On this episode, Erin chats with Polyamory Educator Kevin A. Patterson, Sex Therapist & Sexuality Professor Dr. Hernando Chaves, and Associate Professor & Psychologist Manijeh Badiee about using positive masculinity to create safe and supportive spaces, friendships, and partnerships. This convo was conducted on Instagram Live after our workshop entitled, 'The New Masculine: Shifting from Toxic Masculinity to Positive Masculinity,' part of Erin's 2021 Dating Panel Series. More info at https://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2021-dating-panel-series/

About Kevin:

Kevin is the creator of the interview series, Poly Role Models, focused on changing how poly communities are viewed. Kevin is the author of the book ‘Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities.’ Check out Kevin’s educational series with Dr. Liz Powell, ‘Unf*ck Your Polyamory’ designed to help people navigate the world of consensual non-monogamy while avoiding a lot of the common mistakes. KevinAPatterson.com

About Hernando:

Dr. Hernando Chaves is a licensed MFT sex therapist, Pepperdine University MFT Sexuality Professor, Western Region past president and past board of directors member for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality, written or consulted for 14 instructional media sex education projects, and a contributing author to the International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality. DrHernandoChaves.com (IG/T): @hernando_chaves

About Manijeh:

Manijeh Badiee, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University, San Bernardino. She provides therapy as a licensed counseling psychologist (License# PSY 30484) at Collaborative Psychology Group in Riverside. Dr. Badiee specializes in clients who are LGBTQ+, people of color, and/or practice ethical non-monogamy. http://psychology.csusb.edu/facultyStaff/manijeh_badiee.htm

About Erin:

Erin Tillman, The Dating Advice Girl is an inclusive Sex Educator, Dating & Consent Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and Media Personality based in LA. For over 10 years, she has helped empower singles through workshops, matchmaking, podcasting and her book, The Consent Guidebook. She has contributed to Lifetime, Buzzfeed, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. TheDatingAdviceGirl.com

Ep.193-On this episode, Erin chats with Sexologist & Educator Bianca I Laureano and Associate Professor & Psychologist Manijeh Badiee about being queer and sometimes feeling like you don't fit in, blocking out societal noise, feeling social pressure to ‘choose a team,' and learning to embrace our journey around identity. This convo serves as preview for our workshop entitled, 'Queerness and Embracing Your Own Personal Orientation Evolution,' part of Erin's 2021 Dating Panel Series. More info at https://thedatingadvicegirl.com/2021-dating-panel-series/

About Bianca:

Bianca I Laureano, PhD, MA2, CSES is an award-winning educator and sexologist. She is a founding member of the Women of Color Sexual Health Network (WOCSHN) and her most recent project is ANTE UP! a virtual freedom school offering professional development and certification. She has written several curricula and is the lead writer for the Netflix film Crip Camp’s curriculum rooted in Disability Justice principles. She is an AASECT certified sexuality educator and supervisor, and in May 2020 was awarded an honorary doctorate from the California Institute for Integral Studies for her work in expanding the US sexuality field. Find out more about Bianca at her website BiancaLaureano.com and about ANTE UP! at www.AnteUpPD.com

About Manijeh:

Manijeh Badiee, Ph.D., is an Associate Professor of Psychology at California State University, San Bernardino. She provides therapy as a licensed counseling psychologist (License# PSY 30484) at Collaborative Psychology Group in Riverside. Dr. Badiee specializes in clients who are LGBTQ+, people of color, and/or practice ethical non-monogamy. http://psychology.csusb.edu/facultyStaff/manijeh_badiee.htm

About Erin:

Erin Tillman, The Dating Advice Girl is an inclusive Sex Educator, Dating & Consent Empowerment Coach, Author, Speaker, and Media Personality based in LA. In 2018, Erin was awarded the Gender Equity Award presented by the California National Organization for Women (NOW). For over 10 years, she has helped empower singles through workshops, matchmaking, podcasting and her book, The Consent Guidebook. She has contributed to Lifetime, Buzzfeed, Elle Magazine, Men’s Health, Washington Post, and more. TheDatingAdviceGirl.com

Ep.192-On this episode, Host of the Girl Boner podcast and Certified Sex Educator, August McLaughlin and I chat about the importance of setting boundaries for 2021, lessons learned from 2020, and being intentional about who is in our social circles. About August: August McLaughlin is a journalist, certified sex educator, author and host of the podcast, Girl Boner Radio, which reviewers have called "Sex in the City meets NPR.” Her articles and expertise have been featured in Cosmopolitan, The Washington Post, DAME Magazine, O: The Oprah Magazine, Forbes, Shape and more. augustmclaughlin.com

Ep.191-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison (www.JettGarrison.com) & I talk other interracial couples about they are supporting their Black partners, what allyship looks like, and conversations with their children during this time of great change and racial justice.

Backstory: I’ve been receiving messages from interracial couples saying that for the first time in their relationship, they’ve been having some hard conversations about race, that their partner is struggling to understand the emotions their partner is dealing with, or that their partner doesn’t fully understand the importance of this current movement. My intention in putting together this panel was to help couples, whether in a new #relationship or a long-term partnership, gain a better understanding about what their Black partners are experiencing, and therefore create more empathy and support.

A big THANK YOU to our panel participants (Jett Garrison, Rikesha Lane, Rachel Rae Lane, Shawn Richardz, Cary Millman, Chad Davis, Carl Hampton Jr, Jeremy Holmes & Erika Holmes) for sharing their experiences and taking the time educate the listener.

Ep.190-On this episode, my partner Jett Garrison & I talk about interracial relationships in this time of Black Lives Matter protests, social justice, civil rights for Black people, and the importance of having supportive conversations with your partner regardless of gender or orientation. Jett talks about his experience as a transgender man dating me and having other Black people in his life during this time.

Ep.189-On this episode, Pickup Artist and Dating Coach for minority men, JT Tran discusses how he coaches and empowers his single clients through his company the ABCs of Attraction. We have a wide-ranging conversation about the specific challenges facing cis-hetero Asian men, standards of beauty and masculinity in American culture, the mental/physical/verbal elements he teaches to boost confidence, the gender imbalance in some Asian countries, consent and digital dating. This episode's Consent Corner focuses on interpreting nonverbal cues and signs of disinterest from Chapter 4 of my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com).

About JT: The Asian Playboy, JT Tran, is the founder of the world-renowned ABCs of Attraction, one of the world’s first and most successful indie pick up companies focusing on helping minority men meet, attract and connect with the women of their dreams and reach new levels of success in all areas of their lives. Known as the World’s Greatest Asian Pick Up Artist, he is the creator of the revolutionary Holistic approach to pickup and has transformed the lives of thousands of men with his groundbreaking products and programs and the help of his dynamic coaching staff. He is the founder of one of the longest running and most widely read seduction arts blogs in history, which recently surpassed more than two million site visits. JT has several e-books, DVDs and CDs, and other multi-media personal coaching resources and has provided thousands of hours of training and coached students in 20 cities on five continents. www.ABCsOfAttraction.com

Ep.188-Licensed Therapist and Sex Educator Jamila Dawson and I have a wide-ranging convo about bringing more pleasure into our lives, repressed trauma, dealing with major shifts in relationships, consent within kink/power dynamics, and more! This episode’s Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com), focuses on enthusiastic consent. 

About Jamila: Jamila Dawson, licensed marriage and family therapist, holds a master’s in clinical psychology and is a sex therapist, pleasure activist, and speaker. Her focus: break down sexual stigma in order to design relationships that center imagination, connection, and liberation. She sees clients in her private practice, presents nationally on sexuality, neurobiology and wellness to mental health professionals and teaches classes on kink/BDSM and sexual enhancement to individuals, partners, and groups. www.JamilaDawson.com

Ep.186-This episode features a compilation of my holiday dating tips for singles and those in new relationships, situationships, and flirtationships from past episodes! Topics include surviving the holiday season while single, asking someone new out during the holidays, gift giving basics, inviting your potential love-interest home for the holidays, keeping in touch if you are traveling solo, and being honest about your feelings before making seasonal decisions that could unexpectedly accelerate your situationship. Plus, this episode's Consent Corner comes from Chapter 7 of my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) and focuses on positive reinforcement with someone you like after an encounter that possibly didn't go so well.

Ep.185-Sex & Cannabis Expert Ashley Manta tells us about the benefits of integrating cannabis into our sex lives, consent when using substances, the importance of exploring your own body, and more! We are also joined by colleagues Halcyone (www.relationshiprejuvenation.com) and Courtney (www.intimatehealthyoga.com) for this lively conversation. This episode's Consent Corner from my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) focuses on respecting and validating the boundaries of others.
About Ashley: Ashley Manta has become known as "the CannaSexual" as a result of her passion and her expert knowledge about sex and cannabis. She offers premium Skype coaching for individuals or couples who are interested in creating more intimacy and pleasure in their lives! Ashley was dubbed "America's High Priestess of Pleasure" when she appeared on the January 2019 cover of Sexual Health Magazine. She documents her hedonistic lifestyle on her Instagram account. Her CannaSexual work landed her on the cover of Sexual Health Magazine in January 2019 and she has been referenced in Forbes, The London Times, Newsweek, Rolling Stone, Globe and Mail, LA Weekly, and more! She was also the featured expert in the "Stoned Sex" episode of Slutever on VICELAND TV. www.CannaSexual.com

Ep.184-Dr. Hernando Chaves and I talk about the sexual shame, importance of Sex Ed and consent education at all ages, choosing partners who are a good fit, and the sometimes difficult evolution of an individual within a relationship. This week's Consent Corner focuses on Emotional Intelligence & Consent Comprehension from my book The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com).

About Dr. Hernando: Dr. Hernando Chaves holds a B.A. in psychology from University of California Santa Barbara, a M.A. in marital and family therapy from University of San Diego, and a D.H.S. doctorate in human sexuality from the Institute for the Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. He is a licensed marriage and family therapist in CA specializing in intimacy/relational difficulties, sexual concerns/dysfunctions, and with sexual minority communities (LGBTQ, BDSM, fetish, sex work, nonmonogamy), Dr. Chaves is a psychology and sexuality professor at East Los Angeles College and Pepperdine University, presented at various academic institutions including Alliant, Cal Lutheran, CSULB, NYU, Pepperdine, USC, USD and conferences/shows such as AASECT, AVN/AEE, Catalystcon, SSSS, SHE and a Western Region past president and board of directors member for the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality. He has written/consulted for 14 instructional media sex education projects, co-host for Penthouse's Sex Academy instructional series, and BaDoinkVR virtual reality sex therapy instructional video. Dr. Chaves has written for AskMen.com, Sexpert.com, a contributing author to the International Encyclopedia of Human Sexuality, contributed/featured in publications such as Rolling Stone, The Guardian, Marie Claire, Bustle, Vice, Maxim, Mens Health, The Daily Star, Esquire, and Alternet, as well as radio and podcast appearances on Sirius XM, 96.3FM, Playboy radio, Sex Nerd Sandra, Sex Out Loud, and Sex with Emily. www.DrHernandoChaves.com

Ep.183-Marriage and Family Therapist Kate Loree and I discuss how she came to focus her practice to help non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities, how she helps her clients, and advice for couples who want to explore non-monogamy. This week's Consent Corner from my book, The Consent Guidebook (www.TheConsentGuidebook.com) focuses on boundaries and positive reinforcement around boundaries.

About Kate: Kate Loree, LMFT is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ and sex worker communities. In addition to her Masters in Marriage and Family Therapy, she is also a registered art therapist (ATR) and has a second Masters in Business Administration (MBA). She has been practicing psychotherapy for sixteen years and has additional training in EMDR and the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma, such as sexual, physical, and emotional abuse. She has been featured in Buzzfeed videos and been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, such as, American Sex and Sex Nerd Sandra. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker. She is currently writing her first book due to be published at the end of 2020. Privately, she has been connected to non-monogamous and kink communities since 2003 and understands the hurdles, massive emotional growth, and amazing joy these worlds can provide. Her private practice resides in Encino, CA. For more information, please visit her on the web at www.KateLoree.com