Get more control over your time by clearly defining and enforcing your personal boundaries. Discover why it feels like people overstep them, and what to do when that happens.

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When someone on your team isn't pulling their weight, it's not only demoralising for the rest of the team, but detrimental to the person in question. If performance management isn’t put into practice, workplaces can become toxic, which can hamper performance and lower job satisfaction.

High-functioning teams enable everyone to speak up, challenge each-other, and share their mistakes and learning. And it all starts with giving feedback.

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If you’re caught in a cycle of constant work, you might feel like you can't afford even a short break. But that only leads to burnout, so what do you do if you feel you’re too busy to take a break?

Links

• How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 1 – Episode 169
• How to Avoid Amygdala Hijack Part 2 – Episode 171
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• Download your Overwhelm SOS guide

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Lots of us struggle to express ourselves in the way we want to at work. But finding our voice is just the beginning – the next step is using it effectively.

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More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:

• How to Increase Your Confidence and Impact – Episode 198, with Dr Claire Kaye
• What to Do When Your Strengths Have Side Effects – Episode 97, with Dr Joanna Bircher
• How to Escape the Drama Triangle and Stop Rescuing People – Episode 75, with Annie Hanekom

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Comparing ourselves to others can be toxic, and lead us to ignore our own needs, and forget our unique limits. It’s time to follow our own path, to note when we're "shoulding" on ourselves, to stop feeling guilty about our differences, and to ditch the idea that we're somehow wrong for having different constraints.

• Download the Thrive Week Planner
• Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
• Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook group
• How to Escape the Tyranny of the ‘Shoulds’ – Episode 196 with Charlotte Housden
• Life’s Too Short NOT to Love What You Do – Episode 209, with Dr Sarah Goulding
• How to Have More Impact with Less Effort – Episode 159

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Making the right decision can feel tricky, especially when they involve important life transitions. But there's a way out, and it starts with asking ourselves some fundamental questions around why we want what we want, and what we truly hope to gain when we get it.

• Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
• Download your free Overwhelm SOS guide
• Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook group
• The Mole and the Mountain: A little book about finding freedom – Jane’s book
• How to Stop Making Decisions Based on Fear – Episode 162 with Henri Stevenson
• How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-Jones

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If you're questioning whether a job or a relationship is right for you, it's worth exploring further, and taking those thoughts seriously. Remember that change is often a sign of growth, not failure. So focus on the potential positives that can arise from change, rather than asking “what if it doesn’t work?”

• Download your free Overwhelm SOS guide
• How to Ditch the Saviour Complex and Feel More Alive – Episode 88, with Rob Bell
• How to Decide if You Need to Stay or Leave a Difficult Situation – Episode 201, with Corrina Gordon-Barnes
• How to Live With No Regrets – Episode 123, with Georgina Scull
• Finding Your North Star – Episode 208
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It’s easy to to find ourselves thinking that money holds the key to our happiness, security, and freedom. We can project our desires and aversions onto money, believing that once we have “enough”, we can finally get the life we want. But thinking like this often keeps us from truly living our lives; instead we're stuck constantly chasing the next thing.

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Money is a story we create, not something with inherent power. It's a piece of paper; a digit in a computer we assign value to. But by disentangling our sense of self from our relationship with money, we can reclaim our personal agency and free up a lot of creative energy.

Even while recognising that everyone’s financial situations are different, dysfunctional money stories lead to a constant need to chase, where we're forever stuck in a loop of wanting more but never feeling satisfied. But by untangling our sense of self-worth from our financial status, we can start to experience a life that flows more naturally, with and without the constraint of money.

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Listen to this episode to

• Learn how our narratives about money can influence our actions and happiness, and how changing these narratives can free up creative energy.
• Understand how to disentangle our sense of self from our relationship with money, leading to a life that flows more naturally.
• Discover how acknowledging that money has no inherent power can shift our perspectives and affect our personal and professional development.

Episode highlights

• [00:02:57] Our response to money
• [00:05:47] Money stories on a global level
• [00:09:25] Our individual money stories
• [00:13:20] The "lack-of-funding" problem within the NHS
• [00:16:29] The "time is money" story
• [00:19:31] Excavating your own money stories
• [00:21:52] Projections of money meaning
• [00:25:22] Selfishness and self-image
• [00:31:53] Healing unhelpful money stories
• [00:34:22] Tackling our projections head-on
• [00:43:25] Dealing with money conflicts
• [00:48:02] Money as an expression of appreciation
• [00:51:20] Every big change begins with a big lie
• [00:54:57] Agnes' top tips

About the guest

Agnes Otzelberger is a trainer and therapist, working people who feel burnt out and stuck. She’s particularly interested in the relationship people have with money and how it affects their sense of self, their relationships with others, and their impact on the world. Agnes helps people untangle their sense of self from their relationship with money and break down unhelpful money narratives.

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Resources

• Watch the video version on YouTube
• How to Stop Your Finances Controlling Your Career – Episode 142, with Dr Tommy Perkins
• Defining Your Own Success in Life – Episode 107, with Dr Claire Kaye
• Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.
• Agnes’ CU*money course
• Join the You Are Not a Frog Facebook group

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What happens when we're not feeling well, or when we're feeling overwhelmed at work? Often, we turn to our colleagues for support. But what happens when that support doesn't come, or it's not as helpful as we’d hoped?

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When we're all in the same boat, it's tricky to get a different perspective. Even well-meaning advice from a colleague can feel misplaced or missing the mark, as it’s shaped by their own experiences and limitations. This can leave us feeling resentful and even more stressed than before.

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We need to look outside our immediate work environment, to seek out "useless friends”, understand why we're asking for advice and be clear about what we hope to gain from it

In this quick dip episode, Rachel lays out where to seek help when we’re stressed, and some pitfalls to watch out for.

Our colleagues – even the most supportive ones – mean well. But often, so do those who aren’t in a position to help. So we need to make sure to get an outside perspective so we don’t become resentful or frustrated, and damage our work relationships.

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• Handle disappointment if colleagues aren’t able to support you
• Find friends who can give you an unbiased perspective
• Pinpoint your needs, set clear expectations, and avoid the pitfalls of short-term solutions

Episode highlights

• [00:02:01] What we expect of our colleagues
• [00:04:50] Our colleagues are human
• [00:11:38] You're all in the same boat
• [00:14:24] Knowing what you want
• [00:17:45] Our colleagues' hidden agendas
• [00:18:56] Being demanding and entitled
• [00:19:57] Continuing down the wrong path

Resources

• THRIVE Weekly Planner
• Watch the video version on YouTube
• Download your free Overwhelm SOS guide
• Finding Your North Star – Episode 208
• Why You Should Expect Pushback and What to do About it – Episode 177
• Very Nice People and Other Deadly Perils –Episode 56
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Women in medicine are often undervalued and taken less seriously than their male counterparts. They’re also made to feel less safe at work, and encounter pushback when they make a complaint.

This week’s guest is Professor Dame Jane Dacre, and the episode is recorded in partnership with the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK). In her discussion with Rachel, Dame Jane lays out what needs to change at structural and interpersonal levels.

She invites members of the industry to shine a light on inappropriate behaviour and develop a zero-tolerance approach towards sexism and misconduct. She also describes ways in which leadership courses, mentoring, and resources can be provided to empower women to advance in their careers. And she encourages men and women to be allies, speak up against inequality, and support each other in challenging situations.

This discussion follows up on the 2020 report into the gender pay gap chaired by Dame Jane, and while progress is happening, women are still undervalued and face barriers to success. But by raising awareness about the gaps in pay and authority, we can create an environment where everyone is valued and has equal opportunities to thrive.

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• Learn about the efforts being made to address the gender pay gap in medicine and the progress that has been made so far
• Understand the concept of the authority gap and its impact on women in various fields
• Gain insights into the importance of supporting and empowering women in the workplace and taking collective action to challenge cultural norms and inequalities

Episode highlights

• [00:05:23] Follow-up on the gender pay gap report
• [00:08:12] Addressing sexual misconduct in medicine
• [00:09:56] Expectations of women in medicine
• [00:14:17] The authority gap
• [00:16:33] Finding allies
• [00:20:42] Systemic failures leading to women not being heard
• [00:24:08] Everyday misconduct
• [00:26:27] Jane's story
• [00:30:07] The benefits of a non-linear career
• [00:37:09] The importance of authenticity and kindness
• [00:37:51] Sponsorship over mentoring
• [00:38:35] Maternal guilt
• [00:42:28] A letter to Jane's younger self

About the guest

Professor Dame Jane Dacre is an Emeritus Professor of Medical Education at UCL. She supports women in the medical workplace, and is actively involved in addressing the gender pay gap in medicine. She works with organisations like the Department of Health, the NHS, and the British Medical Association to narrow the gap, and runs a course to help future women leaders develop their skills.

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Resources

• THRIVE Weekly Planner
• Join the Physician Mums Facebook Group (PMGUK)
• More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
• How to Be a Professional Woman – Episode 41 with Dame Jane Dacre
• The Glass Slipper and Other Challenges for Women in Medicine – Episode 158, with Professor Chloe Orkin and Dr Nuthana Bhayankaram
• How to Be a (Happy) Working Parent – Episode 121 with Corrina Gordon Barnes
• Download the episode’s workbook and CPD form. You can use them for reflection and to submit for your appraisal.
• Medical Women Talking – Jane’s podcast

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Saying what you really feel – especially in a high-stress job – is no easy task. Crucial conversations are often avoided for fear of damaging relationships. These unaired grievances get bottled up and over time can increase our level of stress.

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But there are three core conditions for effective conversation that can help here: empathy (stepping into someone else’s shoes), unconditional respect (accepting the other’s right to be as they are), and congruence (expressing our thoughts and feelings authentically).

Sadly, ignoring a problem with another person – or avoiding giving negative feedback – won't make them go away. On the contrary, too many important things going unsaid can lead to a toxic environment where stress levels rise, relationships break down, and productivity suffers.

But, by stepping into the other party’s shoes, respecting their right to be as they are, and expressing our own thoughts authentically, we can create a more psychologically safe environment where issues are dealt with respectfully.

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• Learn about the three core conditions for effective conversation
• Understand how balancing these conditions can improve communication and lead to healthier relationships
• Discover strategies to identify and address conversations you've been avoiding, reducing stress and unresolved conflicts

Episode highlights

• [00:03:50] Where people struggle to say what they mean
• [00:04:44] Bringing your whole self to work
• [00:08:59] The 3 core conditions for being with people
• [00:17:56] What to do if you're stuck in a "must-win" mindset
• [00:22:10] Saying what you really mean
• [00:27:27] Identifying your emotions
• [00:31:01] When to ask for help
• [00:34:20] How to give difficult feedback
• [00:39:42] How to take difficult feedback
• [00:43:54] When tricky feedback situations become unpleasant
• [00:48:53] Lasy's top tips

About the guest

Lasy encourages people to bring their authentic selves to work, promoting a healthier and more honest work environment. She co-founded Conscious Business People to advocate for bringing our entire personality to come to work, over surface-level perks like dress-down Fridays. Her mission is to make people see work as part of their life and to enhance authenticity in the workplace.

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Resources

• THRIVE Weekly Planner
• Watch the video version on YouTube
• More episodes of You Are Not a Frog:
• How to Get Moving Again When You Feel Stuck – Episode 207 with Nicola Rylett-Jones
• How to Challenge Upsetting Behaviour – Episode 192 with Dr Chris Turner
• What Happens When We’re Really Listened to – Episode 180 with Tom Dillon
• Download the episode’s podsheet. You can use it for reflection and to submit for your appraisal as part of your CPD.

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