Life Transformation Radio's episode today features a candid conversation between host Rob Actis and guest Chris Cownden. The episode delves into the theme of overcoming self-doubt and low self-esteem, despite external recognition of one's talents. Rob introduces Chris, a former chef who transitioned to marketing and podcasting after a career-ending injury. The conversation revolves around Chris's struggles with self-doubt and low self-esteem, rooted in past experiences that have shaped his perspective on his own capabilities.

Rob commends Chris for his resilience and pivot after the injury, and encourages him to celebrate his wins and recognize his impact on others, despite his self-doubt. Together, they explore the impact of surrounding oneself with successful and influential people, the importance of authenticity and vulnerability, and the power of podcasting in addressing sensitive topics and fostering meaningful conversations.

The episode also touches upon the influence of past trauma on present behavior and outlook on life. Chris reflects on the need to let go of the past and embrace positive changes, acknowledging the ongoing journey of self-love and self-discovery. As a listener, one can witness Chris's dedication to personal development and seeking mentorship, showing his commitment to improving his self-confidence and self-worth.

In summary, this episode of Life Transformation Radio is a heartfelt exploration of overcoming self-doubt, embracing personal transformation, and finding the courage to celebrate wins and seek personal growth. Chris's candid reflections and dedication to self-improvement serve as a source of inspiration for listeners on their own transformative journeys.

About Chris:
 After getting hired by AppSumo four months after his podcast launch in 2021, Chris Cownden has been on a mission to empower more career changers and full-time professionals to unlock their full career potential with podcasting.  Founder, Podcast Launch Agency Official AppSumo Ambassador   https://podcastlaunchagency.com/about-us/ https://chriscownden.co.uk 

Transcript:

Chris Cownden [00:00:01]:
And there's a lot of people that say that, oh, you're great at this, you're great at this, this is what your, hidden hidden talent is, is community building and relationship building and connecting people and then but I think everybody everybody out there has that self doubt but everybody else, you see the magic and the hidden talents and you tell somebody that they're great it really does help but I don't know I've struggled to believe everything that people tell me, because I don't believe it myself. But I guess I'm on that journey of self love and self discovery still.

Intro [00:00:40]:
This is Life Transformation Radio. Prepare to engage. Chris Cowden, my friend, all the way across is it across the pond? Is that what I say? Across the pond? All the way across the pond. Welcome to Life Transformation Radio.

Chris Cownden [00:01:22]:
Oh, thank you for having me back, Rob.

Rob Actis [00:01:25]:
Absolutely. So, you know, it's Rob, Actus and Friends. So people say you have a lot of your friends and I go, I do. Because I like to show how they are transforming in their lives. And it's fun to talk to friends. I like that. So welcome.

Chris Cownden [00:01:40]:
Thank you so much.

Rob Actis [00:01:42]:
How are you doing?

Chris Cownden [00:01:44]:
I am keeping myself busy.

Rob Actis [00:01:46]:
I love that. So if you didn't listen to part 1, we talked a lot about how you used to be a chef and you transitioned from being a chef to a marketer, a podcaster, and just an all around great guy.

Chris Cownden [00:02:04]:
Yeah. It's it's been a roller coaster. Sometimes I have to when people ask me what I do now, I have to pinch myself to say, well, this is my next career. I've already had a career that kind of failed. But, well, maybe not failed, but I'm completely doing something else, and I'm just really lucky to be able to do what? I found something else that I love, that I'm good at.

Rob Actis [00:02:30]:
So Okay. But but you didn't fail in that. You you got a disability. You were injured. So you you didn't fail. And I don't want you ever in a 1000000 years to think you failed. You actually pivoted and shifted. What happened to you could be devastating, and you might just crawl up into a little ball and stop your life, and you didn't do that.

Rob Actis [00:02:55]:
You shifted and you pivoted. So I wanna applaud you for that. That's that's a big step. You don't think it's a big step?

Chris Cownden [00:03:02]:
Yeah. It is it is pretty big. And, I am glad that I did decide at that point that this was gonna be my last shift in the kitchen. I'm glad that I've finished off a fantastic restaurant in Melbourne, New Year's Eve. It was probably the best memories that I could have ever created. And then I just said, nope. No more for me. Let's have surgery.

Chris Cownden [00:03:24]:
Let's get myself fixed And let me try and figure out what to do next. And I'm looking back, I think it's been a couple of years now. Oh. So much has happened. I just got off a call with somebody. The next chapter is starting today.

Rob Actis [00:03:43]:
Well, you live a life of boldness, and you really are bold. And I think that's very inspiring. But I but the one thing that I will say about you, Chris, and you don't trust your power. You don't trust your strength. You're always surprised when good things happen. Why? Why why is that? You you're this great guy, and you don't trust yourself of your own power.

Chris Cownden [00:04:11]:
Yeah. That's a I deal with this every day. I don't know what it is. I definitely have low self esteem and confidence. And but why? I am not sure. It's it's probably because, this goes back to the previous episode is being bullied or and having that lost. And really, that is the root cause. I feel like that is I haven't really explored myself enough.

Chris Cownden [00:04:38]:
But when I was scammed, I lost my money. So it's every time I spend money now, I really like yeah. Lots of trauma.

Rob Actis [00:04:47]:
You you know, the one thing that I will say, you keep getting back up. You keep getting knocked down and keep getting back up. So is it possible a way to look at your life and the way that you go through life is to really truly celebrate your wins? Here's something that I did, and and and maybe it might help you, and it really helped me. When I was married and I was in a very tumultuous, marriage, my first marriage. Now I'm an incredible marriage. I'm, my god, I just can't believe how blessed I am. But I was in a very, difficult marriage and you know she didn't say nice things about me and it had an impact. Even when I left the marriage I was like wow she as I was leaving the marriage she told me you know you're just gonna end up dying alone You're not, you know, you you think you're so much and you're you're not.

Rob Actis [00:05:45]:
You're nothing. And I was like, Now that could have an impact on someone. So what I did was, you know, she had told me that I didn't have any friends and she had told me that, you know, people were just tolerating me. But then I looked at the reality of that is that I did have friends, and I did have a circle of influence, and I did have impact, and I was successful. And so, what it took me to do was to like, okay. I may not believe it, but they all believe it. So if they believe it, then that must be the reality. And my subconscious is like doing weird stuff.

Rob Actis [00:06:39]:
So eventually, I'm like, yeah, this is bullshit. It's bullshit. And the other thing is anything that happened to me in the past is the past. Like, it's the past. There's nothing you can do about the past. All you can do is live in the very present moment and for you, Chris, is you're having a great present moment and I want you to look at the wins that you're having in your life. You make connections that people would only dream about and you create opportunity that people would only dream about and that is a huge win.

Chris Cownden [00:07:19]:
Yeah. When you put it like that, I give advice to people about collecting your wins and keeping store of it. But sometimes, I don't do it myself. Yeah. There's a lot of and there's a lot of people that say that, oh, you're great at this, you're great at this. This is what your, hidden hidden talent is, is community building and

Rob Actis [00:07:42]:
Right.

Chris Cownden [00:07:43]:
Relationship building and connecting people. And then but I think everybody, everybody out there has that self doubt, but everybody else, you see the magic and the hidden talents, and you tell somebody that they're great at something, it really does help, but I don't know. I've struggled to believe everything that people tell me, because I don't believe it myself. But I guess I'm on that journey of self love and self discovery still.

Rob Actis [00:08:11]:
Yeah. So here's the way that you could possibly look at that is that you may not believe it, they believe it. So you know your past and you know that you're wounded or injured from your past. Okay? And what's today? It's 2024. Right? So today is not your past. I mean, I I think about this is that I had some crazy stuff happen in my past, like crazy stuff. The the one thing that I can tell you is I was in an armed robbery and had a 3 57 magnum put to my forehead and I didn't know if I was gonna live another couple seconds. Like, imagine if I let that trauma stop me from living the extraordinary transformational life that I'm living right now? Because it happened.

Rob Actis [00:09:16]:
It's in the past. It's not happening every single day. And what I think is happening with you is that you keep replaying over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over and over, but that's not what's happening. What's happening today is, dude, you're freaking rock star. You you're you're you're making connections. You're building community. You are impacting and changing lives. That's what I want you to focus on.

Chris Cownden [00:09:45]:
Yes. Yeah. This is a pivotal moment for me. It's realizing that I'm telling myself the wrong story. I holding on to the past still too much. Holding onto bad relationships or toxic people.

Rob Actis [00:10:03]:
Yeah. But here's the thing. Those bad relationships and those bad things that happened to you turned you into who you are today, the freaking badass that Chris is. So you wanna thank them. Thank you. Thank you for being such an asshole. Thank you. Thank you.

Rob Actis [00:10:24]:
Thank you for abusing me. Like all the crap and shit that happened to me in my life, I wouldn't change it for the world because it created and took like a diamond and and and and pressure and pressure and pressure and created something extraordinary.

Chris Cownden [00:10:44]:
Yeah. So powerful. And that's what I say to Ed. All the things that have happened in the past is a blessing in disguise. Yeah. A blessing in disguise.

Rob Actis [00:10:53]:
It's a blessing.

Chris Cownden [00:10:54]:
It's a blessing. And

Rob Actis [00:10:54]:
you've already and you survived it. And you're thriving.

Chris Cownden [00:10:59]:
Yeah. It's because of people like you that are very, like, in my inner circle that I I get to surround myself with you. I get to ask you advice. Probably don't ask you enough advice. I get to hang around with people that are way more influential than me and way more wise, so I think I chose I chose I chose I chose who to connect with right at the start.

Rob Actis [00:11:23]:
Right. People that are successful are not gonna hang around anybody that's not worthy of hanging around because their time is valuable, Their time is precious. And they need to really be selective of who they interact with. And it's not a snob thing or anything. It's because they're on a big mission. So without naming names, you have act access to some very influential people. People that people would would give their right arm to be around. Okay? They see something in you that you don't see.

Rob Actis [00:12:06]:
So what I'm inviting you to do is to try on that coat and know that you're pretty freaking awesome. And and go by how people respond and react to you, not by what you think of yourself.

Chris Cownden [00:12:27]:
Yep. I will take that.

Rob Actis [00:12:33]:
Like, I I you know, the reason I had you back on because I see all the stuff you're doing, and I'm thinking to myself, wow. He's doing great because I know where you were in our last podcast. Yes. And and I wanna applaud you for being vulnerable and open because, you know, people in the podcast community are gonna hear this podcast, and they're gonna go, oh, I didn't know that. They don't know that. And, also, it's gonna show them who you really are. Because podcast is act being a podcaster is probably, you know, one of the most disguised personal development courses you could ever be a part of. It's you grow.

Rob Actis [00:13:13]:
You're vulnerable. All that. You know, the conversations that I've had and the things that I've shared on this podcast have surprised and shocked me. You know, it was amazing. Last last episode I did, we were talking, and one of the things we were talking about, was abuse as a child. And I talk about how I was molested as a kid. And people have responded to me. They're like, oh my god.

Rob Actis [00:13:41]:
How did you talk about that? How did you because it's in the past.

Chris Cownden [00:13:45]:
Yeah. Like, I I I feel like I overshare a lot more on a podcast because I feel safe that I can share with somebody else. Yeah, it's different. Podcasting for me has definitely changed me in more ways than I can ever imagine. So if you listen out there, which you will be listening, start a podcast.

Rob Actis [00:14:08]:
Absolutely. And and and not only that, you know, listening to podcasts or being on podcast, but I think that when you get an opportunity to listen to podcast and all different kinds, you're gonna be a fly in the wall. Like, this is a conversation. This is the kind of conversations that you and I have all the time. We just are now recording this and sharing this. It's it's pretty cool

Chris Cownden [00:14:28]:
that way. It is really cool. And, I need to do more of them. I think this might be my first one of the year.

Rob Actis [00:14:37]:
Well, there you go. You know, and and the keyword, I think, for 2024, and I think it's really coming out as authenticity, is people just being real. Yeah. I mean, I look. I I I cried on the last podcast. I cried, and, it took a lot for me to listen to that and go. Do I really wanna cry on a podcast? And I said, yeah. Because we all have emotions, and we all go through stuff.

Rob Actis [00:15:19]:
And it was a very it wasn't a sad thing. It was a joyous thing. It was something that I've never even really shared, with anybody what happened.

Chris Cownden [00:15:31]:
It's funny you say that about crying for for out of joy. I did it yesterday. I saw a picture of my parents on on the wall, and I just took a moment to think, I'm never gonna be that young again, or never gonna experience that again. And I just spoke to my mum about it. It was we both shed a tear and it was a really special moment. And we said, we'll never in a few years time we won't spend breakfast together. So we're we're making these memories right now, and it's really special. We're just contemplating life, and it was all it was a just a really special moment.

Chris Cownden [00:16:12]:
So, yeah. Well Thanks.

Rob Actis [00:16:15]:
Life is so short and so precious. It is. The show that I did that I cried on, it's my friend Stacy, and she's starting a podcast that I'm helping her with, and it's called Suicidal Thoughts.  And, we were gonna do the podcast a while ago. It just wasn't the right time. It was too soon.

Rob Actis [00:16:52]:
And now she's going full bore. She suffers from suicidal thoughts on a regular basis. And I can tell you that there is a lot of hurt in this world. I have lost a good many friends to suicide. And it is truly horrific to have someone that you know and love, take their life.

Chris Cownden [00:17:29]:
Yeah.

Rob Actis [00:17:30]:
And it was a very deep, deep conversation, one that needs to be had. I think the podcast is gonna be extraordinary.  because the conversations are so powerful. And the way that she goes about it is a non judgmental way because she's coming from place that she's suffering. And so it's really powerful. And that's the power of podcasting is being able to have those those those conversations. And, you know, it's important to have conversations. It's important to have conversations with people that you love, and that's all part of transformation.

Rob Actis [00:18:16]:
You know, there's lots of stuff in this world and people ask me, you know, what I wanted for my birthday or for Christmas or stuff like that and I go. And you know, if if I want something I'll go get it. I really don't need anything. What I love is experiences. Like that's something that I love. My wife got me the coolest experience ever. You'll relate to this. It's with Benny Hana, and you get to be a chef for a day.

Rob Actis [00:18:46]:
It was a chef experience. And I went down there and I did my little mini training, had my friends come out and I apparently, I did such a good job at the training that they gave me the premier show table in front of the whole restaurant because of, you know, I'm kind of shy and not kind of hamming it up. And they actually wanted to hire me at Benihana to be, you know, one of the and I learned the knives and I did it so quick and it was just amazing. But that's something I talk about and I experience all the time in my head and was just super fun. I like experiences because that's what we have. I can remember that, but I guess most people what'd you get for Christmas? What'd you get for Christmas last year or the year before? Or what'd you get for your birthday? No one can remember anything they ever got. But I will tell you, when you get experiences, you remember those.

Chris Cownden [00:19:38]:
Yeah. And they're clear in your mind. Yeah. Like a rollercoast, going to a theme park or something, or having something, going to a comedy show or something. You remember the the exact jokes, and then you tell somebody and they don't get it.

Rob Actis [00:19:54]:
Yeah. Like, we went to we went to a concert the other night, and, it was a Pink Floyd, cover band. And it was called, the Black Hat Symphony. And it was so good. It was so good. Matter of fact, the guy who was the lead singer and the lead guitar, I met him and also the woman. You know the I I can't think in the Pink Floyd song, she goes, you know, all that. Okay.

Rob Actis [00:20:21]:
Unbelievable. Sent chills down my spine. So I'm actually reaching out to them, to have them on Life Transformation Radio because I would love to know the story of how they became part of this incredible group. And this, in the music industry, has a tremendous amount of respect. It's called the Black Hat Symphony, and they do Elton John and the Talking Heads and Queen, and they do Pink Floyd. And they have a 100 artists, and they pick and choose for which one. They do, like, a 100 shows a year. This one, the Pink Floyd one.

Rob Actis [00:20:58]:
It was so good. It was so what a great experience. Went with a few friends, and it was just I keep talking about it. We all keep talking about it. And, you know, if I would've if I would've just given someone a a piece of whatever, they probably wouldn't remember it, but we've been talking about it. So

Chris Cownden [00:21:17]:
Yeah. You remember those exact moments of of an experience. There's somebody in the community who's talks to musicians about their tracks, and, I'll have to put you in touch.

Rob Actis [00:21:31]:
Absolutely. I I think it's fascinating. You know, I have such respect for you musicians. The way that this guy played the guitar was incredible. It was moving. He he ended the night with Comfortably Numb. And, you know, there's that guitar solo in it. And my mind went and it was a I was so thrilled because it was a very intimate environment.

Rob Actis [00:22:01]:
It was in the Mesa Arts Performing Center Mesa Performing Arts Center, and they have symphonies there and the acoustics are incredible. The the sound engineer did such a beautiful job and his stage presence and just everything about him and we sat very close and I was watching him and the passion and the love and the intensity that he was trying to give us the most incredible experience ever. He didn't just call it in and all of those performers just like they do it every 2 nights. Like, they do it every couple nights. And they brought their a game, and you could feel it. And it was so incredible. I I loved it. If you get a chance to see the Black Hat Symphony somewhere in your town, man, go I already bought tickets for the Elton John show, but it's really incredible.

Rob Actis [00:22:59]:
They're such incredible musicians. You know, that's the sad part about the music industry. There are such incredible talents that have not made it big because they just haven't. And it's unfortunate because there are people that are probably more talented than people that are famous. And, you know, I know a few singers and they're so good and they just haven't broken through it. I'm like, how come you're not freaking a multizillionaire living in a mansion forgetting who I am? You're so good. Yeah. They don't have the connections.

Rob Actis [00:23:34]:
They don't have this.

Chris Cownden [00:23:36]:
The social media presence as well maybe. Yeah. Because a lot of people blow up and they go viral, and then all of a sudden everybody's listening to that piano song, and then they Yeah. Social media is really helping them get through. There's, we actually had a song created for my mum for Christmas, so that's like a it's a lifelong memory. But it's she can she can play it and listen to it whenever she wants, and it's been created with what I think about her and it's a really that's that's an experience in itself because she can listen to it whenever she wants. And it's not just like a chocolate box or something. Yeah.

Chris Cownden [00:24:14]:
So having that musician who might not have, like, the millions and millions, but he's being hired to write a song for people.

Rob Actis [00:24:23]:
Did you already do that? Did you already do it?

Chris Cownden [00:24:25]:
Yeah. It's it's already been written. It's called The Lucky One. You know

Rob Actis [00:24:28]:
what you should do?

Chris Cownden [00:24:30]:
Yeah. Tell me.

Rob Actis [00:24:32]:
Okay. You should sing the song and play it for her and she'll go, oh, okay. Like, see if you can drop your voice in and sing it. And she'll, like, okay, Chris. Great. And we you know, I don't know if you can sing or not, but I I the look in your face means that you're not a comfortable singer. And then and then she'll go, And then you just play the other version.

Chris Cownden [00:24:59]:
Yeah. Well, I got myself a guitar, so I do want to be able to string along, play, and maybe but we're gonna get married, you know, singer, and hopefully, she's still here and stuff.

Rob Actis [00:25:13]:
That's awesome. That's awesome.

Chris Cownden [00:25:15]:
It's

Rob Actis [00:25:15]:
Yeah. It's all about it's all about the connection. So how do you like, you have these challenges of worthiness and, you know, confidence. How do you do what you do? How do you connect with the people you connect with? How do you create what you create?

Chris Cownden [00:25:37]:
Yeah. Well, I kind of I don't forget about the the past trauma or anything, but I just don't think about it. I think about how I could help that person. I'd I'm not, like wouldn't say I connect with a 100 people a day and try and find a win win thing. It's just a natural, get to know. But the I don't know how to explain it. It just comes naturally to me. I've always been somebody that feels confident talking to strangers.

Chris Cownden [00:26:19]:
It's a secret weapon. I have a a deck of Okay.

Rob Actis [00:26:23]:
It's a secret weapon, but you but you you doubt yourself, and you don't have a lot of confidence, but you do things that would appear that you have confidence. So explain that to me. It's no I I don't understand. Because I know you and I talk to you, and then I see what you've accomplished. And I'm like, okay, so how does he do that? Yeah.

Chris Cownden [00:26:49]:
How does he do that?

Rob Actis [00:26:50]:
Because most people that don't have a lot of confidence and that don't have a lot of drive in that. How how do you do that?

Chris Cownden [00:27:04]:
Yeah. Actually, I had a bit of a moment right at the start of my podcast journey is everybody out there is accessible to me. Everybody out there wants to wants to win and wants to collaborate. So I just said, well, if that's the case, then anybody anybody I ask would want to help me or, wants to do something together. And I didn't have those that nervousness talking to them because I knew, well, it's a guarantee. It's yes. And even if it's not if it's a no, then they're not the right person right now. But I'm still gonna keep up with them, follow-up with them, and, build that relationship.

Chris Cownden [00:27:48]:
So I did I put those barriers of getting a no or getting rejected away, and I guess that gave me a lot of confidence knowing that, well, it'll be a yes someday, and, I'm sure I know somebody else for right now, but I as well, I didn't just ask to get something in return, I asked to be helpful. And I didn't I don't think I've ever sold to anybody, like, who's really close. But I've never sold to Rob. Right. I guess I guess we're selling ourselves all the time, but I definitely lowered my barriers. I think that's what definitely made me more confident when reaching out is, I know I'm gonna get a yes, or I know they're gonna help me because poor, I'm a kind person. But, maybe that's maybe that's what

Rob Actis [00:28:51]:
I know, but it it doesn't. I'm trying to understand that because it's, like, black and white or salt and pepper in one side and one side. What you just said is not what you just said. You know what I mean? Like, you're like, you know, I'm shy. I don't I don't have a lot of confidence. I I don't love self worth. And I'll approach anybody of any of any stature, of any success, and, I will reach out to them because I know they're gonna say yes.

Chris Cownden [00:29:19]:
I know. It's bizarre.

Rob Actis [00:29:21]:
That's bizarre.

Chris Cownden [00:29:22]:
I am it must be a a mask that I put on or something, but I feel like I'm very real. But I've I just had my trauma, and I'm getting over it, but I don't let that well, I don't let that affect me. But obviously, I do. It maybe that's just my personality is. I haven't explored it enough. I haven't. I need to do some more. I don't know Rob, what do I need to do?

Rob Actis [00:29:56]:
With life being so precious, so for example, if you and I have a conflict, I am all about resolving that conflict as quickly as possible and then moving forward in a positive light. And I say that because I know a lot of people, they get mad at somebody or something, and they stay mad for a day, 2 days, 5 days, 7 days, a week, 2 weeks, 3 weeks, a month. And they care about those people, but they have annihilated them from being in their life for a month. So when they pass that is 1 month that they lost out on. So in my relationships I work extremely hard to resolve the situation, admit if I'm wrong or you know not even make them wrong. Let's just figure out here it is. Okay. Great.

Rob Actis [00:31:14]:
Let's resolve it and move forward. And not it doesn't need to be a continual policy from them or me whatever resolve it and move forward. And I think that's so important because our life is so precious so if you're focusing a lot on your trauma and it's knocking you down and like people that are you know upset and they keep reliving that over and over and over and over again. They're not present in the beauty of life, and life is so precious. I will tell you, you know, someone who's had near death experiences, I'm on borrowed time. I know that and I cherish every moment that I have in this world and every moment that I get to spend with people that I love and care about and every moment that I interact with other human beings. That's important. You know when I lost my eyesight last year just a couple months ago that was so devastating.

Rob Actis [00:32:21]:
One of the things is I I was so like, wow, I'm never gonna be able to look in the eyes of people that I love and care about and and see their soul. I couldn't see, and I was so, like, man, I should, you know, connect with that person more, spent more time, this, that, and the other.

Chris Cownden [00:32:50]:
I just need to forget forget not forget like you said before, but just move on and not I think that's what this let this episode has been all about is everything's a blessing and, everything that's gone wrong up to this point has strengthened us, but it doesn't need to hold us back.

Rob Actis [00:33:15]:
Absolutely. Your past doesn't need to hold you back. My my favorite movie, I talk about every so often, The Lion King. I don't know anybody that hasn't seen The The Lion King. Have you seen The Lion King? Okay. And it's so funny. I base my life life on this now. Just one other little instance is Rafiki.

Rob Actis [00:33:38]:
When he hits him with a stick, he hits, you know, Simba, whatever, with a stick. He goes, ah, he goes, I mean, he goes, yeah. It's in the past. It it does it it it's it's in the past.

Chris Cownden [00:33:55]:
Yeah.

Rob Actis [00:33:59]:
And, you know, when we focus on trauma in our past, we're not living today.

Chris Cownden [00:34:09]:
Yeah. It's like there's so many great things that have happened today. And was I showing up fully to them? I feel like maybe I was. But, yeah, I feel like I am being pulled back by past traumas, though. I still always Yeah. Today it's oh, I haven't got that much confidence, but people are seeing that I do have confidence. So why am I telling myself that that's so I think the story needs to be different, and just work on it and reflect. Because, probably need to journal more.

Chris Cownden [00:34:45]:
I think that would be my year. 2024 is my year to just what am I what's because your thoughts are the same almost every day, and that probably just needs to change slightly or I need to be a little bit more intentional and conscious of my thoughts and action.

Rob Actis [00:35:04]:
Think about this. If it was raining outside and windy and lightning and storming, and you were standing outside in a t shirt and shorts. Right? Would you just stand out there if there was an opportunity for you to get into a house or a car? Would you?

Chris Cownden [00:35:27]:
I think I have done it before and just like, yeah. Wow.

Rob Actis [00:35:31]:
Okay. That's not what I'm talking about. Okay. We'll just say lightning and thunder and hail. Very uncomfortable, very challenging, very difficult. Wind, dangerous, right? You'd go inside.

Chris Cownden [00:35:43]:
Yep.

Rob Actis [00:35:45]:
So trauma could be you're standing outside in the rain and the storm and the hail and the the trees flying by. If you remember the movie Twister, a cow flies by. Or you can go inside. And the past is you being in the storm, and the present is you being inside. Yeah. Yeah.

Chris Cownden [00:36:13]:
It's crazy. Crazy what you can learn from other people. And then, like, I don't reframe it like that at all.

Rob Actis [00:36:21]:
And the one thing that I invite you to do is to celebrate your your wins. Do you celebrate your wins? Like, you've got great big wins all the time.

Chris Cownden [00:36:30]:
I did.

Rob Actis [00:36:30]:
You're creating. Do you celebrate? Do you stop and celebrate? Do you do whatever? Do you do you acknowledge yourself?

Chris Cownden [00:36:39]:
Probably in your inbox. I mean, today, I definitely did this. Like, yes. But if that's not really celebration, well, but but for me, I feel like it is. But it's not like, I don't go out and purposely go out and have a meal and treat myself, because that's not the way that I celebrate. But

Rob Actis [00:37:02]:
That's the way I celebrate. Give me a stink. That's what I'm talking about.

Chris Cownden [00:37:05]:
Alcohol. I don't drink alcohol. So

Rob Actis [00:37:07]:
I don't drink alcohol either, but I love I love a good meal, and I'll celebrate that way.

Chris Cownden [00:37:12]:
Yeah.

Rob Actis [00:37:13]:
But really, you know, celebrate your wins. That's so important.

Chris Cownden [00:37:17]:
Yeah. I I I celebrate in my own way just, like, in moments. Yeah.

Rob Actis [00:37:27]:
Good. Most people most people don't even do that. They just let it go right on by.

Chris Cownden [00:37:31]:
Yeah. And what I do, and I I know there's must be people who like me out there do this, take a lot of screenshots of things, that I see. Maybe not in, like, real life, but in digital life, if I see something amazing, Gavin. I'll screenshot it, and I'll save it in a Google Doc or in my email, marketing platform so that I can come back to it and share it. And I feel like there's a lot of memories that are in there that I can just reflect on and go, oh,

Rob Actis [00:38:04]:
can I

Chris Cownden [00:38:04]:
can you remember when I met Phil? Or when I met Rob? Or or when somebody said this and, those memories.

Rob Actis [00:38:12]:
Oh my god. I'm a screenshot? Yeah. I've been screenshotted?

Chris Cownden [00:38:15]:
Oh, yeah. That's amazing. May have been screenshotted. Yeah. She's she says, am I cam camera ready enough to have a phone to have a screen screenshot?

Rob Actis [00:38:31]:
Oh, my god.

Chris Cownden [00:38:33]:
Yeah. I I do like to capture moments, and maybe that a CAPTCHA wins, so I can look back on them and Facebook memories can help me or whatever it is. So, yeah. I do I do celebrate with my unique way. I celebrate with a smile on my face most of the time.

Rob Actis [00:38:54]:
That's a good thing. Like I said, objects in your mirror are not as they appear. So I just wanna congratulate you because I see your wins and I get really just, like, so excited for you to see all the things that you have done, are continuing to do, and know that you don't have the confidence and to know that you have self worth issues. That's a major, major accomplishment. So I want to applaud you, mister Chris.

Chris Cownden [00:39:23]:
Thank you. It's been a rollercoaster. But when I when I started my personal development journey, 2019, feels like a long time ago now, It was, I invested in a, like, a video marketing course and, that's when I started to network with people and learn new skills. And I think that's one of the things that I credit myself to is just continuing to learn, whether it's no code and AI or video marketing, touch typing. I feel like I picked up a lot of unique skills and met a lot of very creative and talented people, which have just helped me and encouraged me to have a lot of different mentors and coaches that I can rely on for advice and support, and some that give me really blunt advice to say you always contradict yourself, or you always put yourself down. So I'm working on that, but, yeah, that that's the key to what's happening in my life is I'm working on it and picking up the skills, yeah, and challenging myself to do different things and asking for new challenges as well. Yeah.

Rob Actis [00:40:38]:
I love it. And, Chris, you're living a life of transformation. Yes.

Chris Cownden [00:40:42]:
That is true. And it's

Rob Actis [00:40:44]:
So how how appropriate is that to be on Life Transformation Radio?

Chris Cownden [00:40:47]:
It's perfect.

Rob Actis [00:40:47]:
Thank you so much for taking time out of your day. I know it's a different what is it? In the afternoon over there? I don't even know. I

Chris Cownden [00:40:54]:
It's 7 PM.

Rob Actis [00:40:56]:
Oh, it's 7 PM. Well, thank you so much for not making me wake up in the middle of 2 in the morning to to hit your morning. But thank you so much for being here today. I applaud you. I think you're incredibly inspirational and I love that you're living a life of transformation.

Chris Cownden [00:41:11]:
Thank you so much for having me again. And bring on number 3 and number 4 and number 5.

Rob Actis [00:41:18]:
Yeah. We'll see about that. Yeah. I'll I'll be the judge

Chris Cownden [00:41:20]:
of that.

Rob Actis [00:41:21]:
We'll see about that.

Chris Cownden [00:41:22]:
You invite me back on

Rob Actis [00:41:23]:
Maybe. 

On this episode of Life Transformation Radio, host Rob Actis engages in a candid and insightful conversation with guest Stacy Robertson. Together, they tackle the stigma surrounding mental health and suicide, emphasizing the need for open conversation to reduce shame and foster understanding. Stacy shares her profound journey from being a Mormon mother to transitioning into the sex work industry and ultimately finding her path as a writer. Throughout the discussion, both Rob and Stacy express their commitment to challenging stereotypes and advocating for respectful dialogues about mental health and suicide.

She has successfully launched two podcasts and is now taking on the challenge to continue the raw and authentic yet difficult conversations around suicide and all the struggles we face in the human condition in her third podcast, Suicidal Thoughts. 

The episode delves into deeply personal experiences, including trauma, interventions, and emotional struggles. Stacy's background as a therapist specializing in intervention and crisis therapy provides a unique perspective, while her transformative story serves as an inspiration for others facing similar challenges. The conversation also highlights Rob's pivotal role in a potential murder-suicide situation, underscoring the crucial need for awareness and intervention in mental health crises.

Stacy's emphasis on sharing stories of hope and overcoming suicidal thoughts forms a central theme, as both she and Rob brainstorm ideas to promote mental health awareness and positive outcomes. With a heartfelt commitment to destigmatizing mental illness and suicide, the duo outlines the mission of Stacy's podcast, "Suicidal Thoughts," aiming to create a platform for open, honest conversations that can effect positive change.

Moreover, the episode touches upon the healing power of human touch, shedding light on the importance of non-sexual touch and consent in relationships and society. Stacy's transition from the sex industry to her current endeavors as a coach and artist, along with Rob's poignant reflections, add layers of depth to the discussion.

In closing, the episode serves as a powerful testament to the transformative impact of sharing personal experiences, breaking down barriers, and advocating for mental health awareness. It offers a compelling narrative of resilience, hope, and the importance of fostering understanding in the face of mental health challenges.



Find Stacy:
@stacylynnrobertson
@epicromp
@wholesomewhor
@suicidalthoughtspodcast 

In this the conclusion of these 2 episodes, host Rob Actis engages in a powerful conversation with guest Karole Forman, who reflects on her journey of self-discovery through art and the challenges she faced. Karole also shares what it is like to perform as Billie Holiday in the theater performance in San Diego of LADY DAY AT EMERSON'S BAR &GRILL. 
Join us as we explore the transformative power of art and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity.

Get tickets:
https://www.cygnettheatre.com

In this episode, host Rob Actis engages in a powerful conversation with guest Karole Forman, who reflects on her journey of self-discovery through art and the challenges she faced. Karole shares her experiences with confronting racism, finding her passion for drama, and the pivotal moments that shaped her resilience and determination. The episode also delves into Rob and Karole's high school experiences, the impact of music on the school environment, and the challenges of funding education in the arts. 

Join us as we explore the transformative power of art and the resilience of the human spirit in the face of adversity.

Key Topics and Bullets:

Primary Topic: Karole Forman's Early Life and High School Experience

- Experiencing racism in Coronado Island and Virginia

- Targeted discrimination and bullying in school

- Influence of parents' Baha'i faith on empathy and understanding

- Positive impact of high school teachers

- Nostalgic memories of high school

Primary Topic: Challenges in Education and Funding for the Arts

- Lack of accountability in the education system

- Karole Forman's nomination for the Bank of America Achievement Award in the arts

- Funding challenges for education and the arts

- Lack of government subsidies for the arts in the United States

Primary Topic: Rob Actis and Karole Forman's High School Memories

- Impact of music on the school environment

- Positive impact of their teachers

- Rob Actis's high school experience

Primary Topic: Transition to Acting Career

- Impact of early experiences on Karole's acting career

- Influence of parents and high school experiences on pursuing passions

- Rob Actis's memories of Karole in high school

Primary Topic: Personal Anecdotes and Humorous Stories

- Rob Actis's experience of being kicked off the radio during college

- Reflection on the impact of high school experiences on personal and professional development

- Humorous stories shared by Rob Actis and Karole Forman

Primary Topic: Resilience and Determination

- Karole Forman's resilience and determination in the face of discrimination and funding challenges

- Persistence in pursuing her passions despite setbacks

- Positive influence of high school experiences on personal and professional growth

Find Karole Forman:
www.karoleforeman.com

See Karole perform live:
https://www.cygnettheatre.com

Find Rob:

www.robactis.com

Instagram: @robactis

In our latest episode, "New Year, New Possibilities: Unlocking Your Potential in 2024," Rob Actis dives into the essence of the new year, exploring the keys to unlocking our potential and transforming our lives for the better. This special episode is all about setting meaningful intentions in line with your values and aspirations for the year ahead.

One key aspect of transformation that Rob delves into is resilience. The ability to endure, recover, and thrive in the face of adversity is crucial as we navigate the challenges that life throws our way. Rob shares his personal experience of facing challenges in 2023 and how he made conscious choices to overcome them, emphasizing the importance of resilience in our transformation journey.

As we embrace the fresh start of 2024, it's essential to identify areas of our lives that may need a little extra attention. Whether it's our physical health, mental well-being, or personal relationships, small changes can lead to significant transformation. Rob encourages us to reflect on what we want to achieve in 2024 and how we can make a plan to get there.

We also invite you to join us in a challenge: Take a moment to breathe, visualize your best self in 2024, and consider the steps you can take to bring that vision to life. Remember, transformation is a journey, and every small step counts.

If you've been inspired by the incredible guests who've shared their unique perspectives and insights on Life Transformation Radio, we encourage you to subscribe, rate, and review the show. Your support means the world to us as we continue to bring you stories of change, growth, and transformation.

As we embark on this new year, let's celebrate the diversity of our community and the collective journey toward personal and professional transformation. Every day is an opportunity for a fresh start and a new perspective.

Wishing you the very best in 2024. Thank you for being a part of the Life Transformation Radio community.

Summary

In this episode, host Rob Actis shares his very recent personal journey of losing his eyesight due to an eye infection. He recounts the gradual deterioration of his vision, the medical consultations, and the fear and uncertainty he experienced. Rob reflects on the impact on his work and daily life, as well as the gratitude he felt for the support of his friends. He describes the recovery process and the newfound appreciation for his vision. The episode emphasizes the importance of not taking our senses for granted and encourages listeners to reflect on their own lives and appreciate the small moments.Takeaways

• Losing one's eyesight can be a profound and scary experience, leading to a transformational journey.
• The gradual deterioration of vision can be disorienting and challenging to comprehend.
• The support and compassion of friends and loved ones during difficult times are invaluable.
• Recovering one's vision can bring a deep sense of gratitude and a renewed appreciation for the beauty of the world.

In the episode of Life Transformation Radio, host Rob Actis engages in a meaningful conversation with guests Jeremy and Andrea about their personal transformation journeys. The guests share their experiences and insights about overcoming challenges, finding personal growth, and transforming their relationships.

Jeremy, having discovered his affinity for the entrepreneurial mindset, embarked on his transformation journey in late 2011. He delved into shadow work and self-reflection, which paved the way for significant personal growth. In November 2019, he met Andrea, who had been exploring personal development, spirituality, and communication since 2009. Their shared commitment to growth and their supportive network of friends made their transformational process smoother.

After meeting, Jeremy and Andrea saw an opportunity to combine their artistic talents and started their own art company. As they embarked on this new venture, they noticed people seeking their advice on communication and navigating through relationship challenges. This led them to offer guidance and support in those areas, further solidifying their commitment to personal growth and transformation.

Throughout the episode, Jeremy and Andrea emphasize the importance of addressing issues in a relationship rather than ignoring them. They stress that relationships should serve as a platform for personal growth and positive challenges. By confronting and working through issues instead of avoiding them, individuals can create healthier and more fulfilling connections.

Jeremy opens up about his difficult upbringing and how it influenced the relationships he attracted in his life. Recognizing the need for change, he and his former partner chose to end their toxic relationship for the sake of their children. The guests emphasize that staying together solely for the sake of children can be detrimental if the relationship is unhealthy. Instead, they encourage modeling healthy relationships for children as it can help attract better future partners.

Both Rob Actis and Jeremy underscore the significance of surrounding oneself with people who love and support them, regardless of familial ties. They explain that different people play different roles in our lives, and maintaining different levels of engagement with each individual is essential for personal growth and healthy relationships.

Listeners seeking transformation in their own lives and relationships will find valuable insights and guidance from this episode. Jeremy and Andrea's journey serves as inspiration and a testament to the power of personal growth, effective communication, and setting healthy boundaries. Through intentional practices, active self-reflection, and embracing uncomfortable conversations, individuals can experience transformative change and create fulfilling relationships.

Visit  andreaandjeremieking.com for more info!

Andrea and Jeremie King are a dynamic couple dedicated to guiding individuals through the challenges of midlife to unlock their potential and create a life of purpose and fulfillment.

They bring their own direct and recent experience and a passion for helping others thrive with videos, courses and coaching for people in their mid-life years so they can feel empowered, identify their unique strengths, and navigate the complexities of midlife with confidence.

As a couple, Andrea and Jeremie synergize their expertise to offer a holistic approach to midlife transformation. From career transitions and relationships to health and personal growth, they are here to offer practical tips, quick results courses, one-on-one (or two!) coaching and engaging discussions that resonate with the unique experiences of midlife.

If you are ready to reclaim your power and reshape your life to thrive in the coming years, Andrea and Jeremie provide the tools you need to thrive.

Subscribe to Andrea and Jeremie’s You Tube Channel for a FREE video series book discussion on “How to be an AWESOME Ex, and a Kickass Partner”, based on Andrea’s most recent book.
https://www.youtube.com/@andreaandjeremieking

Follow Andrea and Jeremie on Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/andreaandjeremieking

Welcome to Life Transformation Radio, where we explore stories of personal growth and transformation. In today's episode, host Rob Actis sits down with guest Adam Lantelme, a man on a mission to make a positive impact in the world. Adam believes that with God's guidance, he can become a better person and help others love their lives. They delve into the power of the law of attraction, emphasizing how focusing on something can direct our lives.
Adam shares his concerns about the current state of America and the need to reignite the patriotic spirit. He believes in the fundamental values of the Constitution and hopes to give voice to those who feel unheard. Adam holds hope that if everyone unites, we can change the current trajectory of the country for the better.
Rob then shifts the conversation to discuss the importance of strong relationships and finding our people. Adam shares his criteria for considering someone a friend or acquaintance, emphasizing that deep connections are vital for personal growth. They explore the impact of living life online and how it can lead to isolation, emphasizing the importance of physical touch and human connection.
Adam opens up about his past struggles with addiction, explaining how rejecting God and lacking a sense of purpose led him down a dark path. However, he found redemption and purpose through his faith, which transformed his life. He now prioritizes healthy relationships and maintains a healthy body over material success.
The conversation then delves into managing risks, stress management techniques, and the importance of protecting our time and maintaining boundaries. Adam shares his practices of coherent breathing and working out to manage stress. He also emphasizes the role of continuous learning and personal reflection in his journey of growth.
Rob and Adam discuss the significance of spirituality and a connection to a higher power in finding fulfillment and knowing that we are not alone. They touch on seeking purpose and the impact it has on our behavior, referencing the wisdom of C.S. Lewis.
The episode concludes with Adam's inspiring story of going from rock bottom to successfully owning three companies with nearly $40 million in revenues. He encourages taking small steps towards improvement and applauds those who have the courage to transform their lives.
So sit back, relax, and get ready for a thought-provoking and transformative conversation with Adam Lantelme on this episode of Life Transformation Radio.
 
 Adam Lantelme

 Adam Lantelme is a husband, father  and one of the most skilled marketers in the world, and has the bonafides to prove it.
He has used his copywriting and marketing skills to generate more than $200 million in sales in the past eight years.
He excels in commanding attention in the increasingly crowded digital marketplace to beat out his competitors and create sales opportunities where there are seemingly, none.
He truly understands his customers and what makes them buy. He knows the hidden pain points that prompt people to pull out their proverbial wallets and shell out money on a product they’d never even heard of before. He knows their most intimate desires, and he is able to speak to those desires in a genuine manner that generates a proverbial waterfall of cash.
Perhaps most important of all, he cares deeply about the products he creates and sells and works his ever-loving tail off to make them better so he can make the boldest claims imaginable to get millions more people to buy from him.
 
 Check out Adams companies
 
 https://modernneeds.com/
https://vnsh.com/
 
PATRIOT ON PURPOSE Podcast
https://patriotonpurpose.com/

In this episode of Life Transformation Radio, Rob Actis is joined by guest Rob Winters, CEO of Podops,  to discuss his personal transformation journey. Rob shares his experiences growing up as the only gay person in a small, conservative town and his determination to leave and create his own path. They share the highs and lows of entrepreneurship, the magical experiences that happen when we trust the universe, and the importance of finding our own true path in life.
About Rob Winters: Founder of PodOps, an independent platform to host, grow, and report on your podcast.Get connected with rob https://www.linkedin.com/in/rbwinters/and, of course, at his company www.ThePodOps.com

In this episode of Life Transformation Radio, host Rob Actis welcomes Louise Swartswalter as a guest. Louise shares her remarkable journey of healing and transformation after realizing she had been sick for 16 years. She discovered that addressing chronic autoimmune conditions' mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects is just as important as working on the physical body. Louise developed codes for success that can alleviate pain in just a few minutes. She also explores the concept of going back seven generations and forward seven generations, comparing it to a time machine that can alter the present. Along the way, Louise shares childhood memories of pretending to be a spy and the impact of her high school volleyball coach's teachings on affirmations and visualization. Join Rob and Louise as they delve into the powerful principles of self-reflection, energy, and being in alignment with one's creative flow.

Seven key takeaways1. Healing goes beyond just addressing physical symptoms. Louise learned that chronic autoimmune conditions also require addressing mental, emotional, and spiritual aspects.2. Pain can originate in the energetic field surrounding the body. Louise developed codes for success that can alleviate pain in just a few minutes.3. Changing the past can affect the present and future. Louise’s concept of going back seven generations and forward seven generations is compared to a time machine, altering the space-time continuum.4. Childhood experiences can have a lasting impact. Louise reminisces about her love for spying, playing school, and being influenced by an ahead-of-her-time volleyball coach who taught affirmations and visualization.6. Louise utilizes non-mainstream techniques for healing. These techniques, though powerful, may not be familiar to everyone but have yielded positive results.7. Flow and alignment lead to success and abundance. Louise emphasizes the importance of engaging in activities that align with one's creativity and right-brained nature, as this is where abundance naturally flows.
Dr. Louise Swartswalter is a naturopath, frequency medicine doctor, transformational coach, speaker, mentor and healer serving women and men worldwide. She is the creator of the Brain Soul Success Academy and the B.R.A.I.N. System TM. This unique multi-dimensional system works on the mind, body, soul and energetic field all at the same time for quicker results that stick!  

Dr. Louise Swartswalter has 30 years of experience helping people achieve optimal brain power and success in life and business.  She is a transformation wizard blending naturopathy, NLP, Kinesiology, trauma release work, and powerful energy work.  She is passionate about connecting, clearing blocks to success, and helping others achieve their highest potential. Using a combination of tools, Louise has helped people move from anxiety to calm in one session. One client told her that “one session felt like sixteen years of therapy,” while another said “ she saved my life.”

Her team of certified Brain Soul Success Coaches are helping people just like you worldwide transform their lives and increase their businesses.  Dr.  Louise has been a guest on KKOB radio and KOB-TV Good Day New Mexico and has been featured in Albuquerque Magazine top docs. 



Reach out to Louise:


https://www.louiseswartswalter.com


Brain Soul Integration Retreat:


https://www.louiseswartswalter.com/retreat2023

 In this powerful episode of Life Transformation Radio, Rob Actis takes you on a transformative journey, filled with love, resilience, and the triumph over unimaginable challenges. Joined by guest Charlie Ray, they delve deep into the profound ways that emotional healing can reshape our lives, and the techniques that can expedite our journey towards lasting transformation.

With raw vulnerability and unwavering honesty, Charlie shares his own devastating experience of losing his son to a misdiagnosed depression. Through this heartbreaking tragedy, he discovered the power of neuro associative disruption to reprogram the subconscious mind. Charlie's story serves as a beacon of hope, reminding us that even in the darkest of times, there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Rob and Charlie discuss the crucial importance of addressing emotional wounds promptly, using proven techniques to release the trauma that holds us back. Drawing upon his experience as a martial artist and his passion for mindfulness and meditation, Rob provides invaluable insights into the power of the mind-body connection in reclaiming our lives.

The episode takes an empowering turn as Rob delves into the topic of caring deeply about what others think. Through captivating anecdotes, he challenges the notion that our worth is determined by external validation. Rob embodies the spirit of a rhino, impervious to the impact of others' words, reminding us that our own truth and authenticity are the keys to our personal growth and happiness.

Charlie's personal journey of healing resonates deeply as he shares his own battles with weight loss, codependency, and the ultimate rock-bottom experience of contemplating suicide. His strength in rebuilding his life, coupled with the support of trusted confidantes, reminds us of the power of connection and the importance of having someone in our corner when life takes us to the edge.

Throughout the episode, Rob emphasizes that true transformation requires self-awareness, understanding, and taking ownership of our healing journey. Drawing upon his own childhood trauma, Rob sheds light on the need to question external labels and medications, and instead, focus on reclaiming our identities and finding solace from within.

Life Transformation Radio empowers listeners to rewrite their stories, to find miracles amidst the darkest of times, and to learn from the profound impact of suicide on survivors. It serves as a reminder that every day is a gift, filled with the potential for drastic change.

So, join Rob Actis and Charlie Ray on this episode of Life Transformation Radio, as they invite you to seize the opportunity to transform your life, embrace resilience, and break free from the shackles of emotional trauma. Your journey towards healing and empowerment starts now!

Connect with Charlie Ray:

https://www.charlieraythehealer.com/