What if forgiveness isn't the next step?

In this deeply honest coaching session, Christine works with Sylvie, who has been trying for years to reach forgiveness after a profound betrayal involving her ex-husband and a longtime friend. Despite therapy, spiritual work, and understanding that "forgiveness is for you," she finds herself stuck.

Christine helps Sylvie uncover something powerful: sometimes forgiveness isn't blocked because we're not spiritual enough — it's blocked because we've skipped a step. When betrayal runs deep, especially when it touches childhood wounds of not being seen or valued, forgiveness may not be the first doorway. Confrontation, anger release, and self-advocacy might be.

If you've ever tried to forgive but couldn't get there — or felt ashamed that you're still angry — this episode will help you understand why and what may actually need to happen first.

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Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Is there someone you feel you "should" forgive but can't?
• Are you trying to spiritually bypass anger or confrontation?
• Do you avoid conflict, even when something deeply hurt you?
• Are you holding onto resentment because speaking up feels harder?
• Is there a clearing conversation you've been postponing?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Forgiveness is not condoning someone's behavior.
• Forgiveness is about releasing the beliefs and judgments keeping you stuck — not excusing the action.
• Sometimes the growth edge isn't forgiveness — it's confrontation.
• Anger is not unspiritual; it's information and energy that must be processed.
• Avoiding hard conversations can keep betrayal alive in the body.
• Peace often comes from self-advocacy, not silence.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Ask yourself if there is a conversation that needs to happen before you can move forward.
• Explore somatic or anger-release work to move stored emotion out of your body.
• Notice where you are confusing forgiveness with people-pleasing.
• Practice being a stand for yourself in small ways before having larger confrontations.
• Shift the goal from "forgiveness" to "peace and acceptance."

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This is an opportunity to create new momentum, untangle old emotional patterns, and strategically step into transformation.

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We're moving from the introspective Year of the Snake into the bold, forward-moving Year of the Horse.

Snake energy has been about shedding — old roles, patterns, identities that no longer fit. The Horse brings movement, courage, and momentum.

But if you haven't fully released what surfaced this year, you may feel pushed instead of propelled.

In this episode, I share what this energetic shift symbolizes and how to consciously move from reflection into aligned action — without burnout, without rushing, and without dragging the past forward.

And if you're ready to go deeper into untangling the patterns that keep repeating in your life, I'm teaching a free masterclass at christinehassler.com/untangled.

What happens when the life you imagined no longer fits—and letting go of a long-held dream feels both heartbreaking and necessary? In this deeply reflective coaching session, Christine works with Drew, who is standing at a powerful crossroads after years of personal growth, healing generational patterns, and navigating trauma.

Drew feels a strong, love-based call toward motherhood, yet grapples with grief over releasing an old vision of how her life "should" look. Living near family provides the support she needs, but also triggers fears of failure, regression, and giving up on herself. Christine introduces the framework of the Hero's Journey, helping Drew reframe her experience not as loss—but as completion, integration, and embodied wisdom.

If you've ever felt torn between who you were becoming and who you thought you were supposed to be, this episode will help you trust the path unfolding beneath your feet and honor the version of yourself that is emerging now.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Have you been grieving a dream that no longer feels aligned—but still hurts to release?
• Do you judge yourself for not being where you thought you'd be by now?
• Are you confusing rest, integration, or returning "home" with failure?
• What part of you is afraid of going backward—and what is it trying to protect?
• Where might life be asking you to complete a cycle rather than push forward?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Letting go of a dream does not mean you failed—it may mean you completed the journey.
• Many of our deepest transformations follow the archetypal hero's journey.
• Grief and clarity can coexist; resolution doesn't erase sadness.
• Hypervigilance and overthinking are survival strategies, not character flaws.
• Embodiment—not mental certainty—is what brings peace in major life decisions.
• Returning "home" can be a resurrection, not a regression.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Reflect on where you may be in your own hero's journey cycle.
• Practice observing fearful or critical thoughts without believing them.
• Honor grief without rushing yourself to be "done" with it.
• Ask: What choice feels most supportive to my nervous system right now?
• Trust that clarity comes from commitment, not endless deliberation.

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In this raw and deeply honest episode, I sit down with my husband to talk about his new book, Tuned In and Turned On — and we go where most couples don't.

We explore what actually keeps desire alive in long-term relationships, why emotional truth matters more than technique, and how intimacy shifts when you stop performing and start tuning in. We share personal moments from our own relationship, the uncomfortable conversations that changed everything, and what happens when couples are willing to be radically honest with each other.

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In this episode, I sit down with bestselling author Mark Manson - bestselling author, best known for The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and co-founder of Purpose, the world's first AI mentor specifically built for personal growth. We have a wide-ranging, grounded conversation about why New Year's resolutions don't work, what "not giving a f*ck" actually means, and why meaning—not happiness—is the real foundation of a fulfilling life.

We also explore the surprising pros and cons of using AI as a therapist, the limits of mindset-only self-help, and where personal responsibility can turn into self-punishment if we're not careful.

This conversation is honest, nuanced, and refreshingly free of spiritual bypass—perfect for anyone who's tired of self-improvement clichés and ready for real growth.

In this candid and grounded coaching session, Christine works with Vanessa, who is navigating a season of major transition—emotionally, physically, and relationally. After a recent car accident, a job layoff, and re-entering the dating world, Vanessa finds herself at a powerful crossroads: learning how to speak honestly about concerns early in a relationship instead of withholding to protect someone else's feelings.

Christine helps Vanessa see how "withholding" is often disguised as kindness, but actually blocks true intimacy. Together, they explore how unspoken concerns—especially around health, sleep, and long-term compatibility—can quietly erode connection if left unaddressed. The session becomes a masterclass in how to practice radical honesty with love, maturity, and self-responsibility.

If you struggle to speak up in relationships, fear hurting others by being honest, or notice yourself over-adapting to keep the peace, this episode will help you understand why truth is not only necessary—but essential—for real intimacy.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Do you hold back concerns in relationships to avoid conflict or discomfort?
• Are you afraid that honesty might sabotage connection or intimacy?
• Do you notice yourself adapting or minimizing your needs early in relationships?
• Where might you be confusing caretaking with love?
• Are you dating (or partnering) with clear intention—or avoiding difficult conversations?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Withholding information is not kindness—it creates emotional distance.
• Honesty early in relationships prevents deeper confusion later.
• Boundaries are not about changing others; they're about honoring yourself.
• Emotional intimacy requires courage, not perfection.
• Speaking truth with love strengthens connection rather than destroying it.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Notice where you feel a "withhold" in your body—tightness, anxiety, or avoidance.
• Practice sharing concerns from a grounded, non-blaming place.
• Reframe honesty as an act of love rather than a risk.
• Ask yourself: If I don't say this now, how will it affect me later?
• Focus on breaking patterns of over-adapting or people-pleasing in relationships.

Coaching with Christine

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What happens when you finally attract the relationship you've been manifesting — yet part of you feels like pulling away? In this powerful coaching session, Christine works with Amy, who has called in an emotionally attuned, stable, loving partner after six years of being single. The catch: he has two children, which had always been a non-negotiable for her.

Christine helps Amy uncover how her fear isn't really about the kids — it's about control, certainty, and the vulnerability of allowing love to arrive in an unexpected package. Together, they explore how protector parts attempt to maintain safety when life doesn't unfold according to the plan, and how real love invites us out of control and into trust.

If you've ever received exactly what you wanted but still felt unsettled, this episode will help you see where fear is masquerading as intuition — and how to shift from protecting your heart to opening it.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Have you ever gotten what you wanted, only to feel uneasy or doubtful afterward?
• Do you equate safety with certainty and control?
• Are you focusing on what you might lose instead of what you can give?
• Do you feel afraid to fully say yes to something because you can't predict the outcome?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• Fear often disguises itself as intuition when control feels threatened.
• Uncertainty is not danger — it's the doorway to love and expansion.
• Relationships that stretch us emotionally are invitations into abundance, not scarcity.
• A partner's capacity for love often expands through parenthood.
• You cannot love fully while keeping one foot out the door.

How to Deepen the Work:

• Notice when your mind jumps to "what's next" instead of being present.
• Ask yourself whether your concerns come from fear or from your heart.
• Shift from "What am I getting?" to "How can I give love here?"
• Practice owning your yes instead of lingering in emotional hesitation.
• Allow yourself to experience love without guarantees.

Couples Retreat with Christine & Stef

Christine and Stef are hosting a small, high-touch Couples Retreat in San Diego, April 15–18. Space is limited to only 5–8 couples for a deeply intimate experience.

To learn more, email [email protected].

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In this episode, Christine reimagines The Princess and the Pea as a modern reflection on intuition, empathy, and inner truth, exploring why feeling deeply is not a weakness but a powerful form of discernment. Perfect for empaths, sensitive souls, and parents raising sensitive children.

Moving back in with family can awaken old wounds faster than years of personal growth can prepare us for. In this first coaching episode of 2026, Christine supports Sarah, who recently returned to the United States after six years abroad and is temporarily living with her parents. What she expected to be a short transition has turned into a deep emotional reckoning with childhood patterns, triggers, and the urge to "fix" family dynamics.

Christine helps Sarah understand how protector parts, formed in childhood, take over when old environments reactivate unresolved trauma. Together, they explore how to release long-held anger safely, set boundaries that are actually enforceable, and begin reparenting the inner child with compassion rather than control.

If family interactions leave you feeling dysregulated, angry, or guilty, this episode will help you see those reactions through a new lens and give you tools to stop trying to change your parents and start changing how you care for yourself.

Consider / Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel like all your growth disappears the moment you go home?
• Are you the family fixer, peacekeeper, or emotional mediator?
• Do you struggle with guilt or rage after spending time with your parents?
• Are you trying to set "boundaries" that you cannot actually control?

Key Insights and A-HAs:

• The urge to fix family dynamics often comes from a childhood protector part trying to create safety.
• What feels like "I can't help it" is usually a trauma-based habit, not a true lack of choice.
• Asking someone to change is a request, not a boundary. Boundaries are about what you will do.
• Rage is often stored grief from unmet childhood needs and must be safely released.
• Your inner child learns to trust you only through consistency, not intention.

How to Deepen the Work:

• When you feel the impulse to fix, pause and thank that part for trying to protect you.
• Create a release valve for anger such as screaming into a pillow, shaking your body, or release writing.
• Practice leaving triggering situations instead of confronting them in the moment.
• Reparent your inner child through consistent safety rather than promises of change.
• Ask yourself: "What can I do right now that I actually control?"

Coaching with Christine

Christine currently has just two remaining openings in her private one-on-one coaching practice. She has been coaching individuals since 2004 and only works with a small number of clients at a time to provide deep, personalized support.

If you feel called to work with Christine, email [email protected] to inquire.

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In this episode, I explore the deeper spiritual and emotional invitation of a ONE year, especially for those of us who have already done a lot of healing, awareness work, and nervous system regulation — and now find ourselves waiting to feel "ready."

We talk about why you don't need certainty to begin, how starting again does not erase your growth, and why this year asks for aligned action rather than perfect clarity.

If you've been feeling a quiet nudge to begin something new — a conversation, a boundary, a creation, or a new way of being — this episode is an invitation to trust what wants to move through you now.

This is not the year to wait until you feel ready. This is the year to begin in devotion to your becoming.

The New Year is just around the corner along with the tradition of making resolutions, which are usually promises to do something "more, better, or different." Most of us start the New Year with the greatest of intentions, yet by March (or even by the second week in January) we may not find ourselves so resolved. We revert back to old patterns and beat ourselves up for not sticking to our resolutions. Could there be a way to ring in 2026 that serves us better?

YES! And it has been my New Year ritual for the past fifteen years.

Many of you have joined me in this ritual, which is a co-creative process of reflection and intention setting over the years.

The night of December 31st will come and go (and no one will remember what you wore) so instead of just trying to plan an epic evening, set your sights on co-creating an epic year!!

I invite you to follow this step-by-step process and amend it any way that inspires you:

PART ONE: Completing 2025

1. On December 31st (or around that time) carve out at least an hour of uninterrupted time for yourself. Create the mood – get comfy, quiet, light a candle, put on some music. Begin by writing in a journal your "Year in Review." Month by month recall events that happened, people you met, places you visited, lessons you learned, accomplishments, blessings, struggles, funny moments and so on. What is so great about looking at the year in this way is that you are able to notice how you have grown and express gratitude for all your learnings.

2. After you have gone through the year, consider the behaviors, beliefs or habits that you'd like to leave behind. We all have our regrets, bad habits, and learning experiences; yet, a lot of us tend to cling to them much longer than we need to. On a separate sheet of paper, write down what you would like to leave behind in 2025. For example: being obsessed with an ex, bad eating habits, going to bed too late, limiting beliefs, repetitive/disruptive thoughts, overuse of social media, consistent self-scrutiny, road rage and so on. When you complete this list, burn it or rip it up into tiny pieces to really let it go!

3. If you so choose, share your year in review with someone close to you. See what they recall, reminisce, and share a couple laughs. (Optional)

4. Make a toast to the end of the year. Say a prayer of gratitude for 2025, declare you are letting it go, and toast to releasing anything that no longer serves you.

PART TWO: Co-Creating 2026

1. Begin to co-create/manifest 2026. Light a new candle, set the mood. Meditate for at least five minutes using the guided meditation included in this episode. Meditation is important to do before you begin to manifest so you create and visualize from the authentic self rather than the ego.

2. After your meditation is complete and you are tuned into your most authentic channel, you are ready to start visioning your 2026! Begin by getting a blank sheet of unlined paper. Write at the top: "This or something better for the highest good of all concerned. And so it is."

3. Without thinking or analyzing, write down anything and everything that comes to mind that you would like to co-create/manifest in 2026. Be specific, be creative and think big; however, your list should be at least 70 percent possible and believable. Write until your brain is empty – don't worry about being greedy! The Universe loves to be generous!!! Important: write everything in present tense using "I am" and use verbs to enthusiastically and specifically express what you want. For instance, "I am joyfully and easily securing a new job that is professionally fulfilling and offers me the opportunity to do what I love." Include how you will FEEL - this is crucial because we're actually chasing the feeling, not just the goal.

4. Choose a place to display your list where you can see it regularly and treat it as something sacred. Better yet, record yourself reading your list aloud with feeling and emotion - your own voice is hypnotic. Listen to this recording daily, multiple times a day if possible.

5. Create a playlist of 3-5 songs (at least 20 minutes) that make you feel enlivened, connected to your purpose, and energized for the future. Choose forward-thinking songs that uplift you, not songs that make you nostalgic or sad. Listen to this playlist frequently - ideally while taking a walk and listening to your recorded manifestation audio.

6. Frequently throughout the year, review your list (every day is ideal). Read what you wrote aloud and feel free to add to it. January 1st is not the only day of the year in which you can call in what you want! Believe in the possibility of your manifestation power.

7. Observe with gratitude as things in your life begin to manifest. Celebrate AND do not beat yourself up or get discouraged over what is not happening. Focusing more on what is abundant in our lives ALREADY is the best way to generate more abundance. Remember that sometimes our timeline and the Universe's timeline may be different.

Resolve to live your life in alignment with what you truly want to manifest. Rid yourself of any emotional, mental, physical, or interpersonal clutter so that you can get out of your own way. Co-creating and manifestation takes action as well as thought and belief, so resolve this year to take steps to truly LIVE your best life.

Love, Christine