Today’s podcast covers a LOT of territory, including the complexities of masturbation, its connection to our emotional health, and the differences between a scarcity mindset and an abundance mindset when it comes to living in victory over sexual sin. 

Our guest today is Matt Cline, founder of Restored Ministries. In our conversation, we explore the significant role emotional well-being plays in navigating sexual brokenness. We emphasize the importance of understanding our emotions to discover genuine happiness and connection. We also explore the intriguing concept of scarcity versus abundance in the context of our sexuality. Matt's perspective on how a scarcity mindset can lead to feelings of isolation is eye-opening, and he highlights how adopting an attitude of gratitude can help us perceive our lives more abundantly.

To cap off the conversation, we point listeners to some valuable resources provided by Restored Ministries, including the Pure Freedom Community and the Pure Victory Podcast, which offer support to those on this path. 

To learn more about Matt and his ministry, visit RestoredMinistries.ca.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Masturbation and its prevalence among men
• Emotional health and its impact on sexual brokenness
• Scarcity versus abundance mindset in the context of sexual brokenness
• The significance of identifying and acknowledging emotions
• Transformative experiences of individuals in recognizing and expressing emotions
• Detrimental effects of living in a scarcity mindset
• Encouragement to shift towards gratitude and thankfulness
• Resources available through Restored Ministries for support and guidance
• Importance of emotional health in the journey towards healing and wholeness

More Resources:

• Pure Freedom Journey
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive
• 49 Days of Growth*

Related Podcasts:

• Overcoming Shame and Embracing Your True Identity
• When Shame Gets Real (with Carl Thomas)
• Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth?

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In this episode, we have Andrew Arthur back with us to dive deep into the art of active listening. We chat about the common obstacles we face, like distractions and assumptions, that can disrupt our ability to truly hear others, especially in long-term relationships. 

Andrew shares a golden nugget for exceptional listening: asking "What do you need from me right now?" as a way to better support those in emotional need. We even touch on how this skill translates to our spiritual lives, suggesting we quiet our inner chatter to connect with God. 

Wrapping up, we leave you with some practical tips to enhance your listening skills.

To learn more about Andrew and his mediation services, visit GenesisChristianMediation.com.

Topics Covered in this Episode:

• Importance of active listening
• Roadblocks to effective communication
• Removing oneself from the center stage
• Asking "What do you need from me right now?"
• Providing support and affirmation in times of crisis
• Assumptions in long-term relationships
• Barriers to good listening
• Listening to God and spiritual connection
• Practical advice for improving listening skills

More Resources:

• Untangling Emotions* by Groves and Smith
• Words Have Power
• 40 Days to Oneness by Stephen Cervantes

Related Podcasts:

• Conflict Management for Marriage Healing from Betrayal
• Do Your Emotional Beliefs Lead You to Connection or Disconnection?
• The Goal is Connecting

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On today’s episode, Brian Ellsworth shares his personal journey of trauma, addiction, and recovery. Brian is the new executive director of Living Without Lust, which is a fellowship of men desiring to live with sexual integrity.

Brian discusses his challenging past, sobriety-seeking turning points, and healing through an intensive program. He shares how he went from a crippling addiction to now helping other men break free from unwanted sexual behaviors. The conversation stresses the significance of addressing underlying pain, seeking help, and the continuous process of recovery. 

To learn more about Brian and Living Without Lust, visit LivingWithoutLust.com.

More Resources:

• Contact Brian at 904-479-5629
• Boulder Recovery
• Gateway to Freedom

Related Podcasts:

• A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
• Keys to Long-Term Freedom from Unwanted Sexual Behaviors
• Helping Men Overcome Porn and Get Emotionally Fit

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In this episode, we welcome back Ashley Jameson from Pure Desire Ministries. She helps us understand trauma, addiction, and women's struggles with sex and relationships, shining a light on the importance of transforming our worldly views on sexuality.

Ashley candidly highlights the different ways women grapple with their sexuality. Ranging from matters of toxic relationships to fears of intimacy, her insights and personal journey resonate deeply.

Ashley also explores the negative impact of violent sexual acts in fantasies and media content. She emphasizes the urgent need to redefine our perspective of sexuality as a beautiful and valuable gift from God.

As a wrap-up, Ashley speaks on the far-reaching positive impacts of breaking free from sexual shame on all aspects of life, notably parenting and personal relationships. This powerful conversation will invite women dealing with love, sex, and relationship issues to boldly embark on their individual healing journeys.

To learn more about Ashley and the resources mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org.

More Resources:

• Unraveled Kit
• Counseling Help
• Find a Group

Related Podcasts:

• God's Grace for Women Struggling with Sexual Shame
• Going Deeper for Women: How Your Inner Child Affects Your Love and Sex Addiction
• Freedom and Healing from Shame, Addiction, and Abuse

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The world, especially in the West, is awash in all forms of sexual brokenness and confusion. And much of this brokenness and confusion is present in the Church. How can we help Christians understand God’s design for sex and live it out in our local churches and communities?

Today we have Daniel Weiss back on the program with us to discuss these issues. Daniel is the president of Sexual Integrity Leaders, a ministry dedicated to equipping, supporting, and collaborating with Christian leaders to promote Gospel-centered sexuality in the Church.

Much of our conversation revolves around the Identity Project, a platform containing many teaching videos from multiple leaders in various arenas of expertise regarding biblical sexuality. We talk about why these teachings are important for every Christian, especially topics like the “image of God,” singlehood and sexuality, and how our true identity is rooted in community.

To learn more about Daniel and Sexual Integrity Leaders, visit SexualIntegrityLeaders.com. 

To learn more about the Identity Project, visit IdentityProject.tv. Use coupon code: IDPSEXUALINTEGRITY10

More Resources:

• Rethinking Sexuality* by Dr. Juli Slattery
• Our Bodies Tell God's Story* by Christopher West
• Pure Life Academy Courses for Leaders

Related Podcasts:

• What is Sexual Discipleship?
• Being a Single, Sexual Man
• Embracing God's Image in Gender

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Addiction recovery is hard work. It is the process of learning to live in a whole new way apart from old, harmful, compulsive patterns. Such transformation doesn’t happen quickly or without help. 

Our guest today is Mark Denison. He has been on the program several times before and is the co-founder, with his wife Beth, of There’s Still Hope. He joins us to talk about his newest book, Recovery Rules: 100 Truisms that Will Change Everything. Men often need pithy, wise tips to help them on the long road of recovery. 

In our conversation, we highlight several of the truisms, such as: 

• If you are 90% in, you are 100% out.
• Addiction isn’t a bad problem, it is a bad solution.
• If you can stay sober for 20 minutes, you can stay sober.
• Relapse is not an event, but a process.
• Don’t commit to a lifetime; commit to a day.
• Direction trumps destination.

If you are looking for some super practical help for your recovery journey, this episode will be very impactful. 

To learn more about Mark and his ministry’s resources, visit TheresStillHope.org.

More Resources:

• Recovery Rules: 100 Truisms that Will Change Everything*
• Gateway to Freedom 3-Day Intensive
• Grace-Based Recovery Online Study Groups

Related Podcasts:

• A 3-Year Roadmap of Recovery and Emotional Growth
• The Stopwatch Acting Out Cycle
• 3 Levels of Sobriety

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Forgiveness is a topic that gets brought up over and over again in the space of healing from betrayal. But before you tune out let me encourage you to stick around for my super practical conversation with Karla Downing on this topic.

Karla is the founder of Change My Relationship and has been on the podcast multiple times to help us think through important relational issues like boundaries and grief. Her many years of experience helping couples in very difficult situations comes out in this interview on forgiveness.

In the episode, Karla gives a robust definition of forgiveness and then walks us through eight practical steps that are essential to the process of forgiveness.

To learn more about Karla and her ministry, visit ChangeMyRelationship.com.

More Resources:

• The 8-Step Forgiveness Process (PDF)
• 30 Days of Blessing (PDF)
• Healing the Wounds of Your Past

Related Podcasts:

• Betrayal Healing Phases
• The 7 Steps of Forgiveness
• The Journey of Healing from Betrayal Trauma

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Why is confidence important to recovery from addictive patterns? And how is confidence different from arrogance or pride? 

To help us address this topic, we have Dr. Eddie Capparucci back on the program with us. Eddie is certified as a licensed professional counselor and certified in treating sexual and pornography addiction. He has been on the program multiple times to share his expertise and wisdom in the field of addiction recovery. 

In our conversation, we discuss what confidence is, the causes and effects of a lack of confidence, what healthy confidence is rooted in, and how to grow in confidence. If you are a man who wants to grow and mature in your recovery, take notes and apply what Eddie shares in this episode. 

To learn more about Eddie and his resources, visit InnerChild-SexAddiction.com.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive
• Going Deeper: How the Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual Addiction*
• Grace-Based Recovery Groups

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and Emotion
• What To Do in the Moment of Temptation
• Why Men Struggle to Love

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There are many men and women in the Church who struggle with all forms of sexual brokenness, including same-sex sexual desires. How can Christians love and care for those who want freedom from such besetting sins?

In today’s episode, our guest is Garry Ingraham. Garry is the co-founder of Love and Truth Network, a ministry that equips church leaders in restoring biblical sexuality, community, and identity through personalized leadership training, teaching resources, and experiential growth opportunities for personal transformation and supporting others. 

Garry shares his own story of same-sex brokenness and how God drew him out of the dark and into the light. He also shares how God called him into ministry, especially to pastors and helping them with their personal sexual struggles and how to address sexual sin and hope in the local church. 

Finally, Garry has a new book entitled Am I Gay which highlights his story and how to navigate sexual confusion with the truth of Christ and the community of fellow Christians. 

To learn more about Garry, his ministry, and the book, visit LoveandTruthNetwork.com.

More Resources:

• Am I Gay book*
• The Love and Truth Network Podcast
• Free Confidential Coaching

Related Podcasts:

• Can the Church Be a Safe Place for Healing and Transformation?
• What To Do When Your Child "Comes Out"
• How Brokenness Fits with Wholeness in Christ

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Why is pornography such a big deal? This is a common question in the culture, but not necessarily one of alarm, but rather questioning why ministries like ours and many others even exist. Is there any real harm to pornography?

To help us answer these questions we have Nick Stumbo back on the program. Nick is the Executive Director of Pure Desire Ministries and an author and speaker on sexual issues from a Christian worldview. 

In our conversation, Nick shares many of the negative effects of porn: biological, mental, emotional, and relational. We look at the many unhealthy patterns porn promotes, the natural trajectory of tolerance (both individually and culturally), the linkage between human trafficking and porn, and then how to live free from the negative effects of porn. 

Finally, Nick shares a new video series resource called Living Undefiled that takes an in-depth look at the topics surrounding pornography and human trafficking. 

To learn more about Nick and Pure Desire, visit PureDesire.org. 

To get access to the Living Undefiled course, visit LivingUndefiled.com.

More Resources:

• Help for Men
• Help for Women*
• NCOSE

Related Podcasts:

• New Research on Why Women View Porn
• Exposing the True Impact of Porn
• Keeping Kids Safe in a Digital World

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Register for Xposed Conference!

When: THIS Saturday, February 24th (join in person or online)

Xposed is an annual event to help pastors, ministry leaders, counselors, and individuals navigate sensitive sexual issues and equip them to care for their communities regarding God’s design for sex.

Register Online (use coupon code XP24-BBM for discount)

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Many men struggle deeply with their godly responsibilities of leadership, especially in the home, because they aren’t even managing themselves very well. 

In this episode, Stephen brings a letter from a leader that is meant to be representative of most men who struggle with this internal conflict of leadership calling and poor self-management. This letter addresses issues like: 

• Dividedness and hypocrisy
• Wearing masks to cover fear and shame
• Poor or non-existent emotional skills
• Weariness and hopelessness

For any man who can relate to what is shared in this letter, there is hope for transformation. You can become the man and leader God designed you to be. 

For helpful resources to enhance your godly manhood and marriage skills, visit DoctorMarriage.org.

More Resources:

• Gateway to Freedom 3-day intensive
• 49 Days of Growth by Stephen Cervantes*
• Daily Thoughts from Doctor Marriage

Related Podcasts:

• Helping Men Navigate Between Logic and Emotion
• A 7 Day Challenge for Emotional Growth
• Are You Open or Closed to Emotional Growth

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