When his mother says one thing and your wife says another, who wins? In this episode Pesa Shayo breaks down the loyalty order God built into marriage, why honoring your parents and obeying them are not the same thing, and how a couple decides together so family pressure has nowhere to land.

You will learn why "leave and cleave" is not cruel, where your mother's honored place actually sits in the line, and the first move to make as a united front this week.

Take the free United Front Quiz and see exactly where your marriage is exposed to family and cultural pressure: https://liveyourbestmarriage.com/quiz

Pesa Shayo helps cross-cultural Christian couples build a united front through in-laws, loyalty conflicts, and culture clashes. Learn more at:
https://liveyourbestmarriage.com

This episode begins a new season of the Live Your Best Marriage Podcast, now hosted by Pesa Shayo and focused on helping cross-cultural Christian couples build a united front.

What if the change you're waiting for in your home starts with you?

In this episode, Pesa Shayo, author and co-founder of Live Your Best Marriage, unpacks why waiting for your spouse, your kids, or your circumstances to change first keeps families stuck, and how one person choosing to become the positive trigger can shift the entire atmosphere of a home.

You'll learn how to stop matching negative energy and start shaping your environment, why victim thinking quietly erodes a united front, and the practical first move to make this week.

Take the free United Front Quiz and see exactly where your marriage is exposed to family and cultural pressure: https://liveyourbestmarriage.com/quiz

Pesa Shayo helps cross-cultural Christian couples build a united front through in-laws, loyalty conflicts, and culture clashes. Learn more at:
https://liveyourbestmarriage.com

Over the course of thirteen years, we’ve encountered a few situations - related to race - that I would say were just completely unfair and wrong. In the early years of our relationship, relatives on both sides did NOT approve of us being together. We stood our ground and made it clear that we would be together no matter what. However, those situations were still very difficult and emotionally hard for us a couple. In this episode we will be offering advice for ways that you, as a couple can stand up to the injustice of being judged because you’re an interracial couple. https://liveyourbestmarriage.com/fom

What To Do When Inlaws Interfere If anyone knows how much it hurts when in-laws undermine and interfere, it’s me. There were times when I wished my husband would speak up and defend my status/authority as the wife, and especially, as the mom of our children. What do you do when a relative gives your child something that you never allow them to have? How do you react when your husband’s/wife’s side of the family behaves as though you don’t even exist? Unfortunately not all family members are respectful of boundaries, and even more unfortunate, not every spouse is adamant about keeping boundaries in place. We’ll be talking about ways to get the respect you deserve.

How To Better Communicate With Your Spouse When we exchange words with the person we love most, it can be challenging to know exactly how to react. Communication brings a whole new challenge: interpretation. How do you know the difference between verbal abuse and just being easily offended? In this episode we’ll share personal stories about challenges we face when communicating. Learn how you can benefit from reass

Invest In Your Marriage Have you ever thought about your marriage as an investment? The more you put in, the more you get out. If your relationship is falling short of your expectations, we recommend spending more time and energy on it. Suggested reading: “One Life Solution” by Dr. Henry Cloud - http://amzn.to/2xoxr5S

Is Resistance Keeping You From A Great Marriage? Have you ever wanted to accomplish something great, but it just never seems to happen? We definitely don’t think laziness is the problem...it’s resistance! Resistance holds back so many people from completing projects, and it also holds back a lot of couples from living the life they crave. In this episode, we’ll provide tips that we’ve learned on how to overcome resistance. The War of Art by Steven Pressfield http://amzn.to/2jKoDEc

What's Your Communication Style? Many husbands and wives have completely different ways of expressing their thoughts and ideas. And that’s okay! It would be boring if we all had the exact same style of talking. However, in this episode, we’ll share some of the personal struggles we’ve gone through with communication and the differences in our cultures.

The Grass Is Greener On The Other Side Here at Live Your Best Marriage, we usually talk about couples who go through the minor irritations of marriage, but what happens when one spouse has completely checked out? When the problem moves from contemplating divorce to actual divorce, we want you to know that there is hope for you, and there is help that you can get to navigate your way through the situation.

The term “work spouse” has become more common recently, and the idea is absolutely repulsive.

Episode 78 Get To The Promised Land, Together. Do you ever feel like the arguments never end? When my husband tells me that he wants us to stop being petty and put our energy together for something positive, I’m reminded of a story in the bible. When Moses was leading people to the promised land, they all ended up wandering through the wilderness for 40 years. In this episode, we’ll talk about ways that you and your spouse can reach the “promised land” together.