In this transformative coaching session, Christine guides Sarah, a 39-year-old single woman, through releasing guilt, healing her self-worth, and letting go of codependent patterns in relationships. Sarah shares the profound guilt she feels after leaving an abusive marriage, particularly since her ex-husband later passed away. Struggling with feelings of responsibility, she’s found herself repeating self-sacrificing patterns and attracting emotionally unavailable partners. Christine helps Sarah uncover how her childhood experiences of emotional neglect and caretaking shaped her beliefs about love and self-worth.

As they delve deeper, Sarah realizes that her guilt and sense of responsibility are rooted in early family dynamics, where she learned to prioritize others’ needs over her own. Christine encourages her to reconnect with her inner “adult self”—a wise, grounded voice within her that initially gave her the strength to leave her toxic marriage. This part of Sarah is key to rebuilding her confidence, trusting her instincts, and setting healthy boundaries.

The conversation highlights how our subconscious often seeks familiar relationship dynamics from childhood, making it challenging to break-free from harmful cycles. For Sarah, Christine suggests focusing on cultivating self-worth by reframing her inner dialogue and practicing self-care over dating. By pausing romantic pursuits, Sarah can create the inner stability needed to attract healthier connections, and leave behind codependent tendencies.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Have you been drawn to relationships where your needs are ignored or undervalued?
• Do you struggle with guilt when setting boundaries or prioritizing self-care?
• Are you holding yourself responsible for something that was never truly in your control?

The Guest’s Key Insights & A-HA’s:

• Sarah realizes she has been unconsciously choosing emotionally unavailable partners, mirroring her unmet needs from childhood.
• She understands that her lingering guilt about leaving her ex-husband has fueled codependent behaviors.
• Her “adult Sarah” voice, which led her to leave her marriage, is an essential inner resource she can rely on.
• Sarah sees how the part of her focused-on guilt, and self-punishment needs to make way for self-love and healing.

How to Get Over It and On With It:

• Prioritize Self-Worth: Reframe your self-image by focusing on your worth outside of relationship dynamics.
• Reconnect with Your Inner Child: Address the needs of your inner child and give yourself permission to release old survival strategies.
• Focus on Self-Growth: Take dating off the table temporarily to focus on self-healing practices.
• Seek Healthy Relational Dynamics: Cultivate relationships where you feel seen, safe, and appreciated rather than diminished.

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My hubby joins me on the podcast again today where we have a candid conversation about how valuing growth impacts our relationship (and is the reason we are together). We also share tips for those of you looking to call in love and partnership.

In this episode of "Over It and On With It," Christine Hassler coaches Ariana, who struggles with guilt related to her relationship with her mother and aunt. Ariana grew up in an emotionally challenging environment with caregivers who struggled with alcohol dependency. As an adult, she experiences guilt around maintaining boundaries, especially as her mother and aunt react negatively to her attempts to stand up for herself. Christine helps Ariana understand that her guilt is tied to deep-rooted patterns from her childhood and supports her in releasing feelings that no longer serve her well-being.

Through their conversation, Christine guides Ariana to recognize that she’s breaking a generational pattern. She encourages Ariana to focus on the family she’s building, rather than being consumed by the dynamics she grew up with. This episode explores healing, setting boundaries, and the journey toward liberation from generational patterns.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you feel guilty when you set boundaries, especially with family members?
• Have you ever felt responsible for the emotional well-being of a parent?
• Are you at a point in your life where you’re ready to break free from family patterns that no longer serve you?
• Do you struggle with guilt about prioritizing your own well-being?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Ariana’s guilt stems from a desire to feel like a “good daughter,” even at the cost of her own peace.
• Christine highlights that Ariana’s guilt is unproductive and rooted in her past survival mechanisms.
• By releasing guilt and setting clear boundaries, Ariana can create a healthier, more peaceful life for herself and her future family.
• The session emphasizes the importance of breaking generational patterns, and choosing to prioritize one’s own emotional well-being.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Reflect on whether your guilt serves a productive purpose or if it’s keeping you tied to unhelpful dynamics.
• Practice boundary-setting with compassion, knowing that prioritizing yourself is not selfish.
• Consider what kind of family environment you want to create and work toward it, regardless of past experiences.
• Release attachment to controlling others’ emotions or well-being, focusing instead on your own growth.

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In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler coaches Kim, who opens up about her struggles with self-worth, trust, and negative self-talk stemming from childhood emotional neglect. Through the session, Christine guides Kim in exploring how childhood neglect shaped her present-day beliefs and behaviors, emphasizing the importance of connecting to a higher power for healing and self-acceptance. 

Christine introduces a spiritual perspective to help Kim release the weight of her past and reconnect with unconditional love from the universe, offering her a powerful reframe to live a more fulfilled, connected life. This episode serves as an inspiring reminder that healing is a journey and that self-compassion is essential in managing unresolved wounds from the past.

Consider/Ask Yourself: • Do you feel emotionally neglected in your past, leaving you with lingering self-doubt or negative self-talk? • Are you seeking ways to reconnect with yourself and your inner child? • Do you struggle to find confidence in expressing yourself in personal or professional situations? • How do you nurture your spiritual or higher self?

Key Insights & A-Ha’s from Kim's Session: • Kim realizes that her struggles with confidence and expression stem from a need for external validation that was absent in childhood. • Christine reframes Kim's childhood experience as an opportunity to learn deeper self-compassion and connection to her spiritual self. • Kim acknowledges that her journey involves seeking love and validation from within, especially through spiritual practice. • The session highlights that healing doesn't mean "fixing" the past but learning to thrive despite it, embracing spirituality as a source of unconditional love.

How to Get Over It & On With It: • Recognize when past wounds surface in current situations and meet them with compassion instead of judgment. • Reconnect with your inner child through self-kindness and by seeking nurturing practices that feed your soul. • Explore spiritual practices that resonate with you to feel loved, seen, and held by something greater than yourself. • Practice self-acceptance, knowing that thriving despite past experiences is a powerful form of healing.

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Christina Rasmussen is an acclaimed grief educator and bestselling author of Second Firsts (Hay House, 2013), Where Did You Go? (Harper One, 2018), and Invisible Loss (Sounds True, 2024). In 2010, four years after her thirty-five-year-old spouse passed away from Stage 4 colon cancer, she created the Life Reentry process, which launched her on a mission to bring compassion, grace, and validation to thousands, while simultaneously establishing an exit from what she termed the Waiting Room. Christina holds a master’s degree in guidance and counseling (University of Durham). She is currently finishing her master of fine arts degree in painting and drawing (Academy of Art). Her grief work has been featured on ABC News and in Women’s World, the Washington Post, and the White House Blog.  

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine coaches Gloria, who grapples with balancing anxiety and confidence. Gloria's core wound stems from childhood abandonment, which causes her to feel unsafe in expressing herself fully, especially in public settings. Although she has a supportive partner and is pursuing trauma-informed coaching, her fears of rejection and failure in her new career keep resurfacing. Christine helps Gloria navigate her anxiety and step into her confidence by guiding her to detach from the narrative she tells herself about being "too much."

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you struggle with balancing anxiety and confidence in your personal or professional life?
• Is your core wound rooted in abandonment or rejection, making you feel unsafe in being your authentic self?
• Do you talk yourself out of pursuing something because of fear of rejection or failure?
• How do you react to feedback or criticism? Do you internalize it or use it as a learning tool?
• Are you ready to step out of your story and into your authentic power?

Gloria’s Key Insights & Aha Moments:

• Gloria recognizes that her fear of rejection ties back to childhood wounds of feeling abandoned and "too much."
• She acknowledges that despite her current partner being emotionally supportive, her fear of public speaking and judgment continues to manifest.
• Christine helps Gloria realize that her story of always being in "fight or flight" is not her reality, and she has made more progress than she gives herself credit for.
• By shifting focus from her fear to her strengths, Gloria can step into confidence.

How to Get Over It & On with It:

• Practice emotional grounding and self-affirmation to challenge the narrative of being too much or too anxious.
• Use movement or expressive outlets like dancing to release anxiety and reconnect with your true essence.
• Reframe nervousness or anxiety as a natural response to stepping outside of your comfort zone, not as a sign of incapability.
• Trust that confidence grows through action, even when you feel nervous—courage is built by doing the hard thing.

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Ashley Stahl is the international bestselling author of YOU TURN: Get Unstuck, Discover Your Direction, Design Your Dream Career, host of the You Turn Podcast, ranked on Apple in the top 100 mental health shows in the US, and a keynote speaker with a top 100 ranked TEDx talk. Ashley started her career in counterterrorism under the Obama administration and learned speech writing while working for the government.

After pouring 10s of thousands of dollars into her own personal brand, Ashley realized that many entrepreneurs are spinning their wheels and wasting their budgets on personal brand and PR efforts that are not actually moving the needle in their career. After doing two TEDx talks and seeing both of them go viral, Ashley has learned that TEDx is the super highway to launching and scaling your personal brand, whether you want to amplify your authority, leave a legacy or create exponential opportunities for yourself.

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler speaks with Hyesha, who seeks advice on managing her empathic tendencies, especially the overwhelming emotions she feels when witnessing suffering. Christine helps Hyesha navigate the delicate balance between feeling deeply and maintaining emotional boundaries, particularly when her empathic abilities make her overly sensitive to the pain of others.

Hyesha opens up about her experiences of being triggered by everyday situations involving children or animals, which leads her into "worst-case-scenario" thinking. Christine assists Hyesha in understanding how her heightened sensitivity stems from unhealed childhood wounds and limiting beliefs. Through this powerful coaching session, Hyesha learns practical ways to embrace her empathic gifts without being consumed by them.

Christine emphasizes the importance of distinguishing between empathy and sympathy, encouraging Hyesha to hold space for others' suffering without taking it on herself. She also guides Hyesha in recognizing her own triggers and using them as opportunities for self-compassion and healing.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by others' emotions, to the point that it drains you?
• Are you an empath who struggles to maintain boundaries between your feelings and those of others?
• How do you respond when you're triggered by the suffering of children, animals, or even people on the news?
• Can you hold space for others' emotions without going into "rescue mode" or becoming emotionally paralyzed?

Hyesha's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Hyesha shares how hearing a child or animal cry often triggers a response that doesn't match the reality of the situation, rooted in past trauma.
• Christine helps Hyesha identify the emotional patterns that cause her to react so strongly and teaches her how to use her empathic abilities constructively.
• Hyesha recognizes the need to mother herself and attend to her own emotional needs when triggered by outside stimuli.
• The session highlights the difference between empathy and sympathy, showing how Hyesha can feel deeply without becoming overwhelmed.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Practice distinguishing between empathy (feeling without judgment) and sympathy (feeling sorry for others), and strive to stay in an empathetic space.
• Acknowledge that your reactions to certain situations may be based on unresolved emotional wounds, and use these moments as invitations to self-care.
• Use grounding techniques to regulate your nervous system when you start to feel overwhelmed by others' emotions.
• Recognize that feeling deeply is a gift, but it doesn’t require you to take on the burden of fixing or saving others.

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Topas Adizes joins me for a beautiful conversation about how to deepen our connections through listening and curiosity. 

In this episode of Over It and On With It, Christine Hassler dives into a heartfelt and profound coaching call with Anna, discussing the difference between healing the body and trying to fix it. Christine emphasizes the importance of understanding that when we focus too much on "fixing" ourselves, we often remain stuck in a mindset that something is inherently broken. Instead, she encourages Anna and listeners to approach the body with love, acceptance, and gratitude, viewing physical symptoms as opportunities for emotional and spiritual growth rather than burdens.

Anna opens up about her experiences with PCOS and the struggles she's faced with rigid control over her health. Through this vulnerable conversation, Christine highlights how past unmet emotional needs can manifest physically and explores how healing requires addressing those emotional roots.

Consider/Ask Yourself:

• Are you approaching your health and body from a mindset of fixing rather than healing?
• Do you trust your body, or do you feel like you’re in a constant struggle with it?
• How do your past experiences, especially from childhood, affect how you relate to your body today?
• Can you shift your perspective on physical symptoms from frustration to gratitude?

The Guest's Key Insights & A-HA's:

• Christine helps Anna uncover how her childhood experiences of needing to control everything have carried over into her health journey, contributing to her PCOS symptoms.
• Healing starts with self-love, trust, and understanding that symptoms often have emotional and spiritual roots.
• The body isn’t something to fix; rather, it’s an ally that signals where healing is needed.
• Embracing vulnerability and releasing the pressure to be perfect can lead to deeper emotional and physical well-being.

How to Get Over It & On With It:

• Acknowledge the emotional wounds: Recognize that the physical symptoms you experience, such as PCOS, may have emotional roots stemming from unmet needs in childhood. Allow yourself to feel the sadness, frustration, or grief that comes with these realizations, and begin the healing process by acknowledging these emotions.
• Release the need for control: Understand that rigid control over your health and body can often stem from past experiences. Let go of the need to micromanage every detail of your health, and trust that your body is not something to be fixed but an ally in your healing journey.
• Shift your perspective on symptoms: Instead of viewing physical ailments as obstacles, see them as signals from your body asking for deeper healing and attention. Embrace the opportunity to heal not just the physical, but also the emotional and spiritual wounds that contribute to your well-being.
• Be compassionate with yourself: Just as Anna learned to approach her body with love rather than criticism, practice giving yourself the same grace. Recognize that healing is a process, and it’s okay to not have everything figured out. Offer yourself the nurturing and care you needed as a child.

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