A Gay and A NonGay
James Barr and Dan Hudson
Two unlikely friends take on the world
- 23 minutes 18 seconds10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: A Gay Muslim's Journey to Acceptance with Mohsin Zaidi
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to December 2021...
James and Dan are joined by iconic barrister, speaker and author Mohsin Zaidi about his must read memoir A Dutiful Boy, A Memoir of A Gay Muslim’s Journey to Acceptance.
We chat about Mohsin’s superhero parents and their Kryptonite, conversion therapy Witch Doctors - and James learns about bidets.
If you are Muslim and LGBTQ+ and need help, visit Hidayah - https://hidayahlgbt.com/ - the leading Queer Muslim charity.
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3 December 2025, 5:00 am - 36 minutes 21 seconds10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Leaving the Westboro Baptist Church with Megan Phelps-Roper
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2019...
The Westboro Baptist Church, notorious for picketing funerals and spreading homophobia, are one of the most hateful and homophobic Christian organisations in the world.
Megan Phelps-Roper was born to hate, joining her family at an anti-Gay picket at just 5 years old. The pain, sadness and shame Megan and her family have caused LGBTQ+ people around the world is difficult to comprehend, but since leaving the church in 2012 Megan has dedicated her life to spreading love, compassion and understanding.
In this episode, James and Dan chat to Megan about her journey. This episode contains strong language, offensive ideology and religious rhetoric you may find offensive.
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26 November 2025, 5:00 am - 15 minutes 30 seconds10 Years Of A Gay and A NonGay: Chickens
This is a re-release celebrating a decade of love and allyship on A Gay And A NonGay. This week we're throwing it back to November 2015 to an episode all about one word... Chickens.
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19 November 2025, 5:00 am - 20 minutes 20 secondsLive From The First-Ever Solihull Pride
We’re heading to Solihull for a special episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
Recorded just days before the first-ever Solihull Pride, Dan sits down with Melanie Palmer — CEO of the Solihull Business Improvement District — to discover how one of the “straightest parts of the UK” ended up launching a Pride celebration that captured the whole town’s imagination.
Mel shares the surprisingly emotional origins of Solihull Pride, how she has been combatting outdated attitudes, and the wider fear and misinformation that still shapes perceptions of queer people.
This episode is a reminder that Pride can take root anywhere, even in the places you least expect.
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13 November 2025, 5:00 am - 32 minutes 8 secondsGogglebox, Gay Divorces and Going Kilimanjaro with Dan Lustig-Webb
On this episode of A Gay And A NonGay, James and Dan are sitting down with the iconic Daniel Lustig-Webb, a familiar face from the hit show Gogglebox.
Daniel discusses the unique concept of'Gogglebox, filming experiences, and the show's impact during the pandemic.
He shares personal stories about his friendship with ex-partner Steven, living arrangements post-separation, and experiences navigating the gay dating scene as a public figure.
Daniel also opens up about his lifelong partial deafness and advocacy work.
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5 November 2025, 5:00 am - 13 minutes 42 secondsWhen Self-Love Becomes Too Much
James and Dan are back with another chaotic, hilarious episode of A Gay and A NonGay!
This week, Dan’s lost his phone — and apparently his sanity — leading to a deep dive into how impossible modern life is without one (and how long James can last without rolling his eyes).
From there, the pair spiral into a debate about narcissism — is it always a bad thing, or can a little self-love actually be healthy?
James insists it’s a green flag, Dan isn’t so sure, and somewhere between poppers, entitlement, and empathy, they try to work out what the line really is between confidence and arrogance.
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29 October 2025, 5:00 am - 23 minutes 34 secondsThe Curious Case of Gay Dave
Dan and James are back with more A Gay And A NonGay for a wide-ranging conversation, starting with stereotypes!
Is there such thing as a gay name and a straight name? And what's up with straight men putting their hands down their trousers?
Plus, they talk about the issue of creatively navigating first dates without relying on consuming alcohol and share their experiences attending Solihull Pride.
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22 October 2025, 4:00 am - 17 minutes 3 secondsStraight Men Behaving Badly...
Why is it that straight men can seemingly never behave themselves in public? That's the discussion on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
James and Dan are looking at two similarly gross incidents: a concert in New York and a burlesque show in Edinburgh, at both men were ejected because they couldn't keep their thing in their pants.
In a debate that ranges from the outrageous to the somewhat facetious, our co-hosts discuss everything from consent to the comparisons between different types of addictions, and whether society needs to be more understanding or whether a line must be drawn.
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15 October 2025, 4:00 am - 17 minutes 43 secondsPride, Refugees & The Politics Of Britishness
We're getting political on this episode of A Gay And A NonGay!
Rylan’s controversial comments on immigration - the episode spirals into a fiery debate about misinformation, far-right rhetoric and the way everyday conversations in the UK are shaped by fear rather than facts.From England flags mysteriously appearing on lampposts to Pride merch being vandalised, James and Dan unpack what it really means to be "proud" of your country — and how queer and refugee communities get caught in the crossfire.
Plus, the pair take a typically chaotic detour into whether Grindr is basically the Wild West of the internet.
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8 October 2025, 4:00 am - 27 minutes 29 secondsSharing Your Location With A Partner? Think Again!
We're back with a new episode of A Gay And A NonGay! James and Dan are diving into the age-old relationship question: should you share your location with your partner?
Dan reveals he doesn't share his location with his girlfriend of 14 years (despite her sharing hers with him)... which James has some strong opinions about!
Dan also updates on his viral campaign to rename Birmingham Airport after the late Ozzy Osbourne and we explore the power of public petitions!
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24 September 2025, 4:00 am - 31 minutes 45 secondsIs Liking Pop Music Performative?
James and Dan are back with another hilarious deep dive into gay and non-gay life!
Kicking off with a listener question about what gay people really listen to at the gym, things quickly spiral into a heated debate about whether liking Kylie or Madonna is performative — and whether James is secretly pretending to love Drag Race.
From there, we head to the rugby, where James (fuelled by Sauvignon Blanc) and Dan find themselves surrounded by rainbow flags, drag queens... and straight lads... discovering how queer joy can transform even the most “blokey” of spaces.
Along the way, we get into electric car nightmares, mosh pits at Download Festival and the unexpected shame of eating alone with a newspaper.
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