or questioning yourself, this episode is your reminder that setbacks don't mean something is wrong with you – they're simply helping guide you toward the right fit.

Learn more about Case Kenny visit https://www.casekenny.com/

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In Day 2 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about the confidence that comes from embracing who you are instead of trying to become someone you're not.

In this episode, we're joined by psychotherapist and Deeper Dating author Ken Page, who helps us see that the qualities we often try to hide—our sensitivity, depth, passion, or quirks—may actually be the very things that lead us to meaningful love. We discuss how to identify your core gifts, stop seeing yourself as a project that needs fixing, and trust that the right relationship comes from authenticity, not perfection. If you've ever felt like you need to be "more" or "less" of something to find love, this episode is your reminder that confidence begins when you start appreciating what makes you uniquely lovable.

Learn more about Ken Page visit https://www.deeperdating.com/

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To kick off the summer, we're bringing back some of our favorite episodes that restore our hope and confidence in dating—and remind us that being single doesn't mean putting your happiness on hold. In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Jenny Taitz to stop treating singlehood as a waiting room for love so you can enjoy your life as it is today. If you've been feeling discouraged or wondering when your person will come along, this episode is a reminder that you can create a fulfilling, joyful life right now—and that mindset can transform the way you approach both dating and love. Enjoy!

Learn more about Dr. Jenny Taiz: https://drjennytaitz.com/ and check out her book 'How to be Single & Happy' today.

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Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcasts The Psychology of Relationships and Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.

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